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Driving Dilemmas: Five Issues For New Drivers to Overcome

Driving Dilemmas: Five Issues For New Drivers to Overcome

There’s nothing quite like driving to give you true independence. You can go where you want, when you want. There’s no waiting around on unreliable public transport or friends and family to give you lifts. No need to walk for miles in the rain in bad weather, you can hop into your car and everything is much quicker and more convenient. But there are some challenges to being a driver too, here are five issues most new drivers will need to overcome at some time or another.

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Costs

The biggest issue that most new drivers will overcome is the cost. We’re all told how driving isn’t cheap, but it’s not until you come to get on the road yourself that you realise how true that is. You have to buy a vehicle, insure it, tax it and have it MOTed and serviced each year. You have to replace parts when they go wrong, and pay for fuel. Even smaller costs such as car washes can add up and aren’t something you initially include in your budget. The best thing you can do when you’re still taking your lessons is save up. Have some money in the bank to cover these costs, it will be much easier to get onto the roads after passing if you do.

Fear

You might feel confident driving with your instructor on lessons, but once you pass you’re on your own. You come up against situations you’ve never seen before, and it can really be quite scary. Start small and build up your confidence. Drive with an experienced driver in the passenger seat who can give you help if needed. Drive around places that are quieter at less  busy times of day and then work your way up from there.

Car maintenance and checks

You’ll have been given some general advice about how to maintain and check your car when you learned to drive. This includes checking lights, fluids and tyres. Make it a habit to do these checks and keep your car in the best condition possible. Find out things like the tyre pressure from your car’s handbook so when it comes to filling the tyres it’s quick and easy. Even putting in fuel can be diffficult at first if it’s something you’ve never done, but know that you will adapt.

Breaking down

Breaking down is scary for anyone, especially if it’s the first time it’s happened to you. If you’re able to, move your car to the side of the road. Put on your hazard lights, and place a warning triangle at least forty five meters away from your vehicle (don’t use warning triangles on motorways). Get out of your car and get to a safe place out of the road, and then call your breakdown company. If you’ve broken down in a dangerous place that’s obstructing traffic, you will need to call the police first.

Accidents

Accidents can be really scary. In an accident, you need to keep as calm as possible and make sure you’re getting all of the relevant information from the other driver- their name, telephone number and insurance details. Take pictures, and see if there’s any CCTV around which you might need to use at a later date. If the accident wasn’t your fault and you were injured, get legal advice from Hupy and Abraham as you may be entitled to compensation. If you believe the driver was acting dangerously or could have been intoxicated, call the police at the scene.

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How do You Bounce Back From the Bad Times?

How do You Bounce Back From the Bad Times?

When everything seems to be going wrong for you in life and nothing according to the plans you put in place, it’s very easy to get down about it all. But that’s just the nature of life; we all go through times when nothing seems to be going the way we want it to. How you respond to those bad times and bounce back is what really matters more than anything else because that’s how your future will be decided.

Having said that, bouncing back from the bad times is much easier said than done. There are some steps and ideas that might help you to do this successfully though, and they’re what we’re going to talk about in more depth today. Keep reading to learn about what you should begin to do in order to bounce back from times that have been tough for you.

Find the Silver Lining

The very first thing you should try to do is find a silver lining. Every situation has a silver lining, no matter how bleak it seems at first. By looking at the situation objectively and thinking about how you can come out if it positively and look to the future, you’ll be putting yourself in a much healthier position. It’s definitely difficult to find silver linings in some situations, but you should at least give it a try.

Focus on the Things in Life That Matter Most

There are some things that matter more than others when you’re trying to bounce back from the bad times. You have to be willing to look at things objectively and focus on the things in life that are really important because if you allow yourself to get hung up on insignificant things that don’t matter much, you’ll never find the time or energy to properly bounce back and move in the right direction once more.

Create a Plan of Action

Creating a plan of action is important because it gives you a road map to your future. It’ll show you want you need to do next and which steps are most important as you aim to get back on track and bounce back from whatever negative things you’ve been experiencing. The right plan of action is something that only you can create because only you understand what you need to do next in your life.

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Don’t Focus on the Negatives Too Much

Even if you’ve been through a lot of negative stuff recently, you should try to reject any negative feeling that might hold you back further. By focusing on the negatives, you will carry on in your spiral of pity when you should really be thinking about what comes next and how you can turn the situation into a more positive one. It’s all about focusing your energy and attention on the right things.

Seek Compensation to Help Your Recovery

If you’re dealing with a bad situation because of someone else’s mistake, you should see if you can seek compensation for it. Maybe you were injured or defrauded in some way. If so, you should find a lawyer who you feel you can trust and take things from there. With the right lawyer on your side, you’ll find it possible to get compensation which can then be used to get yourself back on track.

