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Making Romance Last In The Long-Term

Making Romance Last In The Long-Term

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Romantic relationships are hard to keep afloat. Loving one another isn’t enough; you have to be ready for the hard work involved with keeping a relationship going. Once that honeymoon period fizzles out, you have to be ready for the occasional bouts of bickering and disagreements that come with being truly close to another person. Struggling to keep that romance alive in the long-term? Here are some helpful pointers that might just help you and your partner to stop tearing out one another’s hair.

Talk to one another.

First of all, you and your loved one need to practice talking to one another more frequently. Yes, you most likely “talk†plenty about how your days went and most likely know how to hold a general conversation if you’re in a committed long-term relationship. However, there’s a difference between a casual chat and confronting serious issues. A lot of couples try to avoid arguments by any means necessary but they do so at the cost of their happiness. It’s vital that you become better at talking through your relationship troubles.

Switching things up can make things easier. You could look into getting help from a therapist if you’re really struggling to communicate with your partner. A professional can help to facilitate your conversation. Conflict may be uncomfortable but it’s entirely necessary if you want to have a healthy relationship with your partner. You need to address those difficult issues so that you can work past them rather than letting resentment fester beneath the surface. That’s how issues surface further down the line in a destructive manner; it’s better to confront problems whilst they’re still minor issues.

Flirt with one another.

This might seem like a strange point but it’s one of the most important. If you want to keep your romance alive in the long-term then you and your partner need to flirt with one another. Flirting isn’t something you reserve for dating and then give up once you’ve managed to get into a committed relationship. You need to take the time to flirt so as to display your love and affection for one another. Give your partner the occasional compliment and you’ll make their day. Supporting your loved one is all about the little things.

Spend time with and without one another.

This might seem like a confusing point on which to end but it makes sense. Everything in life should be done in moderation and relationships are no different. Humans are strange, in many ways; we crave socialness but we also love some alone time. Even your favorite people in the world can drive you crazy if you spend too much time with them and this extends to your partner. That’s why you need to create some ‘me’ time. Absence really does make the heart grow fonder, so you’ll certainly be happy to see your partner after spending a weekend visiting relatives or even a night out with your buddies. Of course, you don’t want to go to the other extreme; make sure you do find some time (at least once a week) to have a romantic meal or day out with your partner.

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About Dysfunctional Relationships

About Dysfunctional Relationships

No relationship is perfect, and for any to succeed there must be compromises, empathy, and understanding. Each relationship is unique and has its quirks, whether positive or negative, and even the best can fail for reasons like lack of communication, or understanding about what your partner needs. Here are some examples of dysfunctional relationships, and a little bit about how each dynamic works. Hopefully, by reading this, you can see your relationship in a new light, or see the warning signs and it becoming dysfunctional, and harmful to all parties involved.

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Ownership

Many people feel that they own their partner, in many ways. This ownership is emotional and is a one-way street. The person who is “owned†must constantly pander to the other’s emotions, when their partner has little regard for their own. The relationship often revolved around minimizing the anxiety and stress of the “ownerâ€, which often stems from some kind of insecurity.

In an ideal relationship, you should always have empathy and support your partner in all their life goals, to help them achieve what they want to in life. Obviously, in reality, losing that person will be difficult. Not “owning†your partner, and having empathy for them, can help you both achieve so many things. Ownership breeds dysfunctionality between partners.

Read: RELATIONSHIPS 101: COUPLES THAT INVEST TOGETHER LAST

Submission and Dominance

While this can be great to mess around with in the bedroom, is one partner is always dominant or submissive in everyday life, this can cause problems. If one [partner always has dominance over the other, the submissive party will often stop fighting a battle, and feel resentful at the predictable outcome. Having too much control isn’t good for the dominant party either, and they could easily abuse this power.

People that work as a team, are able to function in a much healthier way. Coming up with solutions to problems together, means that the outcome will be a much fairer one. Compromising and supporting your partner is the best way to show you care about the, and to foster a less stressful way of settling disputes and making decisions about your life.

Harboring Grudges

Grudges often seem insignificant at the time to either party, but can grow out of control. Harboring a grudge, whether this is about a past argument, or a previous “resolved†issue with the relationship, can come back to haunt you both. It is important, to be honest about what is on your mind, even if it seems unimportant at the time. Otherwise, this can lead to resentment, and the person with the grudge to feel that something unjust has happened to them, whether this is exaggerated or not.

Dwelling on the past, whether a past relationship or past argument, consider other’s perspectives, for example, a male perspective might help, for example, a blog like: should I get back with my ex? Talking about issues as they arise, and not burying s the way to stop the issue from getting out of hand, and stop resentment.

