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4 Ways to Help to Elderly Parents without Draining Yourself and Your Budget

4 Ways to Help to Elderly Parents without Draining Yourself and Your Budget

by Guest Blogger, Caitlin E.

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Your parents took care of you when you were a kid. They paid for your education and food. They raised you to be a good person. And while they didn’t do that expecting you to return the favor, there might come a day when they’ll need you to step in.

Of course, if that day comes, it will mean that you have to make some changes in your lifestyle, regarding your career, personal life, and finances. No one expects you to give up on your life to care for your parents. But you will need to learn to balance your responsibilities in a way that enables you to continue making an income, caring for your family, and giving your parents all the attention they need.

Because you should not be in this alone, here are a few tips that will help you get through this situation.

See if They Need Help and How Much Help They Need

It’s always hard to admit that our parents, who we considered to be our superheroes, are ill and powerless. Facing the facts early on will help you give them the best care they need. The best thing you can do is to talk to your parents first because they need to be involved in every decision that concerns them.

Then, search for the signs they need help:

  • They’re struggling with household chores.
  • Their personal hygiene is not as it used to be.
  • They’re not eating regularly.
  • They struggle to move around the house and neighborhood.
  • They’re losing hand-eye coordination, which prevents them from driving safely, using tools, and other necessities.
  • They’re losing track of their medication.

Once you determine the condition of your parents, you will know the degree of care they require. For example, they might only need you to help with paying the bills or doing household chores. In more severe cases, they will require assistance with getting dressed and moving around.

Talk to Your Employer

Trying to juggle work and the new responsibilities might be the first to come to mind when you find yourself in a situation like this. However, in most cases, this feat results in dropping one juggling ball. Your productivity will definitely suffer, and your boss will notice it. It’s better for you to tell him/her before this happens.

Be honest. Try to point out your value to the company and explain that you will still do your best to contribute. You can ask to work from home for some time or take family days. Your company might even offer some benefits you can use.

Examine the Financial Situation and Make Plans

The financial aspect of being a caregiver is not to be neglected, as it can take quite a toll on both your and your parents’ budget.

First, you need to asses your current financial situation and see if there is room for savings. As a family caregiver, you might have a chance for a tax deduction, so check that out as well.

Later, you should do the same with your parents’ retirement income, but this is a touch topic. You’ll need to assure your parents that you have their best interest at heart. If they haven’t applied for social security yet, help them do it, and look for any tax and other reliefs that can help. For example, being a member of The American Association of Retired Persons (AARP) provides various services, such as insurance coverage and discounts for certain medical equipment.

Consider downsizing their living arrangements as a way of cutting unnecessary expenses and adding to their savings. Of course, it is imperative to plan for the long term and create a budget that will cover the costs of future care.

Don’t Do Everything on Your Own

Taking on all the responsibilities alone can only cause you to burn out faster and damage your own health, which will result in a decreased ability to take care of your parents.

There’s no shame in asking a sibling or a relative for help when it comes to taking your parents to the doctor’s or cleaning the house. If your kids are teenagers or older, they can also help around the house or just be good company to their grandparents. Ask the neighbors to check up on your parents every once in a while and let you know about their condition. This way, the burden will feel lighter, and you’ll be able to balance your life more successfully.

Finally, don’t neglect your health and personal needs. You are of no use to your parents if you’re miserable or sick. Try to find the time to rest, sleep, and socialize, and when you come to their house with a smile on your face, they will feel much better too.

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Caring For Yourself As A Carer

Caring For Yourself As A Carer

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When providing care for somebody else, it’s very easy to neglect your own care. Here are several tips for looking after yourself when taking on the care of someone else.

Know what you’re financially entitled to

Caring for someone else can be financially difficult – especially if you have to give up work to provide the care that they need.

You should do some research into government benefits to ensure that you and the person you’re caring for are both getting the financial support that you need. It’s possible that you may be entitled to a carer’s allowance, which could help you to fund yourself. There may also be disability-related home improvements such as stairlifts and grab bars that you can get grants for so that you don’t have to dig into your own pockets.

Alternatively, you may be able to get help from local charities if you are struggling financially. There are charities out there that are aimed specifically at assisting carers with the financial support they need.

Share the care with someone else

Getting a helping hand could give you the break you need so that you don’t feel you’re constantly on call. This could be time to relax at home or time to go out and meet friends or partake in social activities.

Home hospice care could be an option to look into. Even if it’s only a few hours a week, it will give you the break you need. A lot of carers may hire help in the mornings and evenings when it comes to washing and dressing loved ones. You could also consider a couple days of respite care if you need a couple days’ break.

