The Importance Of Accepting Yourself Exactly As You Are
You are you. Nothing is going to change that. No matter how hard you try, no matter what you do, you are always going to be yourself. You can hide it, and you can pretend that you’re not, but that still doesn’t really change anything. The best thing that you can do for yourself is to simply accept yourself exactly as you are. In this article, we’re going to be looking at some advice that might help, so keep reading if you would like to find out more.
The first thing that we want to say is that if you do not accept yourself as you are, why would anyone else? Of course, there are people who are extremely tolerant out there and will accept anyone no matter what. But what we mean is that nobody is ever going to fully accept you as someone special until you do it yourself. We understand that it can be extremely difficult to do, especially if you feel as though you are someone who is not going to be widely accepted by society because of who you are. Try not to worry about anyone else at this point, and just focus on accepting yourself fully and wholly.
Loving Yourself Will Make You Happy
Loving yourself is going to make you happier than the love of any other person. You might think that this is just a load of words that mean nothing and we have no idea what we’re talking about, but you’re wrong. Loving yourself is extremely hard to do in a society that benefits from the fact that you don’t, but you need to do it anyway. If your sexuality is what you are finding hard to accept, then deal with it slowly. We’re not saying that you have to wear the bisexual flag with you wherever you go to announce it to everyone, but you also shouldn’t hide it. When you feel shame about something, people will know. Learn to love yourself, it’s the kindest thing that you could do for yourself.
It Doesn’t Matter About Anyone But You
Finally, it doesn’t matter what anyone thinks about anything other than what you think. If you are happy with who you are, then this is what matters. Don’t worry about people with small minds not accepting you, because the right people will. The people that you need in your life will, the people who belong in your life will. Everyone has something about them that there are people in the world who won’t accept, but it does not matter and the sooner that you understand this, the better off you are going to be.
We hope that you have found this article helpful, and now see some of the reasons that accepting yourself exactly as you are is extremely important. You are who you are, and who you are is absolutely wonderful. You should never dull your sparkle or pretend to be anything less than yourself because that is a huge waste of your time. We wish you the very best of luck, and hope that you can start on the road to acceptance sooner rather than later.
However, no one deserves to live in fear, and so here are some tips for you to get your confidence back after a disaster.
Lightning Doesn’t Strike Twice
If it happens once, all the following experiences will wonder if it is going to happen again, and this can be debilitating. It can affect your social life, your professional life, and even your everyday life.
You can remind yourself that lightning doesn’t strike twice, especially in the same location. This is important to remember after being mugged or attacked. You can also use your past experiences to prepare yourself better. You may have been caught off-guard before, but now you know what could happen, it’s easier to take precautions to reduce the chance of it happening again.
Have Someone With You
Taking someone with you while you are still struggling with when you need to go somewhere will help you feel safer and more confident. Someone familiar will always provide the mental safety net that you need to overcome any issue, and any decent friend will be happy to do so.
It can be challenging to face locations that bring back bad memories all by yourself and having a friend or family member with you is vital for ensuring you can manage these early experiences much more comfortably. Hopefully, you will come to handle being out by yourself, but it’s okay to need some assistance at first.
Look Your Best
If you’ve suffered an injury following an accident or even an attack, you may not look your best, and this can affect your confidence and mental wellbeing. To overcome this, think about fixing these issues, such as looking at cosmetic dentistry to repair broken or damaged teeth, or wearing makeup to cover black eyes.
In a perfect world, you wouldn’t need to do this, but looking your best can help improve how you feel about the disaster. If you’re someone who regularly holds meetings or teaches classes, it can reduce the number of questions regarding your appearance, making things more comfortable for you.
Sometimes, though, your confidence cannot come from your appearance, other people, or constant reassurance. Instead, you can consider how grateful you are that the disaster was not more severe.
From sudden natural disasters or crimes that can turn fatally violent, much worse happens every day. While it’s perfectly understandable to feel bad about what happened, you are also lucky where others are not.
