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5 Things You Can Do To Find A Date

5 Things You Can Do To Find A Date

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The dating game is hard. It doesn’t matter how smart, beautiful, or funny you are, it can be difficult to find that special someone. Far too many people rely on chance and wait around for their dream guy or girl to come to them. The trouble is, this is unlikely to happen, especially when the sort of person you want in your life is just as busy as you probably are. If you’re going to meet Miss or Mr Right, then you need to work at it. With that in mind, here are five ways to find a date.

1. Swipe Right On Apps

Dating apps can definitely be frustrating at times, but there is no option quite so simple. All you need to do is upload a few pictures, write a little about yourself, and then start swiping. Although people often tell the horror stories of online dating, there have been many successes too. As long as you stay safe and keep your wits about you, there’s no reason why it should go wrong.

2. Chat Over The Phone

While dating apps are convenient, some people prefer to talk over the phone than through messages. This is where freechatLines could come in. Whether you want to meet your soulmate or just talk to someone new, a chat line would allow you to do that. It’s fun, a great way to break the ice, and, because you’re talking over the phone, completely safe and private too.

3. Attend A Singles Event

Although it can definitely feel like it at times, you’re not the only one in your local area looking for a date. There are sure to be hundreds of other single people nearby. This is why singles events are so popular. These gatherings can come in many different shapes and sizes but are all full of people just like you. You could also try signing up for a class or social group of some kind.

4. Volunteer For A Charity

Volunteering is a great way to put yourself out there and meet new people. It’s also a particularly smart dating strategy for those looking to find someone compassionate and caring. Plus, you get to do some good for a cause close to your heart. There are many places you could volunteer, from animals shelters to beach cleanups. You just need to find a cause that you care about.

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5. Talk To A Friend

You may not know anyone that you want to date, but that doesn’t mean that your friends don’t. By letting your loved ones know that you’re looking for someone special, you give them a chance to find someone for you. Couples who meet through mutual friends benefit from having the same social group. Because of this, you should allow your loved ones to try to set you up.

Although the perfect person could find you by chance, this is unlikely to happen. If you want to meet your dream guy or girl, then take the advice above on board and start looking for them.

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Bring back Old-school Dating

by Cy B.

Bring back Old-school Dating

Since it seems to be all the topic on most social media platforms, I have been asked to reflect upon the topic of dating. The Do’s and Don’ts of today. For those not necessarily understanding today’s dating techniques it is a tough platform to tackle.

Over the years so much has changed and now deemed as ‘acceptable’ nature or so-called behavior. What was once known as dating has now become almost a mythical word that has lost meaning, just as ‘courting’ had in the 70’s. Nowadays, it’s almost as if social media decides your fate.

What happened to sending flowers to an address that doesn’t start with www.. or when phone conversations ended because one person fell asleep talking and you stayed on the line just to listen to them breath, because for that moment it was enough? What happened to working disagreements out and fixing problems? Not just acting like, hey I’ll just ignore this and let it build–not say anything and allow it to eventually explode? When did it become acceptable, bouncing from person to person and just leaving people in pieces because communication and motives were never clear, only expectations?

Y’all, love hurts.

I agree, yet expectations hurt even more when led by blinded by love. One of the worst feelings in life is falling in love alone. Both sexes mastered this little game it seems. Because dating has detoured so much, it’s like motives have selfishly changed nowadays. What was once a considered a rebound is, sadly, very popular now and is almost accepted as a relationship status. ‘First base’ and ‘second base’, once took time to access, is now almost expected on a first date by many, when before couples had butterflies even thinking about advancing. It’s so much more when someone can undress your mind.

Here’s a tip, gentlemen undress a womans mind and the body will follow. When advancing too quickly, you cannot touch the passion entrapped within a womans mind. Dont ask her about her imagination, become her imagination. If you feel the need to ask her something, ask her about her passions, her fears, her hopes and dreams. Ask her what she wants in life and what makes her laugh and cry. Take time to discover her favorite color and ask why. Listen to the stories that make her, her.

Those stories created the art that is her. Listen, and in front of your very own eyes, she will allow you the view the creativity through the events and happenings that has helped shape this beautiful woman. You can then see past the visible beauty, and witness her depth, pain, pleasure, vulnerability and the love in which she possesses in her beautiful soul. This my friend is a gift. A gift that you can give each other without a price tag.

