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How To Become The New You

How To Become The New You

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2020 is on its way, and is actually almost here. This can make anyone excited and also apprehensive as to what the next ten years might hold.  It’s anyone’s guess. When we see how technology, culture and many other interesting elements of life have developed in ten years, anyone who can accurately predict what will happen in another ten will only be giving their best guess, despite what they say.

However, as always, worrying about the future is often left second to caring about the present. This means that becoming the new you before or as the new decade starts can help you segment yourself into productive new habits with this decade change as a milestone. It may seem overly optimistic, but there’s no reason as to why you should consider it so.

All you may need is an encouraging element of support and also someone gently whispering that yes, you can achieve this. With that said, please consider our advice to this end, as we hope to fulfil this role for you:

Stop Asking For Permission To Be You

We can often think that simply being ourselves is the greatest sin we can commit. Perhaps you like watching anime, or playing online games, or reading young adult fiction despite being 30 years old. Perhaps you enjoy baking in an apron as a 45-year-old buff security guard. Perhaps you enjoy learning full-contact MMA despite being a pleasant, middle-aged schoolteacher. Have we listed anything out of the ordinary here? Perhaps. Is that something to be ashamed of? Never. Stop asking for permission to be you. To use a cliched but always relevant phrase – the people who matter don’t mind, and the people who mind don’t matter.

Resolve Your Weights

Weights can hold all of us down. For some, it might be guilt for something experienced years ago. For others, it might be that they have been struggling with food addiction, or are falling back into terrible habits. It’s never as easy as clicking your fingers and being rid of the problem weighing you down, but the resolution process means taking a careful approach and doing your best to overcome the harmful issues you are facing. This means taking that first step, be it utilizing excellent substance abuse treatment, or even admitting that you need to speak to someone, allows you to find great inner strength and peace knowing you are making progress.

Don’t Force ‘You’

When we think of who we want to be, it’s easy to force ourselves into a singular version of who we think we are. But the truth is, you’re not that. You cannot force who you are. Moulding yourself into who you become is achieved through following what you are passionate about, through trying to live up to your highest ideals such as kindness or good faith. If you can approximate these measures, you feel much more alive than you have done prior. Because instead of living as an artificial version of you – you’re actually you.

With these tips, we hope you can find yourself, because you have and will always be enough.

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How to Ensure Your Family Is Thriving

How to Ensure Your Family Is Thriving

Life isn’t easy, that much is true. And it becomes even more difficult once we have a family to look after. Then, we need to make sure that everyone in our little clan is doing well and hitting all the milestones right on time. But of course, we don’t just need to settle for surviving as a family. We should thrive! And if you put a few crucial pieces in place, that’s just what your family will be doing. Below, we take a look at a few tried and tested ways you can ensure your family life hits new heights.

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Live with Purpose

It’s normal that all begin to live on autopilot a little after a while. We’re in the routine of going to work, looking after the children, cleaning the house, and so on. When we’re so busy, it makes sense that we can’t always be as present as we’d like. It is worthwhile finding ways to live with more purpose, however. You’ll find that if you’re proactive with your family, then it’s easier to overcome the humdrum of the routine. Meditation can be an excellent method for staying focused and avoiding autopilot life.

Entertainment and Excitement

We all have responsibilities in life, but they shouldn’t be what life’s all about. We’re here to have fun and enjoy things! As such, one way you can ensure that your family is thriving is to make sure there’s plenty of excitement and entertainment in your life. Rather than just sitting around on a rainy Saturday, you could get crafty, or perform a play, or anything else that’ll get the creative juices flowing. Life is hard, sure, but there should always be time for having fun as a family: it’s those things that’ll form the basis of a happy childhood for your kids.

The Basics of Life

If the individual members of your family are all good on a personal life, then the whole family will be thriving. While it’s important to focus on the children’s long-term ambitions and dreams, it’s the fundamentals that should be given top billing on the priorities list. It’s things like their health, education, and overall fitness that’ll play the biggest role in determining their prospects. As such, you’ll want to learn how to prepare healthy meals for the family, find a trustworthy family doctor, and play an active role when it comes to their schooling. If the essentials in life are managed well, but it’ll be much easier for everyone to be at their best. And of course, this includes you: you’ll be in a much better position to provide for your loved ones if you’re feeling at your best on a personal level.

