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3 Tips for Choosing the Right tires for Your Car

By Guest Blogger, Neil W.

3 Tips for Choosing the Right tires for Your Car

Tires weren’t always designed the way they are today. The first models were made of iron bands attached to the wooden wheels. They were used for carts and wagons. The first use of rubber was recorded in the mid 19th century. Still, these were also very simple types of tires where all the load was placed on the rubber.

The first pneumatic tire appeared in 1845. The design patented by R.W. Thomson used air to absorb the shocks of the road. But this type of tire was only the beginning to invent the one we use today. While improving a bike, John Boyd Dunlop created the improved version of a pneumatic tire. That was I  1888 and was noticed only because the rider of the bike won the race.

Andre and Édouard Michelin were the first to use a pneumatic tire on a car in 1895. This is considered the beginning of the global use of pneumatic tires. Countries all around the world issued regulations requiring that all manufacturers start using pneumatic tires in production. 

From then on, tires were only improved to reduce the fuel consumption, handling different types of road and carry an appropriate load. In order to take good care of your car, you have to know your tires. Since we are not all car savvy, here are some easy tips for choosing the right ones.

1.    Let us look at the basics

Tires are rubber containers filled with compressed air. They take the load of the car upon themselves, but also they have to handle the road conditions. Observe them as cushions which reduce the impact of the ride on the vehicle.

Nowadays, tires have from 19 to 25 components. The core of every tire is an inner liner since it holds the air inside and so gives the tire its round shape. Steel belts are used for stability and to flatten the treated pattern as much as possible. 

A sidewall is located, as the name says, on the side. It defines the ride characteristics. For example, the softer sidewall can take a harder impact like bumps, while stiffer provides sharper steering.

Also, every sidewall on every tire has an alphanumeric code. These are dimensions of the tire. Most start with the letter “P” unless you drive a light truck where they start with “LT”. This code will help you choose the right tire for your vehicle, however that may not be the only helpful factor. 

2.    Learn to read the code

As we mentioned, every tire has a code on its sidewall which contains information you can use to choose the right one. Correct tire size is a very common mistake, but it’s also an easily solvable one.

So let’s break down the code so you can understand what every letter and number stands for. The code starts with the letter “P”, which signifies the type of tire. Its followed by the three-digit number like 195, for example. This is the tire’s width across the thread and is shown in millimeters.

After the symbol “/”, follows another number which signifies aspect ratio of the sidewall. Right next to this number is the letter “R” for radial construction and a number which stands for a diameter of the rim. After a blank space comes the number which shows tire’s load rating and a letter signifying the speed rating. If there is M+S at the end of the code, this means that the tire is suitable for all-season driving.

3.     How to avoid mistakes

Even though having this code means that you can simply go to the store and buy a tire, unfortunately, some mistakes still happen. Consulting a car repair center is always the best choice if you’re unsure how to buy the right ones.

For example, you have to pay attention not to choose the lower-load tire. This is especially important when you are buying a spare tire. Traction is another aspect you need to pay attention to. Choosing a tire inappropriate for the road you’ll be driving on is actually a very common mistake. Every season requires a certain type of tires, as well as certain terrains like mountain, dirt or wet roads. 

The cost of the tire differs depending on the vehicle. SUV requires different ones than the passenger vehicle. However, it’s very commonly noticed that SUV owners choose tires intended for the lighter cars because they’re cheaper. This is not only damaging to the car but also dangerous for the passengers.

So make sure that you use tires appropriate for your vehicle type, road conditions and season to avoid accidents and avoidable repairs.   

Finally

This may be a lot to remember since people handle numbers on daily basis. Passwords, PINs, security codes and all other figures can be a little too much to handle. But, now that you know that the code to buy the right tire is right on its sidewall, you can remember fewer symbols. Alternatively, you can always go to professionals for help and have one less worry on your mind.  

