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Preparing For The Worst With The Best

Preparing For The Worst With The Best

You hope that the worst case scenario should never happen and of course, for most of us it that will not, but every so often the unexpected can and will happen in life and that’s why being prepared for these unexpected situations is necessary for wherever you are.

You might suddenly find yourself facing a long term illness or in the middle of a situation where you require some professional advice, for example a legal dispute with an employee over employment terms or with a neighbour over land ownership. With any of these situations you want advice from the best and you want to make sure your money is going as far as it can for great results.

That’s why you’ll find everything you need in this guide on how to get the very best in legal advice when you need it most and what to look for when hiring a lawyer, whether that’s for something for work or for when you’re in need of a divorce lawyer. We take a look at what makes the best legal representation for your very individual situation and and some of the pitfalls you’ll need to avoid. Whatever your legal needs are you’ll find the lowdown on hiring right here.

Word Of Mouth

Who’s on the grapevine as being the best in the business? Once you start looking for someone to represent you, you soon start hearing from everyone, from the local postman to the receptionist at the gym about someone they’ve used or heard about from a friend. Take a note of these names, if one or two keep cropping up then it may be worth getting in touch for an initial consultation.

Ask your friends, family and fellow professionals for some recommendations too, having a personal introduction can help oil the wheels and make the process of appointing someone a whole lot easier.

Read reviews online and find out their success rate, which should be a matter of public record. You’ll also want to make sure that the lawyer is someone who specialises in your particular issue, rather than a general practitioner.

Interview widely

Take your time in in finding the very best in advice and in finding someone you feel can handle your case and all the complexities that go with it. You may need to talk to one or two or even more lawyers before you decide on appointing someone, and depending on the size of your case they may be able to handle it solo or need some help from someone else in their firm. Make sure you know all the details of how this will work before you sign up.

If you’re worried about wasting your time and money on initial consultations that don’t lead anywhere, most lawyers will give you enough time to explain their case, around 15-30 minutes, before they start charging by the hour, so make sure to go in fully prepared with the facts of your case and any questions you might have.

Search online

As mentioned up post if you’re interested in one particular firm, then you should be able to find out a fair amount about them from the public record. You will be able to see the success rate of the individual lawyer and how well they are rated by individual clients.

If the practice has several lawyers, find out which one seems to have more experience in your particular type of case and ask to meet with them first rather than someone you just find yourself assigned to. You need to know that your case will be taken seriously and if you are going to be able to strike up good communication with whoever is taking it on.

Characteristics

You’re going to need someone experienced and yet hungry to make a win. If you feel that your lawyer is too laid back or gives the impression that they’ve seen it all, failing to reassure you then avoid this lawyer.

Similarly, avoid anyone that promises you a big win. Instead find someone who is measured and calm and who you feel can be honest with you about how the case will run and what the chances are of it going the way you want. Find that right mix of determination and level-headedness and you’ll have someone fighting your corner who stands every chance of winning your case for you. If the worst does happen and you do lose, then with the right lawyer you’ll know they tried their best and that the loss wasn’t through lack of trying.

Budget

The one thing we would say is that lawyers don’t come cheap so whether the matter is personal or professional you’ll want to have a very realistic picture of how much this service is going to cost you overall.

A lawyer usually charges clients by the hour though you may find some will offer a flat fee or even be happy to wait until the end of the case and collect a percentage of any damages and their legal fees if paid by the opposition. Make sure you are very clear with your legal representative on how the fee charging process will work and even let them know your top end of the budget.

You may well have room to compromise with something like an upfront payment to start out with and then the rest coming in the form of a successful pay out. This will depend on how confident your lawyer is of the case going in your favour. You might also want to explore the possibility of legal aid and legal loans to cover the ongoing expenses.

The money can very quickly disappear so keep on top of your billing as you move through the consultation to trial proceedings.


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Ways of Teaching Young Ones About Death

Ways of Teaching Young Ones About Death

Death is never a topic someone looks forward to discussing. Trying to explain death to your children can be quite overwhelming.  However, it’s severely worse when that discussion becomes inevitable. But how can you approach the subject of death to a child that has had no experience with it? There’s a lot of thought and pressure that goes into a conversation like that, but teaching them about death before it happens to a pet or someone close to the family could save a lot of heart-wrenching questions.