Don’t forget to also consider help from friends and family. Even if they don’t feel comfortable helping with the physical care, they may be able to help with other jobs around the home which could help to lift the burden.

Don’t neglect your own health

A lot of carers can also ignore health problems of their own, which can cause these problems to become serious. If you get ill, it could not only affect you, but your ability to care for loved one. For this reason, looking after your health should be a priority.

Make sure you’re seeing the doctor when you have a health concern and watch out for signs of health problems. Chronic stress can often trigger health problems ranging from muscle cramps to heart disease – which is why sharing out the care is so important so that you can relax. Make sure that you’re also getting enough sleep and eating healthily. Above all, try to laugh and have fun. 

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Can Your Elderly Parent Still Live Independently?

Can Your Elderly Parent Still Live Independently?

There comes the point in the life of every adult when they start having to worry about their parent just as much as their parent worried about them when they were younger. When this change occurs can differ from person to person, but it usually begins a little after you start to build your own family or when you reach a comfortable point in your life. For instance, you might find that once you reach forty, your parent starts to have more frequent trips to the doctors or even hospital. This is a clear sign that they do need more support and may not be able to live independently anymore. Let’s look at some of the other possible signs that you should watch out for.

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Issues With Dementia

Dementia becomes frighteningly common as we age. It’s quite possible that you start to see signs of dementia as early as forty. This is called early-onset dementia and it’s far rarer. Actual cases of dementia start to become common after sixty-five and you do need to watch out for this. By recognising the signs, you can make sure that your parent gets the treatment they need to slow down the progression of the disease.

Early signs include zoning out of conversations and living in the past. This simply means that elderly parents remember long-term memories far more clearly than say, what happened yesterday. You can learn more about the early signs on https://www.healthline.com/health/dementia/early-warning-signs.

Furthermore, you will also need to make sure that you are looking for signs that they are forgetting names, places and dates. The disease will progress quite quickly once it reaches this point without treatment.

Loss Of Motor Function

Another issue that you must keep a check for is a loss of motor function. This could be anything including issues with motor control. For instance, you might see them making movements that they have no control over. A common sign of a motor neurone disease is the finger moving freely by itself on one hand. It’s a small sign but one that should definitely be checked out by a doctor. If issues with mobility and motor control continue to develop, your parent will eventually need nursing support. You can read more about this option on sites such as https://www.riddlevillage.com/how-we-care/skilled-nursing/. Here you’ll discover exactly the type of treatment your elderly parent can receive from a full trained staff and why they might need it.

No Recovery

Finally, you need to watch out for signs that your elderly parent isn’t recovering after suffering from an injury. This does become a serious issue as we age because our bodies heal a lot slower. In some cases time in the hospital can cause elderly parents to deteriorate faster than before simply because they are in environments that are emotionally stressful for them. As such, you do need to be aware of this problem and work hard to provide the full support they need.

We hope you find this advice useful when determining whether your elderly parent can no longer live independently without help from you or others.

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5 Ways to Improve the Quality of Life for Seniors

By Guest Blogger, Diana S,

5 Ways to Improve the Quality of Life for Seniors

 

With the passing of years, many seniors’ quality of life declines. They socialize less, their health often deteriorates and they lose their positivity and optimism. However, it doesn’t have to be this way. By taking care of their physical and mental health, as well as seeing to their other needs, their life quality can be significantly improved, and here are some ways how.

Remind them they’re loved, useful and needed

In big, urban areas such as Sydney, moving to a different part of the city could easily mean that you can’t make it to visit your parents or other elderly relatives as often as you’d like. This can make them feel neglected and forgotten. Don’t allow this to happen. Even if you can’t be with them in person every day, you can still find ten minutes to call them and ask how they are or tell them about your day. This way, they’ll know you’re thinking of them and love them. Also, if they live in your household, always give them tasks to do so that they feel useful, rather than feeling like a burden. Ask them to fold the clean laundry or to make the shopping list. They can also help by taking care of your kids once in a while, or simply walking to the newsagent’s to get the newspaper.

Deal with their depression

Several million people over the age of 65 suffer from depression. It can be triggered by certain stressful life events like losing their spouse or retiring, but also by losing their sense of purpose or being unable to take care of themselves. You don’t have to wait to notice the symptoms of depression. Instead, after these life-changing events, suggest that your elders visit a therapist or a psychologist preventively. However, if you do notice symptoms of depression, react straight away and get them treated.

