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5 Things You Can Do To Find A Date

5 Things You Can Do To Find A Date

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The dating game is hard. It doesn’t matter how smart, beautiful, or funny you are, it can be difficult to find that special someone. Far too many people rely on chance and wait around for their dream guy or girl to come to them. The trouble is, this is unlikely to happen, especially when the sort of person you want in your life is just as busy as you probably are. If you’re going to meet Miss or Mr Right, then you need to work at it. With that in mind, here are five ways to find a date.

1. Swipe Right On Apps

Dating apps can definitely be frustrating at times, but there is no option quite so simple. All you need to do is upload a few pictures, write a little about yourself, and then start swiping. Although people often tell the horror stories of online dating, there have been many successes too. As long as you stay safe and keep your wits about you, there’s no reason why it should go wrong.

2. Chat Over The Phone

While dating apps are convenient, some people prefer to talk over the phone than through messages. This is where freechatLines could come in. Whether you want to meet your soulmate or just talk to someone new, a chat line would allow you to do that. It’s fun, a great way to break the ice, and, because you’re talking over the phone, completely safe and private too.

3. Attend A Singles Event

Although it can definitely feel like it at times, you’re not the only one in your local area looking for a date. There are sure to be hundreds of other single people nearby. This is why singles events are so popular. These gatherings can come in many different shapes and sizes but are all full of people just like you. You could also try signing up for a class or social group of some kind.

4. Volunteer For A Charity

Volunteering is a great way to put yourself out there and meet new people. It’s also a particularly smart dating strategy for those looking to find someone compassionate and caring. Plus, you get to do some good for a cause close to your heart. There are many places you could volunteer, from animals shelters to beach cleanups. You just need to find a cause that you care about.

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5. Talk To A Friend

You may not know anyone that you want to date, but that doesn’t mean that your friends don’t. By letting your loved ones know that you’re looking for someone special, you give them a chance to find someone for you. Couples who meet through mutual friends benefit from having the same social group. Because of this, you should allow your loved ones to try to set you up.

Although the perfect person could find you by chance, this is unlikely to happen. If you want to meet your dream guy or girl, then take the advice above on board and start looking for them.

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Bring back Old-school Dating

by Cy B.

Bring back Old-school Dating

Since it seems to be all the topic on most social media platforms, I have been asked to reflect upon the topic of dating. The Do’s and Don’ts of today. For those not necessarily understanding today’s dating techniques it is a tough platform to tackle.

Over the years so much has changed and now deemed as ‘acceptable’ nature or so-called behavior. What was once known as dating has now become almost a mythical word that has lost meaning, just as ‘courting’ had in the 70’s. Nowadays, it’s almost as if social media decides your fate.

What happened to sending flowers to an address that doesn’t start with www.. or when phone conversations ended because one person fell asleep talking and you stayed on the line just to listen to them breath, because for that moment it was enough? What happened to working disagreements out and fixing problems? Not just acting like, hey I’ll just ignore this and let it build–not say anything and allow it to eventually explode? When did it become acceptable, bouncing from person to person and just leaving people in pieces because communication and motives were never clear, only expectations?

Y’all, love hurts.

I agree, yet expectations hurt even more when led by blinded by love. One of the worst feelings in life is falling in love alone. Both sexes mastered this little game it seems. Because dating has detoured so much, it’s like motives have selfishly changed nowadays. What was once a considered a rebound is, sadly, very popular now and is almost accepted as a relationship status. ‘First base’ and ‘second base’, once took time to access, is now almost expected on a first date by many, when before couples had butterflies even thinking about advancing. It’s so much more when someone can undress your mind.

Here’s a tip, gentlemen undress a womans mind and the body will follow. When advancing too quickly, you cannot touch the passion entrapped within a womans mind. Dont ask her about her imagination, become her imagination. If you feel the need to ask her something, ask her about her passions, her fears, her hopes and dreams. Ask her what she wants in life and what makes her laugh and cry. Take time to discover her favorite color and ask why. Listen to the stories that make her, her.

