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Online Dating and Sexual Health: What You Need to Know

By Guest Blogger, Caitlin E.

Online Dating and Sexual Health: What You Need to Know

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Millions of people use online dating websites and apps to meet new people and engage in different levels of intimacy – from just chatting to casual sex to romantic relationships. With the rising popularity of various platforms such as Match.com, EHarmony, Tinder, and numerous others, the stigma that once existed around online dating has been greatly diminished. Even statistics show that the majority of Americans claim online dating is a good way to meet people.

But it’s still a relatively new landscape, where it’s crucial that we’re all well-informed and understanding of how we can navigate it responsibly. Here’s what you need to keep in mind regarding sexual health when meeting new people on dating platforms.

 

Sexual health is about psychological well-being too

 

The concept of sexual health is often mistaken for only the physical aspect of health in regards to sexuality, such as the absence of an STI.

But the World Health Organization reminds us that sexual health goes much further than that, implying psychological wellbeing, freedom of choice, and the ability to have a satisfying and responsible sex life.

In the online dating culture, you have all the freedom you need to engage with whomever you want and however you want. And when you have this kind of freedom, it’s especially important to listen to your gut instinct and to be cautious when meeting new people online.

It’s easy to get caught up in all of it, which makes it even more important that you fully acknowledge what you want and what you don’t want – regardless of how the person you’ve met will react. Listen to your innate needs, take care of yourself, and don’t let yourself feel pressured at any point.

Online dating is there to make things easier and more enjoyable for you, not to become a burden on your well-being.

 

Always use protection. Always.

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A lot of people are hooking up through dating platforms, as the medium makes meeting new people much faster and more convenient. The math is quite simple – the more casual sex there is, the more STIs are likely to be circulating.

This is nothing new, as STIs are more widespread than you might expect. There’s just too much stigma around them so you can be sure that nobody is going to explicitly tell you they have an infection when they meet you.

Not only that, but your partner may have no idea he or she has an STI.

The only way to stay safe from STIs and maintain your sexual health responsibly is by using condoms – every time, no matter what.

This is especially important to take note of among the older demographic, where there’s still a common misconception that there’s no need for condoms if you can no longer have children. Regardless of fertility or other forms of contraception you might be using, condoms serve to protect you from STIs, and both sides of the relationship should have them around.

 

Maintain your good judgement

 

A lot of people rely on drugs or alcohol to ease into the situation and “loosen up” when meeting someone new. Again, you have the freedom to do whatever you wish – just make sure that you own it, that you have the confidence and your best interests in mind.

Overdoing it with either of those two will definitely cloud your judgement – and that’s where it will be difficult for you to keep your best interests in mind. Whether it’s engaging with someone you don’t actually feel that comfortable with or forgetting to use a condom during sex, clouded judgement increases the chances of turning an otherwise pleasant experience into a sour one.

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The rising popularity of online dating is no coincidence. People feel comfortable with these platforms, and they present a convenient and exciting way to meet potential partners and like-minded people. But as more and more people use online dating apps, there’s a whole new dialogue opening up around sexual health and safety. Whether you’re entirely new to online dating or have an established profile, keep these points in mind to make sure that you navigate the landscape to your best interest.

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5 Easy Ways To Find Your True Soulmate

5 Easy Ways To Find Your True Soulmate

A soulmate is someone who completes you, someone you can love for a lifetime. But it is not always guaranteed that you will meet this person in your life; there are chances that they may be right in front of you but you still miss them. Finding that special someone is a quest that can be solved only by following your heart and understanding how you can open the doors that take you to them. Let us help you to know how to find your true soulmate.

Believe in true love

Relationships are fragile in the present times as people break up as easily as they come together. But if you want to attract that special someone to your life, believe in true love because it does actually exist. When you do meet your true soulmate, the relationship with them nourishes you and helps to experience personal growth to become a stronger, better person.