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15 Secrets to Make a Marriage Work

15 Secrets to Make a Marriage Work

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Challenges are normal in marriages. As they say, love is not enough to make a marriage successful. Both partners have to do their best to make sure that the marriage will work. Otherwise, the entire family suffers. These are fifteen secrets that real-life couples attest to being pivotal to the success of their marriages:

  1. Listen to your partner

Listening to each other may seem easy but you would be surprised how many couples struggle with this. Both partners should realize that hearing and listening are two vastly different things. To be a good listener, you should open your mind and heart to what your partner is saying. This way, you can understand their perspective.

  1. Accept your partner

One of the most common reasons for breakups between married couples is lack of acceptance. Both men and women have this tendency to try to change their partners to what they think they should be. If they have to, however, they have to make that journey on their own. Focus on the positive traits and features of your partner so you will be less stressed.

  1. Be responsible

Both partners must be responsible as individuals and as a team. When you set out to do something as a couple, you must remember to take responsibility whether it will be successful or not. You also have to accept that part of it may be on you.

Another aspect of marriage that being responsible would be helpful in is during arguments. If someone said something that was uncalled for, the other party must take responsibility by apologizing.

Be equally responsible in parenting as well. Both should try and spend as much time with the kids as possible. With some free time, both can help the kids do their homework. In case you both are too busy to help with homework of your kids, at least have them home tuition for the subjects they find difficult.

  1. Go on date nights

Date nights are essential to a marriage as they keep the fire burning. You do not have to go to a fancy restaurant or a luxury hotel. There are many things you can do depending on what you have in mind. Even just one night on a camping beach is already a romantic gesture. Make sure that your phones are off so that you can concentrate on each other.

  1. Be intimate

Therapists always say that sex is important if you are to keep your marriage healthy. According to some researchers and therapists, sex should be done on a regular basis. Sex should also be interesting so it would be best to sit down and talk about experimenting. Keep it exciting but safe in the bedroom.

  1. Spot “soft” emotions

The concept of a “soft” emotion may be foreign to you but it is incredibly helpful in ensuring that partners empathize with each other. For example, when you feel anger, you are most likely masking another emotion. Usually, these emotions are your vulnerabilities. You could be jealous, insecure or disappointed. Partners should be able to look for the soft emotion that may be just bubbling beneath the surface.

  1. Stop being controlling

Being controlling is never good in a marriage. Control may be how a partner wants to keep the other to fit in to what they expect of them. When one partner starts becoming controlling, the other may start resenting that. This is why talking with each other about such issues is a good thing. If settling between each other is no longer working, it is best to go to a marriage counselor.

  1. Avoid ever using the D-word

No matter what stage you are in your marriage, you should never use the D-word. Couples have been known to use divorce as a threat to each other. This can be used as a control mechanism that may be bound to fail as most of those who do it end up filing divorce papers. Not only is it immature, it also does not solve the problem the couple is facing.

  1. Be realistic about your expectations

The moment you get married, you should start letting go of the fantasy. Fairy tale endings do not happen in real life marriages. You need to be realistic about what you expect of your partner and your relationship. Accept that sometimes, being “okay” is more than enough. Otherwise, you will just end up being disappointed. This could lead to resentment, which you do not want in a marriage.

  1. Never take each other for granted

Never be complacent in a marriage. Always strive to be the best partner you can be. This way, your partner will see that you value them. They can return the favor too. Sure, it may be human nature to be comfortable with what is familiar to you but when you are in a committed relationship, try to resist any urge to be complacent.

  1. Agree to disagree

You may be married now but you are still individuals. You are never going to agree on every single thing. These disagreements could be on something as small as your choice in tea or something big like your political affiliation. Part of why a lot of marriages succeed is when both partners have the ability to meet halfway and compromise. No one has to be right every time.

  1. Be independent

One of the keys to a happy marriage is maintaining your independence. The husband and the wife must be able to enjoy their own personal space and hobbies. Part of this is sometimes getting the time to be apart. This way, you can ensure that you are happy, which could lead to a happy marriage. After all, a marriage works only when both partners have a sense of fulfillment in their lives.