Introduce Death

Everything on this planet has a season or a life span. Introducing death to young ones is as simple as teaching them about the flowers that bloom in the spring. A flower is a great example of life and death. Plants and flowers are so similar to us yet, opposite. Just like us, they need food, water and sunlight. However, we rely on each other for life. We need their oxygen; they need our carbon dioxide. Teaching kids the facts of life and pointing out that death is a fact can help them to generally understand life’s cycle.

Experiencing Death

Sadly, some children are exposed to death at a very early age. Other children are able to make it to late-teens before personally knowing a pet or someone that has passed. Which scenario is better? Neither. They both have their downfalls because a loss is just that… a loss.

Some folks have used goldfish to be a first death experience. It’s a lot less traumatic than losing other pets. As most of us have experienced firsthand that goldfish do not have very long lifespans. A goldfish is a great example of a ‘being’ that must be named, cared for and loved. But once its life is over, parents can teach their child in-depth about loss by having a mini-funeral around the toilet bowl or a shallow grave in the yard. This experience teaches a child that there is honor in life and honor in death.

Don’t Be Afraid to Talk About It

Death isn’t scary. How people die can be. But don’t be afraid to talk about death with your child. Kids are curious, so it’s better to learn from you, the parent, than from other outlets. Death is on TV, video games, the internet, etc. Getting the facts from you is better than your child thinking they have extra lives because that’s how the video game works. Or even worse, they do their own random search of facts that has the potential to scare the crap out of them.

Remember, to also talk to them about your beliefs. Share with them about what you think happens after life. Give them comfort in their questions. Reassure and comfort them when they express their fears. (Yes, they will have some.) And most of all, keep the door of communication open on the subject. They will have questions that popup at any time.

Letting Your Child Mourn

Mourning is a necessary process when losing a loved one. Whether it be a pet or a family member, whether you, yourself are mourning too, allowing your child to know that it’s a normal emotion to feel grief during this time is very important. There are five distinct stages of grief: Denial and isolation, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and finally, Acceptance. Be reasonable as they process their grief. They might not be where you are in your process. Sometimes children sail through the stages, or they may get stuck on one stage longer than expected. There is family counseling that can help with this subject at any stage. Don’t be afraid to seek help if needed at any point.

Death is a fact of life. But, making it easy for just anyone to understand can be difficult, let alone a child. Teach them that everything on this planet has a lifespan. Perhaps, let them experience an example of death on a less-traumatizing level. Talk with them. Listen to them. And always keep the door of communication open. These things can help build a healthy outlook for your child on the facts of life and death.

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Car Safety Tips

Car Safety Tips

When you’ve been driving for a while, it can be all too easy to fall into lazy habits. Waiting a bit too long to get your service done. Skipping out on getting that light on the dash sorted out. Perhaps not checking that the car seats are correctly fitted… an endless list maybe? Well, even if you have never been in an accident and in fact are an incredibly safe driver you still need to perform necessary safety checks on your vehicle. For example, how would you feel if your airbags didn’t deploy? Devastated.

So here are a few tips for you when it comes to car safety.

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Seatbelts

A correctly fitted seat belt will save your life most of the time. But the amount of people who don’t wear them correctly, or don’t fix twists in them is pretty high. The Traffic Highway Safety Administration says that 15,000 lives are saved each year just by a properly fitted seat belt. Don’t be tempted to tuck your seatbelt under your armpits, or avoid the crossbody strap. During a collision the seatbelt will spread to force across your body, protecting your vital organs and spinal cord.

Car Seat

Poorly fitted car seats can be deadly. If you haven’t read the manual, then you simply shouldn’t be driving with your children in the car. Each age range has a specially designed car seat that will be able to protect their bodies during an accident. They provide support and protection in a way that shouldn’t be underestimated. It is advised that children should remain rear-facing for as long as possible. There are height and weight limits that you should take into account to. If you are in doubt, then go to a specialist fitter.

Multitasking is Asking For Trouble

Sipping hot coffee, eating and hold the wheel with one hand, text, reaching in your bag… all of these things most people are guilty of. You are lucky that you haven’t had an accident due to this. Switch your phone notifications off, or active driving mode – so that you will not be disturbed and tempted to pick up your mobile phone. If you are hungry then pull over and eat, if you are thirsty then try to have a cup with a straw which requires less attention. If you feel distracted simply pull over when you can do so safely.

Bike Aware

Due to the speed and size of motorbikes, it is easy to miss them. If you are by a bike rider or cyclist, then make sure you give them enough room as your safely pass or provide them with enough room to move by you. When you are making turns, even on roads you know, you should ‘think twice, think bike’ and give a second look. Yes, this might frustrate drivers behind you, but it could be the reason you don’t hit a motorcyclist.