Focus on healing

It is quite possible to fall in love with someone even if that person is not your soulmate. Such relationships are based on physical attraction and seldom last. Broken relationships do hurt but healing yourself is the best way to open up to your true partner. If you are not able to heal, you will not be able to let anyone get closer, even if that someone is the partner that you have been looking for.

Love yourself

If you expect someone to love you, start by loving yourself irrespective of your looks and physical attributes. People with a sense of self-esteem are more attractive and have better chances of finding a partner who adores and respects them. Appreciate the traits you are blessed with and try to improve where you lack. By loving yourself, you look and feel attractive and give reasons to others to feel the same about you.

Wait with patience

You need to be patient enough to wait for the arrival of your soulmate in your life. And this does not mean that you should miss on good things while waiting. Often people make their lives miserable just waiting for true love to arrive. Such people tend to become negative and miss the opportunity to meet their soul partner even if they are around. Learning to live in the present and enjoying life before the person arrives is the key to finding the special one.

Be open to possibilities

Another way to find your soulmate is to be open to possibilities. Giordana Toccaceli, the renowned intimacy coach, reiterates that true love may walk in anytime and anywhere, sometimes when you expect it the least. You may even find the right person in someone whom you have known but not realized that they are the one. Just keep your senses open so that you do not miss the opportunity when it comes.

Finding your soulmate is like reaching your destination, but this does not make the journey any less special. So make sure that you stay happy and positive while you wait for that special someone to arrive in your life.

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Conception’s Got You And Your Man Hot, Sweaty, And…Searching For A Surrogate?

Conception’s Got You And Your Man Hot, Sweaty, And…Searching For A Surrogate?

When it comes to conception, most of us imagine things will get hot and steamy. Sex between you and your partner might have been good before, but surely it’ll crank up a level when there’s added incentive? You likely expect to be at it like rabbits every chance you get. All the better for making that baby, right ladies?

But, what happens when things don’t go to plan? You’ve been trying for months and nothing’s happened. Then, you get the news you’ve been dreading. One of you is infertile, and suddenly your hot and steamy journey couldn’t seem colder. The two of you may go from jumping into bed every second to facing major marriage problems in one short appointment.

 

The good news is, infertility is by no means the end of the story anymore. With options like surrogacy, there’s every chance you can still go on to conceive a genetic child. But, you first need to go through the experience of finding a surrogate. And, it’s all too easy to lose the love during this stressful process. But, given you want to have a child because of the love you share, it’s essential you don’t let that happen. And, to make sure of it, we’re going to look at a few ways to keep hold of that intimacy, even when surrogacy is on your cards.

Focus on sex regardless

 

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So, sex isn’t going to lead to babies the way you’d hoped. But, that doesn’t mean you should stop making an effort in the bedroom. If it helps, remember that you’re still on the road to conception. Keeping on top of your sex lives can help keep that momentum alive, as well as preserving the intimacy. Focusing on sex can also help to alleviate any guilt the infertile party might feel. If your man received the bad news, for instance, he might feel that you’re withholding sex as a form of punishment. And, that type of feeling isn’t going to help either of you. So, keep making an effort here. Remember how much fun you had in the bedroom before babies were even on your cards. It might be hard at times, but you need to work to keep that going for the duration of your surrogacy search.

Do everything together

It takes two to make a baby. But, when it comes to surrogacy, it’s all too easy to slip into bad habits of separation. After all,  you’re both giving different samples without each other in the room. And, you may decide to do independent research to put your minds at ease. Before you know, you’ll be having very different experiences of what should be a shared journey. Make sure it doesn’t happen by keeping this between the two of you. Don’t go off into your own heads at any stage. Instead, attend appointments together. If it helps, ask if you can go in with your man while he gives his sperm sample. And make sure not to research alone. Instead, sit down and snuggle up with the laptop one night. Together, visit resources like the ConceiveAbilities Blog which can answer a lot of questions for you. Just the act of coming together like this can help to keep you close and build intimacy during a difficult time. Make sure, too, that you make decisions together. You’ll need to choose everything from your timeline to your surrogate herself. And, it’s essential this is done together. Otherwise, it’s all too easy for one partner to fall out of the loop.

