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How To Reduce Stress In Your Life

How To Reduce Stress In Your Life

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Your emotional wellbeing is just as important as your physical health, and it’s vital to take care of yourself mentally. There are a number of things which can your affect emotional health negatively, from being unhappy in your job and working too much to getting married, moving house and suffering from a traumatic event like a car accident or death of a loved one. So, apart from avoiding life in general and trying to steer clear of any significant events – what else can you do to keep your stress levels at bay?

Meditate

Mediation used to be seen as something that only hippies and Buddhists, however today because of the stresses that modern day living brings, practising meditation has never been more popular. Thanks to technology and apps, it’s never been easier to meditate either, as you can find guided meditations on youtube or there are specific apps for it. Take a look at Headspace or Calm, and within those you will find short or long meditations, to help you to keep calm, to help with anxiety, focus, personal growth or to help you sleep better. Even if you take five minutes on the bus on your way to work to meditate, it can genuinely help your stress levels and help you to deal with what the day will bring. Give it a go and see if it works for you.

Breathe

Breathing exercises can really help you to relax. There are also a lot of breathing exercises you can do so you can have a look and see which one feels right for you. It’s similar to meditating as you need to try and clear your head and just focus on your breathing, and that’s all. If you don’t manage to fit in time to do this consciously, just remember next time you’re feeling stressed how much breathing can help you. Take a moment, go and find somewhere quiet and just breathe. You will feel better and calmer almost instantly.

Write Things Down

People often claim they are stressed because they just don’t have time to get everything done. However, you will often find that the more you do, the more you can do. Try to make time to write your thoughts and feelings down. Almost like a journal. It can really help for you to get some focus and clarity of what you’re doing, what you need to do, what you want from life, and what your goals are.

Think Positively

Positively talk to yourself. Be aware of your own thoughts, and if you catch yourself talking down to yourself or negatively thinking about yourself, then stop, take a minute and re-think. Change your thoughts and think more positively. The more you do this, the better you will feel.

Get Fit

Exercising is one of the best tools for beating stress. Many people find it therapeutic, and it’s for many reasons. First off, there is the time to yourself, which helps you to get your head clear about things that are stressing you out. Then after that, there are the endorphins which your body releases when you exercise, these are the chemicals in your body which make you feel happy. Next, there’s the bonus of getting fit and healthier, feeling great, looking great and maybe even losing weight. Finally, there’s a sense of achievement. Exercise is great for setting goals and achieving them. If you’re already fit and a great runner there is always something else you can work towards or always something you could improve on. The challenges are endless. If you’re a total beginner then the sense of achievement when you realise you can run for just five minutes without stopping, you move up on the weights in the gym, get faster at swimming or can finally touch your toes in Yoga – you will feel amazing.

Eat Well

This goes hand in hand with exercising, but it is also another essential ingredient for managing stress. Food which can help include brazil nuts which are high in selenium and selenium is said to improve mood as it reduces inflammation. Then there’s fatty fish, like salmon, mackerel, sardines, trout, and herring, which are all high in omega-3, which is good for your mental health. Also, try to include a lot of vitamin D in your diet as vitamin D deficiency is being increasingly linked to mood disorders, such as depression and anxiety – eggs are a great source of vitamin D.

Talk About Your Feelings

A problem shared is a problem halved. If you’re stressed about something, tell someone. You never know what useful advice they could give you, they may even be able to solve your problem for you, you just never know until you speak out and share your feelings. Also if there’s nothing they can do for you, just listening is sometimes all you need, or just talking to someone and getting what’s going on in your head out in the open can make you feel instantly better about what’s going on.

Delegate

If you have got too much on or there is something big in your life, then don’t take it all on yourself, ask people to help you. It shouldn’t all be on your shoulders, so share the load. Sometimes others just don’t realise that you’re struggling but if you let them know they would be more than happy to take some jobs off you and help you out. Similarly, if you need professional help, then get it. Don’t be afraid to go for it, don’t be ashamed and try to deal with everything on your own. Whether you need a cleaner in to help you out at home to take one job off your mind or you need to go and see a counsellor to help you deal with issues, then go for it. So many people do it, and it’s what these professions are there for.


