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Dating Hacks For The Notoriously Unlucky In Love

Dating Hacks For The Notoriously Unlucky In Love

They say that love is a many-splendoured thing… if you can get it, that is! The world of modern dating can be such a minefield at times, it can sometimes feel as though the search for love is never-ending. Sure, you do have to kiss a few frogs before you find your prince – but after you’ve kissed quite a few, it can leave you wondering just when exactly said Prince is going to turn up! Of course, for all its sins, modern dating also has some benefits. Women these days are settling down much later, and the current culture surrounding sex and relationships enables you to date a number of people before deciding if you actually want to move forward with any of them. This allows for a much greater sense of freedom, and also, it means that far fewer of us are simply settling for the first guy who comes along! But when all your friends are getting married or having babies, it can make you incredibly aware of how fast the clock is ticking. Single life can be fun, but if you’re notoriously unlucky in love, knowing how to tackle the dating game can be quite the challenge. Here are a few tips so you can change your fortune, and bag yourself your Mr. Right in no time at all.

1) Stop looking

Yep, you heard correctly! It may seem mad to stop looking for love when that’s what your long-term goal is. But sometimes, people can get so wrapped up in what they are looking for that they stop giving regular guys a chance. If you have a list that you refer to every time you’re out with your friends, it’s highly unlikely that you’re ever going to come across a guy who ticks all your boxes – and even if you do, you may not even ‘click.’ Remove your focus from formal dating and just go with the flow – you could be surprised at who you meet.

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2) Work out what compliments you in a partner

You may swoon at the thought of a man who is dominant and who takes control of any situation – but consider whether that kind of scenario would work for you in real life. If you are naturally a bit of a control freak, having someone on the same wavelength could spell disaster, and you could clash. A good way to work out what you need in a partner is to read a capricorn love horoscope, or whatever your star sign may be. These can often tell you a lot about yourself and the nature of other partners, so you can tell whether you’d be compatible or not.

3) Persist

So often, people turn down their dates on the basis that they didn’t feel a spark right from the offset. But if you’re the type who never sees the same guy twice, consider putting in the work and going on a few dates, even if you weren’t immediately drawn to them. Sometimes an initial spark does happen, but in some circumstances, the relationship might be a slow burn. Of course, don’t drag out anything that isn’t meant to be. But if you seem compatible and you get on, see the guy again and keep an open mind.

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Friends with Benefits Turned Love or Gone Wrong

By Guest Blogger Stefan S.

Friends with Benefits Turned Love or Gone Wrong

Past a certain point in life, having friends with benefits amounts to having a companion to share the lonely days with more than anything else. However, we shouldn’t rule out the fact that when it comes to over 50 dating, for instance, passion can strike when you least expect it like a summer thunderstorm. In other age groups, many singletons out there are excited to meet new people, engage in new activities, and date outside of their social circles. On the other hand, there are those who like to play it safe with the people they’re already comfortable with, and take things to the next level with a close friend or an acquaintance. Today, we take a look at all sorts of friends with benefits, and whether such relationships have a chance to succeed.

The Familiarity Is Attractive

Lots of people out there like to meet someone new and start over with a clean slate. However, there are also those who prefer to stay on the familiar ground and romance friends they already know well. For many singles who take their friendships to the next level, this familiarity is key because they probably dread the idea of washing a stranger’s pair of shorts or being spooned by someone they’ve known for less than a year. Not surprisingly, their solution to this problem is to go for someone from their existing circle of friends.

It’s Convenient

For many individuals, dating can be challenging on so many levels, from having trouble joining new social groups due to anxiety to living in remote regions where there aren’t that many new people to meet. However, if they opt to ask a friend out, they already know they have a bunch of things in common, and they don’t have to introduce them to anyone, which is super convenient to people who appreciate practicality. There won’t be any awkward introductions to judgmental friends or family who just happen to like the old guy/girl better, and refuse to give another living soul a chance.

When Things Go Wrong

Asking a friend out can be a great idea in terms of trying to cure loneliness within one’s comfort zone. However, more often than not, the friends with benefits kinds of relationships end badly for everyone, from the people who actually dated to the entire group of friends who now have to pick sides in this futile dispute. Having a falling out with a friend is always stressful regardless of the reason, but losing friends past a certain point in life due to ‘romantic misunderstandings’ is seldom ever worth it.

