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The Essential Guide To Safe And Healthy Dating

The Essential Guide To Safe And Healthy Dating

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The excitement of the first date should be fun, but all too often we hear horror stories about dates going wrong. We can’t let this put us off dating, though. Most dates are safe and fun if a little bit awkward. If you’re planning a date soon, make sure you follow these top tips to ensure you have a safe and healthy experience and all the fun you want.

Talk on the phone first

If you’re meeting someone from an online dating site, make sure you speak to them on the phone before you meet them in real life. You’ll get a much better impression of their personality that way, and you’re more likely to hear if there’s something a bit weird about them.

Do your homework

At the very least you want to know his full name, his job and have a general idea about where he lives. And while you never have to admit it to him, it’s always worth doing a quick Google search of his name too. A quick look at his LinkedIn will tell you that he is being honest, and a Facebook stalk might reveal some mutual friends, who’ll hopefully be able to vouch for him.

Meet in public places

Just in case there is anything sinister about your date, it’s best to meet him in a public place the first couple of times while you get to know him. If he is worth it, he’ll understand that your safety has to come first. Try coffee shops, bars, restaurants, bowling, or even the park if the weather is good. Just make sure there are other people around, and you can leave easily if you want to. It’s a good idea to meet in the morning or at lunch time because you afternoon plans give a more organic and less awkward means of getting away if you’re just not feeling it.

Tell people where you are

Employ a buddy system, so your friend always knows where you are. Make sure you inform them if you move venue during your date, and give them an approximate time that you’ll be getting home. This just means that if anything untoward happens, someone’s always got your back. They could even come out on your first date with you – double dates tend to be less awkward, and it gives your buddy the chance to get to know your date too.

Take the essentials

You’ll want to have spare cash for a taxi, your bank card in case you get lumbered with the bill, and your mobile phone at the very least. It doesn’t hurt to carry mace too, just in case of an emergency. Making sure you’ve got everything you need means you can get away easily if your date starts to go south.

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Don’t drink too much

It can be tempting to knock the drinks back to loosen your inhibitions and get over the awkwardness on the first date, but it can also inhibit your ability to read a situation. For the first couple of dates, try to avoid drinking much, or even stick to non-drinking activities. You’ll find that you get to know your date more thoroughly when you’re coherent the whole time too.

Don’t leave food or drink unattended

Some people are just plain horrible. While it’s unlikely you’ll meet anyone with an ulterior motive, it’s always best to be as safe (and suspicious) as you can. Leaving a drink or a meal unsupervised could allow someone to slip drugs into them, which could compromise your safety. Finish your food and drink before heading to the restroom during a meal or in a bar – the risk just isn’t worth it.

Don’t give too much away

Early on in your dates, try not to give too much information away about yourself. For example, let them know the area of town in which you live, but not your street address. They can know your profession, but not your place of employment. It just means that if they turn out to be weird and you cut them off, they have no way to contact you or find you.

If you’re worried, leave

Don’t second guess yourself as a judge of character – if someone seems a bit weird to you, or you’re just not enjoying the evening, you are entirely within your rights to leave. Trust your instincts – if they get over-familiar or inappropriate too quickly, or anything that they say leaves you feeling a bit uncomfortable, remember that you know best. And don’t compromise your safety or happiness for the sake of saving some random guy’s feelings. If you’re worried about just walking out, ask the staff to call you a taxi or call a friend to come and meet you.

Give feedback

If you’re dating online and it does go wrong, heaven forbid, make sure you report his profile to the dating site and give them an outline of your concerns. It means that other women will not have to face the same problems as you, so it’s all about looking out for each other.

Practice safe sex

This should go without saying, but it is all to easy to get carried away in the heat of the moment. When you’re at that stage with your date, make sure you’re carrying condoms, as well as him. Don’t let him try to talk you out of safe sex – the risks just aren’t worth it.

Get regular check-ups

Even if you’re super careful, if you’re dating it’s important that you have regular sexual health check-ups, just to be on the safe side. Free std testing is available all over the country, so there’s no excuse not to.

Enjoy yourself

Don’t get too caught up in the end-game, just enjoy the process of dating, getting to know people, and having fun. If you’re too focused on where you’d like to end up, you could miss vital red flags, or just lose out on the enjoyment of it all.

Dating is really fun and doesn’t have to be scary. Just remember to keep your wits about you, your friends on hand, and to take it slowly, and you’ll have a safe and fun time.