People Focus

More often than you would like to think, people will step out from behind cars, directly into the road. Be vigilant when you are in typically high foot traffic areas.

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6 Ways to Help Reduce Anxiety in Children with Autism

6 Ways to Help Reduce Anxiety in Children with Autism

Experiencing anxiety can be very challenging. It can affect your productivity, your health and even the smallest parts of your everyday life. If you have ever experienced this as an adult, you would realize that anxiety in children with autism can be more difficult. These special children are already dealing with a lot of difficulties in their daily routine and anxiety will surely add more to all of the trouble. With this, it is really imperative for parents, teachers and other individuals on know the effects of anxiety to kids with autism.

What are the links between autism and anxiety?

A study revealed that people with autism also experience anxiety. The challenge for parents is how to try to understand the overlapping characteristics of anxiety and autism. There are instances when the child would show different behaviours that will make you wonder if it is a symptom of the anxiety of it is only a part of the characteristics of a child with autism. They can be over stimulated, they can also harm themselves and they can have an outburst of emotion. For other children, they become so depended with schedules and they can withdraw from their usual circle.

Six Ways to Help Your Child with Anxiety

As parents, the first thing that we should be doing is to understand the triggers and the type of environment your child has. Start looking for information that will help you get a better perspective on the situation that your child has. After that, you can continue looking for the best ways to address the issue. To give you a head start, here are some ways on how you can help your child with anxiety:

  • Introduce Your Child to Music

Music therapists have proven that music is a great tool to help people with autism deal with anxiety. Music can help in dealing with sensory issues and behaviours. It can also increase or improve the child’s self-determination and self-reliance. Letting your child take music lessons can also improve their communication skills. Their music experiences will provide them with personal connections with the people around them. Letting them listen to music while they are working on something will surely increase their attention to what they are doing.

  • Yoga and Breathing Exercises

The sensory experience of children with autism is what makes them different from other people. Their response to new experiences is either fight or flight. They become suddenly active and they may experience some changes in the heart rate and this can start anxiety. With yoga, it would be easier for your child to learn to regulate his or her emotion. The child will learn the proper response to certain situations.

  • Art Therapy

There will be times when children with autism will channel their anxiety to some compulsive behaviour. They may show some problems communicating properly. When these behaviours become repetitive, you have to think of a way to channel these negative actions to something that can be productive. This is where art therapy comes in. Art promotes healthy ways to express oneself. With this, the child will be able to explore his or her emotions and transfer his or her energy into something beautiful.

  • Visual Schedules and Transitions

One of the problems that children with autism may experience that can lead to anxiety is transitioning. There are some activities that are not so appealing to them. With this, they will certainly have a hard time transitioning from a task they love to an activity that they find unappealing. To help with this, you can use visual presentations to make them feel interested. A photo of the next activity will help them visualize themselves doing it.

  • Know Your Child’s Signs of Distress

Another very important thing that parents should know is how to identify if their child is showing signs of anxiety. With this, you have to consider observing your kid’s daily activities and identify how their emotions change based on their situation. With this, you would know when to intervene.

  • Create a Safe Space to Calm Down or Regroup

A safe space is a contingency plan that will help you calm your child when he or she is feeling extremely anxious. You can prepare puzzles, bean bags or anything that will easily calm them down. However, you need to remember that safe spaces should not be treated as a regular option. It should only be used during extreme times.

Caring for children with autism may be difficult at times but it is completely worth it.

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Author Bio:

Curtis Dean writes on behalf of Sage Music School where they base lessons on the science and research of the psychology of learning. Their effective teaching methods create confident and capable students who enjoy the happiness of making music.

3 Fantastic Cars For A Growing Family

3 Fantastic Cars For A Growing Family

With your family growing all the time, you need to make sure that you have the provisions in place to accommodate this. We don’t just mean the basics such as food and clothing, but your car must also be taken into consideration. Your car isn’t going to be much use to you anymore if you don’t have enough room to fit all the members of your family inside. That is why we have written this article, to give you some awesome ideas of fantastic cars for a growing family. Keep reading to find our suggestions!