Read: CAN YOUR RELATIONSHIP BE FIXED?

Communicating and being aware of these problems as they arise, can ensure you have a functional relationship. Working with an expert couples counselor can help you to overcome any issues you have and ensure your relationship is healthy going forward.

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Rest to Feel Better

By Tia Cristy

Rest to Feel Better

It seems like we, as humans, need to be moving 190mph at all times or we might just miss an opportunity nowadays. But even the fastest of performance vehicles that were built to go that fast need to stop at some point. Anxiety is a something we all have encountered at one point or another. We feel this over many things, but the sure-shot way to feel anxious is if you feel like you should be doing something when you’re not. In today’s society most movers and shakers can’t even remember what it means to take time to rest.

What it Means to Rest

Resting isn’t closing your eyes and sleeping the day away. Although, we may need that for a day if we are sick or something. However, you must remember too much sleep can make you more tired and more anxious. The case of resting that we are discussing here, is taking your fast-internal momentum down a notch. It’s giving a break to the crazy daily demands we put on ourselves. Resting doesn’t mean being inactive.

Things to Do When Resting

Sometimes engulfing your senses into a long film can bring on a great rest. But it’s not always the best case if it’s a high-thrilling action movie unless that’s your thing. Science has shown, people burn a good number of calories watching exercise videos because the brain believes it is taking part in the activity. It’s the same concept watching a movie. Watching a movie that makes you use your brain to guess the plot can be a great source because our brains are a constant that have a need to be in use at all times.

Another resting activity could be playing games. Board games with the family or playing online games like BoomTownBingo have a way of relaxing our bodies, yet continue to provide that needed brain food. Steer away from the escaping hours on social media. Science has discovered using only social media as a resting outlet does not feed the brain and can cause adverse reactions of increasing anxiety.

Reading is an ultimate way to rest. Reading causes you to use the brain in the most efficient ways whether you are holding a physical paper or reading from a device. A good book can force you to use your imagination while your body stays in a constant resting pose. Reading articles or non-fiction causes the brain to learn and retain new information. Transforming your brain into another universe of words for even just six minutes a day has the ability to reduce stress and anxiety by two-thirds according to the latest research.

Why Do We Need Rest?

It’s more important, now than ever, to take rest in our daily lives. When we take time to rest, we feel better physically, mentally and emotionally. Resting results in less accidents on the road or in the work place. People are quicker to problem-solve. People that take time to rest are less likely to suffer from depression. Well-rested people a less aggressive and agitated. People have a higher immune system to fight-off germs when they partake in a routine of resting.

With that said, take a rest. Be happy, feel productive and have an overall better outlook in life.

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Is It Time To Be Thinking About The Whole New Year New You? Let’s Debate

Is It Time To Be Thinking About The Whole New Year New You? Let’s Debate

November is here and while it may seem too early for some, many people are placing a lot of thought on the impending festive season and the celebratory New Year’s eve. While Christmas can be an amazing time to spend with family and friends, and enjoying loved ones company at many different festive parties and gatherings, there is nothing quite like that new year new start feeling, or is there?

So many people place a huge focus on new year and reel off as many new year resolutions as they can think of. While I don’t necessarily think there is anything wrong with this sort of behaviour, after all, wanting to better yourself in anyway can only be a positive experience, the whole debate I wanted to discuss was whether a new year new you is the right mentality? Is there too much pressure? Should we focus on small changes or go all out with big lifestyle choices? I thought I would explore some of the common new year resolutions when it comes to self improvement and perhaps provide an argument for them or against them in some way. Maybe it might help you decide how you want to tackle the whole self-improvement thing when the bell chimes midnight on the 31st.

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A lifestyle change can be a good thing

So while new year’s represents the perfect opportunity to change your lifestyle, does it really need to be done? Is this whole new year new you thing the right approach? The truth is any change in lifestyle can actually be a positive experience, so considering this as your new year resolution or taking action with it right now could actually change your life for the better. Things like a different diet, maybe considering a plant based diet or cutting out certain aspects and ingredients could help to improve your health dramatically. It might be worth considering things like exercising more, being more active or improving your fitness levels. Again all positive lifestyle changes that can be made. A lifestyle change might be cutting out negativity in your life, or focusing more on the things that make you feel good. A new year new year lifestyle change could actually be a real positive experience to endure.