Do What’s Right for You

What’s right for you is what matters right now, so don’t worry so much about what other people think or what they might be saying. The only significant thing is how you move forward. Your own needs have to come first, even if that’s something that you’re not used to. It can be difficult to always do what’s right for you but being selfish isn’t such a bad thing sometimes.

Remember That the Future Remains Unwritten

Finally, you should always remember that the future and what comes next has not been written yet. No matter how bad things have been up to now, everything could change very quickly for you in the future. It’s all about doing what you can to make that possibility as likely as it can possibly be. Who knows what will happen tomorrow?

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No matter what kind of bad times you’ve been going through recently, you can most certainly come out the other side in better shape and ready to succeed in life. It all comes down to mentality and belief. If you can get both of those things right, you’ll have no problems at all.

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How to Spot the Signs of Growing Apart

How to Spot the Signs of Growing Apart

We all wish relationships lasted forever, but statistics say otherwise. It is important that you educate yourself on how healthy partnerships should work and when it is time to make adjustments or move on. You don’t want your partner to drag you down or stop you from becoming the best version of yourself. Below you will find a few signs of one of the main reasons of relationship breakdowns; growing apart.

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He Is Stuck In His Ways

We all fall in love because we find something unique and appealing in the other person. However, people change, and we learn more about what they really are like, and we develop ourselves. If you find that he is not on the same journey as you, and doesn’t want to change, you will need to start thinking whether or not your relationship is worth it for him, or he is just stuck in the situation.

You Are Growing Faster

We all love developing and growing. You might enroll to a college course, improve your career, or simply take in meditation, If the other person doesn’t respect or value your effort and your journey towards self discovery, they will be left behind. If you have more ambition than they do, chances are that they will not be the right person for you for too long. It might be time to have a chat with a littleton divorce lawyer to research your options.

You Stopped Doing Things Together

One of the most common signs of relationships not working is when you stop doing things together. If he is no longer interested in going to your favorite place, you might be thinking whether or not they were pretending to be someone else in the beginning of your relationship. Other than lack of time, the lack of interest in each other’s passion can kill romantic relationships.

Your Values are Not Aligned

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Of course, we all change our outlook in life and adjust our values as well as our personal mission. If your partner doesn’t believe in the same things, maybe criticizes you for doing things one way and not another, chances are that you will soon realize that enough is enough and you need to move on. If you cannot have a conversation any more, there is simply no point being together.

You Just Leave It to Them to Avoid Arguments

In case you find yourself walking away from arguments all the time, you will need to start thinking about the reasons. Is your partner using emotional blackmailing, or simply wants to belittle you? If you are always the person who takes a step back and leaves them to be, you will have to stop walking on eggshells and make some drastic changes.

When relationships stop working, it is important that you spot the warning signs before it is too late. Growing apart is hard to fix, without therapy, and you need to ask yourself whether or not you have the time and if it is worth the effort.

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Making it Work: Finding True Love in the Millennial World

Making it Work: Finding True Love in the Millennial World

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Dating in the millennial world is like strolling through the jungle ofravenous beasts. As soon as you fire up your dating app, trolls and predatorsflock to your profile, hell-bent on tearing your confidence into pieces. Terrifying, right? While the situation is not necessarily as drastic as presented (though it truly happens to numerous unwitting love-seekers), finding genuine love in the millennial world is turning into an exception. Getting tothe root cause of why “making it work” has become a miracle is not particularlyhard. Rendering the process easier is a significantly harder riddle to solve.

Commitment issues are rampant

The problem mostly lies in the fact that millennial generation has an overwhelming phobia of commitment. This widespread phenomenon has emerged exactly due to the dating app factor.Why would you bother when there are plenty more “swipes” in the sea? In themillennial mind, people have turned into commodities. The first step to solving this, should you come across someone that you truly like, is to actively seekout connections with the person through common interests.

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This way, you will become more than a cardboard cutout or a set of brief traits in the eyes of the potential date, much more quickly. However, the second step is quite harder and it is also related to the fear of commitment. This obstacle comes in the signature millennial fear of opening up, coupled with the unwillingness to repeatedly invest energy into partners.

The main tool is also a problem

With the omnipresent power of the internet, the metaphysical cloud that covers the globe and simmers with endless data, long distance relationships have become more common place. While previous generation used the net as a tool in this regard, matters have become a bit trickier for millennials.

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In the world of diminished attention spans and constant pursue for immediate gratification, the survival of long distance relationships requires both parties to exercise in human patience and constant readiness to compromise. The additional work might be exhaustive, but the benefits of pulling through are immeasurable.