Striding Confidently Through Life
It can be challenging to overcome negative feelings following an accident, especially if you’ve never had anything of the sort happen to you before. However, by reminding yourself that it’s unlikely to happen again and having an excellent support network, you will soon forget all about it, and you can stride confidently through life just as you did before.
We take time out of our daily lives to appreciate and show love to others that impact our lives. But do we take time out to show ourselves love?
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1. Do Something You’ve Always Wanted to Do
Think about it, we all have something that has been put on the back-burner. Maybe it’s time to make it a priority.
2. STOP Criticizing Yourself – And Start Saying Affirmations Instead
Daily mantas: Recite something to remind yourself that you are amazing. You probably have a plethora of talents. But if you can’t figure any of them out to start off with, try these simple mantras: I am good enough! I am worthy! I am awesome! I’m a good… (fill-in the blank) mom, …partner, …spouse, …friend!
3. Schedule Rest and Relaxation
Yep! You deserve it!
4. Invest in Building Quality Relationships
You’ve heard the phrase, you become what you surround yourself with… aim for quality, not quantity.
5. Move Your Body
If we stay still moss might grow. Get up, get moving. Start out small with a walk around your house or climb those stairs. But up endurance to achieve a good daily routine.
6. Get Crystal Clear On Your Goals
We all have dreams: Some big; Some small. Some dreams are etched in our hearts, while some are just pipe dreams. Get serious on what goals you want and need to accomplish and get started, Remember, grass is green where you water and feed it. Focus.
Be sure to find great ways to show appreciation to yourself on a daily basis. Even, if it something you already do like, washing your face or getting that extra shot of expresso… Tell yourself, you do this because you love and care about yourself. Self love and appreciation leads to a greater love and appreciation for others.
My Take on How the Marvelous Mrs. Maisel Reveals Why Divorce is so Prevalent Today (Spoilers Season 3)
Season 4 of The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel has been confirmed! This however, is my personal take on Midge continuing to make poor decisions on her romantic life. *WARNING: There are spoilers of season 3 ahead.
We all love Midge Maisel. She’s smart, pretty and
witty as hell. However, no hat in the world can hide the fact that her love
life is a mess. She’s got her choice in fine looking men, of course. But her
decisions showcase what a lot of us do wrong today.
First, lets take a look at the ex-husband, Joel Maisel…
Joel is a hardworking man who steps up to take care of his kids. Kudos, Joel! There should be more of that in the world. But when we take a deeper look into Joel’s ability to love, that’s when things get little wonky. Joel was married to Midge, living the American Dream: A beautiful family, a fabulous apartment in the societies of NYC and he had an executive job. He also had a supporting wife, who not only encouraged him to proceed with his adoring hobby for comedy, but also provided briskets to make sure he got good time slots.
However, poor Joel is still missing something.
There’s a hole in him he can’t explain, so it must be Midget’s fault he doesn’t feel complete—We’ve all seen Jerry McGuire, right? So, like most humans, who are feeling worthless and choose to blame others for their lack of self-worth, Joel decides an affair with his secretary, Penny, will fill that void.
Spoiler alert, after leaving his family for Penny, Joel still has a hole and wants Midge back.
Joel is like so many people. He refuses to look inward
to discover what’s really missing. So, until he does that, Joel will continue
to be the guy who is always missing the ‘one who got away’. Don’t believe what
I’m saying? Look at my quick cliff notes of Season 3…
has a box of unclaimed lipstick next to his bed.
pines over missing Midge, even when he meets Mei.
starts dating Mei, but flies off to Vegas to be with his ‘true love’, Midge.
marries Midge again while dating Mei. The next morning, he tells Midge they’re
going to have to get a divorce because he’s got a girlfriend.
home, he and Mei break up, to where he is now free to be with his ‘wife’, his
true love, Midge. But instead, he tells Midge he and the kids can’t come to
Miami for the weekend. Then, Joel proceeds to walk downstairs into the
underground casino and give an awkward confession on how much he cares about Mei.
