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Can Your Relationship Be Fixed?

Can Your Relationship Be Fixed?

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Getting married for most people is the happiest day of their life. However, if you now look back at this moment and feel like you barely recognize the couple you were on that special day, you may think that your relationship has come to an end. Divorce is never something anyone should enter into lightly. To make sure this is the right decision, there are some key questions you should ask yourself. This includes the following…

Have you made your concerns about the relationship clear to your partner?

This is the first question you have asked yourself before going to divorce lawyers. Often, we are guilty of assuming that our partner knows what the issue is. We take for granted the fact that people cannot read our minds! While you may assume that the problems are evident, your partner may not feel the same way. You need to spell it out. Make it clear to your partner what the issues are so that you can both be on the same page. Perhaps your partner has not been trying to improve the relationship because he or she does not realize that there is an issue to begin with? Or, they believe the problem lies elsewhere?

Do you care about what other people think about you?

A lot of people want a divorce but they do not get one because they are worried that they will look like a failure. Do not jeopardize your own happiness because you are fretting about what other people think!

What is your biggest fear with regards to ending the relationship?

So, you are thinking about getting a divorce, but you haven’t done so yet. This means that there is something that is holding you back and making you unsure. What do you worry about in terms of ending the relationship? Do you fear that you will never find anyone else? Do you worry about not having that comfort blanket of being in a relationship? Perhaps you fear that you will have to sell your home and you won’t have enough money on your own? You need to address these fears and get to the bottom of what you are really worried about.

Do you still love him or her?

This is an important question, but it does not directly give you the answer to whether divorce is the right option or not. After all, sometimes love is not enough. You may love your partner, yet divorce still may be the best solution for both of you. There are lots of different reasons why people decide they need to separate, but your emotions cannot be switched off. Establishing your love is a good starting point for figuring out what you really want to do.


Would you really be happier if you were no longer with your partner?

We have all heard the saying about the grass being greener. However, you need to really think about what you are going to be giving up. You should make a list of everything you will lose by not being in a relationship, for example, companionship and joint parenting. Once you have put together this list, you should look at it and ask yourself, am I willing to give this up? Will I be happier without all of this in the long run? You need to truly understand the difference between your current life and what your new life is going to be like before you make any final decisions.

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How To Reduce Stress In Your Life

How To Reduce Stress In Your Life

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Your emotional wellbeing is just as important as your physical health, and it’s vital to take care of yourself mentally. There are a number of things which can your affect emotional health negatively, from being unhappy in your job and working too much to getting married, moving house and suffering from a traumatic event like a car accident or death of a loved one. So, apart from avoiding life in general and trying to steer clear of any significant events – what else can you do to keep your stress levels at bay?

Meditate

Mediation used to be seen as something that only hippies and Buddhists, however today because of the stresses that modern day living brings, practising meditation has never been more popular. Thanks to technology and apps, it’s never been easier to meditate either, as you can find guided meditations on youtube or there are specific apps for it. Take a look at Headspace or Calm, and within those you will find short or long meditations, to help you to keep calm, to help with anxiety, focus, personal growth or to help you sleep better. Even if you take five minutes on the bus on your way to work to meditate, it can genuinely help your stress levels and help you to deal with what the day will bring. Give it a go and see if it works for you.

Breathe

Breathing exercises can really help you to relax. There are also a lot of breathing exercises you can do so you can have a look and see which one feels right for you. It’s similar to meditating as you need to try and clear your head and just focus on your breathing, and that’s all. If you don’t manage to fit in time to do this consciously, just remember next time you’re feeling stressed how much breathing can help you. Take a moment, go and find somewhere quiet and just breathe. You will feel better and calmer almost instantly.

Write Things Down

People often claim they are stressed because they just don’t have time to get everything done. However, you will often find that the more you do, the more you can do. Try to make time to write your thoughts and feelings down. Almost like a journal. It can really help for you to get some focus and clarity of what you’re doing, what you need to do, what you want from life, and what your goals are.

Think Positively

Positively talk to yourself. Be aware of your own thoughts, and if you catch yourself talking down to yourself or negatively thinking about yourself, then stop, take a minute and re-think. Change your thoughts and think more positively. The more you do this, the better you will feel.

Get Fit

Exercising is one of the best tools for beating stress. Many people find it therapeutic, and it’s for many reasons. First off, there is the time to yourself, which helps you to get your head clear about things that are stressing you out. Then after that, there are the endorphins which your body releases when you exercise, these are the chemicals in your body which make you feel happy. Next, there’s the bonus of getting fit and healthier, feeling great, looking great and maybe even losing weight. Finally, there’s a sense of achievement. Exercise is great for setting goals and achieving them. If you’re already fit and a great runner there is always something else you can work towards or always something you could improve on. The challenges are endless. If you’re a total beginner then the sense of achievement when you realise you can run for just five minutes without stopping, you move up on the weights in the gym, get faster at swimming or can finally touch your toes in Yoga – you will feel amazing.

Eat Well

This goes hand in hand with exercising, but it is also another essential ingredient for managing stress. Food which can help include brazil nuts which are high in selenium and selenium is said to improve mood as it reduces inflammation. Then there’s fatty fish, like salmon, mackerel, sardines, trout, and herring, which are all high in omega-3, which is good for your mental health. Also, try to include a lot of vitamin D in your diet as vitamin D deficiency is being increasingly linked to mood disorders, such as depression and anxiety – eggs are a great source of vitamin D.

Talk About Your Feelings

A problem shared is a problem halved. If you’re stressed about something, tell someone. You never know what useful advice they could give you, they may even be able to solve your problem for you, you just never know until you speak out and share your feelings. Also if there’s nothing they can do for you, just listening is sometimes all you need, or just talking to someone and getting what’s going on in your head out in the open can make you feel instantly better about what’s going on.

Delegate

If you have got too much on or there is something big in your life, then don’t take it all on yourself, ask people to help you. It shouldn’t all be on your shoulders, so share the load. Sometimes others just don’t realise that you’re struggling but if you let them know they would be more than happy to take some jobs off you and help you out. Similarly, if you need professional help, then get it. Don’t be afraid to go for it, don’t be ashamed and try to deal with everything on your own. Whether you need a cleaner in to help you out at home to take one job off your mind or you need to go and see a counsellor to help you deal with issues, then go for it. So many people do it, and it’s what these professions are there for.


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