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Tips For An Independent Woman

Tips For An Independent Woman

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You’ve got natural beauty, the brains but it can be tough sometimes to see yourself as a strong independent woman. 

There is definitely more to be an independent woman than just having your career on track and owning possessions. Independence is not to do with having certain tangible items, it is to do with how to cope in situations and sense of the person you are individually. 

If you were to ask your friends what independence means to them you would receive all sorts of answers from practical skills such as knowing how to change a tire or organising towing. Whilst others would suggest independence is about not being accountable to someone else and being able to choose what you are doing and when, such as going out. 

So how can all this be learnt, along with considering mental and emotional independence as well. Here are some tips on how independence can be leant.

Learn Who You Are

Before you can go off and be an independent super start, you need to dig deep and know more about who you actually are. You can’t gain independence unless you know your imperfections and shortcomings and are able to address them. So be honest and dig deep. By leaning more about yourself, your strengths and weaknesses, you will become more confident within yourself and be able to assert yourself in situations. 

Embrace Alone Time

It can be daunting being alone if you are a social butterfly or find yourself being more comfortable and confident as part of a group. You possibly find that being alone is a little scary being alone with your thoughts and having that time to learn about yourself. However, you need to be able to embrace being with no one but yourself in order to be independent. It is essential that you know in your core that you are enough and you don’t need to rely on others for your individual happiness. 

Have A Handle On Your Finances

Knowing your money is vital. You are no longer reliant upon others to support you and therefore it is key that you know where money is coming from and how much you are spending. Whether you are a spender or a saver, money makes the world go round. Now is the time to dig out your pay slip and review your bills and understand what is coming in and going. It is smart. In the future you may marry and have shared income and outgoings, so learn this skill now and when circumstances change you will have a good understanding around what is happening. 

Change How You View Yourself

There is a lot to be said about mindfulness, positive thinking and manifesting your goals to the world and universe. You will never be able to make change unless you believe it is doable. This links back to your confidence. So don’t think about yourself in a negative way. No more ‘I can’t’. Think about yourself with a positive mindset. What will you learn, how will you grow. 

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15 Secrets to Make a Marriage Work

15 Secrets to Make a Marriage Work

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Challenges are normal in marriages. As they say, love is not enough to make a marriage successful. Both partners have to do their best to make sure that the marriage will work. Otherwise, the entire family suffers. These are fifteen secrets that real-life couples attest to being pivotal to the success of their marriages:

  1. Listen to your partner

Listening to each other may seem easy but you would be surprised how many couples struggle with this. Both partners should realize that hearing and listening are two vastly different things. To be a good listener, you should open your mind and heart to what your partner is saying. This way, you can understand their perspective.

  1. Accept your partner

One of the most common reasons for breakups between married couples is lack of acceptance. Both men and women have this tendency to try to change their partners to what they think they should be. If they have to, however, they have to make that journey on their own. Focus on the positive traits and features of your partner so you will be less stressed.

  1. Be responsible

Both partners must be responsible as individuals and as a team. When you set out to do something as a couple, you must remember to take responsibility whether it will be successful or not. You also have to accept that part of it may be on you.

Another aspect of marriage that being responsible would be helpful in is during arguments. If someone said something that was uncalled for, the other party must take responsibility by apologizing.

Be equally responsible in parenting as well. Both should try and spend as much time with the kids as possible. With some free time, both can help the kids do their homework. In case you both are too busy to help with homework of your kids, at least have them at least have them home tuition for the subjects they find difficult.

  1. Go on date nights

Date nights are essential to a marriage as they keep the fire burning. You do not have to go to a fancy restaurant or a luxury hotel. There are many things you can do depending on what you have in mind. Even just one night on a camping beach is already a romantic gesture. Make sure that your phones are off so that you can concentrate on each other.

  1. Be intimate

Therapists always say that sex is important if you are to keep your marriage healthy. According to some researchers and therapists, sex should be done on a regular basis. Sex should also be interesting so it would be best to sit down and talk about experimenting. Keep it exciting but safe in the bedroom.

  1. Spot “soft” emotions

The concept of a “soft” emotion may be foreign to you but it is incredibly helpful in ensuring that partners empathize with each other. For example, when you feel anger, you are most likely masking another emotion. Usually, these emotions are your vulnerabilities. You could be jealous, insecure or disappointed. Partners should be able to look for the soft emotion that may be just bubbling beneath the surface.

  1. Stop being controlling

Being controlling is never good in a marriage. Control may be how a partner wants to keep the other to fit in to what they expect of them. When one partner starts becoming controlling, the other may start resenting that. This is why talking with each other about such issues is a good thing. If settling between each other is no longer working, it is best to go to a marriage counselor.

  1. Avoid ever using the D-word

No matter what stage you are in your marriage, you should never use the D-word. Couples have been known to use divorce as a threat to each other. This can be used as a control mechanism that may be bound to fail as most of those who do it end up filing divorce papers. Not only is it immature, it also does not solve the problem the couple is facing.

  1. Be realistic about your expectations

The moment you get married, you should start letting go of the fantasy. Fairy tale endings do not happen in real life marriages. You need to be realistic about what you expect of your partner and your relationship. Accept that sometimes, being “okay” is more than enough. Otherwise, you will just end up being disappointed. This could lead to resentment, which you do not want in a marriage.

  1. Never take each other for granted

Never be complacent in a marriage. Always strive to be the best partner you can be. This way, your partner will see that you value them. They can return the favor too. Sure, it may be human nature to be comfortable with what is familiar to you but when you are in a committed relationship, try to resist any urge to be complacent.

  1. Agree to disagree

You may be married now but you are still individuals. You are never going to agree on every single thing. These disagreements could be on something as small as your choice in tea or something big like your political affiliation. Part of why a lot of marriages succeed is when both partners have the ability to meet halfway and compromise. No one has to be right every time.

  1. Be independent

One of the keys to a happy marriage is maintaining your independence. The husband and the wife must be able to enjoy their own personal space and hobbies. Part of this is sometimes getting the time to be apart. This way, you can ensure that you are happy, which could lead to a happy marriage. After all, a marriage works only when both partners have a sense of fulfillment in their lives.

  1. Be romantic

Never take romantic acts for granted. This can help keep the fire alive in the marriage. Send them flowers. Place a love note. Give them a ring. All ideas are valid just as long as the other partner ends up happy.

  1. Tell each other compliments

Compliments make a person feel good. Acknowledge the positive traits that your partner may have.

  1. Learn to communicate

To say that communication is important in a marriage is an understatement. The couple must be able to talk to each other about their feelings and issues freely. Partners should also look out for non-verbal cues. Read about love languages, which is how a person communicates their love. This could be in the form of acts of service or words of affirmation.

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