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How To Become The New You

How To Become The New You

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2020 is on its way, and is actually almost here. This can make anyone excited and also apprehensive as to what the next ten years might hold.  It’s anyone’s guess. When we see how technology, culture and many other interesting elements of life have developed in ten years, anyone who can accurately predict what will happen in another ten will only be giving their best guess, despite what they say.

However, as always, worrying about the future is often left second to caring about the present. This means that becoming the new you before or as the new decade starts can help you segment yourself into productive new habits with this decade change as a milestone. It may seem overly optimistic, but there’s no reason as to why you should consider it so.

All you may need is an encouraging element of support and also someone gently whispering that yes, you can achieve this. With that said, please consider our advice to this end, as we hope to fulfil this role for you:

Stop Asking For Permission To Be You

We can often think that simply being ourselves is the greatest sin we can commit. Perhaps you like watching anime, or playing online games, or reading young adult fiction despite being 30 years old. Perhaps you enjoy baking in an apron as a 45-year-old buff security guard. Perhaps you enjoy learning full-contact MMA despite being a pleasant, middle-aged schoolteacher. Have we listed anything out of the ordinary here? Perhaps. Is that something to be ashamed of? Never. Stop asking for permission to be you. To use a cliched but always relevant phrase – the people who matter don’t mind, and the people who mind don’t matter.

Resolve Your Weights

Weights can hold all of us down. For some, it might be guilt for something experienced years ago. For others, it might be that they have been struggling with food addiction, or are falling back into terrible habits. It’s never as easy as clicking your fingers and being rid of the problem weighing you down, but the resolution process means taking a careful approach and doing your best to overcome the harmful issues you are facing. This means taking that first step, be it utilizing excellent substance abuse treatment, or even admitting that you need to speak to someone, allows you to find great inner strength and peace knowing you are making progress.

Don’t Force ‘You’

When we think of who we want to be, it’s easy to force ourselves into a singular version of who we think we are. But the truth is, you’re not that. You cannot force who you are. Moulding yourself into who you become is achieved through following what you are passionate about, through trying to live up to your highest ideals such as kindness or good faith. If you can approximate these measures, you feel much more alive than you have done prior. Because instead of living as an artificial version of you – you’re actually you.

With these tips, we hope you can find yourself, because you have and will always be enough.

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4 Top Tips For Looking After Your Health As A Woman

4 Top Tips For Looking After Your Health As A Woman

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If you’re worried about your health and you’re looking for advice when it comes to focussing on your wellbeing then don’t worry, you have definitely come to the right place. From improving your diet to spending time with people that make you happy, there are lots of different things you can do as a woman to ensure you’re being as healthy as you can be. With that in mind, here are 4 ways to look after your health as a woman: 

– Know When It Is Time To Visit A Doctor

One of the most important aspects of looking after your health is knowing when it is the right time to visit a doctor. Whether you’re struggling with a physical problem or you’ve been experiencing problems with your mental health, you need to know when it’s time to book an appointment. If you’re unsure, you might want to consider asking a professionals advice too. In most cases, you will find that you can call your doctor’s surgery and ask if you need to see someone or if you can visit a pharmacy instead. 

For guidance when it comes to booking an appointment to see your doctor, you can visit this site here. 

– Eat A Healthy Diet And Drink Plenty Of Water

Another great way to look after your health is to ensure you are sticking to a healthy diet. Although this doesn’t mean you need to count your calories, it does mean you need to think about what you are eating and when. If possible, try to limit the number of treats you’re eating. 

When it comes to drinking water, you need to have at least 2 litres a day. If you struggle to drink enough water and you need a little bit of guidance, you can visit this site here. 

– Look After Your Sexual Health

When it comes to looking after your health as a woman, you need to make sure you are doing everything you can to look after your sexual health. Whether that means practising safe sex or seeing a doctor to treat vaginosis, you need to put your health first. If you need more information when it comes to bacterial vaginosis treatment and how it can affect you, you can visit this handy site here. 

– Surround Yourself With People That Make You Smile

Finally, you need to surround yourself with people that make you smile. Looking after your mental health is incredibly important and one of the best ways to look after your wellbeing is to be with people that you love and care about. Whether that means spending time with your family at home or visiting your friends in the city, the more time you spend with them the better. 

Do you worry about your health as a woman? What can you do to ensure you’re being as healthy as you possibly can? Did we miss anything off of the list? Let me know your thoughts and ideas in the comments section below. 

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You Don’t See These Relationship Problems Coming!

You Don’t See These Relationship Problems Coming!

