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FOR THE GUYS, SEX & LIFE

There Is Something We Need To Discuss …

There Is Something We Need To Discuss …

 

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Sex.  It’s not always the easiest subject to talk about, especially to talk honestly about so to take away the awkwardness, you don’t have to do any talking, we’ll do it for you.

Did you meet the love of your life? Perfect for you in every single way.  They make you laugh, you fancy them like crazy and they are always there when you need them?  Perfect.  Except there is one problem.  You feel the sex isn’t great and it’s causing a problem in your relationship.

Sex takes two people.  So it’s really important to acknowledge that neither of you are at fault and if you aren’t talking about it openly, then neither of you are going to solve it.  The first thing to establish is if your partner feels there is a problem with your sex life too and whilst there some obvious signs from a man that they are enjoying it, it can be harder to tell if a woman is.  The simple solution?  Ask.

Sometimes the problem lies within us.  It’s not uncommon, especially as you get older, to be body conscious or worry that things aren’t quite right down south,  if you aren’t confident in how you look it could lead you towards dramatic resolutions such as breast augmentation.  Before you head off to the clinic you need to ensure you have tried everything you can to fall in love with your body and, again, talking to your partner about it is the best start.  The features you hate the most may be the ones they love the most and knowing how other people see you could be the first step in making friends with your body.

Performance issues may be another problem.  You might be worried you aren’t doing things right or confused that your partner doesn’t react like past partners.  The problem with this is that you will be over thinking and possibly trying to hard, taking away the natural feeling that works best when it comes to sex.  Men and women react to sensations in very different ways and regardless of gender we all have different sensitivity levels.  So one person could break out in goose pimples just from the delicate brush of a hand whilst others demand a firmer touch to make them feel good.  Keep talking but try not to spend your nights of passion saying ‘do you like this?’ just go with the flow and save that chat for after.

Of course it could just be that whilst you are perfect in every other way, the sexual chemistry isn’t there for either of you.  That doesn’t mean the end of your relationship.  You can try to add spice to your life by exploring each others fantasies, or you may find that your relationship is deeper than a sexual connection and you can live around it, there are so many couples who don’t think great sex is an important element in a relationship.  Love is really all that matter.

Regardless of reason, the simple and only solution is to keep talking about sex.

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Dress to Impress for Any Date That’s Thrown Your Way

Contribution from freelance writer, Jenny Holt

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Dress to Impress for Any Date That’s Thrown Your Way

Let’s face it, we all dress to impress. When we go on a first date, we break out the little black dress that’s a tad too little, the expensive jewelry we’ve only worn once in our life, and the sexy black heels that give us painful blisters. We all know what to wear and how to impress our date when he takes us to dinner. But what if he decides to be adventurous and take you somewhere else for your date? Well here are some tips on how to dress to impress in uncharted waters. 

Hiking Up Lover’s Lane

Hiking is a great date idea. It shows that you’re fit, healthy, and smart and lets you get to know each other more intimately. But how do you impress the guy with your fashion as well as your athleticism? You dress sporty, cute, and smart. You don’t want to go out there dressed like Ranger Rick, and you don’t want to be out in your sundress. Instead, opt for something waterproof, cool, and light. Break out the sweats – men dig women in yoga pants and running leggings. Wear something that hugs your curves yet makes you feel comfortable exercising and pair your outfit with either running shoes or cute hiking boots. It’s important to dress accordingly as well as take along a small backpack with necessities. As for hair and makeup, do your hair in a casually sexy ponytail or braid, and go for natural minimalistic make-up. Look like you didn’t try too hard to look that cute.

Shout Your Love from the Top of a Roller Coaster

Amusement parks are a great date idea because you always have something to do and it gets rid of those awkward silences. However, dressing for a theme park date is hard because your outfit must take you from the morning to the night, and through hot temperatures and wet water rides. This is also another date where a dress or skirt simply won’t cut it – unless you plan on flashing everyone on the ride. Your best bet is to go for a casual chic look. Shorts and a tank top, graphic tee, or airy top are perfect for most of the elements you will be going up against at the park. Wear stylish sneakers and avoid anything with any type of heel as you will be doing a lot of walking. Take inspiration from the park and dress to match the theme. When it comes to make-up, be sure to wear SPF moisturizer and a primer because you need your make-up to last all day. Make your eye make-up and mascara as water resistant as possible and wear a lipstick stain to make sure the look lasts all day, especially important on a water ride.

Striking in Love

Most people don’t go bowling anymore. However, it’s not because it’s not fun, but because bowling has turned into an activity geared towards couples. So, what do you wear to bowl a strike in his heart? The key is your top. Wear a nice shirt and bring a stylish jacket if it’s cold outside. You will get hot inside, so make sure you wear something fashionable underneath. It is probably best to wear long pants, because you will be bending down most of the night. But, the most important thing to wear is socks and shoes that are easy to take off. You don’t want those nasty germs on your bare feet, and you also don’t want your date to watch you struggle to take your shoes off. When it comes to jewelry, less is more. Do not wear any rings or bracelets because it will distract your bowling. Instead, wear a simple necklace. When it comes to make-up, you can wear what makes you comfortable but consider the fact that most bowling dates are at night during cosmic bowling hours, so don’t wear anything that will look weird under a black light.

