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Let’s Talk About Love

Let’s Talk About Love

Valentine’s Day was a day created as a Feast for St. Valentine. However, it has moved into a holiday of love and romance. Long-term and short-term relationships take part in the day, but please, remember the sexual health you must practice while celebrating love. Here’s some Valentine’s Day statistics. Stay safe!

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The Little Things Add Up Regarding Dating Confidence

The Little Things Add Up Regarding Dating Confidence

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If you’re reading this, there’s a large chance you’re interested in dating, and dating well. The search for love is not always easy. While it can happen naturally, and help you craft a story of love and beauty, sometimes things aren’t so simple. It takes effort for people to find the love they keep for the most part. If not in situational terms then in how they present themselves. After all, if you’re not giving the best of yourself, how can you expect someone to see the best of you?

 

Of course, you should be comfortable in your skin more than anything. But, if you really do value confidence when it comes to approaching those you are attracted to on sincere terms, it pays to take care of yourself. Being confident will give you more presence, help you achieve more suitable and worthwhile partners, and generally have more fun while dating! Dating can be turbulent. Sometimes you meet people you might not have wanted to looking back, and sometimes you can go for long periods without meeting anyone suitable. If you have the ability to however, you can develop a keen awareness for how you present yourself, and how your confidence translates to the dating scene.

 

This article will help you with that, as it’s not always relevant. Of course, these tips should be done for you more than anyone else you might meet in the future, as they’ll develop you into a stellar and well-presented person. Self-confidence redeems itself in how happy you feel within your own skin. Still, sometimes directing that in the pursuit of a potential love or close friend from dating can also be worth your time.

 

The little things add up regarding dating confidence. Here are just a few to take care of:

 

Smile

Who doesn’t like being smiled at? You’ll notice awfully quickly if the person you meet has an issue smiling with you. This can make you feel on edge, as the whole situation feels weird from a body language perspective. After all, verbal language is only 20% of overall communication. We are fine-tuned to understand and receive signals through body language, expressions, general movement when speaking and how open or closed their presence is to you. Smiling is an undeniable signal that you’re doing something right. This means smiling at the other person (genuinely) can also allow them to pursue certain avenues of dialogue, believe that their joke hit well, or simply feel comfortable in your presence.

Your smile makes you radiant. However, if you have a few aesthetic issues with your teeth, you might be defeating this beauty from the start. Ensuring that your teeth are well maintained and clean will contribute to this, via discerning the services of the best dentist available. It’s not negative to have a little work done if you notice glaring issues, as if your smile is less than it could be, you’ll try not to do it, and this closes off your body language. Simply brushing your teeth and flossing well, on top of paying attention to your breath (like never eating garlic before a date!) are pretty much all the steps you need to take to have a wonderful and beautiful smile worthy of envy.

 

Clothes

What you wear matters. It’s important to make good first impressions, so if you have a good idea of what to wear we’re sure that you’ll look wonderful. Never be afraid to purchase new items purposefully for a date – you deserve to feel comfortable and confident in yourself! A few words about wearing clothing however. It’s important that they fit, and if they don’t you should get them retrofitted or try and find new items. To look good, finding clothes that compliment your body figure without flaunting too much of your body (unless you’d like to of course, there’s no sense in body shaming!) will help you feel comfortable.

 

Of course, making sure all items match, that they’re well cleaned and are ironed of any creases can go a long way in making you look presentable. Even a white tee and some jeans can look good when you ensure they’re well taken care of. It also matters how you wear certain things. For example, there’s no sense wearing a beautiful dress if it’s too tight on you, or heels if they make you feel awful when trying to take step after step. Your clothes are a representation of who you are – so embed your own personal style here! A little accessory here and there never hurts when it comes to improving your confidence.

 

Personality

 

Your personality matters. Of course, it’s hard to ‘freshen up’ before a date in this regard without being somewhat false. You should always be relatively comfortable in expressing who you are. After all, if you have to pretend to be someone in order to make someone else like you, then it’s not fitting that that person will meet your genuine needs. There is always someone out there for your real personality, but only if you let it shine will you make that a possibility.

 

However, there are things you can do to give your personality the edge before heading out. Exercising that day, making sure you have had plenty of sleep and even meditating can help your cognitive abilities stand out, as you’ll be able to access thoughts and enunciate your words much better and in a non-sluggish flow. Of course, the content of what you say also matters.

 

This doesn’t mean preparing an initial list of talking points that you hope to cover in the scope of the conversation. You’re not attending a speech to sway people over to your political or religious opinion. You’re forming a connection, which means both sides of the table need to be in accordance with one another if the whole thing is going to work. This tip is not really one to do ‘before’ your date, but in general reading, staying on top of current events and being an informed person can work phenomenally in helping you come across as an intelligent and capable person. If they previously mention an obsession or interest they have, then why not read up on it a little beforehand? This isn’t insincere or deceptive at all, showing them you’ve made efforts to learn why they love that so much shows you’re willingness to try and be a gracious partner, and it subtly shows them you’re a person with much more to them than they might have originally assumed.