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5 Fantastic Methods to Become More Independent

5 Fantastic Methods to Become More Independent

There are so many reasons for losing your spark or independence in life. People can make you feel less than important or even worthless. You could go through some knock backs in your life that could cause you lose faith in yourself. Whatever has happened to you in the recent months, you should know that all is not lost. Whether you’re trying to get over a previous relationship or rediscover your unique personality again, there are so many ways you can achieve this. Consider the following five fantastic methods to becoming more independent. Keep an open mind and you will soon be celebrating your success.

1. Learn How to Drive

If you have always been heavily reliant on other people to take you from A to B, then you might just need to give yourself the freedom you deserve. Learning how to drive can be quite daunting, but if you contact the best driving school, you will soon be able to gain the independence you’re looking for. You will be able to hop into your car whenever you want and
hit the roads. You won’t ever have to rely on anybody else taking you places; you will be free at last!

2. Let Go of Your Past

One of the only ways that you can feel completely independent is by leaving the past behind you. If something has happened to you quite recently, you might struggle to recover straight away. However if you can start focusing on the positives in your life, you will soon see a huge improvement in your mood.

3. Be Financially Secure

When you have to rely on other people for money it can feel quite embarrassing. Everybody wants to be able to look after themselves, but if you have been struggling recently, you might just have to make a few changes. Perhaps you could get a second job in order to support yourself a little better. It might take a while to feel completely free of the people you depend on, but it’s an excellent start.

4. Live for Yourself

You should look to live every single day just for you. You shouldn’t have to make other people happy or tend to their needs over yours. If you want to take a vacation, then do it! Nobody should be allowed to stop you.

5. Write Down Your Goals and Chase Them

When you are setting goals for yourself it’s always a great idea to write them down. As soon as you have something tangible to work towards, it’s so much easier to get there. Be patient with yourself and start chasing those dreams one step at a time.

It is going to take a while to rebuild yourself after a few knock backs, but all is not lost. If you have the willpower and tenacity to make a change in your life then you will be successful. Just taking this first step is a huge accomplishment that you should be very proud of. Never let anybody tell you that you’re less than second best, because you are here to achieve greatness and find yourself once again.

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You Can’t Reach Your Goals, And Here’s Why…

You Can’t Reach Your Goals, And Here’s Why…

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January gets a pretty bad rep, and we get it. It’s going back to work after a neat little break, it’s the financial ruin you find yourself in thanks to spending all of your early December pay check on fun, it’s trying to make it through January 15th (the most depressing day of the year) and it is failing to achieve your New Year’s resolution (again!), which means that once motivating start to the year becomes the catalyst to more failed goals. It’s brutal.

 

But what if it wasn’t January’s fault? What if you haven’t been hitting your goals simply because you haven’t known how to set them properly and accomplish them effectively?

 

We’re trying to tell you that missing the mark thus far has nothing to do with your willpower, determination or ambition, but with mistakes you’ve made when it comes to setting your goals, which is why we have pulled together a list of ways you can fix these mistakes starting today.

 

  1. Vague Plans, Vague Results

The number one reason you have not been achieving your goals is your goals are more vague than a child telling you about their day at school. Saying you are going to get out of debt is not enough. You need to be more specific. You need to say you are going to research debt relief programs. Saying you are going to get fit is too vague. You need to say you are going to run two miles every morning. That’s the secret.

 

  1. Have A Way Of Measuring

You can’t possibly know if you have achieved your goals if you have no way of measuring them. You need to create a map so that you can see exactly where you are with your efforts. You need to be able to answer questions like, “how much?” and “how far is left to go?” and “how many?” if you can do this then you will know exactly where you are at and where you are with your goals.

 

  1. The Impossible Is Unattractive

The moment you realise you have overstretched yourself and your goals are, in fact, impossible, you will give up. It’s natural. There is just no point in trying to achieve something that can’t be done. Instead, make sure you set goals where obvious change can be noticed within a week. Yes, you can do anything you set your mind to, but it will be so much easier to start by understanding your capabilities and then using this to guide your goal setting attitude.

 

  1. Not Just The Long-Term View

The reason why things like climate change don’t motivate us in the way they should is they are too big to wrap our heads around. They seem so far away. That is why our efforts to be more eco-friendly fizzle out. The same goes with your long-term goals, which is why you need to litter your path to these with smaller, short-term goals; ones that you can accomplish here and now. Saying that you are going to get a book published is a great example of this. Instead, what you should be doing, is setting smaller goals to help, such as getting your writing into publications and magazines. That way your focus won’t wilt like warm lettuce.

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