Dating Tips For Shy People

Dating Tips For Shy People

Have you always been a shy person? Have people always pointed this out about you? A lot of people find shyness to be an endearing quality, but when it comes to dating, it can be a serious obstacle. For shy people, talking to someone new can be a real challenge. If you’re shy and trying to date, it can feel impossible to do. However, shyness doesn’t always have to make dating really uncomfortable. Try not to think about shyness as just the way you are, but as something that you can work on to lessen over time. 

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It can be very helpful to keep an eye on the harmful aspects of shyness that can make dating even more of a challenge, such as avoiding meeting new people and avoiding people who might be interested in you. 

There is a link between shyness and avoidance when it comes to dating, which could cause you a problem. If you’re someone who is naturally shy, dating can feel very scary for a number of different reasons. Dating is a one-on-one activity that can leave you feeling under pressure to carry on a conversation. It often involves talking about personal topics, which can be intimidating for very shy people. You might also feel worried that your date is forming a bad opinion of you and doesn’t like you, or you might be afraid that you’re bad at making conversation and a bad, boring date. All of these reasons can make dating a scary idea for someone who is shy. 

In the short term, choosing to avoid dating altogether might feel like a big relief, but in the long term, continuing to avoid dating can lead to you having an unhappy love life, leaving you feeling lonely and with low self-esteem. It’s important to find ways to challenge yourself, whether you try online dating or singles events to meet new people and stop avoiding the chance of going on a date. 

Dating Tips for Shy People

Dating when you’re shy can be a challenge, but these tips can make it feel easier and less frightening. 

  • Write out the pros and cons of asking someone out on a date. Which of your lists wins? Do items on one list carry more weight than the other? 
  • Practice being more confident when asking someone out by standing up tall, smiling, and speaking clearly. These are all nonverbal signs that make you seem confident. You might find that practicing these steps can actually make you feel more confident. 
  • Handle rejection with care. If you get turned down for a date, think carefully about why this might be. You might assume they said no because there is something wrong with you, but try not to jump to this conclusion, and don’t let rejection keep you from trying again. 
  • Choose a date activity ahead of time. For someone who is shy, making conversation over dinner might be the hardest thing to do on a date, especially if the dishes are taking a long time to be served. Instead, try to plan an activity that is more engrossing for a date. This could be something like wine tasting, horse riding, or attending a cooking class together. These activities, and others like it, will let you focus your attention on the activity you’re doing while still giving you some time for conversation. If you’re stuck for something to say, you can talk about what you’re doing.

Tips for When You’re On a Date

  • Put your focus on the other person. Shyness and discomfort can increase when you’re focusing on yourselves, your own thoughts, insecurities and appearance. Shifting your focus to your date and the conversation you’re having can help you to feel more present and engaged. 
  • Don’t be a mind reader. Do you really know what the other person is thinking about you or are you just guessing and assuming the worst? Mindreading is often inaccurate and upsetting. 
  • Practice an easy manner with a sense of humour. Dating while feeling shy can feel demanding and scary. Try to break the tension by smiling, walking in a leisurely way, sitting in a comfortable way, and making a few jokes. Just be careful not to overdo the jokes. 

These tips can help you get a date and enjoy it. However, keep in mind that there is a difference between ordinary shyness and social anxiety. If you’re struggling with the latter, professional help may be a better option than pushing yourself to date. 

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Small Tactics That Can Save You A Lot Of Energy.

Small Tactics That Can Save You A Lot Of Energy.

There is no reason not to want to save energy around the home when you think about it. After all, less energy usage means less of a strain on the environment and your wallet! The good news is that you don’t have to move to a custom-built, sustainable home to lower your energy usage. There are many small actions you can take that will all add up to a massive energy saving. Read on to find out what they are. 

Get smart with your TV

Not many people realize that most TVs’ brightness settings come up to the max when you first get them from the supplier. Of course, this means you can waste a great deal of energy without even realizing it. 

