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Who Is Impacted By Your Divorce?

Who Is Impacted By Your Divorce?

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Divorce is becoming increasingly common in modern society. No matter how you feel about this sort of process, it’s likely that this trend will continue into the future. Going through a divorce is often looked at an experience shared by two people, though it will usually impact far more people than just you and your ex-partner. It’s always worth thinking about the way this decision could affect those you care about, ensuring that you have the opportunity to minimize the problems this could cause.

Your Kids

Parents with children always have to think about how a divorce could impact their little ones. Kids won’t want you to go through this, and it will be very difficult to explain why it’s happening. It’s worth being honest with them as much as you can, without saying anything negative about their other parent. The effects of divorce on children can be quite severe, lasting long into their future. Working hard to have a civil and argument-free divorce is the best approach to take when you have children in the middle of this.

Your Family

Parents, siblings, and other close family members will also be impacted by the divorce you go through. It’s common for people to build good relationships with their in-laws, despite the impressive that television gives. This can make it a little awkward for people to talk about the divorce, while also creating potential tension in the future if family members want to maintain their friendship with your ex. This doesn’t have to be horrible if you are open to being friends with your old partner.

Your Friends

Couples always end up sharing friends, and this is a nice process that builds lasting circles. When you decide to go through a divorce, though, it can make it difficult for those who see themselves as good friends to both you and your partner. You should avoid saying negative things about your partner around people like this as much as you can, while also working to avoid awkwardness if you ever find yourself invited to the same events.

You

While it may seem obvious, many people fail to think about themselves properly when they decide to go through a divorce. You have to make sure that you’re ready to go out into the world on your own again, planning for the new life you will be leading. There will be challenges to face, but you can usually make the process much easier for yourself and your ex-partner by working to have a smooth divorce. 

With all of this in mind, you should be feeling ready to take on the challenge of minimize the impact your divorce has on the people around you. A lot of people struggle with this sort of process, finding it hard to know what action to take at each stage. Of course, though, you know the people you care about, and this should be a great tool when you’re trying to avoid hurting them.

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The Dos And Don’ts Of Not Living With Your Kids

The Dos And Don’ts Of Not Living With Your Kids

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If you are now separated from your partner, you might find that it’s difficult to adjust to your new life. You might have had to find a new place to live, which could have proven to be very stressful on its own, but you might also now be living apart from your children. Some parents will find this a very upsetting situation to come to terms with, but it doesn’t always have to be bad. You will certainly be able to still see your children, and they might even be able to stay the weekends at yours.

To help you get used to living apart from your kids, here are some very useful dos and don’ts.

Do Know Your Rights

First of all, it might be necessary for you to know what your divorced father’s rights are. If you are a divorced mother who is living away from your kids, your rights will be very similar to those mentioned in the link. Unless you have shown some serious signs of neglect or of being a poor parent, then you will be allowed to see your kids on a regular basis. If you and your ex are still on good terms, you might want to agree to the kids spending so many nights at yours throughout the week. If you aren’t on good terms and your ex tries to keep you away from your kids, you should be within your legal rights to go to court and fight for better access.

Don’t Stop Paying Maintenance

You will be legally required to pay maintenance to your ex partner if the kids live with them for most of the time. In fact, even parents who don’t see their children are still obliged to pay for their maintenance. You must make sure that you make every payment on time otherwise you could end up being taken to court. If you do care for your children, though, I’m sure that you will be more than happy to pay this money to help support them.

Do Find A Support Network

If you do find that it is hard being separated from your kids for so long, you might find it really useful finding a support group. There are lots of these groups around the country that are made up of divorced or separated parents who no longer live with their kids. You will be able to offer each other help and advice. This is also a great way to meet some new friends who are in a similar situation to yourself.

Don’t Get Too Down About The Situation

It can be easy to start to feel very negative about your new life, but dwelling on this will  only make you feel much worse. Ideally, you should try to stay positive. At least you can be very happy about still being able to see your kids on a regular basis!

You will find that you adapt to this new life situation if you follow these dos and don’ts.


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