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Keep communication open

Communication is always essential in a relationship, especially when it comes to sex. But, you guys know that, else you wouldn’t have gotten this far. The trouble is, when issues of infertility crop up, it’s all too easy for the shutters to come down. A mixture of embarrassment and reluctance to face the problem are natural. But, you need to lift those shutters before they lock on your love. Instead, make sure you’re discussing your feelings from day one. If you’re upset, talk about it. Make sure not to be touchy or take things to heart. Just listen to your partner, and work towards solutions together. There are sure to be difficult discussions along the way, but you can’t afford to skip them. Only by facing these things head on can you both stay connected for when your baby comes along. Though it may not feel like it now, that could be a lot sooner than you think.

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What We Learned from Sex and the City

By Guest Blogger, Brigitte E.

What We Learned from Sex and the City

 

Our favorite girl gang might not be airing on TV anymore, but they still hold their spot in our hearts. The Sex and the City show made us all wonder if we have what it takes to live the high life in the urban jungle and what it is you actually need to do to get there. So, if you want to bring back the best of the times into today, here’s what you’re going to need:

An outfit to make a statement

Each of the girls in the show has her own unique style that worked brilliantly when then show aired in the early 2000’s, but let’s just say that not all of their styles aged so well. While Carrie might have been the fashion icon during the series, these days you might want to be a bit more like Charlotte. But if the girls have thought us something, it’s that you should always dress to impress. Surprisingly, while Miranda was the odd one out, dressing far less stylish than the other girls, her outfits would look the most normal if worn today. Clashing colors and weird pattern mixes might have been considered a catastrophe back in the day, but today you can see such designs on the biggest runways of the world. So really, whether you want to rock knee-high boots with an over-the-top fur coat, or if you want to show off your body in a sexy red dress, it’s important that you find the look that represents you.

Dating

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Relationships take time. You might meet the perfect one and fall in love instantly, but actually not end up together until several arguments, other partners and a couple of seasons pass by. But if we step away from Carrie and look at Charlotte, we’ll see that things don’t always work out – or do they? Your perfect life falls apart, you get divorced and you feel like you are at the bottom, but them someone new just walks by and there you go, back up on your feet.

Sex

 

Let’s take a page from Samantha’s book: She’s not only sex obsessed, but she is perfectly fine with sharing every single detail with her friends and the unseen audience. The thing to remember here is that this show made great strides in demystifying adult toys and showing us that sex isn’t always good. And when it isn’t – you should speak up, change something about it or, at the very least, take things into your hands. But the show also addresses a major problem: unplanned pregnancy. Miranda’s against-all-odds pregnancy was a shock to everyone, and the message is clear: if you don’t want kids (or and STI) always use protection.

Know your perfect cocktail

There is really nothing more iconic for this show than a glass of Cosmopolitan. So let’s see how you can recreate it at home with your best friends: Originally, the recipe uses cranberry juice, but you can substitute it for grapefruit or blood orange. Put 1oz in a shaker over ice, add a ¼ oz of triple sec and 1 ¼ oz of vodka (or a bit more, if you’re trying to cheer up a friend who just broke up). Shake it all up and pour into a martini glass. Garnish with a twist of lemon and you are good to go. Alternatively, go downtown to your favorite bar and tell mr. Bartender to keep them coming.

Have a support group

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If you strip away all the side action that fills up the show, you are left with one very simple theme: friendship. The four girls go through their life’s ups and downs together and support each other through it all. So before you start buying furry coats, shaking up cosmos and updating your sex toy collection, first make sure you have a group of friends that will see you through thick and thin, laugh and cry with you and love you and simply love you unconditionally.