To that end, be sure that you access your TV’s menu and turn the brightness setting to a more appropriate level. Additionally, if your TV has a clever piece of tech known as an ambient light sensor – turn it on! This is because it can adjust the brightness of the screen according to how light or dark the room is, so you will always achieve the perfect level, and save energy at the same time! 

Replace less energy-efficient windows 

The next way you can save energy around the home is by switching out old, energy-inefficient windows for ones that are designed to reduce your energy consumption. 

The good news is that there are plenty of windows, including the ones on offer from renewal by Anderson on the market designed to do this. This is because they use SmartSun™ Low-E4® glass which helps keep the temperature stable inside your home, something that means you need to use less energy in heating or cooling it. 

Ditch your printer 

Home printers are notoriously unreliable, so many of us would jump at the chance to get rid! Of course, they use loads of energy and create plenty of paper waste as well, which is also bad for the environment. 

With that in mind, opt for the digital QR versions of aeroplane tickets, and information booklets, and you can save plenty of energy. 

Stop opening the oven door to check on your food 

While it is tempting to crack the oven door to take a peek at how your cake is baking, doing so wastes a great deal of energy. This is because as heat escapes the inner temperature of the oven drops, and additional power is required to raise it again. 

That is why it’s best to opt for an oven with a glass door that allows you to check the progress of your meal, without needing to open it. You can even get some suggestions on how to keep your oven door shiny and clean so you can clearly see what is going in inside, in the video below. 

Final thoughts 

Whether you choose to follow one, or all of the suggestions above, you can feel safe in the knowledge that you will be making your home more energy-efficient, and saving money on bills at the same time! 

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Reducing Low T Symptoms Naturally

Reducing Low T Symptoms Naturally

Reduction in hormones is a commonality of aging. However, since this pandemic, there have been strange occurrences of all kinds of ailments and reduced chemicals in the body.

What is Low T?

Low T is lower levels of testosterone. It mostly affects men, but women also have smaller amounts of testosterone. When levels drop, all kinds of side effects can happen.

What are Symptoms of Low T?

  • Sexual dysfunction
  • Low sex-drive
  • Sleep disturbances
  • Weight gain
  • Balding
  • Infertility

How to Know If You Have Low T?

To know if you have low testosterone levels, you must talk with your doctor about your symptoms. They will draw blood to determine if it is low T.

Treating Low T Naturally

Eating a balanced diet and exercising are good things to do to keep a body balanced naturally.


There are certain foods that help testosterone levels, naturally.

  • Red meat
  • Poultry
  • Pork
  • Beans
  • Lentils
  • Garlic
  • Spinach

Amino Acids

Amino acids have also been known to help boost hormone balance. L- Arginine can help with testosterone and sperm count.

Vitamin D

Vitamin D-3 deficiency can lead to low testosterone levels.

Anti-Inflammatory Foods

Hormone Replacement

Testosterone Replacement Therapy (TRT) is supplemental testosterone that your doctor can prescribe.

Be sure to talk to the doctor before starting any herbs or supplements to see if they are right for you.

Off-balanced hormones can wreak havoc on your body and mood. If you are concerned make an appointment with your doctor right away.

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How To Make Your Bathroom Feel Like A More Relaxing Spa-Like Space

How To Make Your Bathroom Feel Like A More Relaxing Spa-Like Space

You know that feeling of total and complete relaxation, serenity and calm that you feel the moment you step foot into a spa? Imagine having that seem feeling at home in your bathroom – just picture how incredible that could be for your wellness. 

The good news is that it’s possible to turn your bathroom into a more spa-like space, it’s simply a case of taking the time to think about what it takes to create the same tranquil atmosphere, and what you need to do so. 

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For all the ins and outs of making your bathroom feel like a more relaxing space that mimics the tranquility of a spa, have a read of the guide below. 

Remove all clutter 

First things first, a spa never has clutter, it’s always a calming, minimalistic space. So, if your bathroom is packed full of a little too much clutter, that needs to change. Instead of having bottles packing the sides of the bathtub or toys scattered everywhere, it needs to be a clear space. 