  1. Be romantic

Never take romantic acts for granted. This can help keep the fire alive in the marriage. Send them flowers. Place a love note. Give them a ring. All ideas are valid just as long as the other partner ends up happy.

  1. Tell each other compliments

Compliments make a person feel good. Acknowledge the positive traits that your partner may have.

  1. Learn to communicate

To say that communication is important in a marriage is an understatement. The couple must be able to talk to each other about their feelings and issues freely. Partners should also look out for non-verbal cues. Read about love languages, which is how a person communicates their love. This could be in the form of acts of service or words of affirmation.

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Reconnect And Recover Your Relationship

Reconnect And Recover Your Relationship

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Do you feel like your relationship has taken a turn for the worst? Do you feel like you simply don’t connect as much anymore? There often comes a stage whereby couples feel distant and like their powerful connection has fizzled out. While this is cause for concern, it does not mean that your relationship is coming to an end. It simply means that you need to look for ways to reconnect with one and other. Read on to discover some suggestions.

Have a daily check-in ritual – The first thing you should do to boost your relationship is institute a daily check-in. This is something that a lot of marriage experts advise. When you both get in from work, make an effort to start off by appreciating something about the other person. You should then offer some new information about your day, and ask them something about themselves too to keep the conversation flowing. You can then end the conversation with a hope. This could be big, such as retiring within the next ten years, or it could be small, such as seeing a movie this week. Simply talking more can have a much bigger impact than you may expect.

Take up yoga – A great way to reconnect with your partner is to do yoga. There are yoga poses for couples specifically, which help you to connect in mind, body, and soul. You may even want to consider one of the yoga retreats that are available, allowing you to explore one of the most magical parts of the world. Is there any better way to reconnect than this? Yoga can help your relationship in many ways. Not only will it bring you closer together, but also it reduces stress and anxiety, increases trust and communication, improves intimacy, and increases overall relationship satisfaction too.

Create a couple’s ritual – If yoga is not something that appeals to you, then you need to find something else that can be your couple’s ritual. This can be anything that is going to bond you. For example, you could decide to make every Saturday night a date night. Other options include having a morning coffee together every day or making sure you have ten minutes to chat to one and other before bed. It has to be something that you will both enjoy and something that you will stick to. A date night every Saturday may be difficult for some couples, so don’t agree to this if you know someone is going to let the arrangement down, as that will only make matters worse.

Try the suggestions that have been mentioned above and see whether this helps you to rebuild your relationship and connect with your partner on a deeper level again. You may be surprised by just how much of a difference this makes. From yoga to simply chatting more, these are not changes that are difficult to implement, so why not get started today?

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Ways to Enhance Your Concentration

By Guest Blogger, Diana S.

Ways to Enhance Your Concentration

 

You have a deadline and you really need to work, but the busy Sydney streets are screaming at you from outside your window, you can’t get that scene from your favorite TV show out of your head and then, just when you clear your mind and finally focus on your assignment, somebody comes in with a question. There goes your concentration, leaving you frustrated and in panic. But, is there a way to enhance your concentration? Yes, there is. Here are some ways to do it.

Be rested

If you don’t get enough sleep, or if your sleep isn’t calming and restful, your thoughts can become scattered and focusing on anything might prove to be next to impossible. Establish a quality sleeping routine, which will include going to bed and waking up at the same time every day, sleeping on a comfortable bed and in a place that you find relaxing. If you don’t sleep enough during the night, try having at least a short nap during the day, in order to energize and concentrate more easily.

Eat well

Never skip meals, especially breakfast, since hunger can be your concentration’s greatest enemy. Your meals should be a healthy balance between proteins and carbohydrates, loaded with nutrients. Your body needs vitamins and minerals to maximize brain function, as well as water to remain hydrated, since dehydration can lower your concentration. However, overeating can cause discomfort and drowsiness, so avoid eating too much.