Get Organized

Finally, it’s worthwhile setting up a system that leads to robust organization. There are too many facets of family life just to keep them in your head. By developing a routine and managing all the duties with the help of communal calendars and so on, you can make sure that everyone’s where they need to be at the right time. 

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Four Ways To Boost Your Body Confidence

Four Ways To Boost Your Body Confidence

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It can be hard to love your body and all its unique features when the media is often presenting one idealistic view of beauty. The internet age has sparked a movement of self love but with it we have more access than ever to airbrushed images of supermodels and influencers that present an unrealistic idea of what we should look like. If you’ve found yourself looking in the mirror and not feeling any love towards the person looking back at you then before you start googling ‘plastic surgeon free consultation near me’ try these four ways to boost your body confidence and get back to loving the skin you’re in. 

1. Banish negativity and welcome positivity

Our mental state is so easily impacted by the things we surround ourselves with and body confidence is no different. Remove negative people or things from your life, unfollow Instagram accounts that make you feel bad and surround yourself with body confident influencers, people who champion natural beauty and online material that helps to bring you up rather than put you down. A few great body positive accounts to follow include @effyourbeautystandards, @roseybeeme and @honorcurves but try to find someone you can relate too. 

2. Adopt a mantra

As mentioned above, we have the ability to dramatically influence our own state of mind by thinking positive thoughts. Another great way to introduce positivity into our lives is to adopt a mantra. A mantra is a group of words or a simple phrase that is repeated over and over again; such as, “I am secure in myself. I do not compare myself to others.” or “I am a healthy, happy, positive person.”. A mantra can be anything you want it to be, and you can personalize one to suit you. If you want a few to get you started then check out this link

3. Study yourself and name the positives

You may dislike your nose or perhaps you hate the look of your stretch marks, but when was the last time you stood in the mirror, bared all to the world, and really studied yourself? Find some time when you are alone and look at yourself from head to toe, strike a pose, say aloud all the things you like about yourself. Be proud of the skin you are in. Get used to your naked body and see the beauty within yourself, learn to love your imperfections, they are what make you, you.

4. Power dress

If all else fails go the extra mile and adorn your beautiful body with all of the things that make you feel special. This could be your favourite pair of lacy underwear, or perhaps some bold statement jewelry, or maybe you have a pair of jeans that truly accentuate how fantastic your legs are. Whatever it is, our clothes and body image can have a big impact on our self confidence. If you aren’t in love with the skin you’re in then fake it until you make it and dress yourself with confidence.

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How To Take Yourself Sincerely, Not Seriously

How To Take Yourself Sincerely, Not Seriously

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In life, it is incredibly easy to take yourself too seriously. You may not think that you do, but the next time someone insults you, see how you react. Even if the insult is obviously silly or exaggerated, or coming from someone whose opinion you likely care little about, you will often take the insult and think about it. Is it correct? What if they are right? Why do they think like this? All of this can run through your mind, when in reality, that person may just wish to cause the most harm possible.

Of course, many of us learn how to deal with scenarios like that in our youth. However, that doesn’t mean we take ourselves any less seriously as time progresses. In fact, certain life scenarios, such as getting promoted at work, being complimented, or perhaps having faith in our self-confidence can lead us to take ourselves and our egos completely seriously. 

So in either direction then, positive or negative, it’s common to see just how taking yourself seriously can be a bad idea. We would like to volunteer the following advice to suggest why taking yourself sincerely, not seriously, could be your best option:

You Understand Your Development

Seriousness and sincerity are completely different things, although they are parallel to one another. When you are serious about yourself, for example, you are much more likely to be critical of yourself. Make a mistake, such as telling a joke that lands poorly at a party, and you’ll likely start identifying just if you had a sense of humor in the first place, or why you are such a social failure. Sincerity shows that you had good intentions when you made the joke, and it’s not your fault if others didn’t respond to it. 

It’s hardly something anyone will remember one hour from then. In other words, sincerity allows you to understand that you are a fallible being and can make mistakes, but that if your intentions are good, you are always learning and developing. In seriousness, there is no wriggle room. In sincerity, wiggle room is celebrated. It can help you stop pathologizing your progression through life, and instead lets you consider it as you move forward and try to better your approach.

