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Divorce Isn’t Your Only Option!

Divorce Isn’t Your Only Option!

When your relationship hits a bump in the road, it’s easy to think that there is no moving forward. And you might believe that there is no other option than calling a divorce lawyer. But it might not be the end of the relationship. In fact, there are ways you might be able to work through your issues and come out stronger the other side. Therefore, here are some other options you should consider first before going down the divorce route.

Talk about your problems

A lot of couples close up when they are having troubles in their relationship. Rather than talking to each other about their concerns, they tend to bottle it up and push each other away. But if you don’t talk to each other, it won’t allow you to move on from your problems. And the emotions you are feeling will build up, and you will grow to hate your partner. Therefore, if you want to work on the relationship, it’s time to open up to one another. Clear the house so that it’s just you and your partner. And then sit down next to each other and allow each other to talk about how you feel. Once you have everything out in the open, you can hopefully concentrate on the present and move on with the relationship.

Have a trial separation

Rather than rushing to a divorce lawyer, the first thing you and your partner should do is have a trial separation. After all, a lot of couples find that a separation does them both the world of good. In fact, it can show them both how much they love the other person. And as well as this, a separation of at least 12 months is often needed before any lawyer like Gillard Family Lawyers can start the divorce proceedings. Therefore, give each other some space to work through your issues. You or your partner might want to leave the family home for a period to ensure you live separate lives. Or you might want to stay under the same roof, but live as if you were both unmarried. Having some time apart can help you to see clearly what the next step is for your relationship!

Look into relationship counseling

Some problems between you and your partner require some outside help. After all, you might find that you just argue about the issue if you sit down just the two of you. But this is not helping you to address the problem and potentially move on. Therefore, if you want to save the relationship, you should consider attending relationship counseling. It’s a great way to express what you want to say in a safe environment. And the counselor will work with you both to ensure you both get a chance to have your say. For some people, counseling can often help them to move forward with their relationship. Or it can show them that the relationship can not be salvaged and that you should both move on!

And sometimes it’s worth going back to resolve current problems. Reminiscing about how you met and going on your first date can help you start over with your other half. Therefore, don’t be afraid to spend some time in the past to move forward!

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Make A Change For The Sake Of Your Health

Make A Change For The Sake Of Your Health

We all go through those periods where we simply don’t feel satisfied with our lives. After all, the only way that would happen is if we all lived in a perfect world and if you’ve ever five minutes of the news you’ll know that we are most definitely not living in a perfect world. So it’s only natural to have periods of time where things aren’t so great. The problem is when those periods start to outnumber the good times. Despite what some people might say, this can be an extremely dangerous position to be in. A lot of people would tell you to simply power through and wait for things to get better but doing that can cause some serious damage to your health. Your mind and your body are both intimately connected and if you’re completely miserable, exhausted and stressed all of the time then that’s going to have an impact on you. Both your mental and physical health are incredibly important, and you need to take care of them both. So instead of waiting for things to get better, it’s time to take some control of your life for the sake of your health! If you’re unhappy with the way your life is going, it’s time to make a change. Here are just a few ways that you can change your life to improve the state of your health.

Your lifestyle

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A lot of people get stuck in a rut and find that they simply can’t pull themselves out of it. The problem with that is that you almost always end up going round in circles. There are hundreds of different things that people use to deal with tough times in their life, but the problem is that many of them are incredibly unhealthy and potentially dangerous. If you’re relying on food to make you feel better, then that’s going to make you put on weight which will not only sap your energy even more but may even make you feel worse. Worse still is those who use alcohol and other substances to escape their problems. It might be a short-term escape but those problems are always going to be there the next day, and you’re just going to feel worse than ever before. The most important thing is to break out of that cycle and make some real changes to your lifestyle. Try and be more active for one thing. It will give you a reason to get out of bed every day and will help you to keep your energy levels up. The same goes for your eating habits. Cut out the junk food, and you’ll be amazed at how much better you feel.