Take breaks

Trying to stay focused on one thing for a long time can be tiring and can even make you nervous. After a while, your brain’s processing abilities will decline, and your concentration along with it. Therefore, make a schedule for each task or each working day, one which will include several breaks. Taking an hourly short break can help you get your focus back and make you feel refreshed and alert. Use these breaks to have a healthy snack, take a nap or phone your friend for a quick chat.

Listen to music

Other than making you feel relaxed and boosting your mood, music can also improve your concentration. Certain types of music affect the parts of the brain related to paying attention and memory update, while others calm you down and help with anxiety. Find the music that makes you productive and helps you concentrate, invest in the best noise-cancelling headphones Sydney can offer and get back to work.

Exercise your body and mind

Physical exercise can get you into shape and improve your overall health, including your mind. If you’re unhealthy and physically inactive, you mood worsens and you feel worn down, which can make it very hard to focus. A daily workout can help you concentrate since it improves your circulation, and blood flow to the brain. It can be something as simple as a walk on the beach or a bicycle ride to and from work. And if physical exercise isn’t enough, you can also exercise your mind. Read a good book, do some crossword puzzles or Sudoku, or have a stimulating conversation during your lunch break to improve memory and concentration.

Remove distractions

Sometimes the loss of concentration is caused by outside factors, such as noise from the traffic outside or your colleagues’ squeaky voice and laughter. If you have your own office, closing the window or the door might be all it takes to regain your peace and quiet and avoid distractions. If not, try isolating yourself in another way, like using earplugs. Log out of your social networks accounts and turn your phone to silent mode if possible. However, if you need your phone and the social networks for work, you need to learn to ignore these specific distractions, disregard them and stay focused on your task.

Avoid multitasking

Jumping to a new project without finishing the previous one can be confusing and lead your brain to think it’s OK to switch focus from one topic to another, which in return can lower your concentration. If you start doing several things at the same time, you’ll be giving each of those things only partial attention, which can cause you to achieve less and make mistakes you wouldn’t make if you were completely focused on a single task. In order to improve your concentration, stick to a task until you finish it, and then make a short mental break before starting the next one.

Although it takes effort and time to concentrate properly, it’s not an impossible task. All it sometimes takes is to challenge your brain to stay focused on a single task for just a bit longer than the previous time. So, do what you can to stay healthy and sharp and your problem might just disappear.

 

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Tips To Help You Fully Unwind On Your Summer Vacation

Tips To Help You Fully Unwind On Your Summer Vacation

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Summer is on the way, and that means only one thing for many of us: the annual Summer vacation. Finally, you will have the time to unwind and de-stress, improving your mood as you get away from all those things that put pressure on you in your day-to-day life. That’s the theory, anyway. To be honest, vacation time can be stressful in itself. From lost passports to missed flights, your relaxation time can be hindered in a multitude of ways. Still, we are here to help. Here are some useful tips to help you fully unwind on your summer vacation.

 

  1. Choose the right destination

 

You need to pick a place that won’t trigger your stressors while you’re away. You might want to avoid the crowds, for example, so don’t go to those places that attract multitudes of tourists. If you have a fear of heights, don’t think about scaling the Eiffel Tower in Paris. Find somewhere that will enhance your relaxation time, such as the Delta Hotels Grand Okanagan Resort with its fabulous scenic views, or a beach holiday in a remote destination away from the throngs of other holidaymakers.

 

  1. Don’t overdo your plans

 

Some planning is always useful, especially if you want to make the most of the area you are visiting (and you don’t want to forget anything vital). But allow time for your free spirit, as well, doing things at the spur of the moment instead of adhering to a packed schedule, and enjoying the moment rather than worrying about the next thing on your itinerary.

 

  1. Go with the flow

 

You’re on vacation – things will go wrong! You may choose the wrong thing from the menu, or you may get lost if you travel off the beaten track. Provided you aren’t putting your life in mortal danger, laugh off these mishaps and add them to your memory bank for your holiday stories back home. Life isn’t perfect, so don’t sweat the small stuff.

