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How To Become The New You

How To Become The New You

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2020 is on its way, and is actually almost here. This can make anyone excited and also apprehensive as to what the next ten years might hold.  It’s anyone’s guess. When we see how technology, culture and many other interesting elements of life have developed in ten years, anyone who can accurately predict what will happen in another ten will only be giving their best guess, despite what they say.

However, as always, worrying about the future is often left second to caring about the present. This means that becoming the new you before or as the new decade starts can help you segment yourself into productive new habits with this decade change as a milestone. It may seem overly optimistic, but there’s no reason as to why you should consider it so.

All you may need is an encouraging element of support and also someone gently whispering that yes, you can achieve this. With that said, please consider our advice to this end, as we hope to fulfil this role for you:

Stop Asking For Permission To Be You

We can often think that simply being ourselves is the greatest sin we can commit. Perhaps you like watching anime, or playing online games, or reading young adult fiction despite being 30 years old. Perhaps you enjoy baking in an apron as a 45-year-old buff security guard. Perhaps you enjoy learning full-contact MMA despite being a pleasant, middle-aged schoolteacher. Have we listed anything out of the ordinary here? Perhaps. Is that something to be ashamed of? Never. Stop asking for permission to be you. To use a cliched but always relevant phrase – the people who matter don’t mind, and the people who mind don’t matter.

Resolve Your Weights

Weights can hold all of us down. For some, it might be guilt for something experienced years ago. For others, it might be that they have been struggling with food addiction, or are falling back into terrible habits. It’s never as easy as clicking your fingers and being rid of the problem weighing you down, but the resolution process means taking a careful approach and doing your best to overcome the harmful issues you are facing. This means taking that first step, be it utilizing excellent substance abuse treatment, or even admitting that you need to speak to someone, allows you to find great inner strength and peace knowing you are making progress.

Don’t Force ‘You’

When we think of who we want to be, it’s easy to force ourselves into a singular version of who we think we are. But the truth is, you’re not that. You cannot force who you are. Moulding yourself into who you become is achieved through following what you are passionate about, through trying to live up to your highest ideals such as kindness or good faith. If you can approximate these measures, you feel much more alive than you have done prior. Because instead of living as an artificial version of you – you’re actually you.

With these tips, we hope you can find yourself, because you have and will always be enough.

Tia, and TipsfromTia.com  is trying to keep you looking good and
feeling good, from the inside out. If you’ve got a problem or a tip email me! Be sure to Like and share on Facebook or Follow on Twitter or Instagram.

How To Take Yourself Sincerely, Not Seriously

How To Take Yourself Sincerely, Not Seriously

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In life, it is incredibly easy to take yourself too seriously. You may not think that you do, but the next time someone insults you, see how you react. Even if the insult is obviously silly or exaggerated, or coming from someone whose opinion you likely care little about, you will often take the insult and think about it. Is it correct? What if they are right? Why do they think like this? All of this can run through your mind, when in reality, that person may just wish to cause the most harm possible.

Of course, many of us learn how to deal with scenarios like that in our youth. However, that doesn’t mean we take ourselves any less seriously as time progresses. In fact, certain life scenarios, such as getting promoted at work, being complimented, or perhaps having faith in our self-confidence can lead us to take ourselves and our egos completely seriously. 

So in either direction then, positive or negative, it’s common to see just how taking yourself seriously can be a bad idea. We would like to volunteer the following advice to suggest why taking yourself sincerely, not seriously, could be your best option:

You Understand Your Development

Seriousness and sincerity are completely different things, although they are parallel to one another. When you are serious about yourself, for example, you are much more likely to be critical of yourself. Make a mistake, such as telling a joke that lands poorly at a party, and you’ll likely start identifying just if you had a sense of humor in the first place, or why you are such a social failure. Sincerity shows that you had good intentions when you made the joke, and it’s not your fault if others didn’t respond to it. 

It’s hardly something anyone will remember one hour from then. In other words, sincerity allows you to understand that you are a fallible being and can make mistakes, but that if your intentions are good, you are always learning and developing. In seriousness, there is no wriggle room. In sincerity, wiggle room is celebrated. It can help you stop pathologizing your progression through life, and instead lets you consider it as you move forward and try to better your approach.

