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Be A Guide Through Their Life And Yours: Coping With Aging Parents

Be A Guide Through Their Life And Yours: Coping With Aging Parents

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Having parents getting older to the point where you need to look for a retirement community or another way to care for them is an incredibly difficult thing for us to go through. Naturally, they are going through a major change, but we are as well. It’s important that when we go through this, we have to figure out appropriate coping strategies. Naturally, there are things that we are all undergoing that’s a bit alien to us, so what are the best methods for us to be a guide, not just for our parents, but for ourselves as well?

Learn Around The Subject

When it comes to something like age-related cognitive decline, like Alzheimer’s or dementia, it’s worth doing your research to understand the dementia causes and symptoms so you are better prepared. Understanding a subject as dense as getting older means that it can take a long time to learn, so at the same time, while you need to arm yourself with appropriate knowledge, don’t underestimate how much you can learn while living through the moment. It’s important to read around the subject. 

Look After Yourself As Well

Caring for your parents, or even worrying about them means that you can slowly sink into minimal forms of anxiety. As well as this your relationship with your significant other could struggle. It’s important to find the right ways to look after them, as well as yourself. Figure out if you need some proper me time, but also so it’s important not to feel so guilty on occasion. Life is very busy, but what you need to do is prepare adequately. The more things you can do to structure the day, the better it is for everyone. We have a lot to give to other people in our lives, and so we have to remember that we’ve got to give to ourselves as well.

Understand Your Emotions And Reactions

Because we have to process all these things that we’re going through, it’s a new sensation, but it’s very scary. If your parents are succumbing to cognitive decline you can very well go through the processes of grief before they pass away and this can feel, naturally, very upsetting. But it’s about ensuring that you don’t lock yourself off to these emotions. As we go through life, we have to remember that these things are natural sensations, and when we haven’t experienced them before, they can feel very raw. Sometimes we need to understand what we’re going through, but at the same time, we also need to process it. This is why we have to stay in the moment on occasion because it can feel like we are distancing ourselves for the very natural reason that we want to protect ourselves. But when it comes to the two people that raised you, it can feel like a very difficult thing to confront. But it’s okay to feel upset, and it’s okay to give yourself a break on occasion. What you are going through is very difficult, and rather than burying your head in the sand, coping strategies can help wonders.

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4 Ways to Help to Elderly Parents without Draining Yourself and Your Budget

4 Ways to Help to Elderly Parents without Draining Yourself and Your Budget

by Guest Blogger, Caitlin E.

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Your parents took care of you when you were a kid. They paid for your education and food. They raised you to be a good person. And while they didn’t do that expecting you to return the favor, there might come a day when they’ll need you to step in.

Of course, if that day comes, it will mean that you have to make some changes in your lifestyle, regarding your career, personal life, and finances. No one expects you to give up on your life to care for your parents. But you will need to learn to balance your responsibilities in a way that enables you to continue making an income, caring for your family, and giving your parents all the attention they need.

Because you should not be in this alone, here are a few tips that will help you get through this situation.

See if They Need Help and How Much Help They Need

It’s always hard to admit that our parents, who we considered to be our superheroes, are ill and powerless. Facing the facts early on will help you give them the best care they need. The best thing you can do is to talk to your parents first because they need to be involved in every decision that concerns them.

Then, search for the signs they need help:

  • They’re struggling with household chores.
  • Their personal hygiene is not as it used to be.
  • They’re not eating regularly.
  • They struggle to move around the house and neighborhood.
  • They’re losing hand-eye coordination, which prevents them from driving safely, using tools, and other necessities.
  • They’re losing track of their medication.

Once you determine the condition of your parents, you will know the degree of care they require. For example, they might only need you to help with paying the bills or doing household chores. In more severe cases, they will require assistance with getting dressed and moving around.

Talk to Your Employer

Trying to juggle work and the new responsibilities might be the first to come to mind when you find yourself in a situation like this. However, in most cases, this feat results in dropping one juggling ball. Your productivity will definitely suffer, and your boss will notice it. It’s better for you to tell him/her before this happens.

Be honest. Try to point out your value to the company and explain that you will still do your best to contribute. You can ask to work from home for some time or take family days. Your company might even offer some benefits you can use.

Examine the Financial Situation and Make Plans

The financial aspect of being a caregiver is not to be neglected, as it can take quite a toll on both your and your parents’ budget.

First, you need to asses your current financial situation and see if there is room for savings. As a family caregiver, you might have a chance for a tax deduction, so check that out as well.

Later, you should do the same with your parents’ retirement income, but this is a touch topic. You’ll need to assure your parents that you have their best interest at heart. If they haven’t applied for social security yet, help them do it, and look for any tax and other reliefs that can help. For example, being a member of The American Association of Retired Persons (AARP) provides various services, such as insurance coverage and discounts for certain medical equipment.

Consider downsizing their living arrangements as a way of cutting unnecessary expenses and adding to their savings. Of course, it is imperative to plan for the long term and create a budget that will cover the costs of future care.

