5 Things that Put a Huge Strain on Your Relationship
Long-term relationships are hard work. When we’re young, we dream of finding our soul mate, settling down and living happily ever after; we don’t think about the work that goes into making a relationship work. But, it does take effort, and it’s important to realize this so that you don’t just give up at the first sign of trouble. Even the happiest of marriages have the occasional blip; it’s how you come through them that makes you perfect for each other. What makes a relationship work is different for all of us, but there are a few things that almost universally put a strain on them. That’s not to say that these things should be avoided, just that you should be prepared and give your relationship more time and attention when it needs it.
This is a huge change that modern relationships are facing. Our parents and grandparents either spent time together, or they didn’t. In today’s society, we spend time together, sat next to each other in fact, giving our phones and social media feeds all of our attention. We sit together, sharing our day with strangers online, barely communicating at all.
Social media, the internet and smartphones are fantastic tools. But, when you start giving them more attention that you give the people in your home, it’s time to take a step back. Leave your phones in other rooms occasionally and give each other your full attention.
Moving to A New House
Moving to a new house is tough. It takes a lot of time, effort and hard work, and your relationship can easily get neglected, especially if you don’t 100% agree on your new home or your reasons for moving. Try to make sure you are on the same page, talk everything through, be honest with each other and use a removalist to make sure the move itself is as easy and stress-free as possible.
Vacations should be a fantastic stress-free time. In reality, they’re often not. We put huge amounts of pressure on ourselves and each other to have a great time, which can cause arguments and friction. Instead, be spontaneous, and relax. Just enjoy being together away from home.
Money is one of the leading causes of arguments in most marriages. We worry about it, we argue about it, we disagree on what to do with it, and if we haven’t got enough of it, we lay blame with each other. It’s important to start as you mean to go on with money. Always be honest and talk to your partner about what’s going on and never rush into a financial decision without consulting them first, even if it’s your money.
Family is another cause of strain in relationships. If you get on with each other’s family and enjoy spending equal time with both sides, then you should count yourself lucky. For many of us, it’s a constant battle. Learn to compromise, and to bite your lip for the good of your relationship.
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