Yes, just like Susie said to Joel in Season 3, Joel will
always love Midge and will want to make sure she is taken care of. That is
undoubtedly true. He wants to make sure she and his kids don’t struggle in
life. But by the end of the season, Joel is practically cheating on both Midge
and Mei, if we’re getting technical.
Moral: It’s not you; it’s Joel.
If I had a PhD, I could totally get away with blaming
his behavior on something that happened to him as a child. I could hold
accountable Joel’s mother, Shirley, and her erratic behavior or negligent trust
issues, but since I’m not, I’ll just leave diagnosis to the professionals.
Here’s what we do know, Midge is Joel’s forever ‘one that got away’, but until
he can love himself, he has no business trying to be in a committed
Next, we will take a look at Lenny Bruce…
The sexual tension is high when it comes to Midge and that man. We’ve all been there. That’s why we all love Lenny so much. A sexy bad-boy type that draws you in and can make chemical reactions happen within your body. What’s completely unique and unusual about this type of guy is the fact that they can look unkept, un-showered and underachieving and still have this magnetic pull on you, …and half the population.
1. They have the talent to be abrasive, without being too cold.
2. They have enough sense to make you feel wanted for the night, but don’t get any other ideas, please.
3. They have perfected ‘love’em and leave’.
But every once in a blue moon… these primal creatures of habit, fall in love. Hence, Lenny Bruce appears to have fallen head over heels for our dear, Midge. And why shouldn’t he? She bailed him out of jail. She held his hand, twice, when he was filming those TV shows. Midge makes Lenny a better person. But I ask this question… what does Lenny do for Midge?
After seeing the responses trend on Twitter for Midge and Lenny to become the ‘it’ couple, I realized, so many hopeless romantics still believe they can be ‘the one to change him’. Or in this case, Midge can change Lenny.
Spoiler Alert: She can’t change him.
Only Lenny can change himself. Lenny is an inspiration to Midge in the sense of comedy. But here’s the hard truth… That’s probably it. What else can Lenny offer Midge but a good time and heartbreak? I may be speculating, but Lenny, also like Joel, is missing self-worth. He drinks like a fish, enjoys getting arrested and has no intentions of the white picket fence lifestyle. Plus, he hasn’t given Midge any other reasons to question that.
The moral: Lenny is a great guy; people like this usually are.
But it’s important for Midge to know herself. She likes expensive things and needs to be kept in a certain lifestyle. Expecting Lenny to be willing and able to keep up with her and her expectations is probably unfair of her. Lenny’s a one-of-a-kind, friend. He’s the type of guy that you will love completely from a distance, and perhaps, in a parallel universe, you could have possibly been together.
But if you look at it face value, it’s probably better to love from afar than to hate up close. Opposites do attract, but too opposite can cause division. I love Lenny. I know a handful of Lenny’s. But I will love them from where I stand because I know myself and know, maybe from experience, that I’m not the one who’s going to be able to change them.
And finally, Benjamin…
Every mother’s favorite man for their daughter to be with. But like most daughters, Midge doesn’t want him. Why? He’s good-looking, has no money issues and has a really great job. Well, this is where I suggest Midge needs to take a look at herself—Not because Benjamin looks good on paper, or because her parents liked him, but because she did.
And let’s not forget, Benjamin supported Midge with her career. He believes she’s amazing at what she does. He thinks she’s the funniest woman on earth. Besides Susie, Benjamin was one of her biggest fans. He didn’t mind being material for her comedy. But instead of talking to him about her worries of future resentment, Midge leaves him without the courtesy of a face to face conversation—Bad job, Midge.
As humans, things that are good for us, scare the living crap out of us. People are always waiting for the other shoe to drop. What if you found out, there is no shoe?
Spoiler alert: You’ve been worried about things, this whole time, and there was never a shoe that could possibly drop to begin with.
Yes, we all deserve better than what we’ve been aiming for when it comes to matters of the heart. Whether you’ve been married to your partner for decades or you’re still swiping to find your soulmate, this pertains to all of us. Like Benjamin, we deserve that person who will have the conversations with us, instead of predicting they already know how the conversation will go. We also deserve to be thatperson for someone else, as well—Some of us forget to look in the mirror sometimes when picking out other’s faults.