The Verdict

In this debate there is no clear winner, and we can’t know what the future has in store for us unless we give a relationship a try. Being aware of the risks, such as losing a friend, and maybe a few others who side with them after the breakup, is crucial when deciding which course of action to take, but at the end of the day the heart wants what it wants.

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Damage Limitation Legal Advice For Men Going Through Separation

Damage Limitation Legal Advice For Men Going Through Separation

Some relationships don’t work out, but that’s just human nature because our lives are complicated and personalities change over time. Men are starting to realise that they don’t need to accept some kind of social pressure that has previously made them feel as if they’re the guilty party, by default. Upon their partner’s separation request being legally filed, men have taken more of an active role, to know what their rights are and what the best practical tips are for coping with this challenging circumstance. In the courts, you need to commit to an actual dialogue with your soon to be ex-partner and with her lawyer, to get a rounded understanding of the specific demands put forth. No matter how many separation cases a court has gone through, every single case is treated individually, so there’s no end-all-be-all advice on how to handle a particular situation. However there are some basic steps, men can take to better prepare themselves for putting their case to the legal authorities.  

 

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Should you move out?

Some men find that keeping the peace is better than arguing when the divorce papers have already set the wheels in motion. They want to keep things civil and try to be respectful to their partner for the sake of the good times they previously had, or the fact that they don’t want to alarm the children. If your partner is reasonable and cooperative, that’s a bonus, but sometimes emotions get the better of both parties are hostilities boil over. The stereotypical thing to do is to move out, but men are no more guilty than women, so think twice before booking a room in a cheap motel to pass the time. There are financial advantages and disadvantages if you’re the higher income earner, by staying in the house, that you should discuss with a lawyer.

Get the proper legal team

Don’t settle for a legal team that’s cheap because they’re likely to be inexperienced. Family law help is crucial for men in this day and age because it’s more likely that your former partner will get custody of children; statistically speaking. A good attorney will inform you of the legal obligations most men are given such as child support, spousal support such as alimony, parenting plans and protective orders. They will help you gain a better perspective of the culture in which the law is interpreted so that you can protect your financial and mental health in the best possible way.

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Consider settling

Separating can get ugly, and the fact that going to court can be green-lit, the tone can amplify in seriousness and stakes become higher. Some cases might go on for years, but your ex-partner and her lawyer can sometimes be willing to avoid a long lengthy battle and hold an agreement outside of the courts. If you can, settle outside of court as this will drastically cut legal fees, and you may get a better deal from her lawyer than you might from a judge. Workout a legally binding stature and think of a long-term agreement that you’re comfortable with, then start negotiating. Think of the things that matter most, such as the children, property and savings accounts.

 

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Escaping The “ZONE”, ?THE FRIEND ZONE?

By Guest Blogger, Cy Bryon

Escaping The “ZONEâ€

?THE FRIEND ZONE?

 

So you have this friend, you’re both attracted to one another, you decide to start messing with each other, but what use to be so simple, now all of a sudden, begins to become confusing and awkward. Then you realize, “oh shit†I stepped in feelings!

Life suddenly begins to change.

You two find yourself out and about, with what was once a friendly introduction of one another, now requires thought and a possible label. And now in the day of social media, they have still yet to invent this emoji to describe your current relationship status! (So I’ll go with 😡 lol.)

You have no easy answer without explaining the entire situation. “Yeah, I’m single but I’m dating X. I mean we’re not in a relationship yet but…..†or “I guess I am seeing someone right now but we’re not exclusive so….

It happens more and more frequently everywhere you go. It never fails, someone seems to always ask, or assumes that the other party is your “girlfriend†or “boyfriend†and its directed at one of you. The terrible awkward silence that will inevitably follow for a few seconds after is seriously like a personal version of the ball drop on Y2K. (If you’re old enough to understand that metaphor haha…)

Once again, something once so simple, now is like your very breath depends upon the answer that is to come. For example, you’re out with other friends, and in passing, you see each other. You internally freak out, not sure what level of acknowledgement should suffice in this scenario. Do you just say hello without any physical contact? Do you hug? Do you share an appropriate intimate gesture? Hell, you don’t even know what is considered appropriate anymore because you now are so cautious, like a child with their favorite toy. You don’t want to risk breaking it because you’ve had it so long and you know if anything happened to it nothing from that point in life would ever be the same again.