Sincerity Has Room For Fun

Being serious is always trying to adapt yourself to the latest fashion trends, trying to fit in and understanding that your niche will never amount to anything without the latest fashion wisdom as part of its understanding. However, sincerity opens up room for fun with fashion, pure creativity, and also lets you make a fool of yourself. It allows you to purchase trendy leggings as part of a creative outfit idea, with no real event or extra plan to wear them by a specific date. In other words, it allows you to enjoy yourself. Additionally, it can help you make the most of a situation you were not expecting. 

For example, in the serious mindset, purchasing a formal shirt too big for your body might be a mistake that should have been prepared for or considered when opting for a new retailer. With sincerity, you might use that oversized shirt as part of another outfit, or return it without anything to worry about. If you have humor and fun as part of your life, sincerity will help you open up to yourself in the best possible means.

Sincerity Is More Authentic

Let us say that we are trying to comfort someone who is experiencing the loss of a relative. Being serious about this matter must make you think that you need to comfort them in exactly the same manner prescribed by that advice column you read that morning. That you must never smile, must never say anything out of turn, or outstay your welcome even for a second. It’s so filled with personal rules and regulations that you’re not actually focusing on the person, you’re just focusing on how best to move though the situation despite your good intentions.

However, sincerity is there. It listens. It lets you crack an off-timed joke that is received with a small smile from the person you are comforting, or it allows you to talk about the subject without fear of being insensitive to an overdramatic degree. In other words, it is more authentic, and it allows you to connect with the person more thoroughly.

With this advice, you are certain to take yourself sincerely and not seriously. Watch yourself as you embody either one of these. If you pay attention, you will learn just how much of your life is dictated by one of these two approaches. We’d recommend you choose the healthiest options to the extent that you can.

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How Do People Actually Feel Attractive?

How Do People Actually Feel Attractive?

Do you sometimes have that feeling, when you look into the mirror, that attractiveness is for other people? 

We all have a bad day when we feel vulnerable; one of those days when all you want to do is to hide away until you’ve made peace with the reflection in the mirror. Bad days happen to the best of us. But they are not without consequences. Indeed, it’s hard to stand for yourself when your inner critic is stuck on a loop of ugliness. Attractive people never have self-doubts, you tell yourself. But that’s where you’re wrong. Attractiveness is in all of us, and that includes you even on your bad days. You need to find your way back to the real you. 

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They buy the clothes for it

There’s no denying it; you’re not going to feel at your most sensual when you’re wearing a pair of oversized joggers. What you wear plays a significant role in how you think. Feeling attractive is all about choosing a delicate lingerie set that revive your inner femme fatale. After all, you have to dress the part! It’s up to you whether you prefer a cheeky babydoll with a bow or a pair of alluring French knickers. There’s a moment when you have to give your mind a chance to look at yourself from the right angle, and that includes buying the clothes that make you feel like a woman. 

They look after their body

Your body is a temple. You’ve heard the saying countless times before, but you’ve never really thought it through. There’s a double meaning to the temple imagery. Indeed, it means that you need to treat your body with the utmost respect, in terms of how you feed it and look after it. But it also means that, like a temple, it has the potential to shine – aren’t temples filled with the most delicate decorations? If you’re the kind of person who lives primarily on takeaway and goes to bed without removing their makeup, the chances are that the temple might be in need of repair works! But ensuring you give your body the vitamins and minerals it needs to stay strong and healthy and that you protect your skin, you’re guaranteed to feel like a goddess! 

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The Best Ways to Obtain Unshakable Confidence

The Best Ways to Obtain Unshakable Confidence

Confidence is something that every woman wants, every woman deserves and that absolutely every woman should have. Getting hold of and especially keeping confidence nowadays can be quite a challenge. 

So, today we are going to be looking at some simple, yet effective ways to build, boost and maintain confidence.

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Take A Walk 

We will start with the most simple, yet one of the most effective of things. Simply taking a little bit of a walk. Walking not only has a certain amount of health benefits, but the psychological benefits are also many. As walking reduce, stress, anxiety, and fatigue, you know the confidence is going to take a great big boost all on its own. You can also use your walk to assert more confidence in daily life, a high chin, sway in the shoulders and a smile can make you not only feel more confident but you will seem more confident to the outside world.