The lifelong question of ‘Does life imitate art or does art imitate life’
This question swirls in everyone’s mind, from time to time. But these hidden, or not so hidden, love-life issues showcased in the Marvelous Mrs. Maisel hit very close to the real factors that cause an increased number of divorces today. It’s not about her own personal women’s movement, or the climb to success and having to choose one thing or another… It’s about knowing who you are, having self-worth, having self-love, giving love, receiving love and communication.
Sure. It’s all very hard to do at first. If it were easy, everyone would be doing it. And there would be no one with these impossible love-life issues. The only thing we can do as humans is keep trying to better ourselvesevery day. Practice makes perfect. So, why not? Go buy a hat or invest in some drop-less shoes. But while you’re doing that, take a look inside yourself and see what needs your attention. You can certainly do that while you wait for the next season of Mrs. Maisel.
As adults, most of us are good at putting others first- we care for our kids, our parents/ grandparents and our partner. We’re always there to provide a shoulder to cry on for our friends and give them advice, but when it comes to ourselves we can be at the bottom of our own priority lists. Many of us can actually feel bad or guilty when we invest time or money into ourselves, but it shouldn’t be the case. Always remember that you’re important to, and you deserve to be happy. Investing into yourself shouldn’t be seen as selfish, but necessary. Here are a few of the ways you can go about it.
Learn to drive
Research shows that fewer millennials tend to drive than generations before them, and when they do, they get their licenses much later. There are lots of reasons for this, from busy cities not being car friendly to the accessibility of lift apps like Uber and more reliable public transport. However, being able to drive is still a really useful skill to have. If you want to move away later in life you won’t be able to rely on the public transport system as heavily. Being able to drive can also improve your job prospects. Even if you don’t plan on purchasing and driving a car right now, taking your lessons and getting your license means you’re able to in the future if you need to. See learning to drive as an investment in yourself, it’s a useful life skill which could come in really handy.
Focus on health
There’s only one you; you only have one body so it’s important to take care of it as best you can. Your health is an investment, buy good quality food that’s going to nourish you and skip out on the cheap, convenient rubbish. You don’t have to have a gym membership to get fit, but if you find that having one encourages you to workout then don’t feel bad about spending the money on it. Spending any kind of time or money on your health is never going to be a bad thing. Eating well doesn’t have to be difficult, and these days it’s easy to fit it around your everyday life. From mail order, high quality foods delivered to your door (check out this omaha steaks review as an example) to opting for a healthy restaurant or a healthy dish at a restaurant if you go out. These days, most places cater for those looking to eat less fat or calories, so it doesn’t mean you need to give up going out and eating with friends.
Improve your smile
Your smile is so important; it’s how you communicate with the world and is closely linked with your self esteem. If you’re insecure about your teeth, you can find that you hold back, you cover your mouth with your hands or try to avoid smiling instead of just being in the moment with others. If you don’t like the way your teeth look, consider going to a dentist and seeing what they can do- veneers, teeth whitening and braces are amongst the treatments you can have. Taking care of your newly fixed up teeth is important too. learn about flossing and the importance of regular brushing. Even missing out on brushing your teeth a couple of times can be enough for cavities to start or stains to develop so it’s important to be consistent.
Most of us couldn’t wait to leave school and get out into the big wide world, but later on as adults we can appreciate how incredible education is. It opens your mind and opens doors in your career, taking on more education is a smart move regardless of what path you’re on in life.
Finally, travel is more than just a luxury. It’s great for mental health and personal development, there’s nothing quite like experiencing new things around different cultures in different climates and completely different ways of life that makes you question your own. Travel gives you perspective, builds memories and gives you stories to tell. If you have the time and money, always grab the opportunity with both hands. You don’t always need a huge budget- road trips, backpacking and camping are all cheap and cheerful and allow you to go to new places without spending a fortune on hotels.