Those stories created the art that is her. Listen, and in front of your very own eyes, she will allow you the view the creativity through the events and happenings that has helped shape this beautiful woman. You can then see past the visible beauty, and witness her depth, pain, pleasure, vulnerability and the love in which she possesses in her beautiful soul. This my friend is a gift. A gift that you can give each other without a price tag.

Take it back to the days when snap chat and Instagram weren’t dating sites and cheating portals… When ten likes didnt change your mind about a person… When advertising to your following what you want isn’t even close to what you actually desire. Take it back to when catfishing meant there was going to be a good dinner.

All this back and forth mental-game playing, and men this… and women that… blah… blah… blah… We all need to step back and think. We have all been that broken heart, and we all have exes and problems. But remember folks, before social media was in relationships, communication between two people existed. Studies have shone, relationships worked out alot longer just a short decade ago. I’m not bashing social media. Guys and Gals remember, social media doesn’t ruin relationships, acting single or disrespectful towards your partner on social media in public/private chat rooms, does!

If you are searching for a lady, then be a gentleman. Ladies, if you want a gentleman, then simply be a lady. Chivalry is not dead, it’s just waiting to be, as they say today, digitally remastered by those who value its lost meaning.

We add all these new words to the dictionary every year that make no sense. Yet these don’t change… Love, commitment, honesty, trust, chivalry, dating, communication, integrity, humanity, respect, dedication, desire, passion, and the most evil one of all, lust. One must remember, in life, the most beautiful things are seen with the eyes closed. With eyes closed, you are led by trust. With eyes open, you’re often blinded by lust. Love doesn’t hurt, expectations do. Be open about what you want from the beginning. When it’s out on the table then it’s so much easier to understand–no guessing games, no one being led on, and no surprises.

Like the most famous misquote of Eldridge Cleaver, ‘If you’re not the solution, you are part of the problem.’ It’s simple, bring back LOVE.

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Making it Work: Finding True Love in the Millennial World

Making it Work: Finding True Love in the Millennial World

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Dating in the millennial world is like strolling through the jungle ofravenous beasts. As soon as you fire up your dating app, trolls and predatorsflock to your profile, hell-bent on tearing your confidence into pieces. Terrifying, right? While the situation is not necessarily as drastic as presented (though it truly happens to numerous unwitting love-seekers), finding genuine love in the millennial world is turning into an exception. Getting tothe root cause of why “making it work” has become a miracle is not particularlyhard. Rendering the process easier is a significantly harder riddle to solve.

Commitment issues are rampant

The problem mostly lies in the fact that millennial generation has an overwhelming phobia of commitment. This widespread phenomenon has emerged exactly due to the dating app factor.Why would you bother when there are plenty more “swipes” in the sea? In themillennial mind, people have turned into commodities. The first step to solving this, should you come across someone that you truly like, is to actively seekout connections with the person through common interests.

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This way, you will become more than a cardboard cutout or a set of brief traits in the eyes of the potential date, much more quickly. However, the second step is quite harder and it is also related to the fear of commitment. This obstacle comes in the signature millennial fear of opening up, coupled with the unwillingness to repeatedly invest energy into partners.

The main tool is also a problem

With the omnipresent power of the internet, the metaphysical cloud that covers the globe and simmers with endless data, long distance relationships have become more common place. While previous generation used the net as a tool in this regard, matters have become a bit trickier for millennials.

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In the world of diminished attention spans and constant pursue for immediate gratification, the survival of long distance relationships requires both parties to exercise in human patience and constant readiness to compromise. The additional work might be exhaustive, but the benefits of pulling through are immeasurable.

