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Why You Shouldn’t Be So Scared Of The Future

Why You Shouldn’t Be So Scared Of The Future

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No matter how old you are, if you’re still here, you still have a future, and while some people are suffering illnesses and know how long they have, for most people, we have no idea, and we need to look towards and plan for the future. Many people are scared of the future, and they think that this will get easier with age.

When you’re younger, you might be scared of going to a new school, then scared of going to uni, afraid of getting your own place, scared about whether you’ll be able to find a job, what you’ll do for a career and then frightened you won’t meet a partner, afraid of having a baby…

The list goes on, and to be honest; it never gets any easier. You will only have these first times once, and as you get older, the new things just keep changing. For example, you might be scared of living alone, fearful of falling, scared of moving into a care home, or perhaps you need to see here to find out about assisted living.

There are many different directions your life may take, but as you only get one life, there’s no point in spending it feeling scared. Here’s why you shouldn’t be scared of the future:

Did It All Turn Out Alright Before?

Think about the past now; what were you terrified of? Did you survive moving to that new school? Did you make friends and even still have some today? Think back to that job interview you were so scared of, okay you didn’t get it, but that turned out to be a good thing because if you did you wouldn’t be working where you are now and have met all the wonderful people you work with. Do you see?

While something that you’re scared of right now might seem like the most significant thing in the world, in the future, it will just be another story to tell. So don’t waste your time being frightened of it, you don’t know how it will turn out, so just go with it. 

Enjoying Today Is A Gift

The best gift you could ever give to yourself is the ability to enjoy today without worrying about tomorrow. Take your anxieties on bit by bit, which will make everything more manageable, and realize that your future is not out to get you. 

You Can’t Control It

Many people’s uncertainties come from wanting control–control over what happens next, how it happens, and how they’ll react in the moment. But it’s just not possible to know the future and control how it pans out. If you are scared of tomorrow, think of the things you can control today, the things you have now, think of just today, and how you can get through it. Think of how you can make today slightly better, think of how you can make this day a good day in case history repeats itself tomorrow. Think of making today count, maybe that is the only possible way you can prepare for tomorrow.

It’s Far More Fun To Imagine The Best

You might think that being cynical is being realistic, but actually imagining the best possible scenario can help you feel good in the now and move into uncertainty with a little more confidence. 

It’s Exciting To Be Open To Uncertainty

Rather than avoiding your fear of uncertainty, it can help to get intentional about it. That doesn’t mean trying to eliminate it immediately but creating a little more space to accept and allow uncertainty here and there.

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The Importance Of Teaching Young Kids About Healthy Relationships

The Importance Of Teaching Young Kids About Healthy Relationships

When raising our children, it’s all too tempting to think of them in a vacuum. They are, after all, the center of your universe and it’s hard to envisage a world where they’re not at your side/ However, we can’t escape the fact that before we know it, they’ll be out in the real world paying bills, getting stuck in traffic, doing their laundry (hopefully) and, yes, getting into relationships. Relationships may not seem like a priority subject to address with young kids. You have so much on your plate, logistically that it seems appropriate to deal with issues as and when they arise. Nonetheless, there’s never a bad time to start teaching kids about healthy relationships. Even young kids understand relationships on a surface level. You’ll see them holding hands with other kids on the playground and playing house. But while this dramatic play shows a surface level understanding of what a relationship is, it’s up to us as parents to explain the more meaningful aspects of what a relationship is and should be…



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It starts with you


Never forget that their children will base their expectations for their future relationships on you and the relationship you have with your co-parent or significant other. Thus, it’s important not only to talk the talk but to walk the walk, too. Take every opportunity you can to model positive relationships with your partner. Be forthcoming in your affections as well as keeping your head in times of conflict. This will help them to find healthy ways forms of conflict resolution in their adult life.


Keep their expectations realistic


While no parent relishes the prospect of their son or daughter having to find a divorce attorney, it’s important that kids grow up with a realistic understanding of what relationships can be, what they should be, and that not every relationship is for life. While a separation is a heartbreak that we’d rather we didn’t see them go through, it’s infinitely preferable to watching them spend years or even decades settling for someone you (and they) know that they aren’t truly happy with. Not everyone they encounter with will be “the one” and by keeping their expectations realistic and teaching them that every relationship has a shelf life, you’ll reduce the risk of them settling for less than they deserve.




Every meaningful relationship has to be built on a foundation of mutual respect. Many parents show their kids the value of giving respect to their peers, to their authority figures, and of course to their parents. It’s equally important, however, to teach kids to expect respect for themselves. Far too many of us fall into unhealthy relationships because we don’t respect ourselves or don’t know how to identify when we aren’t being treated with the proper respect. It’s really important that you define the parameters of what respect actually means with your kids. Respect is not adoration or adulation, nor is it being showered with gifts. It’s being heard, understood, appreciated and valued. If your kids have self respect and know how to respect others they’ll enter the world of dating and relationships with confidence.

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