Life is full of little tasks being thrown your way and questions that need answering. There’s never a time where you can really sit back and be completely absent-minded as there’s always a stumbling block in the way. While that may sound like a pesky and negative thing, we need these kinds of challenges in order to stimulate our brains – we need to feel as though we have a purpose in life.
We’re always striving to become better versions of ourselves – that’s a fact. We cannot simply sit and be content with the same thing over and over again. Once we stand idle, we invariably start heading backward, so we constantly need to evolve parts of our life. It’s always the case that, when we improve things on a personal level, everything else becomes a lot better. What kind of things can we work on that are close to home, though? What kind of factors will improve our lives? Well, in truth, there are so many different things you can do – everybody’s different, and we all value things differently. Here are five examples for you right now, however:
As we said before, improving things that are close to you will make everything else so much better. Where better to start than your actual home? Now, if you live in a pretty neat and tidy abode at the moment, then you’ll probably be a content individual when it comes to the rest of your life. If things are a little cluttered, then you might want to fix that up a little. When you clean up something so dear to you, your mind then becomes clearer, too.
Your Mental State
This is a little more complicated because so many different aspects go into your mental state, but if you can work on that, then your life will improve tenfold. Obviously, just saying you’ll improve your mental state and mindset is easy; actually doing it is a completely different kettle of fish. The brain is complicated, and you can’t just stop things like anxiety and depression. If you practice different exercises, however, you can limit any issues upstairs.
A person’s car is very dear to them. They’re not just hunks of metal that go at high speeds; they represent a person and their personality. Making sure you have a presentable car will mean you’ll get a boost in confidence and self-esteem. Sure, it’s not the be-all and end-all in life, but it has a significant impact on your life. Adding something like an alpine pdx v9 5 channel, new rims, or an entirely new interior will improve the look and feel of the entire motor – ensuring your overall look and feel will get a boost, too.
Physique And Fitness
Physical exercise and the fitness world isn’t everyone’s cup of tea, but once a person becomes more active, their life improves massively. Their self-confidence rises due to their new-found physicality and aptitude. Their deeper mental health also improves as the brain is constantly releasing endorphins during and after workouts.
2020 is on its way, and is actually almost here. This can make anyone excited and also apprehensive as to what the next ten years might hold. It’s anyone’s guess. When we see how technology, culture and many other interesting elements of life have developed in ten years, anyone who can accurately predict what will happen in another ten will only be giving their best guess, despite what they say.
However, as always, worrying about the future is often left second to caring about the present. This means that becoming the new you before or as the new decade starts can help you segment yourself into productive new habits with this decade change as a milestone. It may seem overly optimistic, but there’s no reason as to why you should consider it so.
All you may need is an encouraging element of support and also someone gently whispering that yes, you can achieve this. With that said, please consider our advice to this end, as we hope to fulfil this role for you:
Stop Asking For Permission To Be You
We can often think that simply being ourselves is the greatest sin we can commit. Perhaps you like watching anime, or playing online games, or reading young adult fiction despite being 30 years old. Perhaps you enjoy baking in an apron as a 45-year-old buff security guard. Perhaps you enjoy learning full-contact MMA despite being a pleasant, middle-aged schoolteacher. Have we listed anything out of the ordinary here? Perhaps. Is that something to be ashamed of? Never. Stop asking for permission to be you. To use a cliched but always relevant phrase – the people who matter don’t mind, and the people who mind don’t matter.
Resolve Your Weights
Weights can hold all of us down. For some, it might be guilt for something experienced years ago. For others, it might be that they have been struggling with food addiction, or are falling back into terrible habits. It’s never as easy as clicking your fingers and being rid of the problem weighing you down, but the resolution process means taking a careful approach and doing your best to overcome the harmful issues you are facing. This means taking that first step, be it utilizing excellent substance abuse treatment, or even admitting that you need to speak to someone, allows you to find great inner strength and peace knowing you are making progress.
