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Tips For An Independent Woman

Tips For An Independent Woman

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You’ve got natural beauty, the brains but it can be tough sometimes to see yourself as a strong independent woman. 

There is definitely more to be an independent woman than just having your career on track and owning possessions. Independence is not to do with having certain tangible items, it is to do with how to cope in situations and sense of the person you are individually. 

If you were to ask your friends what independence means to them you would receive all sorts of answers from practical skills such as knowing how to change a tire or organising towing. Whilst others would suggest independence is about not being accountable to someone else and being able to choose what you are doing and when, such as going out. 

So how can all this be learnt, along with considering mental and emotional independence as well. Here are some tips on how independence can be leant.

Learn Who You Are

Before you can go off and be an independent super start, you need to dig deep and know more about who you actually are. You can’t gain independence unless you know your imperfections and shortcomings and are able to address them. So be honest and dig deep. By leaning more about yourself, your strengths and weaknesses, you will become more confident within yourself and be able to assert yourself in situations. 

Embrace Alone Time

It can be daunting being alone if you are a social butterfly or find yourself being more comfortable and confident as part of a group. You possibly find that being alone is a little scary being alone with your thoughts and having that time to learn about yourself. However, you need to be able to embrace being with no one but yourself in order to be independent. It is essential that you know in your core that you are enough and you don’t need to rely on others for your individual happiness. 

Have A Handle On Your Finances

Knowing your money is vital. You are no longer reliant upon others to support you and therefore it is key that you know where money is coming from and how much you are spending. Whether you are a spender or a saver, money makes the world go round. Now is the time to dig out your pay slip and review your bills and understand what is coming in and going. It is smart. In the future you may marry and have shared income and outgoings, so learn this skill now and when circumstances change you will have a good understanding around what is happening. 

Change How You View Yourself

There is a lot to be said about mindfulness, positive thinking and manifesting your goals to the world and universe. You will never be able to make change unless you believe it is doable. This links back to your confidence. So don’t think about yourself in a negative way. No more ‘I can’t’. Think about yourself with a positive mindset. What will you learn, how will you grow. 

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Self-Care During Divorce

Self-Care During Divorce

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Divorce is undoubtedly one of the most stressful times in a person’s life. The world you knew is crumbling around you, while there are all kinds of legal and financial things that need to be dealt with. Having a good lawyer can help to put your mind at rest, at least where the legal side is concerned. Mediation services like Buncombe mediation can also help to take the stress off.

But what about the emotional side of divorce? While all of the technicalities are getting dealt with, it’s critical to take time for self-care and reflection. Everyone’s divorce situation is unique and each of us handles these challenges differently. If you’re feeling down, stressed or tense due to divorce, spending time to care for yourself will leave you much better off in the long run.

Talking it through

Help make this messy process easier to cope with by understanding some of the mental effects of divorce. It’s totally understandable for you to feel sad, angry, depressed, lost or any other combination of emotions right now. Give yourself time and space to feel what you are feeling. Don’t be tempted to hide your emotions away or suppress them with drink, drugs, or other unhealthy coping mechanisms.

Instead, turn to friends, family, or specially trained professionals who can help you to navigate your way through this maze of tangled emotions. It can help to tell friends and family exactly how you’d like to be supported, as these times can be hard for them to navigate, too. Let them know what will help you.

Remember if you feel that the divorce is affecting your mental health, it’s important to speak to a therapist who can help you to cope. There may be support groups you can go to where you can share exactly how you’re feeling with people who are going through the same thing.

Going easy on yourself

You might be finding it hard to concentrate on other things or spending a lot of time going over the situation in your head. You may even be feeling guilty or having negative thoughts about yourself. It’s natural to feel this way when you’re going through emotional challenges, but try to be kind to yourself.

Practicing self-compassion or mindfulness techniques can help you to see things from a different perspective. You could boost your self-confidence by writing a list of all of the things that you like about yourself or any compliments you’ve received that have stuck with you. Gratitude journals can also be a great way of maintaining a positive outlook, as it can help you to see the little things worth celebrating despite the heartache you’re going through.

Exercising

It’s no secret that exercise is great for mental health and overall wellbeing. Your self-esteem and confidence might have taken a dive during this time. It’s natural to want to hide away when you feel stressed or down. But you can boost your endorphins and your self-image by making time for exercise you enjoy. This could be a challenge you set yourself to take your mind off things. Alternatively, you could take up a new sport or activity that you’ve always wanted to try. Having a sense of excitement and accomplishment could give you a little boost when things seem hopeless and remind you there are new things on the horizon.

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