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Are Men at a Disadvantage in Modern Dating?

By Guest Blogger Stefan S.

Are Men at a Disadvantage in Modern Dating?

The answer to this question is far more complicated than it seems at first. The fact that more and more women are getting higher education and jobs that allow them full independence has made women kind of ‘useless.’ Once they establish themselves, many women turn to younger men for romantic adventure, more than anything else, making cougar dating increasingly popular.

Girl 1, Boys 0

Experts and laymen alike will agree that we are undergoing one of the biggest social revolutions known to man thanks to feminist and empowering movements encouraging girls to pursue higher education and professional careers. Girls make up 57 percent of university students, outnumbering men in every program, including math and engineering. Two thirds of medical students are now women, compared to only 29 percent in the early 1990s. This means that far more women are coming out of universities than men, which will have huge social ramifications down the road, including a more emotionally stable and an overall much nicer business culture.

However, with so many girls climbing up the social, educational and professional ladder, where does that leave boys? Well, to put it bluntly, it leaves them way behind. It is a known evolutionary fact that females prefer males who are equal or better than them in terms of intellectual abilities, social status and the overall ability to take good care of their families. On the one hand, the future looks bright for women in the workforce, but who are they going to marry as they surpass their male peers in every aspect? Will they turn into cougars once they give up on marriage and the men of their generation? Quite possibly.

The Makings of a Cougar

Another issue is that most women opting for higher education come from middle-class families, and as they mature, they become sophisticated, educated and self-confident women looking for men who are higher up on every ladder than they are. So where does that leave the working-class men? Simply, nowhere. All the Bridget Joneses won’t even give them the time of day, and pretty soon this wonderful social revolution we’re all experiencing will lead to women running out of men to marry. Enter Susan Sarandon, Demi Moore, Courtney Cox, and the bunch.

So, who’s really at a disadvantage? The women who can’t find suitable dates that are intelligent, educated and positioned well enough, i.e. better than them, or the men who as it seems can’t keep up? It’s clear that both women and men are challenged when it comes to their dating options, which begs the question – what do they do? Past a certain point in life, many women turn toward younger men who may not be able to provide stability, but can provide a new kind of zest for life. And as for men dating older women, they know that older women won’t try to change them, and make them into something they’re not because older women don’t need younger men, they want them.

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Tinder Tourism: is it Time to Evolve?

By Guest Blogger Stefan S.

Tinder Tourism: is it Time to Evolve?

Evolution is a funny business. Is Tinder evolving? Are we to evolve past Tinder? The answer to both questions is yes. You might remember the time when you had to open a stinky browser to date online, but then Tinder came along and revolutionized dating on the internet. However, many people are wondering whether the time has come to dethrone Tinder, but the biggest problem is that we’re still waiting for the successor. And whether you’re into dating black women or you prefer Asian, senior and divorced, you must have unknowingly come across a Tinder tourist at least once who ruined it all. And that’s why Tinder tourists have to go. Or do they?

“S/he Just Wanted a Tour Guide with Benefits”

If you live in a big city, you must have come across a tourist using Tinder to score some quick dates with a little tour guide on the side, or vice versa. Tinder was supposed to be used by ‘dateable’ singles to meet and start a romance, not meet, start a romance, and then leave on Sunday night without even saying as much as a goodbye. This is an enormous waste of someone’s time, not to mention hurtful because it makes the other person feel tricked into talking to someone who was just looking for a little action during their travels.

Tinder Tourism Enthusiasts

However, not everyone is angry at Tinder tourists. There are lots of people out there who date them, and some even develop friendships afterwards.

As Tinder CEO Sean Rad once put it, Tinder is a place for “social discovery”. And to many people it is, and those are the kinds of people who don’t take dating too seriously. What’s more, when both persons are aware of the situation and lay down some ground rules, Tinder tourism can be a wonderfully intimate experience for the tourist both with the other person and their city. Not to mention all the great places to eat that a Tinder tourist will get to see that are never in any guidebooks.

So What’s The Verdict?

Given that there are loads of people who think Tinder tourism is a great way to meet new cultures, friends and lovers, there is nothing left to do but to declare a tie. Still, it goes without saying that all Tinder tourists should make their ‘identities’ known, such as adding ‘French guy in London’ in their bio to avoid deceiving anyone. Plus, wouldn’t that be a great conversation starter?

What’s also very important is the fact that anyone who’s into Tinder tourism should insist on meeting in a public place. And if you happen to be one of those people who’re looking for a serious relationship, when you find yourself in a conversation with a Tinder tourist, it would be best to just get out of it quickly before anyone’s time gets wasted.

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Moving In Together: The Post-Modern Dilemma

By Guest Blogger Stefan S.

Moving In Together: The Post-Modern Dilemma

 

Are you at the stage in your relationship where you hear maybe the most exciting or most dreaded words that can be heard in a relationship? Want to move in together? Is that the end of singledom? Or is it exciting for you to move in with the love of your life and start a new chapter in your relationship, together? Well you don’t have to look too far online to find both successful and disastrous versions of the ‘moving in together’ dilemma. Just look at Snapchat celebrities or celebs on Instagram and Twitter. They all chronicle their lives living with their partner, and many times it’s more of a farce than it is a real relationship.

 

For the regular person, who doesn’t have the benefits of celebrity, moving in together can be a huge step that might either scare them, or excite them, since that’s their long term goal. Many women want to move in and live with their serious boyfriends, to secure their place in that man’s life, and to possibly change that living situation into something more permanent, life marriage. On the other side of the battle of the sexes, men usually want to stay single and living the bachelor life as long as possible, so they can enjoy their time with their friends, and date as many women as they like, avoiding commitment and avoid settling down for as long as possible.

 

The Reality

 

But in actuality, the truth is quite different. Nowadays, it’s more women who want to avoid having to move in because they are so busy with their careers and building a life for themselves, that the last thing they want to worry about is having to be bound to another person, let alone a man that expects some babying. The modern woman sees being tied down also as a hindrance to her success and does not want to be obliged to  perform any of the sexist roles that were upheld by previous generations. She doesn’t want to come home and have to cook for someone or clean after another person when she too has spent all day at the office. Going to the gym, seeing friends, and doing the general chores around maintaining a home for a single person is time consuming enough, let alone adding another person into the mix, who might not contribute. That’s why even though Snapchat celebrities make living together look so glamorous, they have teams of maids and staff to take care of the details, the regular person does not.

 

The Necessity

 

Sometimes, moving in together happens only due to necessity. It’s because the modern life for singles in an urban setting is so busy. No one has the opportunity to really spend quality time together anymore. That’s the price we pay for living such an ultra modern lifestyle. Moving in together means you can spend more time together and see if being together will work in the future. Doing all the domestic stuff together instead of just dating and doing the romantic stuff, has changed the nature of dating and relationships. The courting process if basically extinct, and the getting to know each other actually happens in the raw, face to face, living the hum-drum everyday. But that’s the only way people can be together enough to know if they want to be married or involved with each other long term. So, yes moving in together might be scary or exciting as Snapchat celebrities make it out to be, but it’s not as surprising or as controversial as it used to be.

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