Toyota Sienna

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It’s likely the case that the first thing you think of when you hear the word family is a minivan. If this is true for you, then the Toyota Sienna is an excellent minivan option. When you need a lot of room, a bigger vehicle is going to be necessary and you can’t go wrong with this Toyota model. If you need to, the seats in the vehicle can be moved to give you more room which will be handy if you are going on a trip somewhere and need to fit a load of luggage, as well as your family in there!

You will also find that this has been cleverly designed to be low to the ground. The benefit of this is that your children will be able to climb in and out of this minivan without much difficulty. This is sure to make the loading your family into the car process a lot easier!

Honda Accord

Whether you are looking for a cool grey or a stunning blue, the Honda Accord can accommodate your color choice. Some families like to let their little ones choose the color of the car which is why Honda ensured that they had a wide range of options available. But, aside from the color of the vehicle, we are sure that you are going to be interested in other aspects such as the safety features equipped! The first one is that there is a rear view camera fitted so that you are getting the best view possible when reversing. While we are on the topic of safety, the Accord also has a blind spot warning to ensure that everyone in the car stays safe, even in the places you can’t see.

As an added bonus, the Accord has heated leather seats so that you and your family can keep warm on those chilly days! Whether you are completing the school run or you are going to be in the car for a while, everyone is going to be comfortable in this family car.

Nissan Rogue

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Are you a fan of Nissan? If you are, then you are probably familiar with the technology that most of their cars are equipped with these days. Nissan has built up a reputation for being tech-friendly over the years, so if this is something that you care about, this awesome SUV might be the choice for you.

Space is obviously going to be essential, which is why there is enough room for you, all your children and some luggage in this car! There are rows of seats which will keep everyone comfortable throughout even the longest journey!

We hope that you have found this article helpful and now have a few options when it comes to getting a new car for a growing family.

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Common Problems in Marriage and How You Can Deal With Them

Common Problems in Marriage and How You Can Deal With Them

It is very rare that any couple doesn’t run into some problems at some point in their relationship. It is natural that there are some disagreements on things or one person putting in a little more in the relationship at times than the other. But if you know yourself and each other well, and you can identify the problems quickly, then the chances of you dealing with them promptly is much higher.

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A lot of the time people say that marriage needs to be 100% and 100%. But there are times when one person will only be giving 80%. There might be health issues or struggles at work. The key thing for the person still giving 100% is to not get bitter or resentful about it. There are times and seasons when it comes to relationships. If you can’t help each other, then it could be time to call a divorce lawyer. But if you want to work through it, then there are options for you. Here are some things to consider.

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Improve Communication

A lot of problems in a marriage can come from poor communication. It might be from exhaustion that when you come home from work you don’t communicate well. You might take your day out on your spouse or even keep things from them when you are feeling resentful towards them. It is also important to communicate properly without one of you scrolling on your phone, for example. If you want to improve the communication, then how about doing so in a public place. You are much more likely to sort something out in public, without raising your voices. You could also have an agreement that you have a set time for talking. You can just carried away in the busyness of everyday life otherwise.

Intimacy

A lot of problems in a relationship can come down to intimacy. You might both have separate expectations so can get frustrated when it doesn’t happen. Some of this can come down to communication. You need to be able to feel comfortable to talk to each other about this kind of thing. But one thing that you can do is make plans. To start with it might not seem very romantic. But if you agree on days of the week that you will be intimate, you can both plan for it. There can be no excuses of just wanted to go to sleep as it was an agreement that you have had. You just need to be open and honest with each other.

Money

Money can be a big problem in marriages. It can be escalated when one partner isn’t working due to raising children, for example. So one of the best things to do is to have joint accounts. If the finances are shared and open, then it makes it easier to talk about budget and overspending. It all boils down to communication really, though. You need to talk to each other about what you expect money to be spent on and what you expect money to be saved on.

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Avoid Heading For Divorce By Doing These Simple Things

Avoid Heading For Divorce By Doing These Simple Things

No one ever said that relationships are super easy and to be honest, why would they be? You are essentially attempting to spend the rest of your life with the very same person and whilst doing so you’re both still constantly changing and evolving as people. The hope though is that you’ll be changing together rather than growing apart.

