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Care At Home – Or In A Home: The Big Question With Aging Parents

Care At Home – Or In A Home: The Big Question With Aging Parents

Nobody can predict the future. And while I could hazard a guess that most of you reading this post would love to allow their parents to age gracefully in their own home – or even yours – you just can’t tell what might happen. Illnesses, repetitive injuries, and complicated psychological issues could all play their part. And even if you do make the decision that you will definitely be your parent’s caregiver, who’s to say you will be in a position to do it when the time comes?

There are a lot of considerations to think about – and to be honest, it is almost impossible to make a decision now, without knowing what the future holds. But the sooner we all start thinking about things, the more prepared we will be to make that important decision. With this in mind, here are a few things you should be thinking about right now, so you are ready to deal with them in the years to come.

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Emotional cost

Yes, sending your parents to a residential home is going to be expensive. But you might be surprised to learn that there are enormous costs involved when they need care in their home, too. Millions of people all over the country care for ageing and ill parents and relatives and an increasing number are providing hands-on care. It’s a lot of work. Unless you can afford to pay medical staff and support workers, you can expect it to be a full-time job, and it will be incredibly draining, stressful, and can take you away from bringing up your own family.

Financial cost

Money has to be taken into account. As much as we would all love to say it makes no difference, the cost of caring for a parent at home is significant. You may need to give up your job, pay for medical services, and maybe even shell out for adaptations to your parent’s home – or yours. In short, whether you choose a care home or look after your folks yourself, there is a chance it will have a profound effect on your finances.

Approaching the end

There will come a time when your folks will be close to the end. And if they are suffering from something like end-stage cancer palliative care is of vital importance. Your loved one will be undergoing a lot of pain, and be experiencing the impact of a massive array of symptoms. They will need doctors to treat them, nurses to care for them, and also people who can provide them with the psychological support they require. While many people prefer to see out their days at home, there are some scenarios where getting help from a professional setting will be better for everyone.

The guilt

Unless money is no object, at some point you are going to have to make a choice – and live with it. Either way, you are going to feel guilty. On the one hand, if you decide on residential care, you might have to go against the wishes of your parents. But on the other, keeping them at home may prevent them from receiving the care they need to live out their days comfortably, or the support they need in the event of an emergency. Whichever direction you end up choosing, you have to remember that you will still be a big part of the care team, but you will also have to accept reality.

It’s a tough call, for sure. But hopefully, these factors will help you feel a little better about making a decision when the time comes. Hopefully, that won’t be for many years…

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Elderly Care: How To Do Right By Your Family Member

Elderly Care: How To Do Right By Your Family Member

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Elderly care is definitely a bit of a sensitive topic among some people. It’s hard to think about the options you have when it comes to a family member that struggles. You want to make sure that they are taken care of and in good hands, but you don’t always know what it going to be the best solution to make that happen. So, what you need to do is talk to your parent or family member and try to understand what it is that they’re struggling with. You can then consider the options that may work best for them, their needs and their current situation. Below are a couple of things that you may find will work for your family.

Provide Them With Care

Your first option is to look into the kinds of care options that your elderly family member can have at home. If they are finding it harder to cook all of their own meals, clean, or even bathe and you’re not able to be there for them every day, you may find that a companion care option is exactly what they need. Having a professional to care for them and take care of their needs could be all they need to feel more comfortable at home.

Take Them Out

Sometimes, it’s not that your family member is struggling to take care of themselves, but that they’re struggling with something like loneliness. When that’s the case, you may want to think about trying to take them out a little bit more. You may find that taking them to lunch or to visit some of their favorite places, or even on vacation with you when you go is all it needs to perk up an elderly parent.

Ease The Pressure

Or, you may find that the problem is that they’re under too much pressure to get things done. If you have a very independent elderly family member, they may have a lot of pride in looking after themselves and find it hard to admit that they need help. But, you’re going to need to recognize this and do what you can to ease the pressure. Be sure to take them extra meals round when you think it might save them from cooking, walk their dog, and even buy their groceries for them now and again to save them the trip.

Find A Retirement Community

If you get to the point where you feel like your elderly parent is struggling in their own home, you may want to talk to them about retirement community options. Now, this may not be something they are okay with at first. But if the get extra help and are surrounded by others, it could be all they need to feel a lot better about their situation.

Ask Them To Move In

And finally, you may also have the option to ask them to move in with you. This isn’t always something that is feasible for everyone, but if you have space in your home and you wan to be able to care for your elderly family member, then it could be the perfect solution for both them and for your whole family.

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