Take it back to the days when snap chat and Instagram weren’t dating sites and cheating portals… When ten likes didnt change your mind about a person… When advertising to your following what you want isn’t even close to what you actually desire. Take it back to when catfishing meant there was going to be a good dinner.

All this back and forth mental-game playing, and men this… and women that… blah… blah… blah… We all need to step back and think. We have all been that broken heart, and we all have exes and problems. But remember folks, before social media was in relationships, communication between two people existed. Studies have shone, relationships worked out alot longer just a short decade ago. I’m not bashing social media. Guys and Gals remember, social media doesn’t ruin relationships, acting single or disrespectful towards your partner on social media in public/private chat rooms, does!

If you are searching for a lady, then be a gentleman. Ladies, if you want a gentleman, then simply be a lady. Chivalry is not dead, it’s just waiting to be, as they say today, digitally remastered by those who value its lost meaning.

We add all these new words to the dictionary every year that make no sense. Yet these don’t change… Love, commitment, honesty, trust, chivalry, dating, communication, integrity, humanity, respect, dedication, desire, passion, and the most evil one of all, lust. One must remember, in life, the most beautiful things are seen with the eyes closed. With eyes closed, you are led by trust. With eyes open, you’re often blinded by lust. Love doesn’t hurt, expectations do. Be open about what you want from the beginning. When it’s out on the table then it’s so much easier to understand–no guessing games, no one being led on, and no surprises.

Like the most famous misquote of Eldridge Cleaver, ‘If you’re not the solution, you are part of the problem.’ It’s simple, bring back LOVE.

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Making it Work: Finding True Love in the Millennial World

Making it Work: Finding True Love in the Millennial World

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Dating in the millennial world is like strolling through the jungle ofravenous beasts. As soon as you fire up your dating app, trolls and predatorsflock to your profile, hell-bent on tearing your confidence into pieces. Terrifying, right? While the situation is not necessarily as drastic as presented (though it truly happens to numerous unwitting love-seekers), finding genuine love in the millennial world is turning into an exception. Getting tothe root cause of why “making it work” has become a miracle is not particularlyhard. Rendering the process easier is a significantly harder riddle to solve.

Commitment issues are rampant

The problem mostly lies in the fact that millennial generation has an overwhelming phobia of commitment. This widespread phenomenon has emerged exactly due to the dating app factor.Why would you bother when there are plenty more “swipes” in the sea? In themillennial mind, people have turned into commodities. The first step to solving this, should you come across someone that you truly like, is to actively seekout connections with the person through common interests.

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This way, you will become more than a cardboard cutout or a set of brief traits in the eyes of the potential date, much more quickly. However, the second step is quite harder and it is also related to the fear of commitment. This obstacle comes in the signature millennial fear of opening up, coupled with the unwillingness to repeatedly invest energy into partners.

The main tool is also a problem

With the omnipresent power of the internet, the metaphysical cloud that covers the globe and simmers with endless data, long distance relationships have become more common place. While previous generation used the net as a tool in this regard, matters have become a bit trickier for millennials.

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In the world of diminished attention spans and constant pursue for immediate gratification, the survival of long distance relationships requires both parties to exercise in human patience and constant readiness to compromise. The additional work might be exhaustive, but the benefits of pulling through are immeasurable.

Self-centered world

The afore mentioned unwillingness to invest energy in relationships is not a mild problem. Millennials learn, since early age, to be focused solely on themselves and their own needs. In addition, the digital realm is tailored exactly to cater to the individual’s perception of oneself as the “center of the world”. In spite of this, you can easily spot a glaring contradiction within such state of things – since the choices at our disposal are in numerable, it becomes easy to feel as if we do not matter in the grand scheme of things. Generations ago, people used to belong to diffuse and organic social microcosms which were easier to navigate. An average millennial suffers the “tyranny of freedom” but manages to come on top as long ascertain basic tenets are followed.

