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Be A Guide Through Their Life And Yours: Coping With Aging Parents

Be A Guide Through Their Life And Yours: Coping With Aging Parents

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Having parents getting older to the point where you need to look for a retirement community or another way to care for them is an incredibly difficult thing for us to go through. Naturally, they are going through a major change, but we are as well. It’s important that when we go through this, we have to figure out appropriate coping strategies. Naturally, there are things that we are all undergoing that’s a bit alien to us, so what are the best methods for us to be a guide, not just for our parents, but for ourselves as well?

Learn Around The Subject

When it comes to something like age-related cognitive decline, like Alzheimer’s or dementia, it’s worth doing your research to understand the dementia causes and symptoms so you are better prepared. Understanding a subject as dense as getting older means that it can take a long time to learn, so at the same time, while you need to arm yourself with appropriate knowledge, don’t underestimate how much you can learn while living through the moment. It’s important to read around the subject. 

Look After Yourself As Well

Caring for your parents, or even worrying about them means that you can slowly sink into minimal forms of anxiety. As well as this your relationship with your significant other could struggle. It’s important to find the right ways to look after them, as well as yourself. Figure out if you need some proper me time, but also so it’s important not to feel so guilty on occasion. Life is very busy, but what you need to do is prepare adequately. The more things you can do to structure the day, the better it is for everyone. We have a lot to give to other people in our lives, and so we have to remember that we’ve got to give to ourselves as well.

Understand Your Emotions And Reactions

Because we have to process all these things that we’re going through, it’s a new sensation, but it’s very scary. If your parents are succumbing to cognitive decline you can very well go through the processes of grief before they pass away and this can feel, naturally, very upsetting. But it’s about ensuring that you don’t lock yourself off to these emotions. As we go through life, we have to remember that these things are natural sensations, and when we haven’t experienced them before, they can feel very raw. Sometimes we need to understand what we’re going through, but at the same time, we also need to process it. This is why we have to stay in the moment on occasion because it can feel like we are distancing ourselves for the very natural reason that we want to protect ourselves. But when it comes to the two people that raised you, it can feel like a very difficult thing to confront. But it’s okay to feel upset, and it’s okay to give yourself a break on occasion. What you are going through is very difficult, and rather than burying your head in the sand, coping strategies can help wonders.

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Four Ways To Boost Your Body Confidence

Four Ways To Boost Your Body Confidence

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It can be hard to love your body and all its unique features when the media is often presenting one idealistic view of beauty. The internet age has sparked a movement of self love but with it we have more access than ever to airbrushed images of supermodels and influencers that present an unrealistic idea of what we should look like. If you’ve found yourself looking in the mirror and not feeling any love towards the person looking back at you then before you start googling ‘plastic surgeon free consultation near me’ try these four ways to boost your body confidence and get back to loving the skin you’re in. 

1. Banish negativity and welcome positivity

Our mental state is so easily impacted by the things we surround ourselves with and body confidence is no different. Remove negative people or things from your life, unfollow Instagram accounts that make you feel bad and surround yourself with body confident influencers, people who champion natural beauty and online material that helps to bring you up rather than put you down. A few great body positive accounts to follow include @effyourbeautystandards, @roseybeeme and @honorcurves but try to find someone you can relate too. 

2. Adopt a mantra

As mentioned above, we have the ability to dramatically influence our own state of mind by thinking positive thoughts. Another great way to introduce positivity into our lives is to adopt a mantra. A mantra is a group of words or a simple phrase that is repeated over and over again; such as, “I am secure in myself. I do not compare myself to others.” or “I am a healthy, happy, positive person.”. A mantra can be anything you want it to be, and you can personalize one to suit you. If you want a few to get you started then check out this link. 

3. Study yourself and name the positives

You may dislike your nose or perhaps you hate the look of your stretch marks, but when was the last time you stood in the mirror, bared all to the world, and really studied yourself? Find some time when you are alone and look at yourself from head to toe, strike a pose, say aloud all the things you like about yourself. Be proud of the skin you are in. Get used to your naked body and see the beauty within yourself, learn to love your imperfections, they are what make you, you.

4. Power dress

If all else fails go the extra mile and adorn your beautiful body with all of the things that make you feel special. This could be your favourite pair of lacy underwear, or perhaps some bold statement jewelry, or maybe you have a pair of jeans that truly accentuate how fantastic your legs are. Whatever it is, our clothes and body image can have a big impact on our self confidence. If you aren’t in love with the skin you’re in then fake it until you make it and dress yourself with confidence.

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Top 4 Benefits of Living in a Golf Resort

Top 4 Benefits of Living in a Golf Resort

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Golf enthusiast or not, living on a golf resort comes with many benefits that you can reap from the moment that you move in. With 1000s of resorts to choose from with a wide range of amenities, you can live a fantastic lifestyle that’s better than anything you have ever experienced. No matter where you are located in the world, you are bound to have a golf resort nearby. 