 

And if this made you feel nostalgic, then maybe get your friends together and watch a season or two of the show to remember the good time and give yourself inspiration for your own adventure. After all, we are all writing our own stories, and perhaps it’s just the right time for another plot twist.

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Four Ways To Fire Up Your Love Life

Four Ways To Fire Up Your Love Life

Whether you’ve been in a marriage for a long time and want to give your love life a boost, or you simply want to revamp the way that you’ve always done things, your libido needs a bit of help. With work being so busy, raising a family and having an actual social life, there’s always an excuse not to reconnect with a lover behind bedroom doors. There are so many things that you can do to boost your libido so that you can get your sex life back on the right tracks that it’s always been on.

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Exhaustion, stress and a lack of time can really affect the sex life of a couple, but sex is such an important way to connect on a level that is more than friends and more than just partners. It’s a mind, body and soul connection and when you’re too tired, it’s like someone has hung up the phone and the line is broken. Getting that line back up takes time and a loss of sex drive is only a problem if you believe that it is. Don’t panic though; there are plenty of things that you can do to boost it back up and get those bedroom fires burning again.

Sleep. This may seem like a counterproductive way to get your sex life back but burning the candle at both ends can really take a toll on your sex life. Testosterone has a big role in the male libido and a lack of sleep can reduce the levels of testosterone in you. Extracts like Tongkat Ali can help you to get your testosterone levels back up again. Try not to sleep less than 5 hours a night, regardless, as this is not healthy!

Eat. Everyone knows the sensuality in bringing food into the bedroom, but did you know that there are certain foods that are an aphrodisiac? Figs, bananas, chocolate and avocados are such aphrodisiacs, as are oysters and wine. These all provide the right minerals and vitamins for your health.

Confidence. Sometimes, confidence – or lack of it – is a big passion killer. If you don’t have confidence within yourself, you won’t feel in the mood and you can doubt your own attraction. No one can tell you how you can get rid of the low self-esteem, but you can shift the focus from your own worries to the things that you like about yourself and blow those up in your mind.

Sobriety. A big reason for a flop in the bedroom is too much alcohol or the overuse of drugs. By going sober, you can remove the toxins and chemicals from your system and be the au natural being that you want to be!

Getting the fire back in the bedroom is going to take some time, but if you take a moment to work out what is going wrong and communicate with your partner, you can move forward and slide back into that healthy sex routine you’ve always enjoyed.

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How to Create Lasting Fulfillment in Life, Love, and Intimacy

By Guest Blogger, Ashley L.,

How to Create Lasting Fulfillment in Life, Love, and Intimacy

Everyone dreams of having their own happily ever after. No matter how long you’ve been with your partner, you still probably imagine a long, happy life together. While the movies make it sound easy to live a fulfilling life with your partner, it’s actually not as picture-perfect as it seems. It takes hard work to build a life of joy and intimacy. Here are tips for creating lasting fulfillment in life, love, and intimacy.

 

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Celebrate Your Love

It’s easy to celebrate your love when you’re a bride and groom. After the newlywed phase of your relationship fades away, it’s hard to remember to take the time to celebrate your love in the way it should be celebrated. There are a lot of easy ways to celebrate your love regularly. Make your love a priority in both of your lives, and treat yourselves to one-on-one time regularly. You can go on a weekly date night, plan a weekend getaway, or try something new together. These moments together will help you remember why you were so attracted to your partner in the first place.

Add the Spice

After a few months (or years) together, you start to fall into the same routine. Adding the spice in your relationship takes more work than simply connecting with your partner. Sometimes you need the most spice in the bedroom to keep things exciting. Explore new sexual outlets or try different lingerie by 3 Wishes to see if you excite something new in your partner! Don’t let the spice in your relationship suffer! Make it a priority to invigorate each other’s lives often with new ideas!

