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Four Ways To Fire Up Your Love Life

Four Ways To Fire Up Your Love Life

Whether you’ve been in a marriage for a long time and want to give your love life a boost, or you simply want to revamp the way that you’ve always done things, your libido needs a bit of help. With work being so busy, raising a family and having an actual social life, there’s always an excuse not to reconnect with a lover behind bedroom doors. There are so many things that you can do to boost your libido so that you can get your sex life back on the right tracks that it’s always been on.

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Exhaustion, stress and a lack of time can really affect the sex life of a couple, but sex is such an important way to connect on a level that is more than friends and more than just partners. It’s a mind, body and soul connection and when you’re too tired, it’s like someone has hung up the phone and the line is broken. Getting that line back up takes time and a loss of sex drive is only a problem if you believe that it is. Don’t panic though; there are plenty of things that you can do to boost it back up and get those bedroom fires burning again.

Sleep. This may seem like a counterproductive way to get your sex life back but burning the candle at both ends can really take a toll on your sex life. Testosterone has a big role in the male libido and a lack of sleep can reduce the levels of testosterone in you. Extracts like Tongkat Ali can help you to get your testosterone levels back up again. Try not to sleep less than 5 hours a night, regardless, as this is not healthy!

Eat. Everyone knows the sensuality in bringing food into the bedroom, but did you know that there are certain foods that are an aphrodisiac? Figs, bananas, chocolate and avocados are such aphrodisiacs, as are oysters and wine. These all provide the right minerals and vitamins for your health.

Confidence. Sometimes, confidence – or lack of it – is a big passion killer. If you don’t have confidence within yourself, you won’t feel in the mood and you can doubt your own attraction. No one can tell you how you can get rid of the low self-esteem, but you can shift the focus from your own worries to the things that you like about yourself and blow those up in your mind.

Sobriety. A big reason for a flop in the bedroom is too much alcohol or the overuse of drugs. By going sober, you can remove the toxins and chemicals from your system and be the au natural being that you want to be!

Getting the fire back in the bedroom is going to take some time, but if you take a moment to work out what is going wrong and communicate with your partner, you can move forward and slide back into that healthy sex routine you’ve always enjoyed.

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How To Make Your Health a Daily Priority

How To Make Your Health a Daily Priority

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Today our lives are busier than ever – building careers, family commitments, juggling hobbies and essentials – it’s no wonder really that modern life can often feel quite overwhelming.

 

But what consequences does having so many daily responsibilities have on our health and well being?

 

Well, when life gets super busy, as it often does, it’s easy to fall into the trap pof short cuts and bad habits that don’t prioritise our health. Acting on autopilot, we sacrifice ourselves and make a short-term choice, be that grabbing the quick dinner that we know is less than healthy for us or choosing to skip workouts and meditation sessions that normally keep us grounded.

 

By default, we tend to operate on auto-pilot mode, muddling through the days and making excuses to ourselves. The side order? A healthy dose of guilt and blame, as we recognise deep down that we aren’t making the choices we need to for our long-term health.

 

But life isn’t going to let up anytime soon, so what can we do to make sure health becomes a daily priority? It turns out some simple strategies can stop you having to compromise all the time…

Recognise The Choice Cycle

 

Trapping in feelings of self-doubt and tiredness, many of us avoid acknowledging our own agency in the matter. It’s easy to blame circumstances from ‘stopping’ us maintaining our health, but the truth is, although we can’t avoid what life throws at us, we can choose how we deal with it.

 

That autonomy is our gift, and refusing to accept that prevents many of us from achieving our wellbeing goals. Take a moment to step back from the situation and remove emotion from the equation. What would you say to you best friend or a relative that complained they were too busy to take care of themselves? Instead of judging yourself or blaming circumstances, acknowledge that life is busy and can be overwhelming – but also that you have a choice about how you react.

 

If you don’t actively choose to break the cycle, you’re going to end up stuck in a helpless, chicken and egg scenario – too tired and run down because of lack of exercise and healthy eating to make the right choices. Choose to prioritise your health – even if it means sacrificing something else. For example, if you love to fit in a morning HIIT workout, but don’t have enough time before heading to work – could you set the alarm a half hour earlier to fit it in? What if this meant going to bed a half hour earlier? What would you be missing? If the answer is another episode of that box set or a scroll through social media feeds then the choice becomes very clear.