Your job

One of the main causes of stress, anxiety, and frustration is often your job. Let’s face it, we all hate our jobs sometimes. If we didn’t, they wouldn’t call it work! Sometimes it’s just a matter of focussing on the things that your job lets you do, like seeing friends, going on vacation, and going out to dinner. A change of perspective really can work wonders. But if your job is sapping all of the life out of you, and you dread getting out of bed every morning then it might be time to do something a little more drastic. Why not think about a serious career change? If you’re stuck in a job that you don’t like then why not find something that you will find fulfilling. If you’re a creative type then why not looking into freelance writing or design. If you want a job that will help people, then you definitely want to take a look at staffnurse’s nursing vacancies. Whatever it is that you want to do, it surely has to be better than whatever it is that’s currently making you so miserable? A new job can bring fresh purpose into your life which is sometimes all you need to get out of a funk

Your friend circle

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When you’re going through a tough time, having a support network in place to help you get through it is absolutely invaluable. No one should have to deal with something difficult by themselves and your friends are exactly the people that you should be going to when you need help. Unless you’re in the position that you have friends who seem to actively try to make you feel worse. Whether that’s through insensitivity or even making you feel like a burden on them because of what you’re going through. You need to talk to those people and tell them that what they are doing is hurting you. If they refuse to understand and continue to behave in this way, then it’s time to cut them out of your life. You simply don’t need toxic relationships making things worse. Cut ties with people who make you feel awful and hold onto those friendships that really matter. You’ll be amazed at what a weight off your shoulders it will be when people like that are out of your life.

Your home

Sometimes you need a really significant change. Perhaps you don’t feel as though you can grow as a person where you are, or perhaps the place that you currently live simply carries too many memories and too much baggage for you to deal with anymore. If that’s the case, then there’s nothing wrong with needing a completely fresh start. Moving somewhere new is a great way to reinvent and reinvigorate your life. You get to make new friends and new memories, without all of the baggage of where you were before. Just make sure that you’re doing it for the right reasons. Needing a fresh start is great, but you don’t want to do it if you’re just running away from something else. If you are, it doesn’t matter where you go; you’re always going to have that niggling sense of doubt. It’s important to feel a sense of closure with the place that you’re leaving, that way you can feel totally comfortable saying goodbye.

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7 Simple Tips for You to Treat Bacterial Vaginosis Effectively

By Guest Blogger, Rose Emma

7 Simple Tips for You to Treat Bacterial Vaginosis Effectively

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Vagina has always been a sensitive and troublesome area for women because a lot of things can go wrong easily and threaten the quality of their sex life as well as the well-being of their happiness. The most common vaginal infection is bacterial vaginosis which is backed up by the fact that 75% women at the age of 15-44 has it at least once in their lifetime.

Bacterial vaginosis happens when harmful bacteria in the vagina outnumbers good ones and gets out of control. It’s a mild infection and in some cases, it disappears on its own without any touch of medicines. But if you find the symptoms, including vaginal discharge, itching, burning sensation when urinating or foul smell, high chance you might get bacterial vaginosis. It’s not hard to combat this conditions, but if you hesitate to get treatment, you will put your health at risk of getting STDs and other severe infections.

Here we provide some of the most effective home treatments for bacterial vaginosis which are all easy to perform at home in order to completely manage the condition.

  1. Yogurt

It is recommended by many gynecologists to support the treatment of bacterial vaginosis with yogurt. Lactobacillus acidophilus – a good type of bacteria in yogurt holds the power to reestablish the pH level in the vagina.  One cup of yogurt in your daily diet also gives your immune system a happy boost, which helps our body fight against bacteria more effectively.

  1. Tea Tree Oil

The powerful antifungal and antibacterial properties make tea tree oil a hero when treating with bacterial vaginosis. It is very effective in killing harmful bacteria and alleviating the symptoms. The strong exotic odor also outweighs the foul smell caused by bacterial vaginosis, making you feel less concerned with the odor of the sensitive area.

How to use:

  • Mix a few drops of tea tree oil in purified water and clean your vagina daily.
  • Another option is to soak in a tub of warm water with a few drops of tea tree oil for 30 minutes.
  1. Fenugreek

Fenugreek is long known to be able to balance the pH level in the vagina as well as the level of hormone in the body. Fenugreek also regulates the menstrual cycle which plays a big role in the natural healing of the vagina. Fenugreek should be consume orally only.

You can add a tablespoon of fenugreek powder to your cup of yogurt. The effect will be doubled.

Or follow many others people who soak the seeds in water and drink the water in the morning before having breakfast.