Don’t Do Everything on Your Own

Taking on all the responsibilities alone can only cause you to burn out faster and damage your own health, which will result in a decreased ability to take care of your parents.

There’s no shame in asking a sibling or a relative for help when it comes to taking your parents to the doctor’s or cleaning the house. If your kids are teenagers or older, they can also help around the house or just be good company to their grandparents. Ask the neighbors to check up on your parents every once in a while and let you know about their condition. This way, the burden will feel lighter, and you’ll be able to balance your life more successfully.

Finally, don’t neglect your health and personal needs. You are of no use to your parents if you’re miserable or sick. Try to find the time to rest, sleep, and socialize, and when you come to their house with a smile on your face, they will feel much better too.

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Can Your Elderly Parent Still Live Independently?

Can Your Elderly Parent Still Live Independently?

There comes the point in the life of every adult when they start having to worry about their parent just as much as their parent worried about them when they were younger. When this change occurs can differ from person to person, but it usually begins a little after you start to build your own family or when you reach a comfortable point in your life. For instance, you might find that once you reach forty, your parent starts to have more frequent trips to the doctors or even hospital. This is a clear sign that they do need more support and may not be able to live independently anymore. Let’s look at some of the other possible signs that you should watch out for.

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Issues With Dementia

Dementia becomes frighteningly common as we age. It’s quite possible that you start to see signs of dementia as early as forty. This is called early-onset dementia and it’s far rarer. Actual cases of dementia start to become common after sixty-five and you do need to watch out for this. By recognising the signs, you can make sure that your parent gets the treatment they need to slow down the progression of the disease.

Early signs include zoning out of conversations and living in the past. This simply means that elderly parents remember long-term memories far more clearly than say, what happened yesterday. You can learn more about the early signs on https://www.healthline.com/health/dementia/early-warning-signs.

Furthermore, you will also need to make sure that you are looking for signs that they are forgetting names, places and dates. The disease will progress quite quickly once it reaches this point without treatment.

Loss Of Motor Function

Another issue that you must keep a check for is a loss of motor function. This could be anything including issues with motor control. For instance, you might see them making movements that they have no control over. A common sign of a motor neurone disease is the finger moving freely by itself on one hand. It’s a small sign but one that should definitely be checked out by a doctor. If issues with mobility and motor control continue to develop, your parent will eventually need nursing support. You can read more about this option on sites such as https://www.riddlevillage.com/how-we-care/skilled-nursing/. Here you’ll discover exactly the type of treatment your elderly parent can receive from a full trained staff and why they might need it.

No Recovery

Finally, you need to watch out for signs that your elderly parent isn’t recovering after suffering from an injury. This does become a serious issue as we age because our bodies heal a lot slower. In some cases time in the hospital can cause elderly parents to deteriorate faster than before simply because they are in environments that are emotionally stressful for them. As such, you do need to be aware of this problem and work hard to provide the full support they need.

We hope you find this advice useful when determining whether your elderly parent can no longer live independently without help from you or others.

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They Looked After You. Now, You Look After Them

They Looked After You. Now, You Look After Them

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Nobody likes the idea of their parents rotting away into elderly life without any help or support. Of course, you love these people. And, they mean a great deal to you. But, this doesn’t make it any harder to drop the ball and let the elderly members of your family feel forgotten. As the busyness of life takes over; most people forget about these responsibilities. And, this leaves a lot of older people in a bad situation. It doesn’t have to be this way. Instead, you just need to put the effort in. To help you out, this post will be going through three areas that need to be considered for your elderly relatives.

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Although the elderly my struggle physically, a lot of them don’t have any issues in the mental department. This means that they will still desire the same sort of entertainment they’ve had throughout their life. Having this area of life neglected can be very difficult for someone. Having nothing to do will make you bored. And, being bored for too long can result in stress and depression. Thankfully, solving this issue is nice and easy; you just have to go out and do things with your loved ones. The activities you choose will have to be based on the physicality of everyone in the group. So, you might not want to take someone older to a waterpark, because they may struggle to swim. But, going to a zoo would give them the chance to see things that are exciting; while also being relaxed.

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Next, you need to start thinking about where they live. Some houses won’t be very appropriate for elderly people. For example, a house with stairs won’t be any good for someone that has had two hip replacements. But, a bungalow would do the trick. You’ll probably have to do a large portion of the work; if you decide to move your relatives. From finding the new home to helping them move, you’ll have to cover it all. It could be worth it, though. Living in a well-designed home can make it much easier for an older person to remain independent. Along with this, you could also make their living situation safer with a move.

Finally, but probably the most important thing here, is care. It’s unwise to try and complete the care work that your relatives need yourself. The idea of having a stranger do it might seem bad. But, both you and your relative won’t like the idea of your final years spent together in this way. Thankfully, there are loads of elderly care companies out there. Depending on the company that you choose, you may have the option for your relative to move to a special house. Of course, some won’t like this idea. But, these businesses recognise this; offering services that come to you.

Hopefully, this will give you the help and inspiration you need to start making a difference in the life of an older relative. When people are in their golden years, it’s important to make sure that you give them the support they need.

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