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How To Adopt A Positive And Optimistic Way Of Living

How To Adopt A Positive And Optimistic Way Of Living

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If you want to live a good, happy life, then your mindset has to be geared in a specific way. You simply will not get what you want out of this life if you actively look for faults and think about what can go wrong. If you are accepting of yourself and know that you’re special, then you’re going to enjoy the life in front of you. If you feel as though you’re full of flaws and there are problems around every corner, life is going to be a struggle. 

Becoming a positive person might seem a little alien if you’ve never really been that way inclined before. It’s a habit that you can get into, however. It’s just a case of training the brain and doing a few of the same things over and over again. Here are some things you can do to get everything moving: 

Surround Yourself With People Who Are Good For You

In this life, there will be people who bring you down and people who lift you up – you’re going to want to hang around with people who do the latter. It’s amazing how our brains are seriously influenced by what others think and how others behave. If you’re around miserable people with no ambition, then the likelihood is that you’ll also be that way inclined. 

Surround Yourself With Positive Content

The same goes for the kinds of content you surround yourself with. We’re talking about TV shows, films, podcasts, and even pictures on your wall. If you take in things that suggest life is miserable and that everything is against you, then you’re going to lose in this world. A positive mind comes from positive surroundings – even when you lose, you feel as though you won at something if you have positive, happy content. Your mind is, again, supremely impressionable. You have to keep telling yourself you’re great.

Take Negatives And Flip Them Around 

You will be handed some pretty bad hands in life. Things aren’t going to go amazingly all of the time and you will be crushed at some point because that’s how life goes. You can either sit around and be miserable or you can try to find the good things that came from it. Even if you have issues with, say, your eyes – you can ignore it and pretend like the world is against you, or you could look for the likes of chronic uveitis treatments and find a genuine solution. Life is all about dealing with what you’re given.

Understand That You Probably Won’t Get Another Shot

Life is not forever and you’re not going to get another go at this. Do what you can to have fun and make sure you don’t waste what you have. 

Keep Yourself Active

If you keep yourself active and fit, you’re going to give yourself a physical AND mental boost. Your mental boost comes from the chemicals that your brain lets out. In terms of motivation to even get this going, we all know it can be quite difficult. The good thing is that it’s all about habits – once you start, you’ll likely keep it up.

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Tuning In: 3 Ways To Pay Attention to Our Bodies

Tuning In: 3 Ways To Pay Attention to Our Bodies

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Because there’s a wide variety of information out there, we can get sidetracked into finding the best possible solution for our health, but without ignoring the one true benchmark: ourselves. We can blame our bodies as we get older, because we are not strong enough, thin enough, or just not good enough. But you have to remember that your body is speaking to you, and you just need to know how to listen to it. From the moment we’re born we are told what to eat and when to eat it. With regards to our health and our happiness, we stop paying attention to ourselves and what everybody else thinks we should do. But this means that we need to get back in tune with our bodies. How can you start listening to your body? 

Understand What Your Body Needs Right Now

The most important thing to our health and happiness is to stay in the present moment, which is not easy, but we need to take those opportunities to sit and reflect, and they can only take a few seconds. For example, if you feel anxious, you can take a few deep breaths, if you’re thirsty, you can drink some water, and if you have problems with your teeth, you should visit a dental care provider. It’s very important to understand what we need right at the moment, and we may think that the solutions are hard to achieve, but 95% of them will always be quick fixes. 

Respecting Your Body

If you do not respect yourself, how do you respect your body? The best thing anybody can do to respect their body is to respect themselves by focusing on replacing negative thoughts with positive ones or thoughts of gratitude. This is not easy when you are used to thinking negatively about yourself, but this is why a practice like positive self-talk can make a big difference. If you want to do it gradually, think about one part of your body that you want to resolve your issues with, and start thinking positively about that area. It’s not easy, but with more practice, you start to connect your mind and body. 

Figure Out What Your Body Needs to Stay Healthy in the Future

Once you figure out how to live in the present and have started to replace negative thoughts, you can turn your attention to the future. But it’s important to do one thing at a time, and pick one thing you know that your body needs to heal. You then decide on a small step that can make a long-term health change. For example, swapping sugar for healthier alternatives. Once you commit to making this a habit, you can focus on the next thing you want to change, and turn that into a habit. 