  1. Coconut Oil

Coconut oil again proves its irreplaceable status in home remedies. It is packed with antibacterial, antifungal and antiviral properties which are very beneficial in treating bacterial vaginosis if you apply it in the right way.

How to use:

  • Drop coconut oil on a tampon and insert it into your vagina for two hours, rinse well with clean water and pat dry with a towel.
  • Include coconut oil in daily cooking to improve your immune system
  1. Hydrogen Peroxide

This versatile solution can be used to treat bacterial vaginosis effectively. 3% hydrogen peroxide can disinfect and control the development of harmful bacteria. It also helps relieve itchiness and pain caused by bacterial vaginosis.

How to use:

  • Make a solution from water and 3% hydrogen peroxide in the ratio 1:1
  • Cleanse your vagina with this solution 1 or 2 times a day. Remember to gently dry the area with a clean towel.
  1. Good Vaginal Hygiene

It sounds obvious, but it would be a mistake if we rule this out from the list. A good vaginal hygiene plays an important role in control the growth of harmful bacteria. If you don’t keep the area dry and clean, you can turn this area into a favorable nest for harmful bacteria to flourish.

It is also ideal if you can avoid intercourse until the doctor says your vagina are free from bacterial vaginosis to because those activities can bring harmful bacteria deeper in the vagina or transmit to your sex partner.

  1. Apple Cider Vinegar

Apple cider vinegar again can amaze us by its ability to treat bacterial vaginosis. Its natural acidic compound restores the pH balance in the vagina and makes it an inhabitable environment for harmful bacteria.

How to apply:

  • Prepare a warm tub of water that is added 3 cups of apple cider vinegar; soak yourself in the tub for 15 minutes.
  • Another good option is to simply wash your vagina with a mixture of ½ cup of apple cider vinegar and water. You will see improvement in no time.

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Author’s bio: This article is written by Rose Emma – Senior Editor of Authority Remedies. She works as a health care expert in the field of Nutrition and Health for over 2 years after trained in Food and Nutrition Dietetics at Bluffton University. With all the experience she accumulates since college, she provides people with useful information about nutrition as well as helps them with their common health problems.

Take Control: 5 Birth Control Options For All 

Take Control: 5 Birth Control Options For All

There is an important element in your sexual health which consists in being able to control the pregnancy risk. Indeed, being sexually active means that you should be able to manage the risk of getting pregnant easily and effectively. There are, naturally, plenty of options available, and while some of them require a heavy surgery or protection that extends over a few years – which can be a difficult choice to make as this means being positive that you don’t want children for a period of five years of more. So today’s post focuses on the light methods that you can use to control birth in your sex life.

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Safe Sex Practice

Safe sex practices are essential to keep your body healthy and avoid STDs. But the practice of safe sex in a relationship can also help you to control any risk of birth. Indeed, using condoms is key to limit risk and control that the sperm doesn’t get in contact with your egg. You can find a variety of condoms that will enhance your sensations while keeping you and partner protected, so that there is no reason not to practice safe sex and have fun at the same time.

Contraceptive pill

Most women will prefer to use the contraceptive pill if they are in a permanent relationship with a partner that they trust. The pill is a combination of two effective ingredients that prevent ovulation and make it harder for the sperm to reach the uterus. While this is something that you should first discuss with your healthcare provider to ensure that you don’t suffer from any side effect, you can easily use a pill such as the microgynon contraceptive pill to control your menstrual cycle. If you are worried about forgetting to take the pill daily, you can look for a birth control shot that is an injection that keeps you secured for three to six months.

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Female Condoms And Diaphragms

Female condoms and diaphragms are both inserted into the vagina before sex. However, the condom can be used only once, while you can reuse the diaphragm for up to two years, assuming that you keep it clean. The advantage is that the female condom protects both partners against STDs, while the diaphragm is to be used with a trusted partner. The diaphragm is placed to at the opening of the uterus and covers the cervix. It works best in combination with a spermicide gel that you can put inside its cup.

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Fertility Awareness-Based Methods

FAMs, or Fertility Awareness-Based Methods, enable the woman to chart her menstrual cycle and track the ovulation period. Doing this requires daily temperature checks but can help you to identify the days where you are fertile and to avoid any sexual activity during this period.