Don’t Force ‘You’
When we think of who we want to be, it’s easy to force ourselves into a singular version of who we think we are. But the truth is, you’re not that. You cannot force who you are. Moulding yourself into who you become is achieved through following what you are passionate about, through trying to live up to your highest ideals such as kindness or good faith. If you can approximate these measures, you feel much more alive than you have done prior. Because instead of living as an artificial version of you – you’re actually you.
With these tips, we hope you can find yourself, because you have and will always be enough.
Life isn’t easy, that much is true. And it becomes even more difficult once we have a family to look after. Then, we need to make sure that everyone in our little clan is doing well and hitting all the milestones right on time. But of course, we don’t just need to settle for surviving as a family. We should thrive! And if you put a few crucial pieces in place, that’s just what your family will be doing. Below, we take a look at a few tried and tested ways you can ensure your family life hits new heights.
It’s normal that all begin to live on autopilot a little after a while. We’re in the routine of going to work, looking after the children, cleaning the house, and so on. When we’re so busy, it makes sense that we can’t always be as present as we’d like. It is worthwhile finding ways to live with more purpose, however. You’ll find that if you’re proactive with your family, then it’s easier to overcome the humdrum of the routine. Meditation can be an excellent method for staying focused and avoiding autopilot life.
Entertainment and Excitement
We all have responsibilities in life, but they shouldn’t be what life’s all about. We’re here to have fun and enjoy things! As such, one way you can ensure that your family is thriving is to make sure there’s plenty of excitement and entertainment in your life. Rather than just sitting around on a rainy Saturday, you could get crafty, or perform a play, or anything else that’ll get the creative juices flowing. Life is hard, sure, but there should always be time for having fun as a family: it’s those things that’ll form the basis of a happy childhood for your kids.
The Basics of Life
If the individual members of your family are all good on a personal life, then the whole family will be thriving. While it’s important to focus on the children’s long-term ambitions and dreams, it’s the fundamentals that should be given top billing on the priorities list. It’s things like their health, education, and overall fitness that’ll play the biggest role in determining their prospects. As such, you’ll want to learn how to prepare healthy meals for the family, find a trustworthy family doctor, and play an active role when it comes to their schooling. If the essentials in life are managed well, but it’ll be much easier for everyone to be at their best. And of course, this includes you: you’ll be in a much better position to provide for your loved ones if you’re feeling at your best on a personal level.
Finally, it’s worthwhile setting up a system that leads to robust organization. There are too many facets of family life just to keep them in your head. By developing a routine and managing all the duties with the help of communal calendars and so on, you can make sure that everyone’s where they need to be at the right time.
It can be hard to love your body and all its unique features when the media is often presenting one idealistic view of beauty. The internet age has sparked a movement of self love but with it we have more access than ever to airbrushed images of supermodels and influencers that present an unrealistic idea of what we should look like. If you’ve found yourself looking in the mirror and not feeling any love towards the person looking back at you then before you start googling ‘plastic surgeon free consultation near me’ try these four ways to boost your body confidence and get back to loving the skin you’re in.
1. Banish negativity and welcome positivity
Our mental state is so easily impacted by the things we surround ourselves with and body confidence is no different. Remove negative people or things from your life, unfollow Instagram accounts that make you feel bad and surround yourself with body confident influencers, people who champion natural beauty and online material that helps to bring you up rather than put you down. A few great body positive accounts to follow include @effyourbeautystandards, @roseybeeme and @honorcurves but try to find someone you can relate too.
2. Adopt a mantra
As mentioned above, we have the ability to dramatically influence our own state of mind by thinking positive thoughts. Another great way to introduce positivity into our lives is to adopt a mantra. A mantra is a group of words or a simple phrase that is repeated over and over again; such as, “I am secure in myself. I do not compare myself to others.” or “I am a healthy, happy, positive person.”. A mantra can be anything you want it to be, and you can personalize one to suit you. If you want a few to get you started then check out this link.