Avoid distractions and have a clear goal

In order to find the right partner, you need to narrow down your wants into a reasonable goal. As soon as you enter the world of dating (both online and offline) things can get really distracting really fast so it helps to have a clear goal when it comes to the type of person you’d love to “find”. Just don’t fall into a trap of perceiving people as conquests as you will end up perpetuating previous mistakes. Second, you need to communicate this goal clearly, which might trim down the number of people that are willing to date you drastically, but at least you will pique the interest of those that want a similar arrangement. Finally, you need to take action and have hope no matter what – a few failed dates should not discourage you.

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We live in the unprecedented times. The world is changing faster than we can process it and so does the way we engage with people around us. In this digital jungle of social media and dating apps, dating has turned into a curious multi-dimensional maneuver that dances frantically between numerous versions of your identity. Only one of these versions is completely genuine;all others are hyper-stylized. Previous generations did not have to wrestle with social hierarchies that include multiple levels of reality, all in order to fulfill the needs that are so primordial and instinctive. Both the problem and the solution to finding true love in the millennial world lie in the heartof this paradox. Thankfully, as infinitely quotable Dr. John Hammond says in“Jurassic Park”, “Life always finds a way.”  

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Let’s Talk About Love

Let’s Talk About Love

Valentine’s Day was a day created as a Feast for St. Valentine. However, it has moved into a holiday of love and romance. Long-term and short-term relationships take part in the day, but please, remember the sexual health you must practice while celebrating love. Here’s some Valentine’s Day statistics. Stay safe!

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The Little Things Add Up Regarding Dating Confidence

The Little Things Add Up Regarding Dating Confidence

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If you’re reading this, there’s a large chance you’re interested in dating, and dating well. The search for love is not always easy. While it can happen naturally, and help you craft a story of love and beauty, sometimes things aren’t so simple. It takes effort for people to find the love they keep for the most part. If not in situational terms then in how they present themselves. After all, if you’re not giving the best of yourself, how can you expect someone to see the best of you?

 

Of course, you should be comfortable in your skin more than anything. But, if you really do value confidence when it comes to approaching those you are attracted to on sincere terms, it pays to take care of yourself. Being confident will give you more presence, help you achieve more suitable and worthwhile partners, and generally have more fun while dating! Dating can be turbulent. Sometimes you meet people you might not have wanted to looking back, and sometimes you can go for long periods without meeting anyone suitable. If you have the ability to however, you can develop a keen awareness for how you present yourself, and how your confidence translates to the dating scene.

 

This article will help you with that, as it’s not always relevant. Of course, these tips should be done for you more than anyone else you might meet in the future, as they’ll develop you into a stellar and well-presented person. Self-confidence redeems itself in how happy you feel within your own skin. Still, sometimes directing that in the pursuit of a potential love or close friend from dating can also be worth your time.

 

The little things add up regarding dating confidence. Here are just a few to take care of:

 

Smile

Who doesn’t like being smiled at? You’ll notice awfully quickly if the person you meet has an issue smiling with you. This can make you feel on edge, as the whole situation feels weird from a body language perspective. After all, verbal language is only 20% of overall communication. We are fine-tuned to understand and receive signals through body language, expressions, general movement when speaking and how open or closed their presence is to you. Smiling is an undeniable signal that you’re doing something right. This means smiling at the other person (genuinely) can also allow them to pursue certain avenues of dialogue, believe that their joke hit well, or simply feel comfortable in your presence.

Your smile makes you radiant. However, if you have a few aesthetic issues with your teeth, you might be defeating this beauty from the start. Ensuring that your teeth are well maintained and clean will contribute to this, via discerning the services of the best dentist available. It’s not negative to have a little work done if you notice glaring issues, as if your smile is less than it could be, you’ll try not to do it, and this closes off your body language. Simply brushing your teeth and flossing well, on top of paying attention to your breath (like never eating garlic before a date!) are pretty much all the steps you need to take to have a wonderful and beautiful smile worthy of envy.

 

Clothes

What you wear matters. It’s important to make good first impressions, so if you have a good idea of what to wear we’re sure that you’ll look wonderful. Never be afraid to purchase new items purposefully for a date – you deserve to feel comfortable and confident in yourself! A few words about wearing clothing however. It’s important that they fit, and if they don’t you should get them retrofitted or try and find new items. To look good, finding clothes that compliment your body figure without flaunting too much of your body (unless you’d like to of course, there’s no sense in body shaming!) will help you feel comfortable.