Male Pill

The male contraceptive pill is still in experimentation, but this is soon going to be a reality. Men could indeed take the pill to control the production of sperms and therefore use it as an effective birth control method. First experiments have proven positive, but there is still a lot of work to do to control the side effect of this induced hormonal change.

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Beauty Tips for Having an Amazing Wedding

By Guest blogger Diana S.

Beauty Tips for Having an Amazing Wedding

marriage-451596_960_720Organizing a wedding is a stressful enough endeavor as it is, and having to look your best doesn’t make it any easier. Even though your task as a bride will be to try to relax and focus on your beauty, most of the time, you will be stressed out. Nevertheless, with these handy tips at your disposal, you can make sure you will look astonishing on your wedding day.

Notice Any Blemishes

Proper skincare begins noticing blemishes and any other marks on your skin you don’t want to be seen during your perfect wedding. You probably already know it, but it doesn’t hurt to make sure what your skin type is. This will play a key role in deciding what kind of treatment you need, and whether or not some creams will help. Choosing the wrong product just before your big day might have really bad results, since some might cause more harm than good.

Learn How to Do Facial Cleansing at Home

image-5-2In order to start purifying your skin and making sure it will glow when the big day arrives, learn how to put together a good deep cleansing facial. Avoid going overboard because too much of it could have dire consequences and you might end up ruining your skin permanently. After all, keep in mind that looking beautiful takes time, which is why you should start with treatments well before your wedding week.

Watch Your Diet

image-2-1You can achieve much by watching what you eat, and how you prepare your meals. Some foods can be great for your skin, and will do miracles. However, you still need to make sure your diet is healthy and isn’t causing you any health issues, otherwise, your body could react in a strange way. On the other hand, you shouldn’t adopt a specific diet only for your wedding; make sure to follow it afterwards and you will have radiant skin many will be jealous of.

Make Sure to Get Enough Sleep

Even though it sounds impossible, especially when you have so many chores to get done before the wedding, it is imperative that you get plenty of sleep. If you feel exhausted and tired all the time, your skin will show it as well. Above all, get quality sleep, because if you sleep less than usually, resting up will do you a world of good. Your skin will look simply astounding and you will feel great.

Cut Back on Stress

Good planning is key to a successful and stress-free organization of your wedding. Try to get everything done on time to ensure that you won’t have any issues to deal with later on. One of the most important things to mail before it’s too late are your wedding invitations, otherwise, nobody will show up on the most joyful day of your life. It’s a good idea to hire a wedding planner, who will be able to handle all the tasks, on time and with maximum precision. This will significantly unburden you and give you enough time to prepare yourself.

image-1-2The wedding will be all about you, which is why you should make sure you look your absolute best. Also, every girl’s dream is to have a fairy-tale wedding. However, that can be difficult to pull off if the bride does not fit into the fairy-tale setting. Be sure to start preparations in time, to have all the blemishes on your skin handled, so that when you arrive before the altar, people are awestruck by your beauty.

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How to Find Love Again in Later Life

Contribution from freelance writer Jenny H.

How to Find Love Again in Later Life

classbook-for-falling-in-love05Love does not have to end when you enter your senior years, whether you have been widowed or have elected to stay single. Should you decide to join the dating scene again, here are a couple of tips to make a success out of it.

Change Your Mind Set

While it is true that you are supposed to be an older, wiser and more experienced person, there is nothing in the books to say that you can’t think and behave like a youthful individual. Prepare yourself mentally to embrace the idea of dating and perhaps finding another partner for your remaining years. This means discarding preconceived notions of what your ideal partner (man or woman) should be, to avoid biases during your first meeting. After all, this is just a date and not a wedding.

Prep Your Physical Appearance

However, first impressions do count a lot so it is important to make yourself look attractive, clean, and presentable. When was the last time you had a haircut, indulged in a facial or had your nails done? Give yourself a small makeover and let professionals do your hair and makeup for your first date. It can do wonders for your self-confidence, making it a bit easy to get in the saddle again.

Get a New Wardrobe

qtq80-3t5NRCTake a look at your closet and clear out the items that you do not use anymore. Buy new outfits that complement your personal style. Do not overkill the idea of a makeover by wearing leotards or skinny jeans with high cut boots. If this is not your style, do not do it. It is recommended not to stray too far from your usual trend.