 

  1. Don’t always throw caution to the wind

 

We may seem as if we are contradicting ourselves here, but that isn’t our intention. Yes, there are times when you should go with the flow, but without a few precautions here and there, you are going to make life harder for yourself. So, don’t head out into the sun without a hat and lotion, don’t stay out late at night if you are unfamiliar with the town you are staying in, and don’t eat anything off the menu if you know your fragile tum can’t take it. Have fun by all means, but be wise as well.

 

  1. Turn yourself off from the outside world

 

To truly unwind, free yourself from anything that will remind you of your life outside of the holiday. You need to centre on the moment, and enjoy the time you have away from work and those other pressures that burden you. So, don’t be tempted to look at work emails, avoid social media for a while, switch your phone off, and appreciate the beauty around you. You will be returning to the world outside of your holiday soon enough, so don’t waste your time and energy by thinking about it when you’re away.

 

Finally

 

Whatever you’re doing this summer, whether you are on vacation or staying at home, we hope you find time to unwind and gain some peace in your life. Take care, and if you are going away, bon voyage!

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Mood Swings and Your Health

By Tia Cristy

Mood Swings and Your Health

Sometimes we all get grumpy, sad, mad, depressed, etc., but when is it time to get concerned about your mood swings? Are you quick to get angry? Do you have instant irritation when driving anytime you get behind the wheel? Maybe you’re dealing with intense anxiety? Are you sad in moments of quietness? Do you feel lonely all the time? Do you get really high highs and then get pummeled by the lowest of lows? What about feeling indifferent about everything?

Recognize Your Moods

Admitting to yourself when you are actually feeling some sense of negativity will help you recognize how frequently its happening. High-stress in the work place or home can cause moods to fluctuate, but we must take control of our mental health before it can snowball into a large issue. Once you become aware of the frequency of your bad mood, then you’ll be able to tackle what is causing your mood.

Pinpoint Your Stressor

Nobody enjoys traffic, but guess what, we’ve all dealt with it at one point or another, but most folks don’t allow their blood pressure to increase to dangerous levels. Let’s be honest, getting angry to the point of seeing red over anything isn’t acceptable. It’s best to try to pinpoint what is causing the stress so you can cure the problem, not just treat the symptom. Are you stressed at work? How’s the home life? Is money the root to all your stress? Do you feel pushed to your max? Do you feel underappreciated? It all happens at one point or another because we are human. But here’s what you need to do when it does happen… change your mindset. The saying I like the best is… ‘Fake it till you make it’. Remember to tell yourself, and others, life is good. Soon you will begin to believe everything is great. When anger or sadness comes on quickly, quickly change your sights to the beautiful day or maybe give yourself some self-appreciation.

Mental Health Checkups

Staying on top of your mental health is so important. Do you know that stress can fire-off inappropriate neurotransmitters in the brain, which releases chemicals preparing you face a lion, instead of your Tuesday morning meeting? Sadly, this reaction results in misfires in the brain. These misfires can cause damage if not stopped. So, what stops misfires? The simple answer… handling stress before you stress. But here’s a few things that can help.

  • Talking to an online professional at Better Help is a great way to work on your mental health and release stress.
  • Start a daily exercise routine to expel the pinned up emotions.
  • Learning meditation is an amazing way to keep your mind healthy, as well as your body.
  • Getting more essential amino acids in your diet though food or supplements can change and reverse negative brain function.
  • Make sure you are getting your B vitamins—Especially for those that are gluten-free or on another specialty diet. (Remember to always consult your primary physician before starting any supplements and vitamins.) B Vitamins are powerful food for the brain!

Overall Health Can Cause Mood Swings

So you’ve tried meditation, started eating cleaner and found yourself a great therapist, but the moods haven’t improved. It’s time to talk to your doctor. Moods can certainly be a symptom of something else going on in your body. It doesn’t always mean it’s something serious since it’s known that seasonal allergies can actually cause mood swings, but it’s best to find out what could possibly be the culprit behind your mental disruptions. If your or anyone you know is dealing with depression or mental health issues, it’s important to know that you are not alone. There is help. Reach out to a family member, friend, colleague or talk to a professional, please.