While incorporating the right habits will make a significant difference to your health and your happiness, you’ve got to learn how to listen to your body, and recognize how it really feels. Because if there are things that you think you are doing to benefit your body, but it is crying out for help, you will have to make some changes.

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Painting Yourself A Different Color: Overcoming Shyness After A Separation

Painting Yourself A Different Color: Overcoming Shyness After A Separation

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It’s something that can color your entire life, crippling shyness. You may find yourself in situations where you have overcome it, and you’ve been successful in finding a partner for life, but then, comes the middle age concerns, and problems like divorce are on the increase. When you are of a shy disposition, and you are going through a divorce, or you have separated from someone, having this shyness can feel like a death sentence. But when it comes to reclaiming your life, or overcoming shyness in the wake of a breakup, what are the best ways to achieve this?

Faking It ‘Til You Make It

Ultimately, shyness is something that you have placed on yourself as a label. As you progress through life, there are others who get to know you better and realize that you aren’t that backward in coming forward. But for the opportunities that present themselves after a breakup, nearly new social situations, the fact is, these people that you will potentially meet don’t know you have this shyness. As a result, this is something you can make efforts to completely eradicate. Faking it ‘til you make it is one of those things that is spoken a lot by psychologists and motivational speakers, but there is a lot of truth in presenting an image that you want, rather than the one you have. Faking it ‘til you make it encompasses many things, but from a scientific perspective, the reason it works is that your brain is unable to tell the difference between reality and fiction. As a result, things like positive self-talk and retraining your brain through processes like cognitive behavioral therapy, have shown that it is possible for you to change who you are. Remember, your only barrier in this is yourself. So, the next time you look in the mirror and think negative thoughts about yourself, try to turn these into a positive. It doesn’t happen overnight, but by making the positive changes as soon as you can, you are starting on the long road to be a new version of you.

Trying New Things

It’s a double whammy after divorce, as you are trying to recapture a sense of who you are, in light of the difficult circumstances you must, but also, in suffering painful shyness, being social is a difficult task already. But, the trick to developing any sense of resilience in life is heading outside our comfort zone. Even if it makes you anxious, take one small step outside your comfort zone, or if you are feeling confident enough, go further, and join a social group. But the best way to begin is to think about what your own specific hobbies are. For example, if you like getting fit, you can easily go to a gym class, or a yoga group, which puts you in a social situation, but you don’t necessarily have to engage in conversation. Yes, it can be intimidating if you see groups of people there that are friendly with each other, but this is only because they’ve been in the class for a while. Keep going, and you will end up being part of that social group. Trying new things is the best way to get out of your comfort zone, and the trick in escaping your comfort zone bit by bit means that after a while, these situations that cause anxiety won’t make you feel so anxious anymore. There are so many social groups that cater for so many different types of people, such as language classes where you are all struggling to get by in a foreign language, but gives you the opportunity to talk. And even if you don’t go to something like this, group meetups are usually full of people who aren’t that particularly social, which gives you an advantage because you are in the same boat. But it’s always handy to have a few things up your sleeve when in these groups, such as various conversation topics, just to keep the chat flowing. This is part of a great conversation, asking the right questions. And, because everybody likes to talk about themselves, as a shy person, you can be at a disadvantage, because all you need to do is ask questions now and then and the conversation and will continue to flow. As a result, you can feel ready to speak a bit more about yourself when the time comes, or you can choose to sit back and take it easy.

Understanding Self-Sabotage

We are all works in progress, and after we’ve been through a difficult time like divorce or separation, we can escape the ordeal with a very negative view of ourselves. It’s one of those things that is so easy to do, because it reinforces our own downtrodden beliefs about who we are, and they compound themselves, which we then carry through life. As soon as you understand that these thoughts and emotions aren’t who you really are, nor do they have to be who you are, you can then take the appropriate methods necessary to understand how to overcome these. As already mentioned, positive self-talk is one of those fantastic things that, when practicing, will help you to realign your beliefs and thought processes, and turn you into a more confident person. But if you find it it’s stopping you living your life, then you need to think about how to tackle this.

You have a well of strength inside you, and while you might think that your shyness is your downfall, because this is something you want to change, and then you will make the effort to do what is necessary. But it’s not a race, and it doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a long process, where you take little steps in the right direction. And for any problem, especially shyness, going in the right direction is more than enough when it comes to changing yourself. Painting yourself a different color is about finding the right colors and textures, and this isn’t something that happens immediately.

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