Being in a relationship is always going to cause some issues. It’s impossible to be in a relationship that’s functioning well for such a long period of time, it just doesn’t exist. Once you get through that honeymoon phase period, everything just seems to settle down, and the magical period that you created for yourself melts away, and the argument start to come in. The arguments come in because you’re both so much more comfortable around each other, and it’s so easy to pick up on all of the things that you might have been turning a blind eye to before. All of the sudden the quirks that you used to think were cute, you hate the thought of. And when you start to spend so much time around someone, you start to notice all of the things that might irritate you about them. So, we’re going to try and prepare you for some of the things you might not see coming in a relationship, and how to deal with them. Because you really do want to make sure that you’re either fighting for, or running from your relationship, rather than letting one drag on when it shouldn’t do!

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Problems In The Bedroom

It’s often a very secretive place, the bedroom, but there are problems that are being spoken about during office gossip that seem to be becoming more prominent. In an ideal world, everything in the bedroom would be perfectly ok, all of the time. But some women are experiencing problems with their partner, such as pornography addiction. Some men have such a big problem with this, and you won’t notice it until it starts to affect your own love life, which might be once you do get a little bit more comfortable with each other, and the intense passion starts to die down. If you think you’re dealing with this problem, simply sensitively talk to your partner about it, and be open and honest. Communication can save so many relationships, even if you might be a little embarrassed to talk about it to begin with!

Secret Money Problems

It’s not like there’s an interview process when you find yourself in a relationship, and it won’t be that you find out absolutely everything about them, they will try and hide certain things. One of those things would definitely be money problems, and it won’t be until you find yourself paying for more, or listening to them talk about their struggle to afford things, that it might click in your head that something is wrong. So again, try and get them to talk to a financial advisor, and try and help them work through it. The more you’re there for support, the stronger your relationship is going to grow!

Family Dramas

When you get into a relationship, you really do get into a relationship with their family as well, and it might not always be the best affair. So always make sure you’re trying to make an effort to bond with their family, because it might be that they think you’re taking your partner away from them, and simple effort with them could solve all of that!

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How to Ensure Your Family Is Thriving

How to Ensure Your Family Is Thriving

Life isn’t easy, that much is true. And it becomes even more difficult once we have a family to look after. Then, we need to make sure that everyone in our little clan is doing well and hitting all the milestones right on time. But of course, we don’t just need to settle for surviving as a family. We should thrive! And if you put a few crucial pieces in place, that’s just what your family will be doing. Below, we take a look at a few tried and tested ways you can ensure your family life hits new heights.

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Live with Purpose

It’s normal that all begin to live on autopilot a little after a while. We’re in the routine of going to work, looking after the children, cleaning the house, and so on. When we’re so busy, it makes sense that we can’t always be as present as we’d like. It is worthwhile finding ways to live with more purpose, however. You’ll find that if you’re proactive with your family, then it’s easier to overcome the humdrum of the routine. Meditation can be an excellent method for staying focused and avoiding autopilot life.

Entertainment and Excitement

We all have responsibilities in life, but they shouldn’t be what life’s all about. We’re here to have fun and enjoy things! As such, one way you can ensure that your family is thriving is to make sure there’s plenty of excitement and entertainment in your life. Rather than just sitting around on a rainy Saturday, you could get crafty, or perform a play, or anything else that’ll get the creative juices flowing. Life is hard, sure, but there should always be time for having fun as a family: it’s those things that’ll form the basis of a happy childhood for your kids.

The Basics of Life

If the individual members of your family are all good on a personal life, then the whole family will be thriving. While it’s important to focus on the children’s long-term ambitions and dreams, it’s the fundamentals that should be given top billing on the priorities list. It’s things like their health, education, and overall fitness that’ll play the biggest role in determining their prospects. As such, you’ll want to learn how to prepare healthy meals for the family, find a trustworthy family doctor, and play an active role when it comes to their schooling. If the essentials in life are managed well, but it’ll be much easier for everyone to be at their best. And of course, this includes you: you’ll be in a much better position to provide for your loved ones if you’re feeling at your best on a personal level.

Get Organized

Finally, it’s worthwhile setting up a system that leads to robust organization. There are too many facets of family life just to keep them in your head. By developing a routine and managing all the duties with the help of communal calendars and so on, you can make sure that everyone’s where they need to be at the right time. 

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Be A Guide Through Their Life And Yours: Coping With Aging Parents

Be A Guide Through Their Life And Yours: Coping With Aging Parents

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Having parents getting older to the point where you need to look for a retirement community or another way to care for them is an incredibly difficult thing for us to go through. Naturally, they are going through a major change, but we are as well. It’s important that when we go through this, we have to figure out appropriate coping strategies. Naturally, there are things that we are all undergoing that’s a bit alien to us, so what are the best methods for us to be a guide, not just for our parents, but for ourselves as well?