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Medical Zebra

Medical Zebra

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What have zebras got to do with medical issues, you may be rightfully wondering at this point. It seems like these are two things that operate in very separate spaces; one on the plains of Africa, the other in the deep and dark recesses of your mind. So what’s the link?

It all relates back to a phrase that medical students are taught during their training. For most medical students, they get into their field to be excited, to advance new medical studies, to immerse themselves in scientific breakthroughs. As a result, they are prone to taking a benign set of symptoms and seeing a bizarre, novel cause for them. It’s not through any negligence; but more a manifestation of their desire to be on the ground-breaking, cutting edge of science.

To try and temper this enthusiasm and bring them back down to earth, their professors will ask them to see symptoms as hoofbeats. To put the same problem to you: if you heard the rat-tat of hoofbeats around the corner and turned your head to see what was causing them – what would you expect to see? Horses – or zebra?

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For medical students, learning to realize that 99.9% of the time it will be the more generic, realistic horses is a big part of their training. Sure, maybe one day there would be a zoo outbreak, and it would be zebras careening towards them – but the rest of the time, it’s horses.

It’s a point that is pertinent to laypeople as well as the doctors of the future. We all have a tendency to expect zebra when really we’re just dealing with common or garden horses. That’s not to minimize the impact those horses might have (there’s always a chance of being stampeded by wild horses, of course…), but it is to say: look for the most likely cause first.

It’s something we don’t keep in mind when we suffer a health problem. And it can make things a million times worse.

Stress Is A Killer

There are no specific statistics on the number of people that stress kills every year, but if they were, we’d see it a prevalent serial killer. We know the numbers for those who die of stress-related illnesses, and they make grim reading.

If you are stressed, your immune system is lowered. Your neurological functioning is weaker. Your heart rate and blood pressure are negatively affected.

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So let’s say you have a symptom that you’re concerned about. Something that seems threatening, perhaps pain near ribs or a shortness of breath. You have a vague understanding that these issues are Bad Things, while not being entirely sure of the exact cause.

The moment you notice these problems, you begin to stress about them. You’re expecting zebra, at this point. It’s far too easy – with help from the never-useful Dr. Google – to assume that there is something seriously wrong. You convince yourself that you’ve not just pulled a muscle or any of the other myriad of mild causes for your symptoms – you’re dying. Your mind jumps to the worst case scenario. And thus, your stress begins to creep up.

How This Makes Things Worse

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There’s a very basic way this reaction can make things worse: it can interfere with tests. If you go to see a doctor with those symptoms, they will most likely run a basic blood pressure check. If you’ve been stressing, panic and anxiety eating away at you, then your blood pressure is likely to be high. Not necessarily because of the symptoms you’re experiencing, but because of your reaction to those symptoms. It becomes a false positive, potentially sending medical investigation down entirely the wrong route.

So How Do You Fight Back?

In truth, there is no easy way of dealing with this, no magic fix. Very few of us have active control over our stress response; it’s more something that happens to us rather than something we invite.

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The best way to cope with it is to ask family and friends for their opinion. Do they think it’s a concern? They can answer it without the stress hormone cortisol interfering with their decision-making process. Furthermore, if an issue becomes truly invasive, then seek a medical opinion – don’t just sit on both the symptom and your stress about it in the hopes it will go away. The chances are in your favor; you’re almost certainly just hearing horses – but there’s no harm in making sure.

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Divorce Isn’t Your Only Option!

Divorce Isn’t Your Only Option!

When your relationship hits a bump in the road, it’s easy to think that there is no moving forward. And you might believe that there is no other option than calling a divorce lawyer. But it might not be the end of the relationship. In fact, there are ways you might be able to work through your issues and come out stronger the other side. Therefore, here are some other options you should consider first before going down the divorce route.

Talk about your problems

A lot of couples close up when they are having troubles in their relationship. Rather than talking to each other about their concerns, they tend to bottle it up and push each other away. But if you don’t talk to each other, it won’t allow you to move on from your problems. And the emotions you are feeling will build up, and you will grow to hate your partner. Therefore, if you want to work on the relationship, it’s time to open up to one another. Clear the house so that it’s just you and your partner. And then sit down next to each other and allow each other to talk about how you feel. Once you have everything out in the open, you can hopefully concentrate on the present and move on with the relationship.

Have a trial separation

Rather than rushing to a divorce lawyer, the first thing you and your partner should do is have a trial separation. After all, a lot of couples find that a separation does them both the world of good. In fact, it can show them both how much they love the other person. And as well as this, a separation of at least 12 months is often needed before any lawyer like Gillard Family Lawyers can start the divorce proceedings. Therefore, give each other some space to work through your issues. You or your partner might want to leave the family home for a period to ensure you live separate lives. Or you might want to stay under the same roof, but live as if you were both unmarried. Having some time apart can help you to see clearly what the next step is for your relationship!

