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Can A Marriage Ever Be The Same After It Gets Personal?

Can A Marriage Ever Be The Same After It Gets Personal?

Marriages are supposed to be rock solid, at least in principle. The two people involved have to be able to throw verbal shots at each other and in the end, it’s all just in fun or positive critique. This is for things like, when your spouse is getting a little overweight and you have to say something otherwise you won’t be attractive to them anymore. It’s the same for when you are acting like a jerk at a party, and your spouse needs to remind you to behave. Things like this should always fall into the realm of ‘safe’ critique. But when things get personal, this can lead to the end of the road. 

When your work is mocked

Perhaps more so for women in the modern age than men, when your job or profession is mocked by your spouse, it can tear a rift between you. Women and men are very sensitive about their work, and the only kind of words they want from their wife or husband are supportive. When your spouse starts to mock your working hours, how dedicated you are, how much time you spend doing work at home, this can lead to big differences.

Imagine being so passionate about something that you dedicate your life to it, and then, your wife starts to make it seem like what you do is unimportant. Or how about when you have gotten a big promotion that you have dreamed of, and your husband says ‘you love your job more than the marriage’? This is something that cannot be taken any other way, other than personal. Don’t do this if you want to have a nice marriage!

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When violence is involved

This next one is pretty easy to understand, yet difficult to pick up when it’s you in the middle. It’s normal to sort of hit each other, but in a playful or nonchalant want. When your husband just won’t pick his feet up so you can vacuum under the table, then you can give him a little pinch on his feet or leg. That’s normal. But, when you are pinched really hard for not doing something they wanted, such as at parties or while out in public. This is abuse.

When it gets worse and you are being punched, kicked, scratched or otherwise, then you should consider calling Divorce Lawyers. They will build up a case of the pressure you have been under and make any family court judge consider you when it comes to child custody. If you want to consider child support, then call up the lawyers and ask them what they could do for you. 

Constant nitpicking

When your partner is constantly dragging you down on your appearance, this is either something you should take for a complaint, or something personal. It depends on how many times they do this. If you know you’re overweight, then consider losing weight. But when you are doing great, keeping fit and taking care of yourself but they are still nitpicking, this is something that is personal and beyond what a lover should do.

Marriage is never something to be taken for granted and when things get personal, it can often spell the end. So avoid doing these things, or spot them when they are happening to you.

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Relationship on the Rocks: Should You Stay or Should You Go?

Relationship on the Rocks: Should You Stay or Should You Go?

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Love is wonderful, but it’s not always easy. Relationships can be hard work, if you’re struggling with yours, here are three questions to ask yourself before throwing in the towel.

Has the argument/ issue only just cropped up?

If the problem in the relationship is new, then instead of throwing in the towel and running for the hills- give yourself some time. Think about things from your partners perspective, have some space if you need it and then come together and talk. Even if it feels serious at the time, it could well be something that you’re able to resolve together. The only exceptions here are infidelity and abuse, if the issue involves either of these then you’re best bet is almost always to leave. But many other problems can be worked out, and you can go on to be happy together again. If the argument is ongoing, and seems to be one of the main topics you bicker and row about then this can be a sign that you’re unable to get past it and might be a cue to speak to divorce lawyers. Ongoing arguments about the same things over and over is the signal of an unhealthy relationship as it shows you’re not able to resolve your problems, meaning they’ll keep on coming back around. 

Do you need to work on yourself?

In relationships, it’s easy to blame the other person when things start going wrong or arguments occur. But take a step back and think objectively. Are there things you’re doing which make the situation worse? Maybe you’re controlling and jealous without even realising, and your partners outbursts are actually due to frustration and retaliation. Many of us paint ourselves as the victim in relationships and certain situations when it’s not always the case. Be mature enough to own up to your behaviour and figure out what you could be doing wrong. In many cases, issues in relationships are a result of both of your actions and not just one. It’s not to say you should blame yourself or make excuses for your partner’s bad behaviour- but do acknowledge if you have a part to play. Once you’re aware of this you’re able to take steps to stop and perhaps have a much happier relationship.

Have you considered therapy?

Relationships can get really messy, when you love your partner and a lot has gone on in the past and your feelings are all over the place it can be hard to communicate effectively. For this reason it’s well worth visiting a relationship therapist before you decide to call it quits. Sometimes, just being able to communicate your message in an environment where your partner has to listen to you, and vice versa is all you need. A therapist can give you tips on how to resolve arguments and speak to each other more clearly too to avoid future issues. 

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