Learn Around The Subject

When it comes to something like age-related cognitive decline, like Alzheimer’s or dementia, it’s worth doing your research to understand the dementia causes and symptoms so you are better prepared. Understanding a subject as dense as getting older means that it can take a long time to learn, so at the same time, while you need to arm yourself with appropriate knowledge, don’t underestimate how much you can learn while living through the moment. It’s important to read around the subject. 

Look After Yourself As Well

Caring for your parents, or even worrying about them means that you can slowly sink into minimal forms of anxiety. As well as this your relationship with your significant other could struggle. It’s important to find the right ways to look after them, as well as yourself. Figure out if you need some proper me time, but also so it’s important not to feel so guilty on occasion. Life is very busy, but what you need to do is prepare adequately. The more things you can do to structure the day, the better it is for everyone. We have a lot to give to other people in our lives, and so we have to remember that we’ve got to give to ourselves as well.

Understand Your Emotions And Reactions

Because we have to process all these things that we’re going through, it’s a new sensation, but it’s very scary. If your parents are succumbing to cognitive decline you can very well go through the processes of grief before they pass away and this can feel, naturally, very upsetting. But it’s about ensuring that you don’t lock yourself off to these emotions. As we go through life, we have to remember that these things are natural sensations, and when we haven’t experienced them before, they can feel very raw. Sometimes we need to understand what we’re going through, but at the same time, we also need to process it. This is why we have to stay in the moment on occasion because it can feel like we are distancing ourselves for the very natural reason that we want to protect ourselves. But when it comes to the two people that raised you, it can feel like a very difficult thing to confront. But it’s okay to feel upset, and it’s okay to give yourself a break on occasion. What you are going through is very difficult, and rather than burying your head in the sand, coping strategies can help wonders.

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Four Ways To Boost Your Body Confidence

Four Ways To Boost Your Body Confidence

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It can be hard to love your body and all its unique features when the media is often presenting one idealistic view of beauty. The internet age has sparked a movement of self love but with it we have more access than ever to airbrushed images of supermodels and influencers that present an unrealistic idea of what we should look like. If you’ve found yourself looking in the mirror and not feeling any love towards the person looking back at you then before you start googling ‘plastic surgeon free consultation near me’ try these four ways to boost your body confidence and get back to loving the skin you’re in. 

1. Banish negativity and welcome positivity

Our mental state is so easily impacted by the things we surround ourselves with and body confidence is no different. Remove negative people or things from your life, unfollow Instagram accounts that make you feel bad and surround yourself with body confident influencers, people who champion natural beauty and online material that helps to bring you up rather than put you down. A few great body positive accounts to follow include @effyourbeautystandards, @roseybeeme and @honorcurves but try to find someone you can relate too. 

2. Adopt a mantra

As mentioned above, we have the ability to dramatically influence our own state of mind by thinking positive thoughts. Another great way to introduce positivity into our lives is to adopt a mantra. A mantra is a group of words or a simple phrase that is repeated over and over again; such as, “I am secure in myself. I do not compare myself to others.” or “I am a healthy, happy, positive person.”. A mantra can be anything you want it to be, and you can personalize one to suit you. If you want a few to get you started then check out this link

3. Study yourself and name the positives

You may dislike your nose or perhaps you hate the look of your stretch marks, but when was the last time you stood in the mirror, bared all to the world, and really studied yourself? Find some time when you are alone and look at yourself from head to toe, strike a pose, say aloud all the things you like about yourself. Be proud of the skin you are in. Get used to your naked body and see the beauty within yourself, learn to love your imperfections, they are what make you, you.

4. Power dress

If all else fails go the extra mile and adorn your beautiful body with all of the things that make you feel special. This could be your favourite pair of lacy underwear, or perhaps some bold statement jewelry, or maybe you have a pair of jeans that truly accentuate how fantastic your legs are. Whatever it is, our clothes and body image can have a big impact on our self confidence. If you aren’t in love with the skin you’re in then fake it until you make it and dress yourself with confidence.

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How To Take Yourself Sincerely, Not Seriously

How To Take Yourself Sincerely, Not Seriously

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In life, it is incredibly easy to take yourself too seriously. You may not think that you do, but the next time someone insults you, see how you react. Even if the insult is obviously silly or exaggerated, or coming from someone whose opinion you likely care little about, you will often take the insult and think about it. Is it correct? What if they are right? Why do they think like this? All of this can run through your mind, when in reality, that person may just wish to cause the most harm possible.