With the right storage solutions, such as a bamboo lidded storage box that fits snuggly beside the loo, you can keep all of your clutter at bay. When it comes to bathroom storage, it’s important to remember that you might need to get creative, depending on the size of your bathroom.  

Get the colour palette right 

When it comes to how to make the space feel relaxing, you don’t want it to be packed with bright, bold colours. Instead, you want to focus on natural, earth-like tones, such as seafoam and moss green, like spas tend to do. 

Perhaps you could consider painting your bathroom a nice natural tone. Or, if painting isn’t an option, you can add those colours in using carefully throughout accessories, from a delicate green-hued shower curtain to big fluffy seafoam blue towels. Accessories can be a great way to add a certain accent colour in your bathroom. 

Focus on your senses 

One thing that makes spas so special is the way they are set up to focus on your senses, from the soft playing music intended to calm you, to the subtle fragrances designed to still your senses further. The good news is that you can create this same setup at home. 

Add a waterproof speaker to your bathroom and create yourself a spa playlist on Spotify or your music player of choice. So that you can pop this on whenever you fancy having a relaxing bath. You can add scents through scented candles, reed diffusers and essential oil diffusers, as well as through the bath products that you use. 

Add a sense of luxury

Last but not least, spas are always super luxurious places, so to make your bathroom feel more spa-like, you might want to focus on the luxury that the space offers. 

It’s the little things that make a big difference, such as gloriously luxurious soaps from specialists like Rock Creek Soaps, for instance. Or, treating yourself a gorgeously fluffy robe to hang in the bathroom and slip into after your bath, along with a pair of matching waffle slippers. 

There you have it, everything you need to know to make your bathroom feel more like a relaxing spa retreat

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Removing Nicotine Stains From Fingers

Removing Nicotine Stains From Fingers

In a world of anti-smoking, it is practically law for a smoker to get rid of any trace of their smoking habit. Perfumes and sprays to remove odors are on the market, as well as teeth whitening kits to remove stains on teeth. But what about the stains left behind on fingers?

How to Remove Nicotine Stains

After time, the tar builds up on the fingers that hold the cigarette or cigar. This leaves behind a yellow or brownish stain. Sadly, washing your hands repeatedly doesn’t remove the stain. However, washing hands after smoking can be preventative in future stains.

There are safe ways to safely bleach skin. It’s best to know what you are doing before diving in.

To remove the nicotine stains from your fingers, it will take a few minutes of work, probably, over a period of time.

Steps to Removing Nicotine Stains

Nicotine stains will always find a way to return as long as you are a smoker, but these steps will reduce the stains from being noticeable. If you have quit smoking, you may need to do these steps once a week for a couple of weeks for the stains to be gone completely.

While following these steps, keep your hands and fingers away from your eyes and mouth.

Get a Buffer File or Pumice Stone

Using the file or stone on the stained area will help exfoliate the stained skin. Don’t press too hard. Be gentle; you don’t want to break the skin.

Prepare a Soak

In a small bowl, you can add one of these ingredients that you have on hand. DO NOT MIX ingredients.

  • Lemon Juice
  • Hydrogen Peroxide
  • (Not Highly Recommended) A Splash of Bleach with 4 parts water

Soak fingers for five minutes. If you feel burning, stop and wash your hands thoroughly. None of these ingredients should burn unless you have broken the skin.

Wash Hands

Use a degreasing soap to remove the rest of the loose tar. Pat dry.

Add Some Baking Soda

On damp hands, rub some baking soda on stains to exfoliate and lighten the remaining stain. Again, this should not burn. If it burns, wash hands thoroughly.

Wash Hands and Moisturize

After you are done with the baking soda, wash hands very well. Use the file or stone again if necessary. With clean hands, apply a thick moisturizer or oil to the hands and fingers to moisturize and lubricate the fingers. This could help in preventing future stains from appearing too quickly.

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