Sincerity Has Room For Fun

Being serious is always trying to adapt yourself to the latest fashion trends, trying to fit in and understanding that your niche will never amount to anything without the latest fashion wisdom as part of its understanding. However, sincerity opens up room for fun with fashion, pure creativity, and also lets you make a fool of yourself. It allows you to purchase trendy leggings as part of a creative outfit idea, with no real event or extra plan to wear them by a specific date. In other words, it allows you to enjoy yourself. Additionally, it can help you make the most of a situation you were not expecting. 

For example, in the serious mindset, purchasing a formal shirt too big for your body might be a mistake that should have been prepared for or considered when opting for a new retailer. With sincerity, you might use that oversized shirt as part of another outfit, or return it without anything to worry about. If you have humor and fun as part of your life, sincerity will help you open up to yourself in the best possible means.

Sincerity Is More Authentic

Let us say that we are trying to comfort someone who is experiencing the loss of a relative. Being serious about this matter must make you think that you need to comfort them in exactly the same manner prescribed by that advice column you read that morning. That you must never smile, must never say anything out of turn, or outstay your welcome even for a second. It’s so filled with personal rules and regulations that you’re not actually focusing on the person, you’re just focusing on how best to move though the situation despite your good intentions.

However, sincerity is there. It listens. It lets you crack an off-timed joke that is received with a small smile from the person you are comforting, or it allows you to talk about the subject without fear of being insensitive to an overdramatic degree. In other words, it is more authentic, and it allows you to connect with the person more thoroughly.

With this advice, you are certain to take yourself sincerely and not seriously. Watch yourself as you embody either one of these. If you pay attention, you will learn just how much of your life is dictated by one of these two approaches. We’d recommend you choose the healthiest options to the extent that you can.

Tia, and TipsfromTia.com  is trying to keep you looking good and
feeling good, from the inside out. If you’ve got a problem or a tip email me! Be sure to Like and share on Facebook or Follow on Twitter or Instagram.

Four Areas of Your Life That You Could Change, to Give Yourself a Real Confidence Boost

Four Areas of Your Life That You Could Change, to Give Yourself a Real Confidence Boost

In life, we can all need a little confidence boost here and there. Not all of us are naturally confident and really have to work on it. There are several things that can affect how confident we are. We might have had a negative experience in the past. It can be hard to let go of, and as a result, makes us feel unable to be proud of ourselves. We might not be happy with how we look and feel changes would help that. Whatever the reason for lacking in confidence, there are things that you can do to change that. So I’m going to talk you through some things that you could change, to give yourself a confidence boost.

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Change Aspects of Your Appearance

I have briefly mentioned it above, but your appearance can be a major factor that hinders your confidence. While you shouldn’t rely on how you look to make you feel happy, small changes could help. Think for instance about your teeth. If you hate your teeth, does it stop you from smiling? It might make you feel awkward in front of a crowd, and out you off speaking in public. A simple procedure or treatment at somewhere like Broadway Dental Clinic could sort your smile right out. Something like that can be a massive confidence booster. You’ll be the selfie queen before we know it!

Change Your Thinking

One easy way to give yourself a confidence boost is to change how you think. You need to start thinking positively. In order to think positively, you need to highlight your strengths and weaknesses. It then means to take steps to overcome those weaknesses. Don’t see them as failures, but things that you can improve on. So learn from your mistakes or weaknesses. Don’t dwell on things that have happened in the past. They are exactly that; in the past. You can make your future exactly as you would want it to be.

Change Your Approach

You might have heard the little phrase ‘fake in until you make it.’ This is a good phrase that to start with, you might need to implement. If other things haven’t worked for you in the past, then why not try this? Basically, if you act like you are confident, then you will become confident. A great way to do this is by talking to other people and following their examples. Confident people are attractive to be around. So be around them and learn from them. Confidence is said to be contagious, so soak it all in!

Change How You Control Situations

One reason people lack confidence is that they don’t feel in control. Take a job interview, for example. Are you someone that plans well in advance for an interview and prepares lots of answers? Or do you just turn up and feel a little disorganized? When you take control, you will feel more confident. So take the time to plan and prepare for things more. It will give you a complete boost.