Get them to socialize

Company and communication can have a vital effect on seniors’ health, so encourage them to spend as much time as they can with family, friends and neighbors they like. Hint that they could use social networks to get in touch with some of their old friends from university, school or their hometown. They can even organize tea parties, movie- or game nights. They should also try expanding their circle of friends through volunteering or going to various community events. Another option for them is to move to a retirement home, such as the award-winning Mark Moran Little Bay. Choosing this type of home for your seniors will provide them with around-the-clock medical care, while also tending to all their other needs, including socialization. They have shared spaces which are perfect for community engagement, which is exactly what everybody needs – being surrounded by people of similar age and interests.

Encourage them to exercise

Regular exercise might add years to a person’s life, and if they remain fit, those years may actually be healthy and pleasant. Physical exercise can increase their vitality, improve their strength and even promote their mental health. It can make them more optimistic and boost their self-esteem. Make sure that your seniors don’t just sit at home, but have them on their feet, walking as much as they can. Something in the line of 10,000 steps a day would be ideal, but if they can’t do that much, anything is better than nothing. It would be even more beneficial if they joined an exercise group, so that they can be surrounded by other people while working on improving their overall health. If they have painful joints, see if there are any exercise groups for seniors at your local swimming pool. Finally, physical activity will help them sleep better, which is crucial in order to keep a sharp mind and have their energy renewed.

Make sure their meals are healthy and meaningful

The food your seniors eat should be rich in nutrients, and not high in calories. Since metabolism slows down with age and the body needs less energy, make sure they eat salmon and other types of fish, as well as leafy greens, which will provide them with nutrients without causing them to gain unnecessary weight. Their meals should be healthy and balanced, but if you notice that they’ve lost their appetite, maybe you could try seasoning the food differently or making the food look nice on the plate. Also, try turning their meals into social events, by eating together as often as possible or by inviting their friends or other family members for dinner whenever you can.

Most elders simply want some of your time, patience and a kind word here and there. So, always be kind, gentle and helpful, and do your best to make their lives worth living.

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Care At Home – Or In A Home: The Big Question With Aging Parents

Care At Home – Or In A Home: The Big Question With Aging Parents

Nobody can predict the future. And while I could hazard a guess that most of you reading this post would love to allow their parents to age gracefully in their own home – or even yours – you just can’t tell what might happen. Illnesses, repetitive injuries, and complicated psychological issues could all play their part. And even if you do make the decision that you will definitely be your parent’s caregiver, who’s to say you will be in a position to do it when the time comes?

There are a lot of considerations to think about – and to be honest, it is almost impossible to make a decision now, without knowing what the future holds. But the sooner we all start thinking about things, the more prepared we will be to make that important decision. With this in mind, here are a few things you should be thinking about right now, so you are ready to deal with them in the years to come.

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Emotional cost

Yes, sending your parents to a residential home is going to be expensive. But you might be surprised to learn that there are enormous costs involved when they need care in their home, too. Millions of people all over the country care for ageing and ill parents and relatives and an increasing number are providing hands-on care. It’s a lot of work. Unless you can afford to pay medical staff and support workers, you can expect it to be a full-time job, and it will be incredibly draining, stressful, and can take you away from bringing up your own family.

Financial cost

Money has to be taken into account. As much as we would all love to say it makes no difference, the cost of caring for a parent at home is significant. You may need to give up your job, pay for medical services, and maybe even shell out for adaptations to your parent’s home – or yours. In short, whether you choose a care home or look after your folks yourself, there is a chance it will have a profound effect on your finances.

Approaching the end

There will come a time when your folks will be close to the end. And if they are suffering from something like end-stage cancer palliative care is of vital importance. Your loved one will be undergoing a lot of pain, and be experiencing the impact of a massive array of symptoms. They will need doctors to treat them, nurses to care for them, and also people who can provide them with the psychological support they require. While many people prefer to see out their days at home, there are some scenarios where getting help from a professional setting will be better for everyone.

The guilt

Unless money is no object, at some point you are going to have to make a choice – and live with it. Either way, you are going to feel guilty. On the one hand, if you decide on residential care, you might have to go against the wishes of your parents. But on the other, keeping them at home may prevent them from receiving the care they need to live out their days comfortably, or the support they need in the event of an emergency. Whichever direction you end up choosing, you have to remember that you will still be a big part of the care team, but you will also have to accept reality.

It’s a tough call, for sure. But hopefully, these factors will help you feel a little better about making a decision when the time comes. Hopefully, that won’t be for many years…

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Elderly Care: How To Do Right By Your Family Member

Elderly Care: How To Do Right By Your Family Member

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Elderly care is definitely a bit of a sensitive topic among some people. It’s hard to think about the options you have when it comes to a family member that struggles. You want to make sure that they are taken care of and in good hands, but you don’t always know what it going to be the best solution to make that happen. So, what you need to do is talk to your parent or family member and try to understand what it is that they’re struggling with. You can then consider the options that may work best for them, their needs and their current situation. Below are a couple of things that you may find will work for your family.