 

What do you need to do in order to detox your body and mind? Treat being kind to yourself as a commitment that you choose to prioritise over all the noise in daily life, and you are taking back to the power and making a positive step – and that in itself can be very energising.

 

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Isolate Your Eating

 

How many of choose to eat while distracted? In fact, sitting there munching mindlessly while we catch up on emails is very harmful to your health. Studies have shown those who eat while distracted consume more calories, as the brain is switched away from it’s task of sending the message that you’re full to your stomach. So when you eat, make it the main event.

 

Sit down properly at the table and take the time to engage your senses – what can you see, feel and smell? If you need to, scheduling in a half hour for a meal really emphasises your commitment to mindful eating. Ask yourself about your emotional state if you find yourself reaching for a sugary treat you don’t need. What is making you crave it? Are you bored or upset? Resolve to fix the root cause rather than using food as an emotional tool. Savour each bite, learn to recognise when you’re approaching full up and reconnect your mind and body as you eat. When your finished, you’ll find that you feel more satisfied and are free to continue your day with renewed energy and a clear mind.

Have a Plan for Stress

 

Stress is a daily factor in our lives. In fact, a little bit of the right kind can be very effective as a motivating factor that keeps us on track – so you shouldn’t be seeking to erase every trace of it from your life. The key is to learn how to manage stress. If it gets out of control, it can act as a major trigger for overeating or drinking too much alcohol, cause relationship issues and get our hormones out of alignment, leading to multiple health problems.

 

Recognise that you can’t control every factor and that life will throw you curveballs – but understand also how to deal with them. Keep crucial perspective by moving yourself forward in time mentally – will this issue matter in a week? A month? How about in a year’s time? Learn what it takes for you to avoid critical levels of stress – do you need to learn how to delegate more at work? Do you need to put aside more time to rest? Or is it simply a question of scheduling in 10 minute power walks outside to keep you balanced and get some fresh air?

Treat Health as Its Own Reward

 

If you choose to ‘reward’ yourself with food and alcohol, it promotes all kind of negative associations and cycle of guilt and rebellion. Recognise that these things are not ‘bad’ or ‘good’ in themselves, it’s our approach to them that has positive or negative intentions. Processed treats should never be used to cope with stress or as a reward for doing something. Choose health and wellbeing for its own sake, as a conscious decision that you know enhances your life. Find comfort in other things, such as a deep aromatherapy bath, spending time with your loved ones, or finishing a chapter of that must-have thriller novel. Turn around your reward system and the effects can be life changing.

 

Choosing to put your health first is not one big decisions – it’s a series of daily choices. Commit to them and you will see positive results!

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Your Skin is Telling You Health Secrets – But Are You Listening?

Your Skin is Telling You Health Secrets – But Are You Listening?

The skin is the largest organ of your body, and it shouldn’t be surprising to hear that it can act as a vast display sign, letting you know when you have problems that affect you on the inside. The trouble is, not everyone is aware of the secret codes and language that the skin uses to let you know. In today’s guide, I’m going to go through all of the little things your skin might be trying to tell you. Hopefully, you will be able to start listening from now on.

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Breakouts

A lot of people suffer from breakouts all the time, but if yours appear on an irregular basis, there is a good chance it is a sign of something else. When you are anxious or feeling stressed, the body unleashes a whole bunch of cortisol – known as the stress hormone. In turn, this can cause havoc in your body, and it goes into overdrive with all kinds of things – including producing breakouts. So, try to unwind a little – with yoga or mindfulness, perhaps –  and you should start having fewer breakouts than before.

Baggy, swollen eyes

A lot of people wake up in the morning looking like Death warmed up, but it’s not as normal as everyone makes out. In fact, it’s a sure sign that you haven’t caught enough shuteye – which could be opening up a world to all kinds of other problems, including high blood pressure, stress, and even stroke. Go to bed a little earlier, and make sure you stick to the same sleep patterns – even during the weekends.

