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3 Sure Fire Ways To Help An Elderly Neighbor

3 Sure Fire Ways To Help An Elderly Neighbor

We all like to think of ourselves as good neighbors. We want to be able to lend a bag of sugar if the need arose, and we enjoy saying hello every morning on our way to work. When we have elderly neighbors, we can take on even more responsibility. But this is important. These people might not be able to leave the house quite so often and could suffer a little more when the weather turns chilly. It’s up to you to be the person to make sure that they are ok. Take a look at how you can help your elderly neighbor.

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The Little Things

Sometimes an elderly neighbor doesn’t have family living close by, so could always use a helping hand with even the little things. Consider offering to pick up some groceries if you are heading to the supermarket. Ask if they need their medication picking up from the pharmacy for their long-term care and ailments. And see if they want their lawn mowing, if you are already out doing yours. These tiny good deeds are easy to do as it doesn’t take much effort on your part as you aren’t going out of your way. This can also make it easier for your neighbor to be more accepting of the help as they don’t want to feel like they are putting you out.

The Bigger Things

If you can, consider inviting your neighbor over for dinner once a week. It’s a kind thing to do and it’s a great way of getting to know the person living next door to you. Having a friendly chat and giving your neighbor something to look forward to can lift their spirits, especially if they spend a lot of time on their own. Cook them a nice meal, offer to head around to theirs and cook up a Sunday roast. If you can, offer to clean their humble abode once in a while or take them out on an excursion. Are you heading out for a beach day? Why not take your elderly neighbor with you? This will change the family dynamic for a day, but it could be fun.

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Be Observant

Scammers and door to door salespeople will watch out for those homes that have elderly residents as they seem like easy pickings. If you see any suspicious activity, you can notify the authorities and your neighbors family. If you spot someone at your neighbor’s door and they are struggling to get this person to leave them alone, it’s time for you to head out and make your presence felt. By doing this, you are protecting a neighbor and friend who is a little more vulnerable than others. You’ll also ensure that they never get visited by these con artists again.

Being a good neighbor means getting to know the people living around you. Be present, be kind, and be thoughtful. Your elderly neighbor may become a friend over time. Help them out when you can, make sure that they have everything they need, and welcome them into your home once in a while. It’s the neighborly thing to do.

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How To Create An Unforgettable First Impression

How To Create An Unforgettable First Impression

If anyone ever tells you that first impressions don’t count, don’t believe them. In fact, studies show that if someone feels negatively about you on first meeting you, it’s incredibly hard to change their initial perception. And from job interviews, to new friends, to finding love, it’s making those positive connections that has the power to really change your life. Think of your initial meeting as laying the foundation for a future, deeper relationship – you need those foundations to be solid in order to build something great. You have, on average, just seven seconds in which to make your mark – so how do you ensure that the impression you’re creating is a positive one?

Be Present

 

We go through life half-distracted by the constant tug of our smartphones or even our own thoughts, but when meeting someone for the first time, it pays to make sure that you focus on them. One of the most compelling behaviours for this is eye contact – if we don’t make any because we’re distracted, or too shy, it’s very hard to create a positive impression. Human brains are wired to respond to the chemicals generated when we lock pupils – serotonin, the ‘happy hormone’, oxytocin which gives a sense of wellbeing and bonding, and feel-good chemicals dopamine and endorphins are all triggered by this simple, evolutionary response. So it really is crucial to sincerely meet someone’s eyes when you are first introduced. However, there’s definitely a balance to be struck. Make too much eye contact, or come across like you’re staring and the gesture will backfire – you’ll come across as either aggressive or creepy! A few seconds of eye contact followed by a natural gaze around at your surroundings is best. If you’re meeting several people, say your partners’ friends or a panel at a job interview, make sure that you share eye contact with everyone, interspersed with looking at the room around you.

 

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Pay Attention To Details

 

Being well-presented is almost certainly a good way to win people over – there are a lot of snap judgements that get inferred from how you choose to present yourself. Rightly or wrongly, the speed and volume of information that is processed by the human brain when encountering someone new has evolved into a series of informational shortcuts, or judgements, that will form an unconscious bias about you based on stored information. And while it may be very true to say ‘Don’t judge a book by it’s cover’, unfortunately, that is exactly what we as human beings are wired to do. Make sure you cover off the details in any important situation – that your clothes are pressed and free of stains, your teeth are nice and white,  your hair is neat and you appear presentable. If you want to be memorable you could try a trick such as developing an outfit signature, like a colourful silk scarf, or even finding a signature scent such as a delicate rose perfume. People will begin to associate you with these attributes, and they can make you stand out in a good way.

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