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Couples Therapy: Choosing to Live Together

Couples Therapy: Choosing to Live Together


There once was a time when young girls and boys made dreams and plans on whom they were going to marry. However, it seems like times have changed, and 20-somethings aren’t running down the alter as fast as their parents did.

Millennials Saying ‘I Don’t’

Today with the divorce ratio so high, studies show those that the now young adults are choosing to live together instead of making their commitment legal. In fact, these same studies are showing couples maintaining a more loving relationship with higher prospects of longevity.

Commitment Without ‘I Do’


Many couples start out ‘talking’. If they really feel a connection, they become ‘exclusive’. But then what, what’s next? For starters, it seems like the true commitment nowadays starts at the point of exclusivity. Choosing to be in a healthy, monogamous relationship is a start in the right direction. However, older generations might not understand the choice of living out of wedlock. They might even think the way Millennials handle being committed to one another is simply a strong mindset to no longer swipe left or right on a dating app. But let’s be honest, it’s so much more than that…

Choosing Who to be Exclusive With

It’s always been important throughout the ages to choose the right partner in life. But today, I think couples aren’t afraid to wait for the right person. Not many women in today’s world fear being an classified as an ‘old maid’. Thanks to Destiny’s Child, woman celebrate their financial independence. Men also have no shame in waiting. Couples dig deeper, looking to one another in how this relationship makes sense on all-levels, not solely based on the feeling of being head-over-heels in love.

Time for You to Move In

Establishing some boundaries in the beginning of living together is important because as time goes on, in any relationship, married or not, boundaries form as well as breakdown. When you have an idea of what one another expects or needs, it’s not a total shock when you find out how your partner really lives 24/7.

Fighting like Your Married


Just because you didn’t cut a cake together doesn’t mean you won’t have rough times. Relationships are meant to have growing pains. Just because a couple isn’t married, doesn’t mean you’re allowed to be self-serving all the time. A relationship is about devotion. Make time for one another, plan dates, divvy up the chores, and give each other safe spaces. These are the things that keep a relationship strong without building resentment. And now I should mention, just because you’re not married doesn’t give you a free pass to cut and run when times get hard. Because guess what, times may get hard. It’s part of life whether you’re single, in a relationship or married. Couples therapy has become very mainstream. Speaking to a counselor, instead of your closest friends could be more beneficial in your relationship.

Marriage Isn’t Off the Table

Just because you choose to not get married today doesn’t mean it never can happen. Plenty of long-term couples start families, and then decide to tie the knot down the line. It is true that it’s easier to ‘Do’ than un-do a marriage. But as long as you and your partner are on the same page about making a vow of commitment without the legal paperwork, building a happy life together, with or without children, is absolutely possible. Remember, fairytales are what you make of them.

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Avoiding Embarrassment When It’s Time For Bed

Avoiding Embarrassment When It’s Time For Bed

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Sleeping with someone for the first time can often be a very daunting event. Having only known the person for a short time, it will be very hard to tell how they will want to go through something like this. Of course, though, the worst part about going to bed with someone for the first time is the prospect of embarrassment. To give you an idea of what goes into this, this post will be exploring some of the work which can be done to ensure that you don’t have to deal with shame when you find yourself swept up by the fun.

Keep It Clean

After a long day of walking around and having fun, most people will be in need of a little bit of a freshen up. This isn’t something you’ll always have time for, though, and this means looking for ways to keep yourself clean without having to take five in the bathroom. Websites like the Scary Mommy blog are great when you’re looking for advice in this area. It can be hard to talk to those around you about personal hygiene, but blogs don’t judge.

Dress To Impress

The clothing you wear says a lot about you, and is one of the earliest impressions someone will have when they meet you. Of course, though, when you’re going to bed, these garments will be coming off, and it will be the ones underneath which you’re most concerned about. There are loads of underwear options which are designed to be both pretty and comfortable, nowadays, and this means that you no longer have to choose.

Be Honest

There will always be aspects of your body which you feel worried about, even if you spend loads of time working on it. By simply being honest about this, you can find yourself in a great position, and the person you are with is likely to feel a whole lot more comfortable, as a result. Of course, there are some things which you won’t want to talk about. If you’re worried about something superficial, though, like hair or scars, you don’t have much to worry about.

Do Your Part

This sort of experience can be embarrassing for anyone; not just you. This means that your partner is also likely to be a little worried about your potential reaction to their body, and this is something worth considering. Even if something takes you by surprise, you should work hard to make as little of it as possible, as this will help to keep both parties happy. There is nothing worse than having someone look shocked or amused when they see you naked.

