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Bring back Old-school Dating

by Cy B.

Bring back Old-school Dating

Since it seems to be all the topic on most social media platforms, I have been asked to reflect upon the topic of dating. The Do’s and Don’ts of today. For those not necessarily understanding today’s dating techniques it is a tough platform to tackle.

Over the years so much has changed and now deemed as ‘acceptable’ nature or so-called behavior. What was once known as dating has now become almost a mythical word that has lost meaning, just as ‘courting’ had in the 70’s. Nowadays, it’s almost as if social media decides your fate.

What happened to sending flowers to an address that doesn’t start with www.. or when phone conversations ended because one person fell asleep talking and you stayed on the line just to listen to them breath, because for that moment it was enough? What happened to working disagreements out and fixing problems? Not just acting like, hey I’ll just ignore this and let it build–not say anything and allow it to eventually explode? When did it become acceptable, bouncing from person to person and just leaving people in pieces because communication and motives were never clear, only expectations?

Y’all, love hurts.

I agree, yet expectations hurt even more when led by blinded by love. One of the worst feelings in life is falling in love alone. Both sexes mastered this little game it seems. Because dating has detoured so much, it’s like motives have selfishly changed nowadays. What was once a considered a rebound is, sadly, very popular now and is almost accepted as a relationship status. ‘First base’ and ‘second base’, once took time to access, is now almost expected on a first date by many, when before couples had butterflies even thinking about advancing. It’s so much more when someone can undress your mind.

Here’s a tip, gentlemen undress a womans mind and the body will follow. When advancing too quickly, you cannot touch the passion entrapped within a womans mind. Dont ask her about her imagination, become her imagination. If you feel the need to ask her something, ask her about her passions, her fears, her hopes and dreams. Ask her what she wants in life and what makes her laugh and cry. Take time to discover her favorite color and ask why. Listen to the stories that make her, her.

Those stories created the art that is her. Listen, and in front of your very own eyes, she will allow you the view the creativity through the events and happenings that has helped shape this beautiful woman. You can then see past the visible beauty, and witness her depth, pain, pleasure, vulnerability and the love in which she possesses in her beautiful soul. This my friend is a gift. A gift that you can give each other without a price tag.

Take it back to the days when snap chat and Instagram weren’t dating sites and cheating portals… When ten likes didnt change your mind about a person… When advertising to your following what you want isn’t even close to what you actually desire. Take it back to when catfishing meant there was going to be a good dinner.

All this back and forth mental-game playing, and men this… and women that… blah… blah… blah… We all need to step back and think. We have all been that broken heart, and we all have exes and problems. But remember folks, before social media was in relationships, communication between two people existed. Studies have shone, relationships worked out alot longer just a short decade ago. I’m not bashing social media. Guys and Gals remember, social media doesn’t ruin relationships, acting single or disrespectful towards your partner on social media in public/private chat rooms, does!

If you are searching for a lady, then be a gentleman. Ladies, if you want a gentleman, then simply be a lady. Chivalry is not dead, it’s just waiting to be, as they say today, digitally remastered by those who value its lost meaning.

We add all these new words to the dictionary every year that make no sense. Yet these don’t change… Love, commitment, honesty, trust, chivalry, dating, communication, integrity, humanity, respect, dedication, desire, passion, and the most evil one of all, lust. One must remember, in life, the most beautiful things are seen with the eyes closed. With eyes closed, you are led by trust. With eyes open, you’re often blinded by lust. Love doesn’t hurt, expectations do. Be open about what you want from the beginning. When it’s out on the table then it’s so much easier to understand–no guessing games, no one being led on, and no surprises.

Like the most famous misquote of Eldridge Cleaver, ‘If you’re not the solution, you are part of the problem.’ It’s simple, bring back LOVE.

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Sexual Health: The Importance of Practicing Safe Sex

Sexual Health: The Importance of Practicing Safe Sex

Sex can sometimes be a bit of a taboo subject to talk about. But I think that that needs to change. If it becomes something that we can’t talk about, then where do we go for tips or advice? The chances are that we won’t and we will just be left solve something on our own. One of those the things that is becoming more and more prevalent are sexually transmitted diseases. I think if we were all more open about sex, we would all be a little more educated about it. If we are more educated, then perhaps the spread of STDs could be reduced? It is certainly worth a try. condoms-59636_960_720

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First of all, if you are sexually active, one of the best things to do is to get tested. A lot of symptoms can be hidden and you might not even know you have something. If you don’t know, then the chances are that it could spread even more. So get yourself tested; it is really important for your general health too. A site like accuratehivstdtesting.com could be a good place to look if you are after some advice.

Then, if you have been tested and you know everything is OK, you have a few options. One sure fire way to not contract an STD is by abstaining. Though, for most, this wouldn’t be an option. But only having sex with someone you are in a committed relationship with, or reducing the number of sexual partners you have can help a lot too. If you are in a relationship and you both get tested, you will know that as long as you are both faithful, you’ll both be fine. There is certainly peace of mind that comes with that. If you aren’t in a relationship, then it is up to you how many sexual partners you have. The chances of catching something goes up, the more partners you have and the more unprotected sex that you have. So no matter who you are with, you should always use a condom.

There are a huge variety out there on the market too. So there will be something for everyone, as people might have allergies to certain materials. Look at a post like the one here verywell.com/condom-types-906789, to find out more. One of the most important things to note is that you shouldn’t leave it up to someone else. Don’t rely on the guy always having protection, or a girl always having a female condom. If you want to practice safe sex, then make sure that you are prepared yourself.

One final thing to note is that you should stand up for yourself. Don’t let anyone talk you into something that you don’t want to do. If your male partner refuses to wear a condom, then make sure you are in safe in other ways by you using a condom instead. If you want to be safe and protect yourself, then you make sure that you are doing so.

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Why Woman Get Uncomfortable. Thoughts of Liam M. (MA-Language)

By Tia Cristy

Liam McRae from ‘Ask the Naturals’ is what some may call a professional dating guru or pickup artist. But ‘The Naturals’ and Liam prefer the title, Social Freedom Coach.

Liam’s style is mature in the world of casual sex. Although I speak of monogamy in relationships, Liam tells stories of the infamous One Night Stand.

Either way, Liam and I could both agree on Sexual Health and it’s importance physically and mentally. This video is a great insight for men to see the reasons they may not think of when it comes to a woman’s indecision about being physical, although she may be attracted to you. Safety and comfort is her number one priority.

By Liam McRae


How to deal with a woman’s crazy behaviour

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10 Things You Need To Know About Premature Ejaculation.

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10 Things You Need To Know About Premature Ejaculation.

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