6 Reasons Why Your Dating Life Sucks
Nobody ever said that finding love was easy, especially in the hectic and fast-paced world of the 21st century where our personal relationships seem to come second to our relationships with our electronic devices. If you’ve been in the dating game for a while now but find that the path to love and happiness is rockier than ever, don’t worry… it’s not you. The world of dating is way more complicated than it used to be since the digital age has transformed the whole concept of looking for love and romance.
If you find that your dating sucks, here are 6 reasons which may be responsible. Only by identifying the reasons why can you start to make the changes that will lead to a more positive future…
You haven’t spent enough time single
There is a lot of pressure to find that special someone in our lives. But while that pressure can be keenly felt (especially when all your friends and relatives start settling down) it’s important to enjoy being single. Take the time to think about what you’re really looking for in a partner. Otherwise, you could find yourself propelling yourself from one bad relationship to another in the hopes of finding Mr. or Ms. Right.
You’re choosing people with whom there’s no common ground
Variety is the spice of life. But while it can be exciting getting to know someone with different experiences, attitudes and values to you, with no common ground between you there’s no foundation to build on. Whether you’re someone of Arabic descent looking on an Arab dating site, or searching through niche dating sites like this dating site for self-confessed geeks, it’s important to look for someone with at least some common interests and values.
Attraction is important… but it isn’t everything
Someone can be super hot and make your heart skip a beat every time you see them. But while attraction is important, it can fade over time. Make sure the person behind that initial spark is worth your time. Attraction can mute a person’s shortcomings and make you see things in them that aren’t there.
Never forget that you have value. Even if you’ve recently separated from an ex, been single for a while or are struggling with low self-esteem, it’s better to be single than settle. If you hitch your wagon to someone who doesn’t really make you happy this is just a recipe for frustration and resentment.
Your expectations are unrealistic
On the other hand, you can go too far, and reduce human beings to a checklist of desirable attributes… and that doesn’t do either of you any favours. By all means aim high but be realistic in your quest for romance.
You’re over-reliant on apps
Finally, while apps can be useful for time-poor singles looking for love, they aren’t always the perfect platform on which to get to know someone. It’s easy for people to misrepresent themselves on dating apps, and this can lead to all sorts of unpleasant revelations. By all means use them, but don’t use them as an excuse for getting out and meeting people in the real world.
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