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You Are The One And Only: How To Know You’ve Met The One

You Are The One And Only: How To Know You’ve Met The One

Relationships are a complex thing, don’t you think? First, there is the whole saga of actually meeting someone and then comes the dating game which can be extremely confusing. But once you go over those initial hurdles you can find yourself in full-on love with somebody and it can be all consuming. Those first few weeks and months of a relationship can be some of the best you’ll ever experience. Getting to know one another, spending every possible moment in each other’s company, but then you start to wonder whether this is it? Is this the one?

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I think if truth be told you just know when you have found your soulmate. But of course, in any scenario, you can always question yourself whether this is the real deal. After all, you want to ensure that you are going to marry the right person and put all your eggs in the one basket. I don’t think anyone sets out for a marriage to fail or end in divorce, do you? So I thought I’d share some telltale signs that you have found the one. Maybe 2017 looks promising for you on the relationship front.

You’re not hoping the relationship will change

Sometimes any relationship you find yourself in can be a good one. But there is always that lingering thought in the back of your mind that if that one thing could change it would be perfect, am I right? It could be an annoying ex, a stressful job, their cat allergies even. It could literally be anything that just bothers you. The thing is if you start wishing that if that one thing could change then this relationship is it, then you are definitely in the wrong relationship. They just don’t work like that. Meeting the one means that everything falls into place, annoying cat allergies, exes and all. They don’t bother you.

You’re good enough

We spend a lot of our time thinking we aren’t good enough in every aspect of our lives. It could be our careers, our home life, and in general. But your relationship is something you should feel yourself in and content that who you are is good enough. If you have that feeling, that then you are on the right track.

You can work things out

Conflict in relationships is going to happen. From bickering to full blown arguments it’s impossible to have a smooth sailing relationship every single day. But the difference to having arguments with that true partner is that you resolve them well. If you can admit your mistakes or forgive, then this relationship is promising. Conflict and compromise go hand in hand.

You have respect for one another

I think respect in relationships is of the utmost importance. Respecting life choices, careers, decisions, everything, should come easy in a lasting relationship because you respect the person and have trust in them and their judgment. Respect should also be reciprocated, so you should feel supported in your life choices and not be made to think anything otherwise.

I hope this has highlighted some of the signs that you are in a lasting relationship.

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Warning Signs Your Relationship Could Be In Trouble And How To Combat Them

Warning Signs Your Relationship Could Be In Trouble And How To Combat Them

Entering into a relationship can be one of the best feelings. Finding that one person you just connect with can be life changing. Of course, often these relationships turn into marriage and maybe a family. You expect to live happily ever after. But for some, that happily ever after feels like it’s over far too soon. This is because there are some cracks in the relationship that has started to surface.

Of course, sometimes this can happen. It might not be repairable when someone has betrayed or hurt the other’s feelings. Sometimes accepting that you need to call in the Divorce Services might be the right steps to take for you both to have your own happy ever after. However, not all relationships need to go down that route. With that in mind, here are some of the warning signs your relationship could be in trouble and what you can do to combat them. 14080770557_61219b30fd_b

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Lack of communication

Communication is vitally important for a relationship to work. You are on the same team, and with that means, you are accepting of the other person. You take on their highs, but you also need to be supportive of their lows. Just like you would expect the same. Communicating is the one way you can be supportive. For the good and the bad. So talk about your days, talk about what is good and even talk about what is bad. You’ll feel better just knowing you have your support network ready to cheer or wipe away a tear.

No sparkle

Relationships after a while fizzle out. This is when it can take a little hard work to ensure you don’t lose that sparkle. Starting a family can dull that shine, as you both embark on a new journey. Just as work stress and other problems can have a knock on effect. This is when considering date nights and time alone together is important for keeping that spark alive.

Arguments not being resolved

Have you ever heard the advice not to go to bed on an argument? But yet for many of us, we don’t take that advice and often arguments can last days or weeks. If you are finding is harder to resolve these issues then you need to learn to talk it through. Or at least agree to disagree before the night is out.

Letting the past dictate your future

We have all made mistakes in the past or been hurt. But when you let that hinder your current relationship then you could be in big trouble. It’s easier said than tdonw, but try and remember to live in the present moment. This person with you now is not the one who hurt you in the past. You are much more guarded, but that doesn’t mean you will be hurt again.

Feeling more like friends than a couple

Finally, we can all get to a stage of a relationship where it feels comfortable. Almost like you are just friends than intimate. But again this is when hard work is needed to get your relationship on track. Harmless flirting and communicating can often be all it takes to relight that fire.

Don’t forget to be a team.

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