Self-centered world

The afore mentioned unwillingness to invest energy in relationships is not a mild problem. Millennials learn, since early age, to be focused solely on themselves and their own needs. In addition, the digital realm is tailored exactly to cater to the individual’s perception of oneself as the “center of the world”. In spite of this, you can easily spot a glaring contradiction within such state of things – since the choices at our disposal are in numerable, it becomes easy to feel as if we do not matter in the grand scheme of things. Generations ago, people used to belong to diffuse and organic social microcosms which were easier to navigate. An average millennial suffers the “tyranny of freedom” but manages to come on top as long ascertain basic tenets are followed.

Avoid distractions and have a clear goal

In order to find the right partner, you need to narrow down your wants into a reasonable goal. As soon as you enter the world of dating (both online and offline) things can get really distracting really fast so it helps to have a clear goal when it comes to the type of person you’d love to “find”. Just don’t fall into a trap of perceiving people as conquests as you will end up perpetuating previous mistakes. Second, you need to communicate this goal clearly, which might trim down the number of people that are willing to date you drastically, but at least you will pique the interest of those that want a similar arrangement. Finally, you need to take action and have hope no matter what – a few failed dates should not discourage you.

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We live in the unprecedented times. The world is changing faster than we can process it and so does the way we engage with people around us. In this digital jungle of social media and dating apps, dating has turned into a curious multi-dimensional maneuver that dances frantically between numerous versions of your identity. Only one of these versions is completely genuine;all others are hyper-stylized. Previous generations did not have to wrestle with social hierarchies that include multiple levels of reality, all in order to fulfill the needs that are so primordial and instinctive. Both the problem and the solution to finding true love in the millennial world lie in the heartof this paradox. Thankfully, as infinitely quotable Dr. John Hammond says in“Jurassic Park”, “Life always finds a way.”  

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Unlucky in Love? Turn Your Luck Around With These 3 Simple Tips

Unlucky in Love? Turn Your Luck Around With These 3 Simple Tips

 

As a teenager, it seems so easy to find someone, fall in love and live happily ever after. But as you grow older, you soon realize that it is not as easy as you think. Falling in love is easy but finding a serious relationship is very difficult. It is so difficult that a lot of people believe that it is easier to win in a casino rather than finding true love.

 

 

People believe that “luck” plays a role in finding the right relationship. You will often hear people say “Wow! You’re so lucky to find true love.”. There are people who are perceived as “lucky” and “unlucky” in love.

 

Are There People Who Are Unlucky In Love?

 

Actually, luck has nothing to do with love. It is what we do that makes us become unlucky in love. There are ways for us to find the right love.

 

How to Turn Your Luck Around?

 

Since luck has no significant role in finding a long-term relationship, you can turn your “unlucky” love life upside down.  Here are three simple tips on how to be “lucky” in love.

 

Right Place

 

In finding the right love, you have to look in the right place. You have to consider the type of people that go to a certain place. If you go to a bar, you will likely meet people who love to party and drink. If you like this kind of people, then you are in luck. However, if you don’t like that kind of people, then don’t go to the bar.

 

To find the person you want, you should go to a place of common interest. If you like reading, then go to the library or bookstore. You will likely meet someone there that loves reading too. If you want to meet someone who enjoy fitness and exercise, then go to gym. If you want interracial dating for black and white singles, then go online dating.

 

The first step in finding the right person is meeting them at the right places. Therefore go to the place where most people, with the same interest as you or possess the qualities you want, go. However, there are times that the right person is in the wrong place or vice versa. So be sure to know if that person is what you really want.

 

 

Right Person

 

There are a lot of people out there that are not good for you. Meeting these types of people all the time will make you think that you are bad at love. To find the right person is making sure that you know what you really want.

 

What do you like in a man or woman? Make a list if you have to. Then, find out if that person you meet has those qualities. But take note, make sure these qualities are what you really want and what will make you happy.

 

For example, there are women who like guys that give off bad boy vibes. However, most of this type of guys will not treat their woman right. Then, women will realize that all they want is a decent guy who will treat them right. So before making that similar mistake, be clear in what you really want.

