Can Your Relationship Be Fixed?
Getting married for most people is the happiest day of their life. However, if you now look back at this moment and feel like you barely recognize the couple you were on that special day, you may think that your relationship has come to an end. Divorce is never something anyone should enter into lightly. To make sure this is the right decision, there are some key questions you should ask yourself. This includes the following…
Have you made your concerns about the relationship clear to your partner?
This is the first question you have asked yourself before going to divorce lawyers. Often, we are guilty of assuming that our partner knows what the issue is. We take for granted the fact that people cannot read our minds! While you may assume that the problems are evident, your partner may not feel the same way. You need to spell it out. Make it clear to your partner what the issues are so that you can both be on the same page. Perhaps your partner has not been trying to improve the relationship because he or she does not realize that there is an issue to begin with? Or, they believe the problem lies elsewhere?
Do you care about what other people think about you?
A lot of people want a divorce but they do not get one because they are worried that they will look like a failure. Do not jeopardize your own happiness because you are fretting about what other people think!
What is your biggest fear with regards to ending the relationship?
So, you are thinking about getting a divorce, but you haven’t done so yet. This means that there is something that is holding you back and making you unsure. What do you worry about in terms of ending the relationship? Do you fear that you will never find anyone else? Do you worry about not having that comfort blanket of being in a relationship? Perhaps you fear that you will have to sell your home and you won’t have enough money on your own? You need to address these fears and get to the bottom of what you are really worried about.
Do you still love him or her?
This is an important question, but it does not directly give you the answer to whether divorce is the right option or not. After all, sometimes love is not enough. You may love your partner, yet divorce still may be the best solution for both of you. There are lots of different reasons why people decide they need to separate, but your emotions cannot be switched off. Establishing your love is a good starting point for figuring out what you really want to do.
Would you really be happier if you were no longer with your partner?
We have all heard the saying about the grass being greener. However, you need to really think about what you are going to be giving up. You should make a list of everything you will lose by not being in a relationship, for example, companionship and joint parenting. Once you have put together this list, you should look at it and ask yourself, am I willing to give this up? Will I be happier without all of this in the long run? You need to truly understand the difference between your current life and what your new life is going to be like before you make any final decisions.
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