 

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Communicate Freely

One of the biggest reasons couples break up is because a failure to communicate clearly. Different people use different love languages to express their devotion to a partner. If you and your partner use different love language, you can easily run into communications and not feel understood. Take this quiz to learn about what love language you and your partner use so you can be more aware of the different ways you communicate.

Connect Daily

Building a fulfilling life isn’t something that happens overnight. It takes daily effort to maintain. That’s why you and your partner should be committed to connecting daily. This doesn’t have to be anything big, but take the time to talk to each other every day whether it’s in person or over the phone. Don’t forget to connect with yourself to check how you’re feeling on a daily basis. How you’re feeling about yourself often affects how you feel with your partner, so be mindful of your own reactions and feelings.

 

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Make Every Day Count

When it comes to leading a fulfilling life of love and intimacy with your partner, you need to be willing to make every day count. These things above take time to work on, and you’ll need to remember your feelings about your partner will naturally change over the course of your relationship. Be willing to communicate with your partner about your feelings, and never stop exploring new things together. If you both commit to working hard on your relationship and living in the moment, you’ll find your best happiness.

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Let’s Talk About Love

Let’s Talk About Love

Valentine’s Day was a day created as a Feast for St. Valentine. However, it has moved into a holiday of love and romance. Long-term and short-term relationships take part in the day, but please, remember the sexual health you must practice while celebrating love. Here’s some Valentine’s Day statistics. Stay safe!

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How To Have A Healthy Pregnancy In Nine Simple Steps

How To Have A Healthy Pregnancy In Nine Simple Steps

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Now that you are pregnant (congratulations!) you need to put a lot of effort into ensuring that you are and remain physically and emotionally healthy. After all, it’s not just you that you have to take care of anymore; It’s also your little one. Nobody wants to have to deal with any problems with their pregnancy, and while problems will sometimes occur no matter what you do, there is a lot that you can do to reduce this likelihood. Here are some steps that you should take after learning that you’ve got a bun in the oven.

 

  1. Visit Your Doctor ASAP

As soon as you know that you’re pregnant, contact your doctor and schedule your first prenatal appointment. There you will be able to get a lot of support and advice to ensure that your pregnancy is healthy right from the very start. You will be able to ask any niggling questions that you may have and ease your mind of any worries.

 

  1. Ditch All Alcohol

While some people say that you can have the odd glass of wine while you’re pregnant, it really isn’t recommended, and you should try to cut alcohol out completely the second you find out you’re pregnant. If you’re struggling to do this, you should contact your doctor to get some help dealing with addiction while pregnant if you want to give your baby the best chance at a healthy life. The same goes for any sort of drug addiction.

 

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  1. Stop Smoking

Like with alcohol, smoking has been linked with some serious health problems for babies, including miscarriage, premature delivery, and growth problems. Quitting smoking is never going to be easy, so don’t try to do it alone; Get some help from your doctor and ask for support from your loved ones. If you don’t smoke, you should also stay away from secondhand smoke wherever possible.

 

  1. Reduce Caffeine Intake

While your caffeine addiction might not seem as serious as others I have mentioned, it can be just as dangerous, so cutting out coffees and energy drinks are highly recommended. Trying drinking decaf drinks and drinking more water for a much healthier pregnancy. Reducing your caffeine intake will also make it easier to sleep at night, which is so important during pregnancy.

 

  1. Don’t Eat For Two

You may have another human being inside you, but they are incredibly small, so you really don’t need to eat as much food as you might think you do. In fact, you only need an extra 300 calories, and a lot of this should be used up by protein, rather than a comical amount of chocolate and chips. Taking prenatal vitamins will also help you to hit this iron quota.

 

  1. Change Your Chores

There are a lot of cleaning products and pesticides that can be dangerous to an unborn baby, so you are going to have to consider making some changes to your household chores. When you speak to your doctor, let them know the sorts of things you do around the house, and they will be able to tell you of any hazards in your cleaning routine.