Filled with luxurious shops, high-end restaurants and a community feel that’s unrivalled, it can be the perfect place to raise a family or retire. But those aren’t the only benefits that come with moving into a golf resort. If you’re unsure as to whether it’s the right decision for you, here is a list of the top four benefits that you can enjoy!

  1. Choose From A Variety of Beautiful Real Estate

One of the best things about moving to a golf resort is the beauty of the houses that are available. Often cheaper than if you purchased a home in a normal community, these new-builds have stylish features, are spacious and are amongst an array of amenities. When looking at golf resorts, make sure that you compare and contrast these houses, to ensure that you’re getting the best value for money – as many more high-end golf resorts tend to up their prices based on how luxurious the resort is or the location. However, there are some golf resorts that are modern and high-end without the hefty price tag (i.e. the Wigwam new home builders created)

With the popularity of golf resorts ever-increasing, you might also want to seek professional advice. 

  1. Play Golf Whenever You Want

Another popular benefit that comes with living in a golf resort, is that you will be able to play a game whenever you want! Although this isn’t available at all golf resorts, for the ones that do include it, there’s no reason why you can’t take advantage of it when you want to. Golf comes with many health benefits that you will start to realize the moment you get into it. From helping to reduce stress to burning calories, it’s a great way of exercising both your body and your brain.

  1. Amenities

As mentioned above, a golf resort comes with many facilities and amenities for you to enjoy. From high-end restaurants to a pool, shopping and a cinema, there is plenty to keep you busy in your evenings and weekends. An all-in-one experience, you won’t be lost for things to do when you live in a golf resort. No matter what your hobbies, most resorts have something to keep you entertained. 

  1. Events 

At a golf resort, there will be a clubhouse that plays host to a variety of events throughout the year. From weekly Zumba classes to socials, you will be able to get to know the community and socialize with your neighbors. Having the clubhouse so close to you also offers the convenience of not being too far away from home when the day or evening comes to an end.

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How To Take Yourself Sincerely, Not Seriously

How To Take Yourself Sincerely, Not Seriously

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In life, it is incredibly easy to take yourself too seriously. You may not think that you do, but the next time someone insults you, see how you react. Even if the insult is obviously silly or exaggerated, or coming from someone whose opinion you likely care little about, you will often take the insult and think about it. Is it correct? What if they are right? Why do they think like this? All of this can run through your mind, when in reality, that person may just wish to cause the most harm possible.

Of course, many of us learn how to deal with scenarios like that in our youth. However, that doesn’t mean we take ourselves any less seriously as time progresses. In fact, certain life scenarios, such as getting promoted at work, being complimented, or perhaps having faith in our self-confidence can lead us to take ourselves and our egos completely seriously. 

So in either direction then, positive or negative, it’s common to see just how taking yourself seriously can be a bad idea. We would like to volunteer the following advice to suggest why taking yourself sincerely, not seriously, could be your best option:

You Understand Your Development

Seriousness and sincerity are completely different things, although they are parallel to one another. When you are serious about yourself, for example, you are much more likely to be critical of yourself. Make a mistake, such as telling a joke that lands poorly at a party, and you’ll likely start identifying just if you had a sense of humor in the first place, or why you are such a social failure. Sincerity shows that you had good intentions when you made the joke, and it’s not your fault if others didn’t respond to it. 

It’s hardly something anyone will remember one hour from then. In other words, sincerity allows you to understand that you are a fallible being and can make mistakes, but that if your intentions are good, you are always learning and developing. In seriousness, there is no wriggle room. In sincerity, wiggle room is celebrated. It can help you stop pathologizing your progression through life, and instead lets you consider it as you move forward and try to better your approach.

Sincerity Has Room For Fun

Being serious is always trying to adapt yourself to the latest fashion trends, trying to fit in and understanding that your niche will never amount to anything without the latest fashion wisdom as part of its understanding. However, sincerity opens up room for fun with fashion, pure creativity, and also lets you make a fool of yourself. It allows you to purchase trendy leggings as part of a creative outfit idea, with no real event or extra plan to wear them by a specific date. In other words, it allows you to enjoy yourself. Additionally, it can help you make the most of a situation you were not expecting. 

For example, in the serious mindset, purchasing a formal shirt too big for your body might be a mistake that should have been prepared for or considered when opting for a new retailer. With sincerity, you might use that oversized shirt as part of another outfit, or return it without anything to worry about. If you have humor and fun as part of your life, sincerity will help you open up to yourself in the best possible means.

Sincerity Is More Authentic

Let us say that we are trying to comfort someone who is experiencing the loss of a relative. Being serious about this matter must make you think that you need to comfort them in exactly the same manner prescribed by that advice column you read that morning. That you must never smile, must never say anything out of turn, or outstay your welcome even for a second. It’s so filled with personal rules and regulations that you’re not actually focusing on the person, you’re just focusing on how best to move though the situation despite your good intentions.