 

The best advice you can get regarding your confidence around your personality is to be yourself. Just relax. Try not to be false, even though of course you will be tempted to bring the best of yourself to the entire affair. This also means allowing disagreements, or potentially finding that you and the other person simply do not vibe together well. Not every date you attend will be a complete success. The funny part about this is that most dates will go much more smoothly if you allow them to go wrong, because the whole unnatural setup almost disappears in awkwardness if you do this. You’re a person, they’re a person, and both of you know the whole dating atmosphere is one of artifice and strange expectations. The sooner you can change that atmosphere to one of mutual humor and relaxation, the better you can both bring yourself to the relationship. Who knows where this could lead? You might find a friend or partner for life.

 

Wisdom

 

Dating is an exciting time to say the least. There are many possibilities that can occur, from you finding a love and a partner, to falling utterly for someone, to simply enjoying each others presence. It could mean you find someone to travel the world with and craft memories. It could mean you find the person you marry next year. With this, emotions can run high in anticipation. We also all know that feeling when we’re almost head over heels for someone immediately. This can make us act foolishly in our excitement, and come on too strong.

 

The biggest ‘little thing’ that matters regarding dating confidence is being able to put your emotions in check. Taking a step back and letting them win your affections, and earning theirs is much better than simply giving them away because you find that person attractive or interesting. People are complex, and you never know if you might blow an opportunity with them by being a little too gung-ho in your expectations. We’ve all been on dates with people who seem a little too keen to get hitched with us, and it puts us off. The chase is fun. Allow it to happen with both sides, and see what happens. This way you respect yourself and allow both parties to enjoy a very interesting story regarding the beginning of your relationship.

 

It also helps you see your own worth from moment to moment. Instead of thinking ‘how can I impress this person immediately?’ think ‘how can I contribute to this reciprocal conversation in a wholesome manner? You can proceed from there.

 

We absolutely hope that this advice gives you the best dates of your life from here on out. You surely deserve them.

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Unlucky in Love? Turn Your Luck Around With These 3 Simple Tips

Unlucky in Love? Turn Your Luck Around With These 3 Simple Tips

 

As a teenager, it seems so easy to find someone, fall in love and live happily ever after. But as you grow older, you soon realize that it is not as easy as you think. Falling in love is easy but finding a serious relationship is very difficult. It is so difficult that a lot of people believe that it is easier to win in a casino rather than finding true love.

 

 

People believe that “luck” plays a role in finding the right relationship. You will often hear people say “Wow! You’re so lucky to find true love.”. There are people who are perceived as “lucky” and “unlucky” in love.

 

Are There People Who Are Unlucky In Love?

 

Actually, luck has nothing to do with love. It is what we do that makes us become unlucky in love. There are ways for us to find the right love.

 

How to Turn Your Luck Around?

 

Since luck has no significant role in finding a long-term relationship, you can turn your “unlucky” love life upside down.  Here are three simple tips on how to be “lucky” in love.

 

Right Place

 

In finding the right love, you have to look in the right place. You have to consider the type of people that go to a certain place. If you go to a bar, you will likely meet people who love to party and drink. If you like this kind of people, then you are in luck. However, if you don’t like that kind of people, then don’t go to the bar.

 

To find the person you want, you should go to a place of common interest. If you like reading, then go to the library or bookstore. You will likely meet someone there that loves reading too. If you want to meet someone who enjoy fitness and exercise, then go to gym. If you want interracial dating for black and white singles, then go online dating.

 

The first step in finding the right person is meeting them at the right places. Therefore go to the place where most people, with the same interest as you or possess the qualities you want, go. However, there are times that the right person is in the wrong place or vice versa. So be sure to know if that person is what you really want.

 

 

Right Person

 

There are a lot of people out there that are not good for you. Meeting these types of people all the time will make you think that you are bad at love. To find the right person is making sure that you know what you really want.

 

What do you like in a man or woman? Make a list if you have to. Then, find out if that person you meet has those qualities. But take note, make sure these qualities are what you really want and what will make you happy.

 

For example, there are women who like guys that give off bad boy vibes. However, most of this type of guys will not treat their woman right. Then, women will realize that all they want is a decent guy who will treat them right. So before making that similar mistake, be clear in what you really want.

 

Right Action

 

Actually, finding the right person at the right place is a bit easy. The real difficulty begins after you meet him or her. The next goal is how to keep this person in a relationship with you. You have to take the right actions.