 

Of course, making sure all items match, that they’re well cleaned and are ironed of any creases can go a long way in making you look presentable. Even a white tee and some jeans can look good when you ensure they’re well taken care of. It also matters how you wear certain things. For example, there’s no sense wearing a beautiful dress if it’s too tight on you, or heels if they make you feel awful when trying to take step after step. Your clothes are a representation of who you are – so embed your own personal style here! A little accessory here and there never hurts when it comes to improving your confidence.

 

Personality

 

Your personality matters. Of course, it’s hard to ‘freshen up’ before a date in this regard without being somewhat false. You should always be relatively comfortable in expressing who you are. After all, if you have to pretend to be someone in order to make someone else like you, then it’s not fitting that that person will meet your genuine needs. There is always someone out there for your real personality, but only if you let it shine will you make that a possibility.

 

However, there are things you can do to give your personality the edge before heading out. Exercising that day, making sure you have had plenty of sleep and even meditating can help your cognitive abilities stand out, as you’ll be able to access thoughts and enunciate your words much better and in a non-sluggish flow. Of course, the content of what you say also matters.

 

This doesn’t mean preparing an initial list of talking points that you hope to cover in the scope of the conversation. You’re not attending a speech to sway people over to your political or religious opinion. You’re forming a connection, which means both sides of the table need to be in accordance with one another if the whole thing is going to work. This tip is not really one to do ‘before’ your date, but in general reading, staying on top of current events and being an informed person can work phenomenally in helping you come across as an intelligent and capable person. If they previously mention an obsession or interest they have, then why not read up on it a little beforehand? This isn’t insincere or deceptive at all, showing them you’ve made efforts to learn why they love that so much shows you’re willingness to try and be a gracious partner, and it subtly shows them you’re a person with much more to them than they might have originally assumed.

 

The best advice you can get regarding your confidence around your personality is to be yourself. Just relax. Try not to be false, even though of course you will be tempted to bring the best of yourself to the entire affair. This also means allowing disagreements, or potentially finding that you and the other person simply do not vibe together well. Not every date you attend will be a complete success. The funny part about this is that most dates will go much more smoothly if you allow them to go wrong, because the whole unnatural setup almost disappears in awkwardness if you do this. You’re a person, they’re a person, and both of you know the whole dating atmosphere is one of artifice and strange expectations. The sooner you can change that atmosphere to one of mutual humor and relaxation, the better you can both bring yourself to the relationship. Who knows where this could lead? You might find a friend or partner for life.

 

Wisdom

 

Dating is an exciting time to say the least. There are many possibilities that can occur, from you finding a love and a partner, to falling utterly for someone, to simply enjoying each others presence. It could mean you find someone to travel the world with and craft memories. It could mean you find the person you marry next year. With this, emotions can run high in anticipation. We also all know that feeling when we’re almost head over heels for someone immediately. This can make us act foolishly in our excitement, and come on too strong.

 

The biggest ‘little thing’ that matters regarding dating confidence is being able to put your emotions in check. Taking a step back and letting them win your affections, and earning theirs is much better than simply giving them away because you find that person attractive or interesting. People are complex, and you never know if you might blow an opportunity with them by being a little too gung-ho in your expectations. We’ve all been on dates with people who seem a little too keen to get hitched with us, and it puts us off. The chase is fun. Allow it to happen with both sides, and see what happens. This way you respect yourself and allow both parties to enjoy a very interesting story regarding the beginning of your relationship.

 

It also helps you see your own worth from moment to moment. Instead of thinking ‘how can I impress this person immediately?’ think ‘how can I contribute to this reciprocal conversation in a wholesome manner? You can proceed from there.

 

We absolutely hope that this advice gives you the best dates of your life from here on out. You surely deserve them.

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You Are The One And Only: How To Know You’ve Met The One

You Are The One And Only: How To Know You’ve Met The One

Relationships are a complex thing, don’t you think? First, there is the whole saga of actually meeting someone and then comes the dating game which can be extremely confusing. But once you go over those initial hurdles you can find yourself in full-on love with somebody and it can be all consuming. Those first few weeks and months of a relationship can be some of the best you’ll ever experience. Getting to know one another, spending every possible moment in each other’s company, but then you start to wonder whether this is it? Is this the one?