 

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  1. Get Some Exercise

A good exercise routine will help to keep you healthy during your pregnancy, ease any aches you may be feeling, and will give you the strength to handle carrying around a baby and going through labour. It also helps to elevate your mood and reduce stress, so is practically essential for pregnant women. Just make sure that you drink plenty of water and don’t push yourself too hard.

 

  1. Watch Your Teeth

Lots of pregnant women are unaware that hormone changes during pregnancy can increase your risk of gum disease, so don’t focus on their oral health enough. Well, you can now consider yourself informed. Make sure to brush and floss your teeth night and day, and visit your dentist when you’re supposed to, not when you can be bothered or can get around to it.

 

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  1. Catch Some Z’s

You are going to feel incredibly tired at times in your pregnancy, especially during the first and third trimesters, so listen to your body and slow down a little. Ensure that you are getting quality sleep every single night and that you get some rest during the day when you feel like you need a rest.

 

Pregnancy is an incredibly special time in a woman’s life, and with these tips, you can help to ensure that it also an incredibly healthy time.

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The Little Things Add Up Regarding Dating Confidence

The Little Things Add Up Regarding Dating Confidence

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If you’re reading this, there’s a large chance you’re interested in dating, and dating well. The search for love is not always easy. While it can happen naturally, and help you craft a story of love and beauty, sometimes things aren’t so simple. It takes effort for people to find the love they keep for the most part. If not in situational terms then in how they present themselves. After all, if you’re not giving the best of yourself, how can you expect someone to see the best of you?

 

Of course, you should be comfortable in your skin more than anything. But, if you really do value confidence when it comes to approaching those you are attracted to on sincere terms, it pays to take care of yourself. Being confident will give you more presence, help you achieve more suitable and worthwhile partners, and generally have more fun while dating! Dating can be turbulent. Sometimes you meet people you might not have wanted to looking back, and sometimes you can go for long periods without meeting anyone suitable. If you have the ability to however, you can develop a keen awareness for how you present yourself, and how your confidence translates to the dating scene.

 

This article will help you with that, as it’s not always relevant. Of course, these tips should be done for you more than anyone else you might meet in the future, as they’ll develop you into a stellar and well-presented person. Self-confidence redeems itself in how happy you feel within your own skin. Still, sometimes directing that in the pursuit of a potential love or close friend from dating can also be worth your time.

 

The little things add up regarding dating confidence. Here are just a few to take care of:

 

Smile

Who doesn’t like being smiled at? You’ll notice awfully quickly if the person you meet has an issue smiling with you. This can make you feel on edge, as the whole situation feels weird from a body language perspective. After all, verbal language is only 20% of overall communication. We are fine-tuned to understand and receive signals through body language, expressions, general movement when speaking and how open or closed their presence is to you. Smiling is an undeniable signal that you’re doing something right. This means smiling at the other person (genuinely) can also allow them to pursue certain avenues of dialogue, believe that their joke hit well, or simply feel comfortable in your presence.

Your smile makes you radiant. However, if you have a few aesthetic issues with your teeth, you might be defeating this beauty from the start. Ensuring that your teeth are well maintained and clean will contribute to this, via discerning the services of the best dentist available. It’s not negative to have a little work done if you notice glaring issues, as if your smile is less than it could be, you’ll try not to do it, and this closes off your body language. Simply brushing your teeth and flossing well, on top of paying attention to your breath (like never eating garlic before a date!) are pretty much all the steps you need to take to have a wonderful and beautiful smile worthy of envy.

 

Clothes

What you wear matters. It’s important to make good first impressions, so if you have a good idea of what to wear we’re sure that you’ll look wonderful. Never be afraid to purchase new items purposefully for a date – you deserve to feel comfortable and confident in yourself! A few words about wearing clothing however. It’s important that they fit, and if they don’t you should get them retrofitted or try and find new items. To look good, finding clothes that compliment your body figure without flaunting too much of your body (unless you’d like to of course, there’s no sense in body shaming!) will help you feel comfortable.