 

In taking the right action, you must know how the person responds to you. If you feel that he or she trust you, you can take your relationship up a notch. However, if you sense that he or she is reserved around you, then take things slow. Putting the right actions in your relationship can make your partner stay long… or even forever.

 

So in short, finding the right one is not luck. This is because anyone can find true love without luck. All you have to do is go to the right place, be sure of what type of person is the right one for you, and know what actions are you going to do to make him or her want to be with you.

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The Essential Guide To Safe And Healthy Dating

The Essential Guide To Safe And Healthy Dating

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The excitement of the first date should be fun, but all too often we hear horror stories about dates going wrong. We can’t let this put us off dating, though. Most dates are safe and fun if a little bit awkward. If you’re planning a date soon, make sure you follow these top tips to ensure you have a safe and healthy experience and all the fun you want.

Talk on the phone first

If you’re meeting someone from an online dating site, make sure you speak to them on the phone before you meet them in real life. You’ll get a much better impression of their personality that way, and you’re more likely to hear if there’s something a bit weird about them.

Do your homework

At the very least you want to know his full name, his job and have a general idea about where he lives. And while you never have to admit it to him, it’s always worth doing a quick Google search of his name too. A quick look at his LinkedIn will tell you that he is being honest, and a Facebook stalk might reveal some mutual friends, who’ll hopefully be able to vouch for him.

Meet in public places

Just in case there is anything sinister about your date, it’s best to meet him in a public place the first couple of times while you get to know him. If he is worth it, he’ll understand that your safety has to come first. Try coffee shops, bars, restaurants, bowling, or even the park if the weather is good. Just make sure there are other people around, and you can leave easily if you want to. It’s a good idea to meet in the morning or at lunch time because you afternoon plans give a more organic and less awkward means of getting away if you’re just not feeling it.

Tell people where you are

Employ a buddy system, so your friend always knows where you are. Make sure you inform them if you move venue during your date, and give them an approximate time that you’ll be getting home. This just means that if anything untoward happens, someone’s always got your back. They could even come out on your first date with you – double dates tend to be less awkward, and it gives your buddy the chance to get to know your date too.

Take the essentials

You’ll want to have spare cash for a taxi, your bank card in case you get lumbered with the bill, and your mobile phone at the very least. It doesn’t hurt to carry mace too, just in case of an emergency. Making sure you’ve got everything you need means you can get away easily if your date starts to go south.

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Don’t drink too much

It can be tempting to knock the drinks back to loosen your inhibitions and get over the awkwardness on the first date, but it can also inhibit your ability to read a situation. For the first couple of dates, try to avoid drinking much, or even stick to non-drinking activities. You’ll find that you get to know your date more thoroughly when you’re coherent the whole time too.

Don’t leave food or drink unattended

Some people are just plain horrible. While it’s unlikely you’ll meet anyone with an ulterior motive, it’s always best to be as safe (and suspicious) as you can. Leaving a drink or a meal unsupervised could allow someone to slip drugs into them, which could compromise your safety. Finish your food and drink before heading to the restroom during a meal or in a bar – the risk just isn’t worth it.

Don’t give too much away

Early on in your dates, try not to give too much information away about yourself. For example, let them know the area of town in which you live, but not your street address. They can know your profession, but not your place of employment. It just means that if they turn out to be weird and you cut them off, they have no way to contact you or find you.

If you’re worried, leave

Don’t second guess yourself as a judge of character – if someone seems a bit weird to you, or you’re just not enjoying the evening, you are entirely within your rights to leave. Trust your instincts – if they get over-familiar or inappropriate too quickly, or anything that they say leaves you feeling a bit uncomfortable, remember that you know best. And don’t compromise your safety or happiness for the sake of saving some random guy’s feelings. If you’re worried about just walking out, ask the staff to call you a taxi or call a friend to come and meet you.

Give feedback

If you’re dating online and it does go wrong, heaven forbid, make sure you report his profile to the dating site and give them an outline of your concerns. It means that other women will not have to face the same problems as you, so it’s all about looking out for each other.

Practice safe sex

This should go without saying, but it is all to easy to get carried away in the heat of the moment. When you’re at that stage with your date, make sure you’re carrying condoms, as well as him. Don’t let him try to talk you out of safe sex – the risks just aren’t worth it.

Get regular check-ups

Even if you’re super careful, if you’re dating it’s important that you have regular sexual health check-ups, just to be on the safe side. Free std testing is available all over the country, so there’s no excuse not to.

Enjoy yourself

Don’t get too caught up in the end-game, just enjoy the process of dating, getting to know people, and having fun. If you’re too focused on where you’d like to end up, you could miss vital red flags, or just lose out on the enjoyment of it all.