Oh, and not to add to all the confusion and awkwardness that exists already, we’ve forgot the most fun part. Yep, that moment you run into an ex, yeah, that one you had to explain to numerous times that there was never anything between you and your best ‘friend’, who ironically is, yep, your new romantic interest. Enjoy trying to explain the ‘it just sorta happened’ story. This is where hope for oblivion becomes your new best friend .

Anyway, as time begins to pass and you’ve become accustom to your newfound awkwardness, you’ll begin to see that you unintentionally begin to subconsciously include them more and more in your future. And when making plans, you begin to plan for two. On the flipside, you become hesitant about bringing them to an event or situation that involves a plus one. I mean you want to bring them, but you don’t want to face the barrage of questions you get before you decide you are official. You know the whole official “What are we†conversation. (AHHHHHHHH not a Label…)

You may notice yourself getting (secretly) jealous when other people are hitting on the person you’re with. You’re not at that point where you are in a secure relationship yet, so it worries you a little bit, although you don’t want to worry. In fact, you may begin to worry about why your worrying! You might begin to question everything and making sense of nothing.

Uggggh, why is it so difficult to do something that seems like it should be so simple?

You find yourself hanging out with a bunch of friends who are in relationships, and all of a sudden, you realize that you’re both the only ones who are technically not in a full-blown out relationship.

You are not alone.

I’ve heard so many times in life that those in the best relationships are often best friends. However, I have noticed that a majority of those relationships started as complete strangers and over time they grew into best friends. It is a difficult road to take when you’re already good friends and want to venture into a relationship. So many things become involved that normally wouldn’t be questioned when entering this form of relationship. You often know so much more about the person and there are the risk of losing the friendship forever if things go south between the two of you.

It can be one of the most difficult decisions you may ever make. Then again, it could be one of the most beautiful relationships you could ever have.

How do you get to the next level?

My advice is after you step back and weigh the risk, be open to conversation about it. One of the worst feelings in the world is living with regret of your true feelings never being revealed. Like Garth Brooks says, and I quote, “ Tell that someone that you love, just what you’re thinking of, if tomorrow never comes.â€

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Dealing with Big Family Changes

Dealing with Big Family Changes

There is no doubt that all families go through their ups and downs. Certain situations are very difficult to deal with and can put a great deal of strain on relationships. However, it is important that you take a step back and think carefully about the best ways you can deal with the issues head-on. Here, we will take a closer look at four of the most common complicated family situations and the ways in which you can deal with them.

 

Relationship Breakdown

 

 

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It happens to many people in life that a relationship they thought would last forever breaks down. If there are children involved, this becomes even more complicated and you may need the support of a legal team like https://compellingcounsel.com/. Ultimately, you need to try to separate the practical issues from the emotional ones. If you do have kids, they shouldn’t hear you bad mouthing your former partner and you should make it very clear that nothing that has happened is their fault. Relying on your support network of friends and family is very important during this difficult time.

 

Financial Problems

 

 

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First of all, it always helps to have a backup plan if you suddenly find yourself in a difficult financial situation. For example, if you lose your main job, the internet has opened up a range of revenue streams that can pull you through difficult times. Writing out a household budget with a list of what is essential and what is extra can help you to prioritize your finances. Ultimately, being honest with all members of your family and getting them to support your new lifestyle is hugely important.

 

Moving to a New Home

 

Moving house is often ranked as one of the most stressful situations a person can go through in their life. If you have any contacts in your new neighbourhood, you should get in touch with them as soon as possible as they can help you settle into the area by introducing you to others and telling you some of the most popular places to go. If you have kids that you are bringing along with you, you should try to reassure them that they will settle into the new neighbourhood soon and be able to make the friends they are looking for. Moving to a new place should be seen as an opportunity rather than something is going to have a negative impact on all your lives.

 

New Baby

 

There is no doubt that having a new baby is a monumental change to any family. If you have older children, they may see the new arrival as a threat to their position in the household so you should take steps to reassure them that they are not being replaced. If this is your first baby, you should be as prepared as possible by making practical changes to your household and readying your support network to help you out through this joyous but also very challenging time.

 

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