 

Of course, making sure all items match, that they’re well cleaned and are ironed of any creases can go a long way in making you look presentable. Even a white tee and some jeans can look good when you ensure they’re well taken care of. It also matters how you wear certain things. For example, there’s no sense wearing a beautiful dress if it’s too tight on you, or heels if they make you feel awful when trying to take step after step. Your clothes are a representation of who you are – so embed your own personal style here! A little accessory here and there never hurts when it comes to improving your confidence.

 

Personality

 

Your personality matters. Of course, it’s hard to ‘freshen up’ before a date in this regard without being somewhat false. You should always be relatively comfortable in expressing who you are. After all, if you have to pretend to be someone in order to make someone else like you, then it’s not fitting that that person will meet your genuine needs. There is always someone out there for your real personality, but only if you let it shine will you make that a possibility.

 

However, there are things you can do to give your personality the edge before heading out. Exercising that day, making sure you have had plenty of sleep and even meditating can help your cognitive abilities stand out, as you’ll be able to access thoughts and enunciate your words much better and in a non-sluggish flow. Of course, the content of what you say also matters.

 

This doesn’t mean preparing an initial list of talking points that you hope to cover in the scope of the conversation. You’re not attending a speech to sway people over to your political or religious opinion. You’re forming a connection, which means both sides of the table need to be in accordance with one another if the whole thing is going to work. This tip is not really one to do ‘before’ your date, but in general reading, staying on top of current events and being an informed person can work phenomenally in helping you come across as an intelligent and capable person. If they previously mention an obsession or interest they have, then why not read up on it a little beforehand? This isn’t insincere or deceptive at all, showing them you’ve made efforts to learn why they love that so much shows you’re willingness to try and be a gracious partner, and it subtly shows them you’re a person with much more to them than they might have originally assumed.

 

The best advice you can get regarding your confidence around your personality is to be yourself. Just relax. Try not to be false, even though of course you will be tempted to bring the best of yourself to the entire affair. This also means allowing disagreements, or potentially finding that you and the other person simply do not vibe together well. Not every date you attend will be a complete success. The funny part about this is that most dates will go much more smoothly if you allow them to go wrong, because the whole unnatural setup almost disappears in awkwardness if you do this. You’re a person, they’re a person, and both of you know the whole dating atmosphere is one of artifice and strange expectations. The sooner you can change that atmosphere to one of mutual humor and relaxation, the better you can both bring yourself to the relationship. Who knows where this could lead? You might find a friend or partner for life.

 

Wisdom

 

Dating is an exciting time to say the least. There are many possibilities that can occur, from you finding a love and a partner, to falling utterly for someone, to simply enjoying each others presence. It could mean you find someone to travel the world with and craft memories. It could mean you find the person you marry next year. With this, emotions can run high in anticipation. We also all know that feeling when we’re almost head over heels for someone immediately. This can make us act foolishly in our excitement, and come on too strong.

 

The biggest ‘little thing’ that matters regarding dating confidence is being able to put your emotions in check. Taking a step back and letting them win your affections, and earning theirs is much better than simply giving them away because you find that person attractive or interesting. People are complex, and you never know if you might blow an opportunity with them by being a little too gung-ho in your expectations. We’ve all been on dates with people who seem a little too keen to get hitched with us, and it puts us off. The chase is fun. Allow it to happen with both sides, and see what happens. This way you respect yourself and allow both parties to enjoy a very interesting story regarding the beginning of your relationship.

 

It also helps you see your own worth from moment to moment. Instead of thinking ‘how can I impress this person immediately?’ think ‘how can I contribute to this reciprocal conversation in a wholesome manner? You can proceed from there.

 

We absolutely hope that this advice gives you the best dates of your life from here on out. You surely deserve them.

