Taking Control Of Your Life And Succeeding
Do you ever feel that you’re just existing? Or that you’re going through the motions to keep everything together, but you’re not really living? It’s easy to get caught up in the busy details of modern life. There’s so much to do that you have no time to change anything or even think clearly. If you recognize these patterns, it’s time to take control once and for all and make some meaningful changes.
Clear Some Time
To make positive changes in your life, you have to stop for a moment. This can seem scary. It feels that if you take time away from your job or your grueling schedule, that things will fall apart. They won’t, and this is necessary.
Sit down for a few hours and think carefully about your life. Make a list of the all the good things and then move onto the things you would like to change. What is no longer working for you? What makes you feel unhappy, anxious, unfulfilled? What would your life look like if all those negative things no longer existed?
What Are The Things You Feel You Have No Control Over?
Often it’s the things that we feel we cannot change that limit our lives. For example, we may feel as though we can’t quit smoking, or we need a few glasses of wine to help us through the day. It might be that we feel unable to leave our job, though it makes us miserable. For some of us, it might be our anxiety or our anger that we’re unable to control. Being aware of these factors in our life is the first step to tackling them. Sometimes this is not something we can resolve alone and we may need some help. For example, if anger is a problem for you, anger management from John Arber or a similar therapist may help. Or, you may feel that talking your problems through with a friend or family member would be beneficial.
Whatever it is, identify those things you feel you cannot change. Work out why you can’t change them. Often this process can help us to feel less ‘stuck’. But reach out and find extra help if you need it. There are no problems that can’t be resolved.
Avoid Negative Triggers
If you’re struggling with certain aspects of your life, try to avoid negative triggers. For example, if you’re trying to lose weight, avoid situations that may test your willpower. Or, if you’re trying to reduce your stress levels, avoid toxic people who make you feel worse. Though you can’t remove every obstacle from your life, you can take steps to make things a little easier on yourself.
Establish Healthy Barriers
Often we feel compelled to do things even if we don’t want to. We may take on extra work from a colleague who is struggling. Or, we may agree to helping a family member, even if we’re pushed for time ourselves. If you find it difficult to say no, it’s likely that you don’t feel fully in control of your life. It’s important to understand that you are. Establishing barriers and putting your own health and well-being first, is healthy and necessary. It may feel difficult initially, but once you practice this, it will become easier in time.
Taking control of your life can seem impossible at first. But acknowledging the difficulties is the first step. Remember that there is a solution to everything. You just have to find it. And if you can’t, there will be someone who can help.
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