Dark patches

Dark patches under your eyes could be down to your genetics. But again, if you only get them now and again, it might be due to malnourishment. It’s almost crazy to think that people are malnourished in this country, but it’s a lot more common than you might think. Nutrient deficiency is the result of a poor diet, and if you aren’t eating your veggies and greens on a regular basis, it’s time to make a change.

Loose skin

Loose, wrinkly skin is usually a sign of aging. You can either live with it and grow old gracefully, or head to your local cosmetic dermatologist and get a fix. However, loose, sagging skin can also be a sign of a severe underlying disease. These range from very rare conditions such as Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome and Marfan’s Syndrome to more obvious issues like sun-related skin changes and even something like T-cell lymphoma.

Changing moles

Moles can be a sign of beauty, but you need to watch them like a hawk. Everyone is at risk from skin cancer developing, and if your moles start to change in appearance or begin bleeding, get them checked out at your doctor’s office.

As you can see, just because you can cover up problem skin with makeup, it doesn’t mean everything is OK on the inside. The good news is that most of these issues can be cleared up with a basic return to a fit and healthy lifestyle. But go and see your doctor anyway, as you never know what your skin might be trying to tell you.

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Beyond The Pain, Coping With The Stresses Of Sudden Illness

Beyond The Pain, Coping With The Stresses Of Sudden Illness

Sudden illness, injury, or disability can really turn your life upside-down. The trauma, pain, and stress of the discovery and treatment can be enough to deal with. If only that was the only impact it had on your life, however. The truth is that sudden illness actually has much further reaching impacts that aren’t considered as often. Here are a few that you should be aware of and how you might deal with them.

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Finding comfort

Beyond the treatment you’re given by your healthcare professional, it’s worth considering a proactive look at how you deal with the symptoms you face in the long-run. Chronic pain is a common side-effect of many illnesses and injuries, but finding ways to cope through pain management techniques can help them become much less debilitating. For some, seeking additional physical therapy through techniques like massage therapy and meditation can work. For others, focusing on recovery through reintroduction to exercise adapted to your mobility levels and a healthier diet can help you become stronger and healthier by comparison.

The way that works for you

Whether it’s temporary or permanent, an injury that’s disabling will suddenly make the world seem like a much different place. Things you could do with no issue before now become a challenge. But rather than forcing you to use considerably more effort, there are plenty of creative home modifications for those living with disability, for instance, that allow you to better adapt your home environment to your current condition. Similarly, you should talk to your employer, if you’re still able to work, about allowing a little more flexibility in your role so you can continue to work without putting your body at further risk.

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The financial impact

Many illnesses and injuries bring them serious financial repercussions, too. If you’re involved in an accident or exposed to elements that bring about your sickness and it’s someone else’s fault, then seeking responsibility can help you cope with costs that you otherwise shouldn’t. But the longer-term financial stress is often caused by no longer being able to work. Getting what you’re entitled to isn’t always as easy as applying for social security. With some diseases that have symptoms that aren’t as visible, like fibromyalgia, getting help from an attorney can often give you the convincing edge you need to make sure you get what you need. If you haven’t yet been injured or made ill, then it’s worth considering investing in long-term sick insurance for yourself, too.

It’s not just your body that takes a toll

One of the hidden impacts of serious accidents being brought more to the forefront as of late is the high rates of severe stress, anxiety, and PTSD in victims. But even no-fault injuries and illnesses can have a tremendous impact on self-esteem and confidence, especially if new disability makes it much harder for you to do what you once could. It pays to be aware that your mind might be suffering a much heavier toll than it should be, even in relatively dire circumstances. Taking your mental health seriously and knowing when you might need help can be an important step on becoming the same person inside that you were before the incident.

Health issues have ripple effects across your whole life, from your ability to work to how you used to carry out simple household tasks that now seem much more difficult. Coming face-to-face with your challenges and finding the ways to cope with them can help you get some control back, instead of feeling like your life is being taken over.

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The Psychological Impact of Aging on Couples

The Psychological Impact of Aging on Couples

Aging is an inevitability of life and one that few people look forward to. It is also a significant concern, particularly for couples. Growing old is unpredictable, with people deteriorating at different rates, and requiring other forms of care. For those who are becoming older and are no longer capable of being 100% independent, assisted living facilities (ALFs) are available. Here, they can maintain their independence to a degree, while having medical and caring support on site available at the same time.

