5 Marriage Myths You Should Ignore
For some reason, old wives’ tales hold a dominant place in people’s minds, leading them to accept beliefs as the truth. As a result, several myths about marriage seem to alter people’s perceptions of what it is or should be. For example, 80% of people with marriage experience disputed the myth that the loss of physical closeness is a major cause of relationship deterioration. For more of such myths, please read further to see which ones you believed in.
1. Long courtship ensures a successful marriage
The Washington Post says this is the most common belief people have from the list of many marriage myths. Fortunately, various studies spanning over two decades disprove this myth. Although these studies agree that long dating periods create a sense of familiarity between the parties involved, it has no bearing on whether or not the marriage will be successful. Perhaps, the apprehension of high divorce statistics in the country has contributed to the increasing rate of long courtships.
First and foremost, the statistics available in the US indicate that 41% of first-time couples will seek the services of a divorce lawyer within two years of saying, ‘I do.’ Additionally, those who remarry are 50% more likely to back out again. According to apa.org, these numbers prove that your marriage success is not guaranteed regardless of a long dating or courtship period.
2. Love will last forever
Hopefully, this myth made you giggle because you know it’s never a guarantee for a lasting marriage. Indeed, it plays a significant role in the institution of marriage. However, several other vital elements ensure a robust relationship for all the time you are together. The reality of family and different life pressures can take a significant toll on both of you. Apart from the apparent strain on the love shared, you will begin to notice each other’s weaknesses.
Recognizing these shortcomings will either upset you or make you indifferent to them. Remember that after a few years, the beauty of a fairytale wedding gives way to other life-altering highlights such as childbirth. Therefore, the honeymoon love phase you feel will gradually taper off to a more matured bond or other.
3. Jealousy means you love and care for your spouse
As unbelievable as this may sound, people actually believe that! Jealousy is an indication of an unhealthy possessive trait. It tends to destroy marriages even before the third year of the relationship. As humans, it is a natural reaction to feel sidelined when your spouse gives another person all the attention. Psychologists say the feeling of being sidelined is part of an innate trait captured under ‘territorial dominance.’
Animals display that in brutal ways. Territorial dominance can be disastrous for human beings and push you and your partner apart. Therefore, if you belong to a group of people who think making your partner jealous will result in more love, it’s time to reassess your beliefs.
4. A child cements a happy marriage
First of all, the presence of children never solved marital problems. On the contrary, the arrival of children or babies creates pressure in all forms. From physical to mental, emotional, and financial burdens, it takes a committed couple to endure them. Undoubtedly, babies are blessings to behold but never believe the myth that having them will cement your marriage.
5. You only need each other and nobody else
A clingy attitude to your spouse only creates an abundance of unhealthy over-dependence. You both have your respective lives to live, even though you are now a unit. Nobody is discounting the benefits of being each other’s best friend. However, the danger lies in ignoring the essence of a support system outside of your marriage. What you should ask yourself is what you would do when your partner is unavailable.
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