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Hear it from a Guy: How to Spice up Your Marriage

By Guest Blogger, Robin B.

Hear it from a Guy: How to Spice up Your Marriage

 

When you’re in a marriage or a long-term relationship there’s quite a lot of things you get to enjoy, but as you age, so does your relationship. It can be quite easy to settle in the comfort zone and after some time, when you think about your marriage, the word “spicy” does not come to mind. Settling down doesn’t mean you will have to sacrifice feelings of desire and passion, but it calls for a little bit of work.

 

We’ve done some digging around, and we’ve come across some general tips on how to bring some flare to your married life. This isn’t some kind of a guidebook which will lead you to happiness, but more of a pointer. Every relationship is different, and only you and your partner really know how to address each other’s needs. This article aims to help you out with understanding those needs, so, without much ado, let’s dive in and get straight to it.

Be Creative

In order to keep the excitement in your relationship, you need to keep things interesting. Doing the same things over and over again will eventually make them boring and obsolete. If that has already happened to you, don’t despair, all you need to do is start thinking creatively.

 

Think about your partner and what they like. Think about which things bring them pleasure. Don’t be afraid to make them feel aroused from time to time. Plan an exotic date, take your partner for a couples massage, and make sure your partner is comfortable. You can choose the romantic approach, or you can be a bit naughtier, but the point is to make things as interesting and pleasurable as possible. Making your partner feel desired while feeling something new will most definitely help you feel more connected to them.

 

Change the Scenery

 If you are doing the same thing over and over, there is a great possibility that it will become your routine, and the routine is quite boring. A trip to a foreign country could be a great experience, and if you don’t have the budget for that right now, you can google places that are near you. If you are already doing this, then do it differently from time to time. My advice is to find hotel alternatives such as luxury apartments, and surprise your partner. Don’t go to the same place just because you liked it. Try something new. Create new memories.

Get in Shape

One of the biggest problems in long-term relationships is what sex becomes after some time. As we get older and our body changes, the way we enjoy sex changes as well. But, when you strip it down – sex is a bodily function. This means that your overall health and condition affects the way you have sex quite seriously. There are a lot of things that can go wrong if for example, your cardiovascular health is bad, or if you have high cholesterol level.

 

In order to avoid any serious problems, but also, in order to keep your sex life interesting and healthy, you need to get in shape. Adding regular exercise to your daily routine has an incredible effect on your body and the way you feel about yourself. With regular exercise, you’ll become more energetic, durable and you will enhance your entire immune system.

 

Go Naughty

Another way of avoiding the dread of every-day-life which may consume your marriage is to keep things open and talk to your partner. Having sex should be something you both enjoy, and not just a random act you occasionally try out. If you want to really spice up your marriage, you should start talking about your sex life and your fantasies with each other.

 

There are a lot of things you can do, for example, you can take your partner to a sex toy shop and find what would be interesting to try out together. Try to understand what turns your partner on, and how to do exactly that. You can even seek some professional help, if you’re brave enough, that may help you revitalize your sex life altogether. The most important thing is to talk with your partner and define clear boundaries.

 

Final thoughts

Sex is a large part of all marriages, and it’s a large part of basically any romantic relationship, but it’s not the point of any relationship. In order to really spice up your marriage, you need to think about small things, things that make your partner happy. Be detailed and try to surprise them as often as you can. You will be surprised how much your sex life and sex drive will change, once you focus on your partner more than on the sex itself.

Sex is a large part of all marriages, and it’s a large part of basically any romantic relationship, but it’s not the point of any relationship. In order to really spice up your marriage, you need to think about small things, things that make your partner happy. Be detailed and try to surprise them as often as you can. You will be surprised how much your sex life and sex drive will change, once you focus on your partner more than on the sex itself.

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feeling good, from the inside out. If you’ve got a problem or a tip email me! Be sure to Like and share on Facebook or Follow on Twitter or Instagram.