Exercise Can Put You On Top Of The World

You don’t have to want to lose weight or get fit to go to the gym, just going alone, can instantly give you a huge boost in confidence. Once we start to enjoy the gym and then we see changes in our body, our whole demeanor changes, we become more confident without even knowing it. If the gym isn’t for you, pilates and yoga have been a choice of many for the boosting of confidence and wellbeing.

How Does Your Wardrobe Make You Feel?

For many of us, how we look will often determine how we feel. So my advice to you is, get out and get shopping or even get online. Dress for the person you want to be. Whether you love hats and want one for every day of the week or whether you take some inspiration from this women’s lingerie producer. Finding what you want and wearing what makes you feel confident and amazing is key.

One, Two, Three.. Open your eyes

I think you know where I am going with this final one. Yes, hypnotherapy. Some people will tell you that it did wonders for them, the new use of hypnotherapy is boosted self-confidence. The therapy works exactly as with the traditional methods. It just involves placing the patient into a trance and gradually training the mind to see something different. Hopefully, in this case, you. 

You Are What You Eat

Confidence can stem from many places and what we eat is one of those places. A good diet  promotes healthy self-esteem along with feeling more energetic and all-around happier. We are all guilty of a little junk food, followed by extreme lethargy. It’s not a call to diet, don’t worry. Even something as small as a 70% great food to 30% junk food is a step in a positive direction and you will see the results in no time.

So there we have it, a sure-fire way to help you along the way into finding your true confidence. Putting these into action is a great stepping stone to a more strong and confident you.

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How do You Bounce Back From the Bad Times?

How do You Bounce Back From the Bad Times?

When everything seems to be going wrong for you in life and nothing according to the plans you put in place, it’s very easy to get down about it all. But that’s just the nature of life; we all go through times when nothing seems to be going the way we want it to. How you respond to those bad times and bounce back is what really matters more than anything else because that’s how your future will be decided.

Having said that, bouncing back from the bad times is much easier said than done. There are some steps and ideas that might help you to do this successfully though, and they’re what we’re going to talk about in more depth today. Keep reading to learn about what you should begin to do in order to bounce back from times that have been tough for you.

Find the Silver Lining

The very first thing you should try to do is find a silver lining. Every situation has a silver lining, no matter how bleak it seems at first. By looking at the situation objectively and thinking about how you can come out if it positively and look to the future, you’ll be putting yourself in a much healthier position. It’s definitely difficult to find silver linings in some situations, but you should at least give it a try.

Focus on the Things in Life That Matter Most

There are some things that matter more than others when you’re trying to bounce back from the bad times. You have to be willing to look at things objectively and focus on the things in life that are really important because if you allow yourself to get hung up on insignificant things that don’t matter much, you’ll never find the time or energy to properly bounce back and move in the right direction once more.

Create a Plan of Action

Creating a plan of action is important because it gives you a road map to your future. It’ll show you want you need to do next and which steps are most important as you aim to get back on track and bounce back from whatever negative things you’ve been experiencing. The right plan of action is something that only you can create because only you understand what you need to do next in your life.

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Don’t Focus on the Negatives Too Much

Even if you’ve been through a lot of negative stuff recently, you should try to reject any negative feeling that might hold you back further. By focusing on the negatives, you will carry on in your spiral of pity when you should really be thinking about what comes next and how you can turn the situation into a more positive one. It’s all about focusing your energy and attention on the right things.

Seek Compensation to Help Your Recovery

If you’re dealing with a bad situation because of someone else’s mistake, you should see if you can seek compensation for it. Maybe you were injured or defrauded in some way. If so, you should find a lawyer who you feel you can trust and take things from there. With the right lawyer on your side, you’ll find it possible to get compensation which can then be used to get yourself back on track.

Do What’s Right for You

What’s right for you is what matters right now, so don’t worry so much about what other people think or what they might be saying. The only significant thing is how you move forward. Your own needs have to come first, even if that’s something that you’re not used to. It can be difficult to always do what’s right for you but being selfish isn’t such a bad thing sometimes.

