Worried About Your Husband? Top Ways To Support Him (Without Pushing Him Away!)
Although we hope that our marriage will be happy ever after, life isn’t like that. Couples face many challenges that can tear them apart. But just like you said in your marriage vows, you will be there for the through sickness and health. Therefore, whether it’s some kind of illness such as addiction or depression, you need to help them through this challenging time. Here are some top ways you can support your husband without pushing him away.
Speak to him openly about your concerns
The first thing you should do when you are worried about your husband is to speak to him. Sit him down and explain calmly about why you are concerned. There’s no point shouting at him as it will lead him to become defensive and not be honest. He will just push you away and end up being even more secretive. Therefore, deal with the situation calmly and give him examples which caused concern. Make sure he understands you are not having a go at him, but you are worried and want to help. If he sees how much it’s affecting you, he’s more likely to be open with you. Let him speak and don’t respond until he gets everything out that he wants to say. Once you know what’s going on, you can find ways to move forward. Ask him how you can support him and let him know you are there for him.
Seek help for him and explain why
You might be worried about how your husband will react if you contact a doctor or a therapist about the problem. After all, they might be furious that you have got someone else involved in the issue. But for the benefit of your husband’s health, it needs to be done. Talk to him about why you have involved them and how you feel it will benefit them. After all, they need to agree to go to some form of addiction treatment center. Otherwise, they won’t benefit from it, if they are not willing to acknowledge they need help. Therefore, talk to him and help him to accept he needs help if you want to support him through this challenging time.
Voice your worries in a controlled environment
It might not be possible to sit down with him to speak about your concerns in your own home. If he’s currently taking drugs, you might not feel safe to talk to him about it alone. Therefore, you should arrange for a controlled environment where you can voice your worries for your husband. It might be in front of a friend or family member who can support you if necessary. After all, he might listen if it’s a mutual friend. Or if you feel this might put his back up, it might be best to speak with him in front of a professional. You can attend counseling together and then can explain your worries there. He’s more likely to take you seriously and let you support him if you deal with it in a professional environment. And once he seeks help, you can work with the counselor to get your marriage back on track.
Remember to give him compliments and praise when he gets the problem under control. It will spur him on to keep going in the right direction with his recovery!
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