With all of this in mind, you should be feeling ready to take control of the time you spend with others in bed. Feeling embarrassed should never be a part of spending time with someone else like this, thought a lot of people find themselves experiencing it. If you need more help with this, it could be worth talking to a sex expert, as this field can get very complex.


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This Is How To Embrace Wellness

This Is How To Embrace Wellness

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The way we look at health is changing. It’s very much changing. Because years before, it was easy to think that you had to have a really rigorous workout routine and diet in order to be healthy. It was really that black and white. But now, we’re learning. Because there’s a lot more to being healthy. So much so that it definitely fits way more in the realm of ‘wellness’ than anything else. Because it’s more about your mind and your emotional state and not just your body overall. This is where a lot of people tend to trip up. So instead of putting a lot of pressure on your body, and wanting it to look a certain way, it’s better to look after yourself instead. To help you to do that, let’s take a look at how you can embrace wellness.

1. Drink More Water

One of the best ways to start off, is for you to drink more water. Our bodies are made up of water. So it’s essential that you’re staying hydrated and replenishing your stores. The easiest way for you to do this is to take a bottle around with you and drink two liters.

2. Prioritize Your Sleep

Next up, you need to make sure that you’re sleeping a lot more. Or, more specifically, better. Because your heal when you sleep. So it’s important for you to get yourself into a sleep routine that is going to feel great.

3. Workout In Different Ways

When it comes to working out and what you choose to do here, you should definitely think about trying new things. Because there are so many different benefits to yoga or running or playing sports – you don’t have to just join a gym. Instead, find a workout you love, and stick to that.

4. Put Your Body First

Then, you’re going to want to make sure that you are being a lot kinder to your body. Yes, working out is important, but it’s not the only thing that matters. If you know that you need to do rebab work after meeting with a car accident attorney, book in with a specialist. If you know that you need to just have more rest days for your body to heal, that’s okay. Even monthly massages and daily stretching can help. So just put your body first.

5. Care For Your Mind

And finally, you absolutely need to make sure that you’re looking after your mind. This is something that not everyone will realize is such a big part of your health and wellbeing. But really, it can control everything. If you are in a good place mentally, it’s going to allow you to work a lot more on how you feel in yourself, and the shape of your body. So try to avoid stress. Slow down a little. Allow yourself to relax a lot more. With a healthier and clearer mind, you’re in the best position to live a happier life.


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Stay Well In 2019

Stay Well In 2019

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The year 2019 has finally arrived, and it’s about that time where we reflect on new ways to start the year right in order to better ourselves, stay safe, and of course, be happy. But the big question is, how do we do that? What changes do we need to make in order to achieve all of those things and more?

Well, the best way to figure this out is to break everything down simply, and focus on all of these things individually so you can really look at what positive changes you can make.

Here are some examples to get you onto the right track.

Look after your body

Now is a better time than any to make a lifestyle change that betters your health. Looking after yourself is so important because you have the power to extend your life and make it more enjoyable just by what choices you make. The food you eat is essentially your driving force, so you want to make sure that you’re putting good things into your body that you require for it to work and function properly. Fruit, veggies, vitamins, minerals, and all the other good stuff is a must. This doesn’t mean that you can’t have your favourite naughty snacks once in a while, it just means have them in moderation. Pair that up with regular exercise to keep your heart pumping and your blood flowing, and you will feel great.

Cover yourself

We all know that accidents can happen when we least expect, and when they do come about it can be a very difficult time and make you feel as if you have absolutely no control. And for the most part, that’s because there are in fact many things in life that we, unfortunately, have no control over, but because of this, you should ensure you focus on the things that you can. So if for example, you find yourself in a car accident that wasn’t your fault, and you’ve been hurt as a result, and your vehicle has been damaged – don’t sit around feeling sorry for yourself – do something about it. These car accident lawyers are exactly who you need on your side to fight in your corner and get you all the compensation and care that you so rightly deserve.

Surround yourself with positivity

There is no better way to uplift your spirit and better your life, than by making sure you spend your time surrounded by positivity. This can mean a number of things, from the people you hang around with, to the job that you’re doing. If you have a career that brings you down and makes you dread waking up in the morning, then it’s time to find something else. Yes, money will always be an important factor, but happiness is something that you can’t live without otherwise there’s just no point to anything. So no matter how hard a decision may be, if you know deep down it isn’t right for you – change it.


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