Of course, many of us learn how to deal with scenarios like that in our youth. However, that doesn’t mean we take ourselves any less seriously as time progresses. In fact, certain life scenarios, such as getting promoted at work, being complimented, or perhaps having faith in our self-confidence can lead us to take ourselves and our egos completely seriously. 

So in either direction then, positive or negative, it’s common to see just how taking yourself seriously can be a bad idea. We would like to volunteer the following advice to suggest why taking yourself sincerely, not seriously, could be your best option:

You Understand Your Development

Seriousness and sincerity are completely different things, although they are parallel to one another. When you are serious about yourself, for example, you are much more likely to be critical of yourself. Make a mistake, such as telling a joke that lands poorly at a party, and you’ll likely start identifying just if you had a sense of humor in the first place, or why you are such a social failure. Sincerity shows that you had good intentions when you made the joke, and it’s not your fault if others didn’t respond to it. 

It’s hardly something anyone will remember one hour from then. In other words, sincerity allows you to understand that you are a fallible being and can make mistakes, but that if your intentions are good, you are always learning and developing. In seriousness, there is no wriggle room. In sincerity, wiggle room is celebrated. It can help you stop pathologizing your progression through life, and instead lets you consider it as you move forward and try to better your approach.

Sincerity Has Room For Fun

Being serious is always trying to adapt yourself to the latest fashion trends, trying to fit in and understanding that your niche will never amount to anything without the latest fashion wisdom as part of its understanding. However, sincerity opens up room for fun with fashion, pure creativity, and also lets you make a fool of yourself. It allows you to purchase trendy leggings as part of a creative outfit idea, with no real event or extra plan to wear them by a specific date. In other words, it allows you to enjoy yourself. Additionally, it can help you make the most of a situation you were not expecting. 

For example, in the serious mindset, purchasing a formal shirt too big for your body might be a mistake that should have been prepared for or considered when opting for a new retailer. With sincerity, you might use that oversized shirt as part of another outfit, or return it without anything to worry about. If you have humor and fun as part of your life, sincerity will help you open up to yourself in the best possible means.

Sincerity Is More Authentic

Let us say that we are trying to comfort someone who is experiencing the loss of a relative. Being serious about this matter must make you think that you need to comfort them in exactly the same manner prescribed by that advice column you read that morning. That you must never smile, must never say anything out of turn, or outstay your welcome even for a second. It’s so filled with personal rules and regulations that you’re not actually focusing on the person, you’re just focusing on how best to move though the situation despite your good intentions.

However, sincerity is there. It listens. It lets you crack an off-timed joke that is received with a small smile from the person you are comforting, or it allows you to talk about the subject without fear of being insensitive to an overdramatic degree. In other words, it is more authentic, and it allows you to connect with the person more thoroughly.

With this advice, you are certain to take yourself sincerely and not seriously. Watch yourself as you embody either one of these. If you pay attention, you will learn just how much of your life is dictated by one of these two approaches. We’d recommend you choose the healthiest options to the extent that you can.

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How To Keep Your Relationship Healthy

How To Keep Your Relationship Healthy

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When it comes to relationships, many different people have many different opinions and beliefs. Some believe you should always kiss on the first date provided you like someone, while others feel that this is a forced standard that should in no way be expected. Different genders, different personalities and different age groups all react to the dating scene differently. For example, consider the stark difference between a nineteen year old boy heading on a date and a sixty year old man wishing to find another person to settle down with in retirement, perhaps after losing a loved one. It’s not hard to think how both relationships might turn out differently.

Keeping your relationship healthy, especially in the early days, is not always something that is up for debate. There are better ideas and there are worse ones. For example, expecting your partner to wait on you hand and foot simply because you are now intimate is not a good idea, nor is the idea that you can treat them with less respect because of this.

Consider our advice for helping you make the best of your relationship. You’ll be surprised just how effective it can be:

Understand It’s A Work-In-Progress

A relationship is never ‘complete’ much in the same way that a bonfire is never ‘complete’. However, it can run cold and snuff out when the fuel isn’t there for it to continue. Understanding that your relationship is much like a bonfire is an incredibly important metaphor to consider, and this can make the most difference over time. 

Consider the start of a relationship. The first spark comes from the ember, and this causes the fire to burn. Perhaps it starts within a wooden house doused in petrol (attraction) and so the fire starts and you get on, well, like a house alight. The fire is raging, tearing through rooms, it’s so intense it makes you dizzy and also completely consumes you. Then, as this fades over time, the fire starts to die down but still burns with intensity. It has its fuel source, and it cannot spread anymore. This is until you find additional fuel for it.