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Get the Guy: How to Get a Man to Like You

By Guest Blogger, Diana S.

Get the Guy: How to Get a Man to Like You

 

Ugh, men are capricious beings and it can be hard and frustrating to get their attention and keep it. We all at one time longingly looked at a guy knowing that he doesn’t even know who we are, and even more often, grabbed someone’s attention just to see him lose interest. So, if you suffer from the same problem, here’s a little guide that will help you get and keep the man of your dreams.

Catch his eye

There’s a belief that men don’t care about what women wear, but the truth is that they do notice some positive changes. So, next time you think you’re going to see your hunk, try to dress up a bit. He will certainly notice and even maybe compliment your appearance. Of course, that doesn’t mean you have to wear a gown to work or a little black dress to your casual stroll. Simply putting on some makeup, wearing your hair up or putting some effort into your outfit can attract his attention.

Put on your best smile

It might sound overly simple, but sometimes, all you need to do to get the guy interested is smile. Smiling is a bit contagious, so he will automatically get happier when greeted with your radiant smile. Additionally, smiling makes your face brighter and you’ll seem a lot more approachable. Laugh gently when you’re with him or send a subtle smile his way every once in a while. He’ll definitely become friendlier towards you. Just don’t overdo it with grinning, otherwise you might seem creepy.

Don’t hesitate to flirt

Men usually enjoy a casual touch of a woman, so don’t hesitate to engage in a little physical flirting by touching his hand, arm or shoulder. It’s a great way to state that you want to get physical with him and to attract his attention. A light touch can flip a switch in his head and make him take a second look at you or rekindle old feelings.

Blow his mind with your date game

Once you manage to get him on a date, don’t hesitate to take over a traditionally man’s job and make plans for you. Yes, going out to a restaurant is never a bad move, but there are so many great date ideas that will stay in his memory forever. Engaging in an activity that is not a huge cliché will definitely make him curious about other cool ideas you have.

Change your perfume

People are very sensitive to smells, especially the changes in smell, so if you want to get him to notice you, try changing your perfume. A new scent or a perfume worn in unexpected situations might get him interested and even earn you a nice compliment.

Compliments never harmed anyone

Literally everyone loves compliments, so don’t hesitate to praise him from time to time. Guys don’t really feel comfortable hearing compliments from other men, but when a girl does it, it will certainly make them happy and proud. Just make sure to be genuine and moderate. Insincere compliments or too many of them can make you seem shallow and fake, and you might make him uncomfortable.

Take the lead

Sometimes, men are not the best at taking hints, so don’t hesitate to take the lead and make the first move. Go and make an introduction, start a conversation or buy him a drink. Guys that are shy will love you for it, plus being bold can be so sexy!

Here you have it, the basics of catching a guy’s eye. Just remember to be yourself—if he falls for the real you, you have the potential of having a happy and healthy relationship!

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Essential Advice For Life After Divorce

Essential Advice For Life After Divorce

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When you are going through a divorce, it can be hard to imagine what life will be like afterward. And while everyone knows that time is the greatest healer, the reality is that it can often seem like things will never get better. However, by following a few simple guidelines, it’s possible to cope with the stresses, pressures, and emotional turmoil’s that come with separation. Here is some essential advice on how to keep your head up and make it through the post-divorce landscape in the best possible way.

 

Accept the divorce

 

First of all, make sure you do all you can to terminate the marriage the right way. As discussed over at https://www.grahamhurdlaw.com/, you need the best solutions to this incredibly hard problem, and although it can be tough, try and see your divorce as a watershed moment. If you want to alleviate the pain and frustration of separating from a former loved one, you need to work hard, be honest, and accept the legal outcomes.