Go Out

Now that you are ready to meet someone, it is time to go out and find a date. You can do this by going to parties, sign up for dance classes, attend wine-tasting tours or game nights with your friends. The key here is to make yourself visible on the social scene. And while you are at it, there is no need to put pressure on yourself to look for a potential date. Just enjoy what you are doing and make new friends.

Another way to meet people your age is through online dating. You do have to make a great profile and keep safety considerations in mind. However, online dating has experienced a substantial boost with 12% of 55-64 year olds using a dating site or app compared to the 6% figure that did so in 2013, according to Pew Research.

Make a Good Impression

qtq80-JBU6PgFinally, you are ready for your first date. This is your one chance to make a lasting impression, so be sure to do it right. Apart from a clean and attractive appearance, be sure to show up on time. Although you might be very nervous, try to relax and be as natural as possible. Find common things you enjoy to discuss and avoid stories of the past. There is plenty of time for that later. Think of a first date as opening a present. You are just taking off the ribbon and maybe unwrapping the paper. The present inside will be revealed in the same way that getting to know your date slowly, through several dates, will tell you whether or not you have found love.

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You’re At A Crossroads: Which Way Should You Go? Tips For Couples Going Through Tough Times

You’re At A Crossroads: Which Way Should You Go? Tips For Couples Going Through Tough Times

It’s normal for couples to hit bumps in the road from time to time. No couple in the world has a perfect relationship. Even people who seem like they’re madly in love might have days when they argue like cat and dog. Sometimes, you come to point when you have to make a decision. If things haven’t been right for a while, or something has happened that has changed the dynamics of the relationship, you have to decide whether to try and find solutions for problems, or go your separate ways. If you’re going through a tough time, these tips may come in handy.

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Identify the problems and talk about them

Have you been arguing for a while or do you not spend much time together anymore? Try and work out why things have changed or what has happened to make you feel uncomfortable. If you can identify the problems, it’s much easier to find solutions. Do you need to make an effort to spend more time together? Why not plan a couples massage or at home with some oils and a heat pad for back? Has one of you been neglecting the other or have you fallen down each other’s list of priorities? Have you been seeing somebody else or have you been thinking about what it would be like to be single again? If you’ve got things on your mind, be honest, and talk to your partner. It’s best that they know what’s going through your head.

Make time to chat about how you feel. Don’t just mention something in passing, and then go about your daily business. It’s important to communicate properly. You may find that talking and being frank gives you more clarity. Perhaps, you can work things out or maybe you might decide that there’s no way forward.

Seeking help

Relationship troubles aren’t always caused by problems between two people. Often, issues that affect one person have a knock-on effect. You may find that your partner can’t give their all to you if they’ve lost their job or they’re suffering from an illness, for example. If you’re dealing with external issues, don’t be afraid to seek help. Healing yourself can often have benefits for your relationship.

If you’re having troubles in your relationship, it may also be worth seeing a therapist with expertise in helping couples. If you’re keen to find out more about couple’s therapy, you’ll find pages like https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201203/5-principles-effective-couples-therapy helpful.

Being realistic

Sometimes, in life, it’s beneficial to admit that things aren’t working and to adopt a pragmatic approach. Splitting up may be a horrible prospect, but if you’ve tried everything, it may be the best thing to do. If you’re married, it’s wise to be prepared for difficult times ahead. It’s not as easy as going in different directions and not seeing each other. A divorce has repercussions for both parties, and you should seek expert help from a firm such as https://www.millerbowleslaw.com/. You may not want to think about the practicalities because it makes it seem very real. But the sooner you get your head around the processes and what’s going to happen, the better.

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Relationships are hard work. You have to compromise, and sometimes, you have to make sacrifices. Often, making changes and being open and honest can work. But sometimes, there’s no way forward. If you’re at a crossroads, hopefully, this guide will help you to make a decision.

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The Essential Guide To Safe And Healthy Dating

The Essential Guide To Safe And Healthy Dating

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The excitement of the first date should be fun, but all too often we hear horror stories about dates going wrong. We can’t let this put us off dating, though. Most dates are safe and fun if a little bit awkward. If you’re planning a date soon, make sure you follow these top tips to ensure you have a safe and healthy experience and all the fun you want.

Talk on the phone first

If you’re meeting someone from an online dating site, make sure you speak to them on the phone before you meet them in real life. You’ll get a much better impression of their personality that way, and you’re more likely to hear if there’s something a bit weird about them.