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I think if truth be told you just know when you have found your soulmate. But of course, in any scenario, you can always question yourself whether this is the real deal. After all, you want to ensure that you are going to marry the right person and put all your eggs in the one basket. I don’t think anyone sets out for a marriage to fail or end in divorce, do you? So I thought I’d share some telltale signs that you have found the one. Maybe 2017 looks promising for you on the relationship front.

You’re not hoping the relationship will change

Sometimes any relationship you find yourself in can be a good one. But there is always that lingering thought in the back of your mind that if that one thing could change it would be perfect, am I right? It could be an annoying ex, a stressful job, their cat allergies even. It could literally be anything that just bothers you. The thing is if you start wishing that if that one thing could change then this relationship is it, then you are definitely in the wrong relationship. They just don’t work like that. Meeting the one means that everything falls into place, annoying cat allergies, exes and all. They don’t bother you.

You’re good enough

We spend a lot of our time thinking we aren’t good enough in every aspect of our lives. It could be our careers, our home life, and in general. But your relationship is something you should feel yourself in and content that who you are is good enough. If you have that feeling, that then you are on the right track.

You can work things out

Conflict in relationships is going to happen. From bickering to full blown arguments it’s impossible to have a smooth sailing relationship every single day. But the difference to having arguments with that true partner is that you resolve them well. If you can admit your mistakes or forgive, then this relationship is promising. Conflict and compromise go hand in hand.

You have respect for one another

I think respect in relationships is of the utmost importance. Respecting life choices, careers, decisions, everything, should come easy in a lasting relationship because you respect the person and have trust in them and their judgment. Respect should also be reciprocated, so you should feel supported in your life choices and not be made to think anything otherwise.

I hope this has highlighted some of the signs that you are in a lasting relationship.

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Dating Tips: When To Turn A First Date Into A Second

Dating Tips: When To Turn A First Date Into A Second

When you’re dating, it can be hard to know when things are going well. There’s not always a lightning bolt, and for many, love at first sight is a concept found only in the movies. So how do you know if it’s worth progressing to a second date? Here are some positive signs to look out for.

Instant attraction

Most of us claim that personality is more important than looks. But that doesn’t mean that you want to be with somebody you don’t find physically attractive. For most of us, there has to be a level of attraction. This is what separates a partner from a friend. If there’s no attraction there, your date is likely to end up in friendship rather than a relationship. For some people, that instant feeling isn’t there. It grows with time. If you really like somebody, but you’re not quite sure if it will develop into anything more than a friendship, give it another go. It’s always worth organizing a second date if the first one showed signs of potential.

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Chemistry

Chemistry is a bit of an unknown quantity. It’s hard to put into words the reactions that happen when you meet somebody that you click with. It’s a mixture of physical and psychological responses that are triggered when you meet certain people. Chemistry is not about having a type. You may be surprised at who you develop this connection with. Perhaps it’s something to do with the laws of attraction or it’s a mysterious entity none of us will ever quite understand.

Common ground

Have you ever been on a date where you disagree with everything the other person says, or you come from completely different worlds? Sometimes, opposites attract. But often, stable relationships are built on having things in common and seeing the world in similar ways. If you have common ground, this facilitates conversation. You find that you bounce off each other, and there’s less room for awkward silences.

Intrigue

When you’re on a date, and you’re chatting away, you’ll find that some people fascinate you while others leave you feeling flat. It’s not necessarily that they’re a boring person. They may be incredibly interesting to others. But you often find some people a lot more intriguing than others. If this happens, you’re more likely to want to see them again, and learn more about them.

Laughter

For many of us, being funny is one of the most attractive traits in a potential partner. Laughing makes you feel good. It breaks the ice on a first date, and it can instantly boost your mood. If you spend hours laughing together, and you’ve also got a connection on a physical and intellectual level, the signs are good.

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Do you find it impossible to read what other people are thinking or feeling? In today’s world, when dating is very common, it can be tough to decipher what’s going on and work out if there is a potential for a blossoming romance. Hopefully, these tips will enable you to spot the signs of success, and ultimately, find true love.

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