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Why You Shouldn’t Be So Scared Of The Future

Why You Shouldn’t Be So Scared Of The Future

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No matter how old you are, if you’re still here, you still have a future, and while some people are suffering illnesses and know how long they have, for most people, we have no idea, and we need to look towards and plan for the future. Many people are scared of the future, and they think that this will get easier with age.

When you’re younger, you might be scared of going to a new school, then scared of going to uni, afraid of getting your own place, scared about whether you’ll be able to find a job, what you’ll do for a career and then frightened you won’t meet a partner, afraid of having a baby…

The list goes on, and to be honest; it never gets any easier. You will only have these first times once, and as you get older, the new things just keep changing. For example, you might be scared of living alone, fearful of falling, scared of moving into a care home, or perhaps you need to see here to find out about assisted living.

There are many different directions your life may take, but as you only get one life, there’s no point in spending it feeling scared. Here’s why you shouldn’t be scared of the future:

Did It All Turn Out Alright Before?

Think about the past now; what were you terrified of? Did you survive moving to that new school? Did you make friends and even still have some today? Think back to that job interview you were so scared of, okay you didn’t get it, but that turned out to be a good thing because if you did you wouldn’t be working where you are now and have met all the wonderful people you work with. Do you see?

While something that you’re scared of right now might seem like the most significant thing in the world, in the future, it will just be another story to tell. So don’t waste your time being frightened of it, you don’t know how it will turn out, so just go with it. 

Enjoying Today Is A Gift

The best gift you could ever give to yourself is the ability to enjoy today without worrying about tomorrow. Take your anxieties on bit by bit, which will make everything more manageable, and realize that your future is not out to get you. 

You Can’t Control It

Many people’s uncertainties come from wanting control–control over what happens next, how it happens, and how they’ll react in the moment. But it’s just not possible to know the future and control how it pans out. If you are scared of tomorrow, think of the things you can control today, the things you have now, think of just today, and how you can get through it. Think of how you can make today slightly better, think of how you can make this day a good day in case history repeats itself tomorrow. Think of making today count, maybe that is the only possible way you can prepare for tomorrow.

It’s Far More Fun To Imagine The Best

You might think that being cynical is being realistic, but actually imagining the best possible scenario can help you feel good in the now and move into uncertainty with a little more confidence. 

It’s Exciting To Be Open To Uncertainty

Rather than avoiding your fear of uncertainty, it can help to get intentional about it. That doesn’t mean trying to eliminate it immediately but creating a little more space to accept and allow uncertainty here and there.

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Handling A Break Up In A Healthy Way

Handling A Break Up In A Healthy Way

When a relationship breaks down, it can be difficult to keep things amicable no matter how hard you try. Although you were once in love and happy, now you are the polar opposite. You want to be as far away from your ex-partner as possible and you want to start afresh. It can be difficult to do this in a healthy way. Being on your own again can leave your self confidence sapped, you may be anxious about the future and you may feel low. A break up needn’t be a negative time in your life, and can be seen as a period of renewal. Take a look at how you can handle a relationship breakdown in a healthy way.

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Don’t Expect Friendship

If you end a relationship to expect that you and your ex-partner can morph from lovers to friends seamlessly, you will be very much mistaken. In an ideal world, you may want to maintain contact, but this can hurt too much, especially for the person who is being broken up with. You need to give one another space. Many people do not remain in contact with their exes because they want to free themselves of the shackles of a relationship. It’s crucial that you can move forward without having your ex-partner in your life. You will have learned things from your relationship that can help you grow as a person. See this as a positive thing and have fond memories of your time together.

If you share children, break ups take on another level of complexity. While you could call a child custody lawyer, you may want to try and come to an amicable understanding about visitation and parenting that doesn’t involve the courts.

Do Something For You

Breaking up with someone can be isolating and can leave you feeling lonely. Those times when you were on dates, at the movies or having dinner will now be time spent on your own. While this can come as a shock and leave you feeling low, you can also use this time to do new things for yourself. If you want to try something new, enroll in that art class you like the look of, head to the gym more often and try out the free piano lesson that’s being advertised.

You might also want to give your image an overhaul. While a bit of a relationship ending cliche, people do take the time to refresh their look as they move into a new stage of their life.

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Get Away

While you won’t be running away, it’s a good idea to have some physical space between you and your ex-partner. Take some of the holiday that you are owed from work and consider traveling somewhere that you have always wanted to visit. You can head to Iceland to see the Northern Lights, do a spot of backpacking in Goa, or venture to Peru to trek the Inca Trail. Go on a solo travel adventure and immerse yourself in new cultures, try new cuisine and enjoy witnessing new vistas.

Breaking up with a partner can leave you feeling like a failure. However, it may help to see the situation as one door closing, yet another one opening, to help you maintain a positive attitude as you look to the future.

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