Do your homework

At the very least you want to know his full name, his job and have a general idea about where he lives. And while you never have to admit it to him, it’s always worth doing a quick Google search of his name too. A quick look at his LinkedIn will tell you that he is being honest, and a Facebook stalk might reveal some mutual friends, who’ll hopefully be able to vouch for him.

Meet in public places

Just in case there is anything sinister about your date, it’s best to meet him in a public place the first couple of times while you get to know him. If he is worth it, he’ll understand that your safety has to come first. Try coffee shops, bars, restaurants, bowling, or even the park if the weather is good. Just make sure there are other people around, and you can leave easily if you want to. It’s a good idea to meet in the morning or at lunch time because you afternoon plans give a more organic and less awkward means of getting away if you’re just not feeling it.

Tell people where you are

Employ a buddy system, so your friend always knows where you are. Make sure you inform them if you move venue during your date, and give them an approximate time that you’ll be getting home. This just means that if anything untoward happens, someone’s always got your back. They could even come out on your first date with you – double dates tend to be less awkward, and it gives your buddy the chance to get to know your date too.

Take the essentials

You’ll want to have spare cash for a taxi, your bank card in case you get lumbered with the bill, and your mobile phone at the very least. It doesn’t hurt to carry mace too, just in case of an emergency. Making sure you’ve got everything you need means you can get away easily if your date starts to go south.

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Don’t drink too much

It can be tempting to knock the drinks back to loosen your inhibitions and get over the awkwardness on the first date, but it can also inhibit your ability to read a situation. For the first couple of dates, try to avoid drinking much, or even stick to non-drinking activities. You’ll find that you get to know your date more thoroughly when you’re coherent the whole time too.

Don’t leave food or drink unattended

Some people are just plain horrible. While it’s unlikely you’ll meet anyone with an ulterior motive, it’s always best to be as safe (and suspicious) as you can. Leaving a drink or a meal unsupervised could allow someone to slip drugs into them, which could compromise your safety. Finish your food and drink before heading to the restroom during a meal or in a bar – the risk just isn’t worth it.

Don’t give too much away

Early on in your dates, try not to give too much information away about yourself. For example, let them know the area of town in which you live, but not your street address. They can know your profession, but not your place of employment. It just means that if they turn out to be weird and you cut them off, they have no way to contact you or find you.

If you’re worried, leave

Don’t second guess yourself as a judge of character – if someone seems a bit weird to you, or you’re just not enjoying the evening, you are entirely within your rights to leave. Trust your instincts – if they get over-familiar or inappropriate too quickly, or anything that they say leaves you feeling a bit uncomfortable, remember that you know best. And don’t compromise your safety or happiness for the sake of saving some random guy’s feelings. If you’re worried about just walking out, ask the staff to call you a taxi or call a friend to come and meet you.

Give feedback

If you’re dating online and it does go wrong, heaven forbid, make sure you report his profile to the dating site and give them an outline of your concerns. It means that other women will not have to face the same problems as you, so it’s all about looking out for each other.

Practice safe sex

This should go without saying, but it is all to easy to get carried away in the heat of the moment. When you’re at that stage with your date, make sure you’re carrying condoms, as well as him. Don’t let him try to talk you out of safe sex – the risks just aren’t worth it.

Get regular check-ups

Even if you’re super careful, if you’re dating it’s important that you have regular sexual health check-ups, just to be on the safe side. Free std testing is available all over the country, so there’s no excuse not to.

Enjoy yourself

Don’t get too caught up in the end-game, just enjoy the process of dating, getting to know people, and having fun. If you’re too focused on where you’d like to end up, you could miss vital red flags, or just lose out on the enjoyment of it all.

Dating is really fun and doesn’t have to be scary. Just remember to keep your wits about you, your friends on hand, and to take it slowly, and you’ll have a safe and fun time.

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You Are The One And Only: How To Know You’ve Met The One

You Are The One And Only: How To Know You’ve Met The One

Relationships are a complex thing, don’t you think? First, there is the whole saga of actually meeting someone and then comes the dating game which can be extremely confusing. But once you go over those initial hurdles you can find yourself in full-on love with somebody and it can be all consuming. Those first few weeks and months of a relationship can be some of the best you’ll ever experience. Getting to know one another, spending every possible moment in each other’s company, but then you start to wonder whether this is it? Is this the one?