In a relationship, you need to ensure that fire never goes out. You need to keep using fuel. From date nights to speaking deeply with one another to doing things to strengthen your friendship (a much more stable fire than romantic love could ever be), you begin to keep your relationship perfectly flamed. However, there’s a catch:

Both Need To Fuel It

Here’s the kicker. When finding fuel for our metaphor of a fire, there are two storage areas for you to place said energy to burn. One cannot place that energy in the vessel of the other. It needs to be mutual, and balanced. Otherwise, the fire will be lopsided, and will start to go out. 

Both need to keep the fire cared for. This means that if you feel that you do all the work in your relationship, you should speak about it to your partner. If you feel guilty because you know you haven’t been noticing them as much as you should, tell them, and make the effort. Too many people view their relationship as something that simply exists like a force of nature, something as immutable as the color of their eyes or their height. But it’s not. You created this within the course of your lifetime. It can easily be undone. So, if you think it’s worth saving and keeping care of, you need to put the effort in. Understanding this can be one of the best means of helping any relationship stay strong.

We would recommend being co-operative, sharing hobbies and also your own, being trusting and giving them their own space, but also protective, ensuring that they are doing well. Keeping any relationship healthy is much more than a simple fix. It is a sustained effort with a past, present and future, and it lives within you both. Understand this, and you’ll have an access of clarity.

Strengthen Your Friendship

Before, we alluded to the fact that friendship is a much more stable fire than romantic love. That is true, but let us explain why. Friendship is a relationship where we do not expect anything from the other, we only wish to help them succeed. When this is returned both ways, it can be extremely nourishing. Spending time hanging out with someone can often seem like no big deal, but you are quite literally investing the most precious resource you will ever have with them, time, and so that is the ultimate compliment.

Strengthening your friendship matters, and it helps you feel much more embodied within any relationship. Romantic love is wonderful, and it can be life-affirming in many ways. But unsustained by friendship, it is like trying to ride a horse that has not been tamed. You see it all the time, embodied in toxic relationships your friends might have, where they speak to on another like dirt and they seem to accept this is the natural state of things.

But this will not be you. Strengthen your friendship by doing things for one another without anything in the way of expectation in return. Watch how it will blossom, provided you are reciprocated. 

Learn The Art Of Communication

Without communication, you’re in trouble. You absolutely need to learn how to do this. If you cannot speak to one another, it might be too late. Learning the art of communication is something worth caring about. While looking up excellent guides to worrying questions such as ‘is he cheating?’ can often be a helpful tool to assess the signs and symptoms of infidelity, without talking about this topic carefully and being forthright about things, you will never have the answers that you seek. It’s in this way that relationships blossom and continually better themselves as the years pass on.

With this advice, you’re certain to keep your relationship healthy in the best manner possible.

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Irresistible Reasons To Buy A Used Car

Irresistible Reasons To Buy A Used Car

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Today we are talking about choosing a new car but instead of heading to a showroom, choosing a used model. Used cars can be just as good as new and often you will save a ton of money on your purchase. Here are some of the top reasons why you should choose a used car this year.

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No matter your reasons for buying a new car, it is incredibly important to consider the resale value of the car in years to come. When you purchase a car you will often be able to sell it on and part exchange it for a new one years down the line. This means when you sell your car you are also partially paying for a new one. New cars are great, but the label ‘NEW’ only lasts until you sit behind the wheel and from this point onwards the value of the car will drop significantly. However, if you are to choose a used car instead, you will see a steady decrease in value over the time you own the car and you’ll likely be able to sell it for not much less than you bought it.

More for the money

Shopping for a new car can be incredibly exciting as a prospect until you realise how expensive all of your favourite models are. Once you take a dive into car shopping you will soon realise that many of the options you hoped to buy are out of your price range or carry a steep insurance premium. This can narrow your options massively and make you wish you had kept your old car. However, if you filter your search for used cars, you might find that the make and model you want is within your price range and this can open up a whole world of doors for you. Used cars are cheaper and therefore easier to buy, and this likely will mean that you can get a better car for your money, such as Mercedes approved used cars or used versions of your other favourite brands.

Lower Insurance

Even if you can afford to buy your dream car, the biggest hurdle which can get in the way is your insurance costs. Insurance is very expensive and it can even be more expensive than the car itself. When shopping for a car the insurance cost might stop you from getting what you want, however when choosing a used car you may be able to avoid the issues. Used cars are worthless and therefore are cheaper to insure, so this is always a great option for you when you want to buy a fancy new model.

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