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Relationship on the Rocks: Should You Stay or Should You Go?

Relationship on the Rocks: Should You Stay or Should You Go?

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Love is wonderful, but it’s not always easy. Relationships can be hard work, if you’re struggling with yours, here are three questions to ask yourself before throwing in the towel.

Has the argument/ issue only just cropped up?

If the problem in the relationship is new, then instead of throwing in the towel and running for the hills- give yourself some time. Think about things from your partners perspective, have some space if you need it and then come together and talk. Even if it feels serious at the time, it could well be something that you’re able to resolve together. The only exceptions here are infidelity and abuse, if the issue involves either of these then you’re best bet is almost always to leave. But many other problems can be worked out, and you can go on to be happy together again. If the argument is ongoing, and seems to be one of the main topics you bicker and row about then this can be a sign that you’re unable to get past it and might be a cue to speak to divorce lawyers. Ongoing arguments about the same things over and over is the signal of an unhealthy relationship as it shows you’re not able to resolve your problems, meaning they’ll keep on coming back around. 

Do you need to work on yourself?

In relationships, it’s easy to blame the other person when things start going wrong or arguments occur. But take a step back and think objectively. Are there things you’re doing which make the situation worse? Maybe you’re controlling and jealous without even realising, and your partners outbursts are actually due to frustration and retaliation. Many of us paint ourselves as the victim in relationships and certain situations when it’s not always the case. Be mature enough to own up to your behaviour and figure out what you could be doing wrong. In many cases, issues in relationships are a result of both of your actions and not just one. It’s not to say you should blame yourself or make excuses for your partner’s bad behaviour- but do acknowledge if you have a part to play. Once you’re aware of this you’re able to take steps to stop and perhaps have a much happier relationship.

Have you considered therapy?

Relationships can get really messy, when you love your partner and a lot has gone on in the past and your feelings are all over the place it can be hard to communicate effectively. For this reason it’s well worth visiting a relationship therapist before you decide to call it quits. Sometimes, just being able to communicate your message in an environment where your partner has to listen to you, and vice versa is all you need. A therapist can give you tips on how to resolve arguments and speak to each other more clearly too to avoid future issues. 

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10 Factors For Weight Loss

10 Factors For Weight Loss

If the holidays have left you feeling out of sorts, then you might be considering a little weight loss. But before you go diving into the next fad diet or a mad exercise plan, it’s worth thinking about a few of the factors that affect our weight and body shape. You might be surprised to learn that it goes far beyond a little indulgent eating during the holiday period! In fact, there are so many determining factors when it comes to our body shape, that you might not realise the extent of their collective influence. Here are just 10 of the factors affecting weight loss success. How many of them affect you?

 

  1. Motivation

There is a lot of emphases placed on the willpower required to see through a tough diet and exercise program. As you’ll see, a lack of motivation to change at least one thing might hinder you. But if that’s not the reason for weight gain in the first place, is it fair to beat yourself up about it?

 

Inspiration and motivation are closely connected. We all need a reason to make positive changes in our lives. But perhaps the reason shouldn’t be so much about body image as feeling healthy and energized?

 

  1. Job

Lots of us have jobs that wear the body and the mind down! That, for the most part, can’t be helped. However, if your job is making you unhappy, stressed, or even depressed, it’s important you take action. Discreetly searching for another company to work for is one option. Asking for a role change with your current employer is another. But you might not need to make such drastic changes.

 

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Think about your break times and lunchtimes. Are you really making the most of this downtime? Or are you like millions of other workers and still sitting at your desk tackling your workload? You must take breaks to maintain good mental and physical health. We’re not built for sitting down for very long. Office jobs are very taxing on the body. Give yourself the break you deserve.

 

  1. Diet

It’s true that larger than necessary portions can contribute to obesity. And it’s true that eating foods that have been processed to contain extra sugar and fat can lead to excess calorie consumption. It is worth being mindful of what you’re putting in your body. This can include drinks too.

 

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Dieting leaves us hungry, empty, lethargic and foggy minded. This is partly because we often have to starve our poor brains of the much-needed glucose it uses for energy. You can add products like KetoMCT to help give your brain a boost. It is thought it can stop you feeling hungry too. Most importantly, it might be able to give you what you need to continue with that rigorous exercise plan you’ve signed up for!

 

  1. Exercise

You don’t have to pick the latest celebrity-endorsed exercise program to be moving enough. Sometimes small and simple changes are best. The trouble with cutting calories and exercising hard at the same time is that we quickly run out of steam. Building up slowly is often the best way, but few diet and exercise programs approach weight loss this way. We’re all different and we lead different lifestyles. Give yourself a chance to make little changes in your own time. Maybe a fifteen minute walk each lunchtime? What about joining a class with a friend?

 

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  1. Sleep

Sleeping is something few of us manage to get right. Without a full night of good quality sleep, you might find your mental function is impaired. This fogginess leaves us reaching for the sugary snacks to give us a boost! There is little you can do when you’ve had a bad night but ride the next day out. However, you can reduce the occasions that sleep is deprived like this. Stick to a strict bedtime routine. Make sure your room and bed are right for quality sleep. Avoid caffeine in the evenings. And jot down those pesky thoughts that pop into the mind as you lay in the dark.

 

  1. Genes

There is nothing we can do about the genes we inherit. They can determine the size and shape of your body, as well as hair color, some character traits and hereditary illnesses. However, making small adjustments to your food choices can help you maintain a healthy weight. As for your body shape? It’s important to love the body you’re in, regardless of the size and shape it might be. Acceptance is often key.

 

  1. Lifestyle Choices

If you choose to live an active lifestyle, chances are you won’t need to worry much about your weight. If your lifestyle is busy and work-based, you might struggle to find that balance to take care of your body health. A quick check on the number of hours you’re working, and the number of hours you’re inactive can help you figure out if your lifestyle is as balanced as it could be.

 

  1. Energy Levels

Some people are naturally lower in energy than others. There are plenty of things that might give you that boost, but sometimes it’s worth checking in with your doctor. Sometimes a metabolic problem might exist. Your thyroid gland might not be working as effectively as it should be. Or maybe you have an illness that simply requires medication management.

 

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It’s also worth checking you have adequate iron and B vitamins in your diet. These can play a big part in your overall feeling of well-being too. Add a little gentle exercise to your daily activities, and you might be feeling much more energetic overall.

 

  1. Relationships

Unhealthy relationships can get us down. They weigh on our mind and lead us to seek comfort food! Get out of any relationship that doesn’t make you feel more like you.

 

  1. Hormones and Health Issues

It’s true that hormone levels change during our lives. A dip in some hormone levels can contribute to weight gain. Others can cause more serious health issues. Check in with your doctor if you’re concerned.

 

As you can see, there are many factors that affect our weight and will affect our ability to slim down if required. No wonder weight loss is so hard! But knowing a little more about what causes the problems in the first place might help a little.

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