There Is Something We Need To Discuss …
Sex. It’s not always the easiest subject to talk about, especially to talk honestly about so to take away the awkwardness, you don’t have to do any talking, we’ll do it for you.
Did you meet the love of your life? Perfect for you in every single way. They make you laugh, you fancy them like crazy and they are always there when you need them? Perfect. Except there is one problem. You feel the sex isn’t great and it’s causing a problem in your relationship.
Sex takes two people. So it’s really important to acknowledge that neither of you are at fault and if you aren’t talking about it openly, then neither of you are going to solve it. The first thing to establish is if your partner feels there is a problem with your sex life too and whilst there some obvious signs from a man that they are enjoying it, it can be harder to tell if a woman is. The simple solution? Ask.
Sometimes the problem lies within us. It’s not uncommon, especially as you get older, to be body conscious or worry that things aren’t quite right down south, if you aren’t confident in how you look it could lead you towards dramatic resolutions such as breast augmentation. Before you head off to the clinic you need to ensure you have tried everything you can to fall in love with your body and, again, talking to your partner about it is the best start. The features you hate the most may be the ones they love the most and knowing how other people see you could be the first step in making friends with your body.
Performance issues may be another problem. You might be worried you aren’t doing things right or confused that your partner doesn’t react like past partners. The problem with this is that you will be over thinking and possibly trying to hard, taking away the natural feeling that works best when it comes to sex. Men and women react to sensations in very different ways and regardless of gender we all have different sensitivity levels. So one person could break out in goose pimples just from the delicate brush of a hand whilst others demand a firmer touch to make them feel good. Keep talking but try not to spend your nights of passion saying ‘do you like this?’ just go with the flow and save that chat for after.
Of course it could just be that whilst you are perfect in every other way, the sexual chemistry isn’t there for either of you. That doesn’t mean the end of your relationship. You can try to add spice to your life by exploring each others fantasies, or you may find that your relationship is deeper than a sexual connection and you can live around it, there are so many couples who don’t think great sex is an important element in a relationship. Love is really all that matter.
Regardless of reason, the simple and only solution is to keep talking about sex.
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