However, sincerity is there. It listens. It lets you crack an off-timed joke that is received with a small smile from the person you are comforting, or it allows you to talk about the subject without fear of being insensitive to an overdramatic degree. In other words, it is more authentic, and it allows you to connect with the person more thoroughly.

With this advice, you are certain to take yourself sincerely and not seriously. Watch yourself as you embody either one of these. If you pay attention, you will learn just how much of your life is dictated by one of these two approaches. We’d recommend you choose the healthiest options to the extent that you can.

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How To Keep Your Relationship Healthy

How To Keep Your Relationship Healthy

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When it comes to relationships, many different people have many different opinions and beliefs. Some believe you should always kiss on the first date provided you like someone, while others feel that this is a forced standard that should in no way be expected. Different genders, different personalities and different age groups all react to the dating scene differently. For example, consider the stark difference between a nineteen year old boy heading on a date and a sixty year old man wishing to find another person to settle down with in retirement, perhaps after losing a loved one. It’s not hard to think how both relationships might turn out differently.

Keeping your relationship healthy, especially in the early days, is not always something that is up for debate. There are better ideas and there are worse ones. For example, expecting your partner to wait on you hand and foot simply because you are now intimate is not a good idea, nor is the idea that you can treat them with less respect because of this.

Consider our advice for helping you make the best of your relationship. You’ll be surprised just how effective it can be:

Understand It’s A Work-In-Progress

A relationship is never ‘complete’ much in the same way that a bonfire is never ‘complete’. However, it can run cold and snuff out when the fuel isn’t there for it to continue. Understanding that your relationship is much like a bonfire is an incredibly important metaphor to consider, and this can make the most difference over time. 

Consider the start of a relationship. The first spark comes from the ember, and this causes the fire to burn. Perhaps it starts within a wooden house doused in petrol (attraction) and so the fire starts and you get on, well, like a house alight. The fire is raging, tearing through rooms, it’s so intense it makes you dizzy and also completely consumes you. Then, as this fades over time, the fire starts to die down but still burns with intensity. It has its fuel source, and it cannot spread anymore. This is until you find additional fuel for it.

In a relationship, you need to ensure that fire never goes out. You need to keep using fuel. From date nights to speaking deeply with one another to doing things to strengthen your friendship (a much more stable fire than romantic love could ever be), you begin to keep your relationship perfectly flamed. However, there’s a catch:

Both Need To Fuel It

Here’s the kicker. When finding fuel for our metaphor of a fire, there are two storage areas for you to place said energy to burn. One cannot place that energy in the vessel of the other. It needs to be mutual, and balanced. Otherwise, the fire will be lopsided, and will start to go out. 

Both need to keep the fire cared for. This means that if you feel that you do all the work in your relationship, you should speak about it to your partner. If you feel guilty because you know you haven’t been noticing them as much as you should, tell them, and make the effort. Too many people view their relationship as something that simply exists like a force of nature, something as immutable as the color of their eyes or their height. But it’s not. You created this within the course of your lifetime. It can easily be undone. So, if you think it’s worth saving and keeping care of, you need to put the effort in. Understanding this can be one of the best means of helping any relationship stay strong.

We would recommend being co-operative, sharing hobbies and also your own, being trusting and giving them their own space, but also protective, ensuring that they are doing well. Keeping any relationship healthy is much more than a simple fix. It is a sustained effort with a past, present and future, and it lives within you both. Understand this, and you’ll have an access of clarity.

Strengthen Your Friendship

Before, we alluded to the fact that friendship is a much more stable fire than romantic love. That is true, but let us explain why. Friendship is a relationship where we do not expect anything from the other, we only wish to help them succeed. When this is returned both ways, it can be extremely nourishing. Spending time hanging out with someone can often seem like no big deal, but you are quite literally investing the most precious resource you will ever have with them, time, and so that is the ultimate compliment.

Strengthening your friendship matters, and it helps you feel much more embodied within any relationship. Romantic love is wonderful, and it can be life-affirming in many ways. But unsustained by friendship, it is like trying to ride a horse that has not been tamed. You see it all the time, embodied in toxic relationships your friends might have, where they speak to on another like dirt and they seem to accept this is the natural state of things.

But this will not be you. Strengthen your friendship by doing things for one another without anything in the way of expectation in return. Watch how it will blossom, provided you are reciprocated. 

Learn The Art Of Communication

Without communication, you’re in trouble. You absolutely need to learn how to do this. If you cannot speak to one another, it might be too late. Learning the art of communication is something worth caring about. While looking up excellent guides to worrying questions such as ‘is he cheating?’ can often be a helpful tool to assess the signs and symptoms of infidelity, without talking about this topic carefully and being forthright about things, you will never have the answers that you seek. It’s in this way that relationships blossom and continually better themselves as the years pass on.

With this advice, you’re certain to keep your relationship healthy in the best manner possible.

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