 

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The Psychological Impact of Aging

 

Aging is a life transition, and all the big life changes come with significant psychological issues. When people age, they often start to experience a fear of the future. They worry about how long they have left, whether their memory will deteriorate, whether they can continue to have an active social life and play a role in the lives of their children and grandchildren. Additionally, as people age, they are more likely to experience grief as others around them start to pass away. It is also more common for them to experience ageism and discrimination, making them feel as if they are losing their independence.

 

These are all very significant issues that must be addressed properly. This is also because the psychological effects of aging have a direct impact on physical health as well. In fact, this is something specifically discussed by the American Psychological Association, who have released some statistics to demonstrate the link between psychological and physical well-being in the elderly. Specifically, they found that:

 

  • 50% to 70% of all visits to primary care physicians by the elderly are about stress, depression, or anxiety.
  • Older people who have significant or chronic health conditions are more likely to also suffer from depression. Furthermore, untreated mental health conditions often lead to poorer outcomes in physical health conditions, as people with conditions like depression tend to have a weaker immune system as well.
  • Depression is one of the leading causes of disability according to the World Health Organization.
  • Aging individuals who have their mental health needs addressed require less other forms of medical care as well.

 

The Psychological Impact of Moving into Assisted Living

 

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Assisted living has been shown to be very effective, offering a viable alternative to hospitalization or nursing homes. At the same time, the psychological impact of making this move is undeniable and must be understood. Some of the key stressors include:

 

  • Moving stress, caused by having to pack belongings and getting everything done on time.
  • A sense of loss and grief, caused by having to say goodbye to something for a final time, knowing that they will never return.
  • Fear of the unknown, having to move to an unfamiliar place.

 

Put together, these factors can cause “relocation stress”, which can lead to depression, difficulty sleeping, and other health problems. While all of this is properly understood, and a lot of help is out there for young people helping their mother and father into assisted living, as well as for seniors to help them transition, a key factor that is often not addressed is what needs to happen if the move relates to a couple.

 

It is undeniable that moving into an ALF has tremendous benefits for the person who needs it. In fact, various studies, including one posted in The Journals of Gerontology, have demonstrated that those in these facilities have an increased quality of life, better health, and more social cohesion and engagement. However, what happens when one person requires assisted living, but the other person does not?

 

What to Look for in a Facility that Caters to Couples

 

As you can see from the above, it is hard to age, and even harder to admit that more help is needed. This applies in particular to couples, where one person may have significant health needs, whereas the other does not. There are two added difficulties in this. Firstly, it means one person has to move when they are not ready for it yet and, secondly, that they often feel they have failed in properly looking after their partner. If this is happening to your parents, do try to reassure them that, in fact, making the decision to move to an ALF is the best that they can do to look after each other. Do also reassure them about the fact that there are plenty of facilities available that cater specifically to couples.

 

Finding Assisted Living Facilities

 

If you are at the point that your parents agree that they should move to an ALF, even if it is because only one of them needs more intensive care, there are five essential tips that you should follow to make this huge transition as comfortable as possible:

 

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  1. Make sure you spend lots of time researching the options that are available to them.

 

If you have elderly parents, and you feel that it is time to find assisted living for them, then it is important that you do so in an inclusive, respectful manner that is mindful of the psychological issues discussed above. Spend time together to look in your area for what is available, giving your parents a choice. It is important that they understand that you are not aiming to take away their independence, nor that you feel they have become a burden on you. Rather, finding assisted living is an opportunity for them to enjoy the highest possible quality of life. Where they want to do this is a decision that they should be 100% involved in.

 

  1. Work on your finances.

 

Moving home is stressful, whether it is the first time you leave home as a young person, or whether you are elderly. The last thing you need at that point is to have increased levels of stress because of finances. It is unlikely that Medicare will cover the full cost of an ALF, although they may provide coverage for some of the care that your parents receive there. If you parents have other health insurance, you will need to look into the coverage they offer as well.

 

  1. Talk about the available space.

 

When in assisted living, your parents will have a space of their own. What that space looks like varies, although it is common to have a private bathroom, bedroom, and living area. Although they will have all this space, it is unlikely that it will be as big as their current home. This means that some difficult decisions will have to be made regarding which pieces of furniture can come, and which have to be said goodbye to.