3. Study yourself and name the positives
You may dislike your nose or perhaps you hate the look of your stretch marks, but when was the last time you stood in the mirror, bared all to the world, and really studied yourself? Find some time when you are alone and look at yourself from head to toe, strike a pose, say aloud all the things you like about yourself. Be proud of the skin you are in. Get used to your naked body and see the beauty within yourself, learn to love your imperfections, they are what make you, you.
4. Power dress
If all else fails go the extra mile and adorn your beautiful body with all of the things that make you feel special. This could be your favourite pair of lacy underwear, or perhaps some bold statement jewelry, or maybe you have a pair of jeans that truly accentuate how fantastic your legs are. Whatever it is, our clothes and body image can have a big impact on our self confidence. If you aren’t in love with the skin you’re in then fake it until you make it and dress yourself with confidence.
In life, it is incredibly easy to take yourself too seriously. You may not think that you do, but the next time someone insults you, see how you react. Even if the insult is obviously silly or exaggerated, or coming from someone whose opinion you likely care little about, you will often take the insult and think about it. Is it correct? What if they are right? Why do they think like this? All of this can run through your mind, when in reality, that person may just wish to cause the most harm possible.
Of course, many of us learn how to deal with scenarios like that in our youth. However, that doesn’t mean we take ourselves any less seriously as time progresses. In fact, certain life scenarios, such as getting promoted at work, being complimented, or perhaps having faith in our self-confidence can lead us to take ourselves and our egos completely seriously.
So in either direction then, positive or negative, it’s common to see just how taking yourself seriously can be a bad idea. We would like to volunteer the following advice to suggest why taking yourself sincerely, not seriously, could be your best option:
You Understand Your Development
Seriousness and sincerity are completely different things, although they are parallel to one another. When you are serious about yourself, for example, you are much more likely to be critical of yourself. Make a mistake, such as telling a joke that lands poorly at a party, and you’ll likely start identifying just if you had a sense of humor in the first place, or why you are such a social failure. Sincerity shows that you had good intentions when you made the joke, and it’s not your fault if others didn’t respond to it.
It’s hardly something anyone will remember one hour from then. In other words, sincerity allows you to understand that you are a fallible being and can make mistakes, but that if your intentions are good, you are always learning and developing. In seriousness, there is no wriggle room. In sincerity, wiggle room is celebrated. It can help you stop pathologizing your progression through life, and instead lets you consider it as you move forward and try to better your approach.
Sincerity Has Room For Fun
Being serious is always trying to adapt yourself to the latest fashion trends, trying to fit in and understanding that your niche will never amount to anything without the latest fashion wisdom as part of its understanding. However, sincerity opens up room for fun with fashion, pure creativity, and also lets you make a fool of yourself. It allows you to purchase trendy leggings as part of a creative outfit idea, with no real event or extra plan to wear them by a specific date. In other words, it allows you to enjoy yourself. Additionally, it can help you make the most of a situation you were not expecting.
For example, in the serious mindset, purchasing a formal shirt too big for your body might be a mistake that should have been prepared for or considered when opting for a new retailer. With sincerity, you might use that oversized shirt as part of another outfit, or return it without anything to worry about. If you have humor and fun as part of your life, sincerity will help you open up to yourself in the best possible means.
Sincerity Is More Authentic
Let us say that we are trying to comfort someone who is experiencing the loss of a relative. Being serious about this matter must make you think that you need to comfort them in exactly the same manner prescribed by that advice column you read that morning. That you must never smile, must never say anything out of turn, or outstay your welcome even for a second. It’s so filled with personal rules and regulations that you’re not actually focusing on the person, you’re just focusing on how best to move though the situation despite your good intentions.
However, sincerity is there. It listens. It lets you crack an off-timed joke that is received with a small smile from the person you are comforting, or it allows you to talk about the subject without fear of being insensitive to an overdramatic degree. In other words, it is more authentic, and it allows you to connect with the person more thoroughly.
With this advice, you are certain to take yourself sincerely and not seriously. Watch yourself as you embody either one of these. If you pay attention, you will learn just how much of your life is dictated by one of these two approaches. We’d recommend you choose the healthiest options to the extent that you can.