Look into relationship counseling

Some problems between you and your partner require some outside help. After all, you might find that you just argue about the issue if you sit down just the two of you. But this is not helping you to address the problem and potentially move on. Therefore, if you want to save the relationship, you should consider attending relationship counseling. It’s a great way to express what you want to say in a safe environment. And the counselor will work with you both to ensure you both get a chance to have your say. For some people, counseling can often help them to move forward with their relationship. Or it can show them that the relationship can not be salvaged and that you should both move on!

And sometimes it’s worth going back to resolve current problems. Reminiscing about how you met and going on your first date can help you start over with your other half. Therefore, don’t be afraid to spend some time in the past to move forward!

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Make A Change For The Sake Of Your Health

Make A Change For The Sake Of Your Health

We all go through those periods where we simply don’t feel satisfied with our lives. After all, the only way that would happen is if we all lived in a perfect world and if you’ve ever five minutes of the news you’ll know that we are most definitely not living in a perfect world. So it’s only natural to have periods of time where things aren’t so great. The problem is when those periods start to outnumber the good times. Despite what some people might say, this can be an extremely dangerous position to be in. A lot of people would tell you to simply power through and wait for things to get better but doing that can cause some serious damage to your health. Your mind and your body are both intimately connected and if you’re completely miserable, exhausted and stressed all of the time then that’s going to have an impact on you. Both your mental and physical health are incredibly important, and you need to take care of them both. So instead of waiting for things to get better, it’s time to take some control of your life for the sake of your health! If you’re unhappy with the way your life is going, it’s time to make a change. Here are just a few ways that you can change your life to improve the state of your health.

Your lifestyle

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A lot of people get stuck in a rut and find that they simply can’t pull themselves out of it. The problem with that is that you almost always end up going round in circles. There are hundreds of different things that people use to deal with tough times in their life, but the problem is that many of them are incredibly unhealthy and potentially dangerous. If you’re relying on food to make you feel better, then that’s going to make you put on weight which will not only sap your energy even more but may even make you feel worse. Worse still is those who use alcohol and other substances to escape their problems. It might be a short-term escape but those problems are always going to be there the next day, and you’re just going to feel worse than ever before. The most important thing is to break out of that cycle and make some real changes to your lifestyle. Try and be more active for one thing. It will give you a reason to get out of bed every day and will help you to keep your energy levels up. The same goes for your eating habits. Cut out the junk food, and you’ll be amazed at how much better you feel.

Your job

One of the main causes of stress, anxiety, and frustration is often your job. Let’s face it, we all hate our jobs sometimes. If we didn’t, they wouldn’t call it work! Sometimes it’s just a matter of focussing on the things that your job lets you do, like seeing friends, going on vacation, and going out to dinner. A change of perspective really can work wonders. But if your job is sapping all of the life out of you, and you dread getting out of bed every morning then it might be time to do something a little more drastic. Why not think about a serious career change? If you’re stuck in a job that you don’t like then why not find something that you will find fulfilling. If you’re a creative type then why not looking into freelance writing or design. If you want a job that will help people, then you definitely want to take a look at staffnurse’s nursing vacancies. Whatever it is that you want to do, it surely has to be better than whatever it is that’s currently making you so miserable? A new job can bring fresh purpose into your life which is sometimes all you need to get out of a funk

Your friend circle

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When you’re going through a tough time, having a support network in place to help you get through it is absolutely invaluable. No one should have to deal with something difficult by themselves and your friends are exactly the people that you should be going to when you need help. Unless you’re in the position that you have friends who seem to actively try to make you feel worse. Whether that’s through insensitivity or even making you feel like a burden on them because of what you’re going through. You need to talk to those people and tell them that what they are doing is hurting you. If they refuse to understand and continue to behave in this way, then it’s time to cut them out of your life. You simply don’t need toxic relationships making things worse. Cut ties with people who make you feel awful and hold onto those friendships that really matter. You’ll be amazed at what a weight off your shoulders it will be when people like that are out of your life.

Your home

Sometimes you need a really significant change. Perhaps you don’t feel as though you can grow as a person where you are, or perhaps the place that you currently live simply carries too many memories and too much baggage for you to deal with anymore. If that’s the case, then there’s nothing wrong with needing a completely fresh start. Moving somewhere new is a great way to reinvent and reinvigorate your life. You get to make new friends and new memories, without all of the baggage of where you were before. Just make sure that you’re doing it for the right reasons. Needing a fresh start is great, but you don’t want to do it if you’re just running away from something else. If you are, it doesn’t matter where you go; you’re always going to have that niggling sense of doubt. It’s important to feel a sense of closure with the place that you’re leaving, that way you can feel totally comfortable saying goodbye.

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