Self-centered world

The afore mentioned unwillingness to invest energy in relationships is not a mild problem. Millennials learn, since early age, to be focused solely on themselves and their own needs. In addition, the digital realm is tailored exactly to cater to the individual’s perception of oneself as the “center of the world”. In spite of this, you can easily spot a glaring contradiction within such state of things – since the choices at our disposal are in numerable, it becomes easy to feel as if we do not matter in the grand scheme of things. Generations ago, people used to belong to diffuse and organic social microcosms which were easier to navigate. An average millennial suffers the “tyranny of freedom” but manages to come on top as long ascertain basic tenets are followed.

Avoid distractions and have a clear goal

In order to find the right partner, you need to narrow down your wants into a reasonable goal. As soon as you enter the world of dating (both online and offline) things can get really distracting really fast so it helps to have a clear goal when it comes to the type of person you’d love to “find”. Just don’t fall into a trap of perceiving people as conquests as you will end up perpetuating previous mistakes. Second, you need to communicate this goal clearly, which might trim down the number of people that are willing to date you drastically, but at least you will pique the interest of those that want a similar arrangement. Finally, you need to take action and have hope no matter what – a few failed dates should not discourage you.

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We live in the unprecedented times. The world is changing faster than we can process it and so does the way we engage with people around us. In this digital jungle of social media and dating apps, dating has turned into a curious multi-dimensional maneuver that dances frantically between numerous versions of your identity. Only one of these versions is completely genuine;all others are hyper-stylized. Previous generations did not have to wrestle with social hierarchies that include multiple levels of reality, all in order to fulfill the needs that are so primordial and instinctive. Both the problem and the solution to finding true love in the millennial world lie in the heartof this paradox. Thankfully, as infinitely quotable Dr. John Hammond says in“Jurassic Park”, “Life always finds a way.”  

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How to Make Sex and Motherhood Align

How to Make Sex and Motherhood Align

They say everything changes once you have kids. But have you ever considered the changes to your love life? When you become a mom, your kids become a new and worthwhile sense of joy; they’re now your number one priority and captivate most of your time and energy. But that doesn’t mean your love life, especially physical intimacy, should need to take a back seat. Whether you’re a single mom getting back out on the dating scene, a first-timeparent to a newborn, or even a wife whose marriage has been lacking spark after raising kids, there are solutions to every mom’s differing sexual needs after kids.

Quit guilt-tripping yourself

In the same facet that moms shouldn’t feel guilty about not having sex, moms also shouldn’t be ashamed for desiring sex. After all, sex allows us to create a new life – it’s what made us moms. Not to mention the many proven benefits sex can have on our health and that it can be rewarding for relationships. Maintaining a healthy sex life does not make you a bad mom. It’s all about finding the balance between tending to your child(ren), while also making time to fulfill your own needs.

Don’t let body insecurities stop you

Women undergo many physical changes throughout and after pregnancy, like stretch marks, weight gain, loose skin, and even leaky breasts; all of which can take an emotional toll on our self-confidence making the thought of being intimate again unimaginable. However, you may be surprised by how quickly youfind yourself craving that physical connection again, and since women can ovulate as early as three weeks after childbirth, you’ll want to be prepared if you’re not ready for your family to grow again quite yet. If you’re hesitant to use birth control due to the worry of further weight gain, then fear no more. Most birth controls contain two hormones, a progestin and anestrogen. High levels of estrogen are associated with fluid retention (aka bloating and weight gain). But modern birth control pills nowcontain lower doses of estrogen and progestin, debunking the idea that birth control and weight gain are one and the same, so choosing the best birth control for you is that much easier.

Be creative and flexible

Another reason sex doesn’t always transpire after children is the concept that parenting is a 24/7 job. But like any other job, we all deserve a break at some point. A comfortable way to transition back into having a sex life is to plan a night alone with your partner by dropping the kids off at grandma or grandpa’s house for a night. Your mind can relax knowing that your little ones are in the trusted hands of a loved one. If you don’t have the luxury of a relative or babysitter, don’t give into the notion that you can’t ‘get it on’ just because the kids are home. Forgo your former expectations of sex and fit it in around your time. Have some ‘sexy time’ after the kids goto bed or before they wake up. Make use of nap times or even hop in the shower together for a steamy, intimate moment alone. Just make sure to lock the door!

Becoming a mom means learning new ways to adapt to everything you once did before children, including sex. Women may not have the same sex life they did before kids, but it’s possible that sex after children can be even better as it can teach women to love their natural body, and allow for more opportunities for spontaneity and rekindling romance.

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