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Realising you’ve met the one is one of the most breathtaking moments you’ll ever experience. They always say that when you know, you know, but that doesn’t mean that relationships and marriage are all plain sailing either. Things can slowly crop up and turn into huge issues if they aren’t addressed properly. Unfortunately that means that far too many great couples end up splitting up and heading for divorce instead of overcoming the obstacles they’ve been presented with. It doesn’t have to be that way though and if you follow these steps, you’ll probably never find yourself filling out divorce papers as you’ll still be with the very same person you fell so in love with originally…

  1. Be the person your spouse fell in love with

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Of course we all change over the years and that’s part and parcel of choosing to spend your life with someone. No one is ever the same throughout their entire adult life and why would you want to be? Where’s the excitement in that? But whilst your partner is prepared to stand by you as you change and hopefully grow into an even better person, that doesn’t mean that you can completely dessert the person you were in the beginning. It was the qualities you had then that made your spouse fall in love with you and want to commit to spending their entire life with you, so make sure you’re not leaving everything you once were behind in search of someone you want to become.

  1. Identify any problems and change them

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Marriage certainly isn’t a smooth ride at all times and there will be problems along the way. That part is guaranteed. But it’s how you deal with these problems that make all the difference. If you and partner fall out over the same thing time and time again then it means you’re making the huge mistake of not addressing it to begin with. Eventually the problem will spiral out of control and that could mean divorce if you don’t actively try to sort it. If you and your spouse are unable to identify what the exact issue is or how to overcome it, symmetry counseling is a great way to talk through issues without the entire situation escalating.

  1. Be the best version of yourself

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There’s nothing more attractive than self confidence and being happy with the person you are. How can you expect others to love you if you don’t even love yourself? If you demonstrate to your partner that you’re completely comfortable with who you are and give the impression that you’re still as awesome now as you always were, they’ll likely follow trend and see exactly what you do too.

That means feeling and looking your best. If you’re down about your weight then take steps to change it. If you hate your frumpy wardrobe then go out and re-haul your look. Fall in love with yourself again so that your spouse gets the excitement of doing it all again as well.

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Tips for Not Making Mistakes During Divorce. By Guest Blogger, Marie N.

By Guest Blogger, Marie N.

Tips for Not Making Mistakes During Divorce

 

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Photo provided by guest blogger, Marie N.

Going through a divorce can be a real emotional roundhouse, especially when there’s no prenup. It’s difficult to think clearly during this period, so you can easily make some wrong decisions. There’s also a lot of anger involved that can translate into words and deeds, which can make your divorce costlier and lengthier. You can also just as easily forget to do something when filing for a divorce that can later make the whole process very frustrating. Here are a couple of tips that will help you avoid mistakes like these during your divorce.

Don’t Fail to Make Your Kids a Priority

Some parents want peace so badly that they start drifting away from their kids once they start going through a divorce. Keeping the peace is a good thing to do but that does not mean you or your ex-spouse should stay away from your kids. You should both respect each other’s time with the kids and never fight around them. They need stability and both parents in their lives. Still, time spent isn’t the only determining factor, but the quality of that time is. Talk to your former spouse and try to come up with an arrangement that is going to suit both of you as well as the kids.

Don’t Overextend Yourself Financially

Your divorce is going to change the way you live completely. That why you’ll have to make some adjustments and try to adapt. One of the things that is going to change quite a lot are your finances. Two households are obviously more difficult to maintain than one, so some changes will have to be made. Because of this, experts recommend going through your finances before you file for divorce, and try to make a plan for the future. These experts are also there to help their clients who want to file for divorce in California with pre-divorce budgeting and planning process.

Don’t Forget What You Owe

When going through a divorce it’s also important to know exactly how much you owe. Promising “to have and to hold” can actually bounce back and bite you. There are some states in the USA where you’ll be responsible for half of your spouse’s debt, even in the case the debt isn’t in your name. Experts in those states advise their clients to get a full credit report so there are no surprises. In other states, you won’t be held responsible for such a debt but you’ll still be liable for any loans or jointly held credit cards. So, depending of the state you live in, you’ll be held responsible for different things.

Don’t Hold onto Properties

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Photo provided by guest blogger, Marie N.

Depending on how many properties you and your spouse have, you’ll have to divide them properly once the divorce starts. It’s important to have the whole family in mind and try to come up with a solution that suits everybody the best. If you manage to do so, you can file for an uncontested divorce and make the whole situation easier for everyone. Even in that case you should get all the necessary help. For example if you live in Portland, there are experts who can advise you if you want to file for an uncontested divorce in Oregon. If you end up with a family house, think hard about keeping it because of the maintenance and taxes.

Divorces can be really devastating but if you plan carefully and avoid some common mistakes, you can save yourself a lot of trouble. Once the divorce is through, you can finally focus on moving on with your life.

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