Changing your diet can work wonders

We may have loosely just visited this subject, but so many people base their resolutions on diet and more specifically losing weight. Is that really a healthy approach? Can what you intend to do in January really be sustained throughout the year? The truth is a diet change could have some major positive effects on your health, including helping you to lose a few pounds. But trying to drastically make a change with weight loss at the forefront of your motivation could end up causing you to fail at the first hurdle, which could impact you in other ways. Of course, losing weight is something that many people would like to do, but if you make that your sole intention, then it could end up causing more harm than good.

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Tackling some of your own issues could boost your self-confidence

Maybe the new year means you want to focus on your own issues when it comes to self-confidence. Perhaps you really don’t like what you see in the mirror, or maybe there are certain areas on your body you don’t like. Perhaps you stomach is a problem area where companies like Dore Aesthetics could help resolve the issue. It might be that you aren’t happy with how you skin looks, or there is a problem with scarring from things like acne in the past. Taking action could provide you with real positive results, and that could be amazing. But again the best advice is to ensure that it isn’t your primary focus as it can end up consuming you.

Maybe you should start with small changes

So if you are still happy with that fact that the new year presents the perfect opportunity to make changes to how you look and feel then why does it need to be major changes that you implement on the 1st of January? A great tip is to focus on smaller changes that collectively can make an overall big impact on how you look and how you feel. For example, simply increasing your water intake daily could help improve your mood, the sleep quality you get and help with your skin tone and condition. Walking a little more often helps you on your way to become more active, which in turn helps you to feel more energised in the morning. Small changes can have a big impact on your life, and what you may find is that the smaller changes are far easier to stick with when implemented into your daily routine.

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Is there too much pressure on the new year new you?

One subject that perhaps needs address is whether or not there is too much pressure on the whole new year new you mentality. If you have been happy with certain situations for the past twelve months why make that change right now? Is there just an underlying pressure to make a change because we feel we have no choice but to start January with a fresh approach? The truth is new year is a great chance to wipe the slate clean, and carry on as you intend to make the next year your best one yet. But try and avoid adding too much pressure on yourself, or feeling pressure from others to make changes you may not necessarily support. Is there a point that you could be making the change right now. Why wait for new year when you can start right now?

Is your mindset causing you the stumbling block to move forward

Finally, your mindset can be the biggest tool that helps or holds you back. A negative thought process can hinder your chances of success if you don’t believe in the change you want to make or want it enough. Changing your outlook could actually become part of your new year new you mentality? A positive approach to your thoughts and current life circumstances could help you to see things clearer.

I hope that this has sparked some thoughts about new year for you. I’d love to hear what your opinion is on the matter.

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Should You Stay, Or Should You Go?

By, Tia Cristy

Should You Stay, Or Should You Go?

Sadly, divorce has become a way of life for 50% of the married population today. It’s not something folks set out to do when they first exchange their wedding vows, but time can be cruel to relationships. Nevertheless, on the upside, time also has the power to heal all wounds.

Marriage has lost its shine

Just like anything in this world, if you don’t care for it, it will lose its luster. Take a silver tray for example. At first, it’s beautiful. Perfect. But after use, it can get dull and dirty. You have to clean it and polish it. It takes a bunch of effort to keep it shiny. As time marches on, even with the shine it has noticeable wear. You might not realize it at the time, but that’s part of its charm. However, you see it as aged. It’s no longer perfection. So, you put it in a cupboard. You know it’s still there, but you don’t use it. Next time you see it, it’s completely tarnished. It looks hopeless. Here’s the thing, it’s not ruined. With a little extra elbow grease, you can polish it back to gleaming. The point of this analogy… Some marriages just need a bit of elbow grease.

When’s enough, enough?

When is enough, enough? Some couples have an easy answer for that… never. But ‘never’ isn’t the choice for everyone. So when is it time to leave a marriage? Honestly, I think only couples can figure that out on their own, especially when there are kids and assets to consider. The best advice I can give on contemplating divorce is if you tried everything to make it work and it still doesn’t… Ask yourself this before making that huge decision, ‘Did I do everything I could to try and make this marriage work?’ and then answer this, ‘If I choose to walk away from this marriage, can I leave without regretting my choice?’ Some situations are much trickier when it comes to domestic violence. If that is the case, remember, there are people out there that can help.

When it’s over

Just like a death, divorce has its own period of mourning. This is common. It’s true, there are many scary roads ahead. But if the high divorce rate has taught us anything, it taught us, this too shall pass. And yes, time certainly does have a way of healing. People of divorce find they have a quicker healing process when they leave behind bitterness. It may be hard to forget the bad times, but it’s best to forgive, if only for the sole purpose of healing. Here’s a coping with divorce guide that will help you each step along the way to starting over.

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