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Care At Home – Or In A Home: The Big Question With Aging Parents

Care At Home – Or In A Home: The Big Question With Aging Parents

Nobody can predict the future. And while I could hazard a guess that most of you reading this post would love to allow their parents to age gracefully in their own home – or even yours – you just can’t tell what might happen. Illnesses, repetitive injuries, and complicated psychological issues could all play their part. And even if you do make the decision that you will definitely be your parent’s caregiver, who’s to say you will be in a position to do it when the time comes?

There are a lot of considerations to think about – and to be honest, it is almost impossible to make a decision now, without knowing what the future holds. But the sooner we all start thinking about things, the more prepared we will be to make that important decision. With this in mind, here are a few things you should be thinking about right now, so you are ready to deal with them in the years to come.

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Emotional cost

Yes, sending your parents to a residential home is going to be expensive. But you might be surprised to learn that there are enormous costs involved when they need care in their home, too. Millions of people all over the country care for ageing and ill parents and relatives and an increasing number are providing hands-on care. It’s a lot of work. Unless you can afford to pay medical staff and support workers, you can expect it to be a full-time job, and it will be incredibly draining, stressful, and can take you away from bringing up your own family.

Financial cost

Money has to be taken into account. As much as we would all love to say it makes no difference, the cost of caring for a parent at home is significant. You may need to give up your job, pay for medical services, and maybe even shell out for adaptations to your parent’s home – or yours. In short, whether you choose a care home or look after your folks yourself, there is a chance it will have a profound effect on your finances.

Approaching the end

There will come a time when your folks will be close to the end. And if they are suffering from something like end-stage cancer palliative care is of vital importance. Your loved one will be undergoing a lot of pain, and be experiencing the impact of a massive array of symptoms. They will need doctors to treat them, nurses to care for them, and also people who can provide them with the psychological support they require. While many people prefer to see out their days at home, there are some scenarios where getting help from a professional setting will be better for everyone.

The guilt

Unless money is no object, at some point you are going to have to make a choice – and live with it. Either way, you are going to feel guilty. On the one hand, if you decide on residential care, you might have to go against the wishes of your parents. But on the other, keeping them at home may prevent them from receiving the care they need to live out their days comfortably, or the support they need in the event of an emergency. Whichever direction you end up choosing, you have to remember that you will still be a big part of the care team, but you will also have to accept reality.

It’s a tough call, for sure. But hopefully, these factors will help you feel a little better about making a decision when the time comes. Hopefully, that won’t be for many years…

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Becoming A Full Time Carer For Your Parent – What You Need To Know

Becoming A Full Time Carer For Your Parent – What You Need To Know

You might be a busy working mom taking care of your family right now. But if your parents are aging, chances are you’re spending more and more time taking care of them too. It’s really hard to juggle the needs of your young family with the needs of your parents now they are senior citizens. And it probably feels quite peculiar that your role in the relationship is reversing. After two decades of taking care of you in your youth, you need to now care for them.

So what happens when ill health and age make your parents too frail to be independent? Are you ready and willing to do what is needed to help them? It’s a huge ask. Many people would find it too difficult at this busy time in their lives to become a full-time caregiver. Sadly, more and more of us need to step up to the challenge. Private care is so expensive now. And our parents may be very reluctant or financially unable to enter the care home system.

You may have siblings that are willing to share the care arrangements. Be wary of this, though. You’ll both have occasions when you need or want to pass the buck. This can cause friction in your relationship with your brother or sister. And if your parent finds out about the bickering, this can make the whole situation extremely awkward and unpleasant. Personal relationships within your own family can become strained too. You will sometimes be unavailable to your partner and kids as you care for your parents. Are they ready for you to become a caregiver?

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Your mental health can suffer from the stress and worry of caring. You need to make sure you can have plenty of breaks from the duties you need to undertake. There may be lots of personal care tasks to perform as time goes on. You and your parent might prefer to hire a nurse or caregiver for things like managing the toileting or bathing. Of course, there are closed system catheters that can help when things become more difficult for your parent to manage.

As well as caring for your parent, you will need to regularly check the living arrangements are suitable for everyone. Things change in such a short space of time. You might start by looking after your parent in their home. Later, it may be necessary to choose small, single story accommodation. And eventually, it may be essential that your parent is cared for around the clock. You may choose to move them into your family home.

So how do you cope with your parent in your home all day every day? It can feel crowded at first, and you will undoubtedly need a period of settling in. But there can be some advantages to this. You can make sure your parent is eating and drinking enough. You can use the quality time for some bonding. And it means your entire family can become close with them too. We usually move our parents in with us when we’re concerned about their safety. You’ll know their risks of injury will be dramatically reduced. Take care.

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Health Considerations For Older People: Tips For Caring For Those Closest To You

Health Considerations For Older People: Tips For Caring For Those Closest To You

There comes a time in life where many of us take on the responsibility of caring for other people. As your parents get older, for example, they may become increasingly reliant on you. If you’re caring for those closest to you, here are some considerations to bear in mind.

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Boosting general health

As we get older, we become prone to many different types of illness. It’s often impossible to prevent certain diseases. But making healthy lifestyle choices can help to boost general health. If you’re caring for an elderly parent, try and encourage them to make positive decisions. Help them out with cooking and preparing nutritious meals. Go for walks together, and try and help them to stay as active as possible. Keep up to date with routine dental and eye care checks. Older people tend to have a stiff upper lip when it comes to asking for help. Many don’t want to trouble a doctor if they feel unwell, for example. Make sure that your loved one knows that it’s ok to ask for help and that you’re there whenever they need you.

Getting help at home

As you age, living independently can become increasingly difficult. Tasks that you never thought twice about may become virtually impossible. If you have elderly relatives who are struggling at home, there are options to consider. Perhaps your parents need a little help with making meals. Or you have a grandmother who needs assistance with getting in and out of bed and washing. Maybe your relative needs medical care. If you’re not around all the time, don’t worry. There are services out there that provide tailor-made care. You could contact an agency and ask about personalized care packages, or get in touch with a live-in care agency. With this option, a carer lives in the home, so your loved one has someone with them constantly.

Maintaining a social life

Mental health is as important as physical wellbeing. Elderly people often feel isolated, and this can lead to depression and loneliness. Socialization is really important for older people. Getting out of the house, and spending time with friends can boost mental health and confidence. If you are able to, try and connect your loved ones with community groups and help them to contact friends. If you’re not around to offer lifts, you can arrange transport or enlist the services of care agencies. If your relatives are interested in hobbies or activities, you can often find details of local clubs and societies online.

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When you’re caring for older relatives, you want to do the best job possible. Try and encourage good habits and healthy lifestyle choices. Lend your support, and try and help out where you can. Sometimes, you can be there to provide assistance. But it’s often impossible to provide round-the-clock care. If you’re juggling work, looking after children and being there for your parents, there are people who can help. Care agencies provide a wide range of services. You can get help with basic tasks, such as preparing meals or invest in a more comprehensive care package.

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