 

Keep a journal

 

Emotions are difficult to manage, and keeping things bottled up inside can lead to incredible psychological damage. And the reality of divorce is that you may not want to discuss particular issues with anyone else, even though they are eating you up from the inside. As http://womens-journal.com/ points out, one of the best ways of dealing with this is to keep a journal. Write down your emotional worries, and let those feelings out. Not only will it give you a release, it will also help you stop becoming dependent on others.

 

Get a shoulder to lean on

 

However, journaling your divorce experience will only go so far. The truth is that you need someone who can listen to you, share your feelings, and understand how your life is being affected. Find a friend that can listen and give you good advice. It should be someone you trust implicitly, and know that has your best interests at heart. It should also be someone who you know is unafraid to tell you how things really are and won’t shy away from letting you know if your actions are doing you harm.

 

Get busy

 

As your old life ends, it’s time to embrace a new one. And given that your marriage is likely to have been problematic for some time, it’s the perfect opportunity to focus on yourself. It could be through investing more of your time into your professional life. Maybe you want to start that hobby you always wanted to try. Or perhaps you just want to broaden your horizons, and take advantage of being single and free.

 

Be sociable

 

One of the big problems with divorce and relationship failures is that you will often find yourself avoiding social situations. While this is an understandable reaction, it’s important to fight these feelings and get up and get yourself out there. You could join a divorce support group if you are struggling, or hook up with old friends you haven’t seen for years. Ultimately, the sooner you start being sociable, the faster you will be able to get over the divorce. Good luck!

 

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Why Being Single Can Be Great

By Guest Blogger, Cathy W.

Why Being Single Can Be Great

Did you go through a rough breakup recently? Maybe you just haven’t met someone, yet. Either way, you’ll be happy to know this isn’t the end.

As a matter of fact, being single can help you become motivated to do things. It can be an extremely enjoyable experience, once you realize all of the fun you can have without a partner there to get in your way. When you’re feeling lonely and down about not being in a relationship, here are a few thoughts you should keep in mind.

Attaining Full Access to Virtually Anything

One of the best aspects of being single is the fact that you get full and total access to the sources of your happiness. Maybe it’s a new episode of your favorite show on television. It comes on every week, and you simply can’t bear to miss it.

As a single person, you won’t have to worry about your partner stealing the remote from you and turning on his own show. After all, you’d probably waited all week long for the episode to air. The last thing you want is to end up missing it altogether.

How about that huge container of ice cream that’s in your freezer? It’s all yours, and you don’t have to share it with anyone. That means it’ll last you for a lot longer, and you’ll even be able to save some money, too.

Discovering Peace and Quiet

If you’re generally a quiet person, being single may suit you exceptionally well. Maybe you don’t mind the extra noise so much, but the constant nagging can certainly get old after a while. It can make you truly long for some peace and quiet.

Not being in a relationship will give you the opportunity to perform activities that require a quiet atmosphere. Meditation is one example. You can meditate in any room at any time of the day without having to worry about being interrupted.

If you’re used to always having someone there with you, this can be like a breath of fresh air. The single life will give you the peace and quiet you desperately crave. What could be better than that?

Moving at Your Own Pace

Another nice aspect about not being in a relationship with someone is that you get to move at your own speed. If you need extra time to get ready before you go out, for instance, you’ve got it. You won’t need to deal with a cranky, impatient partner getting upset with you or rushing you along to finish by a certain time.

Also, you get to decide where you want to go. You won’t have to put up with all those complaints and arguments. No matter how you look at it, it’s a win-win for you each and every time.

Freedom to be Yourself

Being single means you can do whatever you want without the fear of being caught doing it by someone else. Singing in the shower is something you’ve always enjoyed doing, but you’ve become a bit self-conscious about it ever since your partner’s moved in with you. As a single man or woman, you can feel free to sing to your heart’s content without having to worry that you’re being judged for it.

Do you like to dance? Whether you prefer upbeat or slow music, you can dance around inside of your home for as long as you want. The best part about it is that no one will see you doing it.

As you can see, being in a relationship isn’t always what it’s cracked up to be. In fact, being single can truly be a blessing in disguise. Who knew that going solo could actually be so much fun?

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