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I think if truth be told you just know when you have found your soulmate. But of course, in any scenario, you can always question yourself whether this is the real deal. After all, you want to ensure that you are going to marry the right person and put all your eggs in the one basket. I don’t think anyone sets out for a marriage to fail or end in divorce, do you? So I thought I’d share some telltale signs that you have found the one. Maybe 2017 looks promising for you on the relationship front.

You’re not hoping the relationship will change

Sometimes any relationship you find yourself in can be a good one. But there is always that lingering thought in the back of your mind that if that one thing could change it would be perfect, am I right? It could be an annoying ex, a stressful job, their cat allergies even. It could literally be anything that just bothers you. The thing is if you start wishing that if that one thing could change then this relationship is it, then you are definitely in the wrong relationship. They just don’t work like that. Meeting the one means that everything falls into place, annoying cat allergies, exes and all. They don’t bother you.

You’re good enough

We spend a lot of our time thinking we aren’t good enough in every aspect of our lives. It could be our careers, our home life, and in general. But your relationship is something you should feel yourself in and content that who you are is good enough. If you have that feeling, that then you are on the right track.

You can work things out

Conflict in relationships is going to happen. From bickering to full blown arguments it’s impossible to have a smooth sailing relationship every single day. But the difference to having arguments with that true partner is that you resolve them well. If you can admit your mistakes or forgive, then this relationship is promising. Conflict and compromise go hand in hand.

You have respect for one another

I think respect in relationships is of the utmost importance. Respecting life choices, careers, decisions, everything, should come easy in a lasting relationship because you respect the person and have trust in them and their judgment. Respect should also be reciprocated, so you should feel supported in your life choices and not be made to think anything otherwise.

I hope this has highlighted some of the signs that you are in a lasting relationship.

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Dating Tips: When To Turn A First Date Into A Second

Dating Tips: When To Turn A First Date Into A Second

When you’re dating, it can be hard to know when things are going well. There’s not always a lightning bolt, and for many, love at first sight is a concept found only in the movies. So how do you know if it’s worth progressing to a second date? Here are some positive signs to look out for.

Instant attraction

Most of us claim that personality is more important than looks. But that doesn’t mean that you want to be with somebody you don’t find physically attractive. For most of us, there has to be a level of attraction. This is what separates a partner from a friend. If there’s no attraction there, your date is likely to end up in friendship rather than a relationship. For some people, that instant feeling isn’t there. It grows with time. If you really like somebody, but you’re not quite sure if it will develop into anything more than a friendship, give it another go. It’s always worth organizing a second date if the first one showed signs of potential.

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Portrait of a beautiful young couple sitting together on couch at home – Indoor

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Chemistry

Chemistry is a bit of an unknown quantity. It’s hard to put into words the reactions that happen when you meet somebody that you click with. It’s a mixture of physical and psychological responses that are triggered when you meet certain people. Chemistry is not about having a type. You may be surprised at who you develop this connection with. Perhaps it’s something to do with the laws of attraction or it’s a mysterious entity none of us will ever quite understand.

Common ground

Have you ever been on a date where you disagree with everything the other person says, or you come from completely different worlds? Sometimes, opposites attract. But often, stable relationships are built on having things in common and seeing the world in similar ways. If you have common ground, this facilitates conversation. You find that you bounce off each other, and there’s less room for awkward silences.

Intrigue

When you’re on a date, and you’re chatting away, you’ll find that some people fascinate you while others leave you feeling flat. It’s not necessarily that they’re a boring person. They may be incredibly interesting to others. But you often find some people a lot more intriguing than others. If this happens, you’re more likely to want to see them again, and learn more about them.

Laughter

For many of us, being funny is one of the most attractive traits in a potential partner. Laughing makes you feel good. It breaks the ice on a first date, and it can instantly boost your mood. If you spend hours laughing together, and you’ve also got a connection on a physical and intellectual level, the signs are good.

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Do you find it impossible to read what other people are thinking or feeling? In today’s world, when dating is very common, it can be tough to decipher what’s going on and work out if there is a potential for a blossoming romance. Hopefully, these tips will enable you to spot the signs of success, and ultimately, find true love.

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