Remember That the Future Remains Unwritten

Finally, you should always remember that the future and what comes next has not been written yet. No matter how bad things have been up to now, everything could change very quickly for you in the future. It’s all about doing what you can to make that possibility as likely as it can possibly be. Who knows what will happen tomorrow?

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No matter what kind of bad times you’ve been going through recently, you can most certainly come out the other side in better shape and ready to succeed in life. It all comes down to mentality and belief. If you can get both of those things right, you’ll have no problems at all.

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Avoid Heading For Divorce By Doing These Simple Things

Avoid Heading For Divorce By Doing These Simple Things

No one ever said that relationships are super easy and to be honest, why would they be? You are essentially attempting to spend the rest of your life with the very same person and whilst doing so you’re both still constantly changing and evolving as people. The hope though is that you’ll be changing together rather than growing apart.

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Realising you’ve met the one is one of the most breathtaking moments you’ll ever experience. They always say that when you know, you know, but that doesn’t mean that relationships and marriage are all plain sailing either. Things can slowly crop up and turn into huge issues if they aren’t addressed properly. Unfortunately that means that far too many great couples end up splitting up and heading for divorce instead of overcoming the obstacles they’ve been presented with. It doesn’t have to be that way though and if you follow these steps, you’ll probably never find yourself filling out divorce papers as you’ll still be with the very same person you fell so in love with originally…

  1. Be the person your spouse fell in love with

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Of course we all change over the years and that’s part and parcel of choosing to spend your life with someone. No one is ever the same throughout their entire adult life and why would you want to be? Where’s the excitement in that? But whilst your partner is prepared to stand by you as you change and hopefully grow into an even better person, that doesn’t mean that you can completely dessert the person you were in the beginning. It was the qualities you had then that made your spouse fall in love with you and want to commit to spending their entire life with you, so make sure you’re not leaving everything you once were behind in search of someone you want to become.

  1. Identify any problems and change them

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Marriage certainly isn’t a smooth ride at all times and there will be problems along the way. That part is guaranteed. But it’s how you deal with these problems that make all the difference. If you and partner fall out over the same thing time and time again then it means you’re making the huge mistake of not addressing it to begin with. Eventually the problem will spiral out of control and that could mean divorce if you don’t actively try to sort it. If you and your spouse are unable to identify what the exact issue is or how to overcome it, symmetry counseling is a great way to talk through issues without the entire situation escalating.

  1. Be the best version of yourself

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There’s nothing more attractive than self confidence and being happy with the person you are. How can you expect others to love you if you don’t even love yourself? If you demonstrate to your partner that you’re completely comfortable with who you are and give the impression that you’re still as awesome now as you always were, they’ll likely follow trend and see exactly what you do too.

That means feeling and looking your best. If you’re down about your weight then take steps to change it. If you hate your frumpy wardrobe then go out and re-haul your look. Fall in love with yourself again so that your spouse gets the excitement of doing it all again as well.

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Self-Esteem Quickie.

By Tia Cristy

Self-Esteem Quickie.

Man or woman; we’ve all been guilty of picking on ourselves. Stops picking out the wrong things.

It may sound corny, but some sayings will withstand the test of time, because of the truth they hold. “Nobody can love you unless you love yourself.” And, I’m not talking about being conceded. (it’s hard to love anyone conceded.) I’m talking about looking at who you are inside and out, and loving it. The tip to being good to yourself.

Lot’s of  today’s woes got the world down, but a quick tip to a positive you, is 5 minutes a day in the mirror with your reflection. And reflecting on positive things is what you are doing. Don’t feel silly.

Start simple with what you like about yourself. It may be difficult at first but, try to pick out a physical feature. For example, you like your hair, your eyes, etc. Physical feature should be the first thing is pick out, since it’s usually the hardest for a person to do. Then once you except that, tell yourself about something good you did or something you are good at. Again this may be hard at first, but after participating in “yourself” time a few times, you will begin to feel a better outlook and confidence about yourself.

Adding in this outside project can take your self-esteem even further; look for smiles in the crowd, not faces, but smiles. Identifying happy people in your surrounding will make you a happier person.This is proven.

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By Tia Cristy