 

Right Action

 

Actually, finding the right person at the right place is a bit easy. The real difficulty begins after you meet him or her. The next goal is how to keep this person in a relationship with you. You have to take the right actions.

 

In taking the right action, you must know how the person responds to you. If you feel that he or she trust you, you can take your relationship up a notch. However, if you sense that he or she is reserved around you, then take things slow. Putting the right actions in your relationship can make your partner stay long… or even forever.

 

So in short, finding the right one is not luck. This is because anyone can find true love without luck. All you have to do is go to the right place, be sure of what type of person is the right one for you, and know what actions are you going to do to make him or her want to be with you.

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You Are The One And Only: How To Know You’ve Met The One

You Are The One And Only: How To Know You’ve Met The One

Relationships are a complex thing, don’t you think? First, there is the whole saga of actually meeting someone and then comes the dating game which can be extremely confusing. But once you go over those initial hurdles you can find yourself in full-on love with somebody and it can be all consuming. Those first few weeks and months of a relationship can be some of the best you’ll ever experience. Getting to know one another, spending every possible moment in each other’s company, but then you start to wonder whether this is it? Is this the one?

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I think if truth be told you just know when you have found your soulmate. But of course, in any scenario, you can always question yourself whether this is the real deal. After all, you want to ensure that you are going to marry the right person and put all your eggs in the one basket. I don’t think anyone sets out for a marriage to fail or end in divorce, do you? So I thought I’d share some telltale signs that you have found the one. Maybe 2017 looks promising for you on the relationship front.

You’re not hoping the relationship will change

Sometimes any relationship you find yourself in can be a good one. But there is always that lingering thought in the back of your mind that if that one thing could change it would be perfect, am I right? It could be an annoying ex, a stressful job, their cat allergies even. It could literally be anything that just bothers you. The thing is if you start wishing that if that one thing could change then this relationship is it, then you are definitely in the wrong relationship. They just don’t work like that. Meeting the one means that everything falls into place, annoying cat allergies, exes and all. They don’t bother you.

You’re good enough

We spend a lot of our time thinking we aren’t good enough in every aspect of our lives. It could be our careers, our home life, and in general. But your relationship is something you should feel yourself in and content that who you are is good enough. If you have that feeling, that then you are on the right track.

You can work things out

Conflict in relationships is going to happen. From bickering to full blown arguments it’s impossible to have a smooth sailing relationship every single day. But the difference to having arguments with that true partner is that you resolve them well. If you can admit your mistakes or forgive, then this relationship is promising. Conflict and compromise go hand in hand.

You have respect for one another

I think respect in relationships is of the utmost importance. Respecting life choices, careers, decisions, everything, should come easy in a lasting relationship because you respect the person and have trust in them and their judgment. Respect should also be reciprocated, so you should feel supported in your life choices and not be made to think anything otherwise.

I hope this has highlighted some of the signs that you are in a lasting relationship.

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Dating Tips: When To Turn A First Date Into A Second

Dating Tips: When To Turn A First Date Into A Second

When you’re dating, it can be hard to know when things are going well. There’s not always a lightning bolt, and for many, love at first sight is a concept found only in the movies. So how do you know if it’s worth progressing to a second date? Here are some positive signs to look out for.

Instant attraction

Most of us claim that personality is more important than looks. But that doesn’t mean that you want to be with somebody you don’t find physically attractive. For most of us, there has to be a level of attraction. This is what separates a partner from a friend. If there’s no attraction there, your date is likely to end up in friendship rather than a relationship. For some people, that instant feeling isn’t there. It grows with time. If you really like somebody, but you’re not quite sure if it will develop into anything more than a friendship, give it another go. It’s always worth organizing a second date if the first one showed signs of potential.