Dating is really fun and doesn’t have to be scary. Just remember to keep your wits about you, your friends on hand, and to take it slowly, and you’ll have a safe and fun time.

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You Are The One And Only: How To Know You’ve Met The One

You Are The One And Only: How To Know You’ve Met The One

Relationships are a complex thing, don’t you think? First, there is the whole saga of actually meeting someone and then comes the dating game which can be extremely confusing. But once you go over those initial hurdles you can find yourself in full-on love with somebody and it can be all consuming. Those first few weeks and months of a relationship can be some of the best you’ll ever experience. Getting to know one another, spending every possible moment in each other’s company, but then you start to wonder whether this is it? Is this the one?

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I think if truth be told you just know when you have found your soulmate. But of course, in any scenario, you can always question yourself whether this is the real deal. After all, you want to ensure that you are going to marry the right person and put all your eggs in the one basket. I don’t think anyone sets out for a marriage to fail or end in divorce, do you? So I thought I’d share some telltale signs that you have found the one. Maybe 2017 looks promising for you on the relationship front.

You’re not hoping the relationship will change

Sometimes any relationship you find yourself in can be a good one. But there is always that lingering thought in the back of your mind that if that one thing could change it would be perfect, am I right? It could be an annoying ex, a stressful job, their cat allergies even. It could literally be anything that just bothers you. The thing is if you start wishing that if that one thing could change then this relationship is it, then you are definitely in the wrong relationship. They just don’t work like that. Meeting the one means that everything falls into place, annoying cat allergies, exes and all. They don’t bother you.

You’re good enough

We spend a lot of our time thinking we aren’t good enough in every aspect of our lives. It could be our careers, our home life, and in general. But your relationship is something you should feel yourself in and content that who you are is good enough. If you have that feeling, that then you are on the right track.

You can work things out

Conflict in relationships is going to happen. From bickering to full blown arguments it’s impossible to have a smooth sailing relationship every single day. But the difference to having arguments with that true partner is that you resolve them well. If you can admit your mistakes or forgive, then this relationship is promising. Conflict and compromise go hand in hand.

You have respect for one another

I think respect in relationships is of the utmost importance. Respecting life choices, careers, decisions, everything, should come easy in a lasting relationship because you respect the person and have trust in them and their judgment. Respect should also be reciprocated, so you should feel supported in your life choices and not be made to think anything otherwise.

I hope this has highlighted some of the signs that you are in a lasting relationship.

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Dating Tips: When To Turn A First Date Into A Second

Dating Tips: When To Turn A First Date Into A Second

When you’re dating, it can be hard to know when things are going well. There’s not always a lightning bolt, and for many, love at first sight is a concept found only in the movies. So how do you know if it’s worth progressing to a second date? Here are some positive signs to look out for.

Instant attraction

Most of us claim that personality is more important than looks. But that doesn’t mean that you want to be with somebody you don’t find physically attractive. For most of us, there has to be a level of attraction. This is what separates a partner from a friend. If there’s no attraction there, your date is likely to end up in friendship rather than a relationship. For some people, that instant feeling isn’t there. It grows with time. If you really like somebody, but you’re not quite sure if it will develop into anything more than a friendship, give it another go. It’s always worth organizing a second date if the first one showed signs of potential.

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Chemistry

Chemistry is a bit of an unknown quantity. It’s hard to put into words the reactions that happen when you meet somebody that you click with. It’s a mixture of physical and psychological responses that are triggered when you meet certain people. Chemistry is not about having a type. You may be surprised at who you develop this connection with. Perhaps it’s something to do with the laws of attraction or it’s a mysterious entity none of us will ever quite understand.

Common ground

Have you ever been on a date where you disagree with everything the other person says, or you come from completely different worlds? Sometimes, opposites attract. But often, stable relationships are built on having things in common and seeing the world in similar ways. If you have common ground, this facilitates conversation. You find that you bounce off each other, and there’s less room for awkward silences.

Intrigue

When you’re on a date, and you’re chatting away, you’ll find that some people fascinate you while others leave you feeling flat. It’s not necessarily that they’re a boring person. They may be incredibly interesting to others. But you often find some people a lot more intriguing than others. If this happens, you’re more likely to want to see them again, and learn more about them.

Laughter

For many of us, being funny is one of the most attractive traits in a potential partner. Laughing makes you feel good. It breaks the ice on a first date, and it can instantly boost your mood. If you spend hours laughing together, and you’ve also got a connection on a physical and intellectual level, the signs are good.

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Do you find it impossible to read what other people are thinking or feeling? In today’s world, when dating is very common, it can be tough to decipher what’s going on and work out if there is a potential for a blossoming romance. Hopefully, these tips will enable you to spot the signs of success, and ultimately, find true love.

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