 

  1. Consider your parents’ social needs.

 

One key factor of importance when helping to find an ALF is that your parents will have high social engagement. In fact, the Journal of Applied Gerontology has written a report on how proper social engagement increases overall mental well-being in the elderly, which in turn improves physical well-being as well. The study focused specifically on activity theory, looking at its impact on depressive symptoms and on life satisfaction. What the study showed was that friendliness of fellow residents and of the staff in the facility was crucial to improving life satisfaction. It also showed that simple things, such as having enjoyable mealtimes, helped to lower the depressive symptoms. What this suggests is that assisted living facilities in which residents are encouraged to interact with one another are likely to be the better ones. This is certainly something that you can discuss with your parents while helping them look for a facility.

 

  1. Prepare yourself for future health needs.

 

Unfortunately, as people age, their health deteriorates, and you must prepare yourself for this. If only one parent required assisted living care, then you have to ready yourself for them needing more intensive care later on in life. The parent that perhaps did not yet need this type of care will get to a point where their health starts to be affected as well. It is best to discuss this to a degree with your parents, concerning building an understanding what their wishes are. But other than that, this is something you will have to prepare yourself for in person.

 

Aging is one of the greatest tragedies of life. It is a tough time, one in which people start to understand that they are nearing the end. They often feel like they have become a burden on others and this has a significant impact on their overall mental health and well-being. You, as their child, can help mitigate that to some degree by encouraging your parents to agree to move into an ALF, even if only one of the two actually needs it. Show your parents that there is no shame in asking for help but rather that it is a sign of strength. It means that they want to continue to enjoy their life, but in a way in which they receive support, safe, and comfortable. Last but not least, remember to visit them often, you are part of their social lifeline!

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Be Confident With Your Complexion

Be Confident With Your Complexion

We’re all told how we should love ourselves more, and accept our flaws. And although it’s nice in theory, the reality is somewhat different. We all have our hang-ups and insecurities, the parts of ourselves we don’t like, and it’s very normal to feel this way. Issues around skin are common- there are so many things that can go wrong and when it’s something you can’t really hide away it can cause a problem. However modern medicine and science is excellent, and if you have something you’re embarrassed about with your complexion chances are it can be changed. Here are some common skin conditions, and what you can do about them to improve your confidence.

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Fine Lines and Wrinkles

No one can stay looking youthful forever. While some people maintain good skin for far longer than others, eventually our complexion will show signs of age such as lines and wrinkles. If you’ve noticed the first signs of aging, having a treatment like Botox can be useful as not only does it make the skin look smoother but it also protects against further damage. You could visit CLDerm.com/injectable-treatments for details. Looking after your skin while you’re still young will help to prevent aging later down the line. Keep out of the sun, wear SPF, remove your makeup before bed and use hydrating products morning and evening.

Adult Acne

Having acne when you’re a teenager is frustrating enough. But when you’ve paid your dues yet your spotty complexion follows you into your twenties and beyond it can be incredibly overwhelming. While it’s common, acne is a complex issue and some types can be harder to treat than others. If your acne is mild, your first step could be to try a topical treatment containing benzoyl peroxide. More aggressive cases should be seen by your GP who will refer you to a dermatologist. It could be that a hormonal imbalance is to blame, and so all of the topical products in the world won’t help and it will just keep coming back until the cause is treated. Avoiding known acne trigger foods are also something to try, cow’s milk for example can lead to an increase in sebum production and also cause inflammation making breakouts worse. In the meantime, ditch heavy and oil based foundations and cover your acne with a natural mineral foundation instead. This won’t irritate sensitive skin, or blocked pores so is perfect for using on breakouts.

Rosacea

Rosacea is characterized episodes of flushing, where the skin turns red for a short period. However, you can also experience other symptoms as the condition progresses. Stinging sensations, spots, and visible blood vessels are all common. There’s no cure for the condition, but it can be managed, work you your triggers, so you know what to avoid. Spicy foods, stress, caffeine and alcohol are all things people can find cause flare ups, so a few lifestyle changes may be all that’s needed. Use a green based concealer under your foundation, this counteracts redness and balances the complexion, which can effectively hide your red flushes.

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