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Chemistry

Chemistry is a bit of an unknown quantity. It’s hard to put into words the reactions that happen when you meet somebody that you click with. It’s a mixture of physical and psychological responses that are triggered when you meet certain people. Chemistry is not about having a type. You may be surprised at who you develop this connection with. Perhaps it’s something to do with the laws of attraction or it’s a mysterious entity none of us will ever quite understand.

Common ground

Have you ever been on a date where you disagree with everything the other person says, or you come from completely different worlds? Sometimes, opposites attract. But often, stable relationships are built on having things in common and seeing the world in similar ways. If you have common ground, this facilitates conversation. You find that you bounce off each other, and there’s less room for awkward silences.

Intrigue

When you’re on a date, and you’re chatting away, you’ll find that some people fascinate you while others leave you feeling flat. It’s not necessarily that they’re a boring person. They may be incredibly interesting to others. But you often find some people a lot more intriguing than others. If this happens, you’re more likely to want to see them again, and learn more about them.

Laughter

For many of us, being funny is one of the most attractive traits in a potential partner. Laughing makes you feel good. It breaks the ice on a first date, and it can instantly boost your mood. If you spend hours laughing together, and you’ve also got a connection on a physical and intellectual level, the signs are good.

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Do you find it impossible to read what other people are thinking or feeling? In today’s world, when dating is very common, it can be tough to decipher what’s going on and work out if there is a potential for a blossoming romance. Hopefully, these tips will enable you to spot the signs of success, and ultimately, find true love.

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Gifts That Will Make Her Fall In Love With You All Over Again

Gifts That Will Make Her Fall In Love With You All Over Again

Can love be bought? Probably not. But can you show your spouse how much you love them through the stuff that you buy? Of course, you can!

The cool thing about gifts is that they are a message through which you can tell your loved one more about yourself. Perhaps the biggest thing that they communicate when you get them right is your powers of empathy. You just seem to know what they love.

The other major factor is excitement: being spontaneous is just sexy.

So with that said, what gifts should you give your spouse to make her fall in love with you all over again? Let’s take a look.

Buy A Vintage Photo Frame

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There’s no doubting that you and your loved on share some wonderful memories together. And of all those memories, those from when you first met are probably the best. So what better way to remember them than to have them permanently enshrined in a photo frame? Have a look back through your old photo albums, or Facebook if you’re younger, and look for the perfect shot. They’ll love it.

Grab A Personalized Love Mug

This gift brings a whole new meaning to the term “mugshot.” You can now get your face, along with that of your spouse, painted onto a mug. Don’t just get them a run-of-the-mill mug this year. Get them something that is personalized and special.

Tell Her You Love Her With A Necklace

One of the unique gifts for her from Cuckooland.com this year is the personalized necklace. Personalized jewelry is a godsend for people who want to do something different for their spouse. You can write any message you like on a necklace or a bracelet. You can talk about how much you love each other. Or you can get something written that will appeal to the ego of the person you’re buying for. You could even make it funny – if that’s something that would appeal. (I’ll leave you to be the judge of that). At the very least, it’s goodbye boring, hello funky.

Giant Gummy Bears

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Newlovetimes.com has spent some considerable time working out what the best candy is for your loved ones. No, it’s not chocolate, truffles or even Haribo. No, the best loved up confection is – giant gummy bears.

Now, on the surface, it might not make a lot of sense to put gummy bears at the top of a romantic list of gifts. But remember, these giants weight upwards of five pounds and are genuinely huggable. She’ll get hours, if not days, of eating time out of these sugar colossuses. And when she’s finished, she’ll be able to snuggle up with whatever is left over. It’s a win-win situation.

Get Her A Boyfriend Pillow

If you don’t see your partner all that much, knowing what exactly to get her can be tough. Here’s an idea: get her a replacement of you. Or more specifically, a replacement of your arm and part of your chest. At night, she needs something to cuddle up with her. If it can’t be a giant gummy bear or you, a disembodied pillow arm will have to do.

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