Provide Them With Care

Your first option is to look into the kinds of care options that your elderly family member can have at home. If they are finding it harder to cook all of their own meals, clean, or even bathe and you’re not able to be there for them every day, you may find that a companion care option is exactly what they need. Having a professional to care for them and take care of their needs could be all they need to feel more comfortable at home.

Take Them Out

Sometimes, it’s not that your family member is struggling to take care of themselves, but that they’re struggling with something like loneliness. When that’s the case, you may want to think about trying to take them out a little bit more. You may find that taking them to lunch or to visit some of their favorite places, or even on vacation with you when you go is all it needs to perk up an elderly parent.

Ease The Pressure

Or, you may find that the problem is that they’re under too much pressure to get things done. If you have a very independent elderly family member, they may have a lot of pride in looking after themselves and find it hard to admit that they need help. But, you’re going to need to recognize this and do what you can to ease the pressure. Be sure to take them extra meals round when you think it might save them from cooking, walk their dog, and even buy their groceries for them now and again to save them the trip.

Find A Retirement Community

If you get to the point where you feel like your elderly parent is struggling in their own home, you may want to talk to them about retirement community options. Now, this may not be something they are okay with at first. But if the get extra help and are surrounded by others, it could be all they need to feel a lot better about their situation.

Ask Them To Move In

And finally, you may also have the option to ask them to move in with you. This isn’t always something that is feasible for everyone, but if you have space in your home and you wan to be able to care for your elderly family member, then it could be the perfect solution for both them and for your whole family.

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How to Know When Your Elderly Parent Needs Help

Anxiety Can Be Killer – But you Needn’t Let It Rule Your Life

Unfortunately our parents getting older is an inevitable part of life. Sometimes the aging process is gradual and sometimes our parents can change very quickly and it is down to us to figure out what they need and how we can approach any declining mental or physical health problems.

It is not always easy to know when extra help is necessary and sometimes the little warning signs can go unnoticed. So here are our tips on how to recognise that things need to change, how to do everything that you can to make sure your elderly loved one has everything that they need and how to plan for the future.

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The Warning Signs

There are many warning signs that we need to look out for to make sure that our elderly parents are ok and coping on their own. First of all if you visit them and notice that their normally spick and span home has become untidy and unhygienic then this is a warning sign that the day to days tasks in the home may have become too much for them to cope with.

The same applies to their appearance. If you have noticed that your parent has stopped putting so much effort into their appearance and look uncharacteristically disheveled or unclean then this is also a big warning sign.

Changes in their physical well being needs to be looked out for as any joint problems or physical illnesses will prevent them from being able to go about their daily life. Changes in your parent’s mood can indicate a problem as can any unexplained bruising or cuts on their body. Whether you see that your parent is suffering from mood swings, forgetfulness or depressive behaviour this could be a sign that you need to reach out for help.

You are Struggling

If you find that you are really struggling to take care of your elderly parent alone, or with the help of your family, that is a solid sign that you are going to need some extra help. If you feel that the time has come for you to look into assisted living then go online and find out what options and residences are available in your area. Find help at www.McKnightPlace.com/assisted-living or a similar assisted living facility in your local community, or in the area that your parent lives, to start discussing the options out there. It can be a difficult decision to make, so you will need to make sure that you are reaching out to people in the care community to better understand the options available to you and your family.

Perhaps you still feel that your parent is still able to live in their home, or at home with you, but the day to day caring of that parent is proving too much to handle on your own. In which case you may want to consider hiring a full-time or part-time caregiver that will be able to spend time with your parent caring for them and keeping them company. Find out more information at www.AgeAction.com Don’t feel that you have to do it all on your own if you are feeling like the strain is too much, remember there are many options available for you to receive help.

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They Looked After You. Now, You Look After Them

They Looked After You. Now, You Look After Them

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Nobody likes the idea of their parents rotting away into elderly life without any help or support. Of course, you love these people. And, they mean a great deal to you. But, this doesn’t make it any harder to drop the ball and let the elderly members of your family feel forgotten. As the busyness of life takes over; most people forget about these responsibilities. And, this leaves a lot of older people in a bad situation. It doesn’t have to be this way. Instead, you just need to put the effort in. To help you out, this post will be going through three areas that need to be considered for your elderly relatives.

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Although the elderly my struggle physically, a lot of them don’t have any issues in the mental department. This means that they will still desire the same sort of entertainment they’ve had throughout their life. Having this area of life neglected can be very difficult for someone. Having nothing to do will make you bored. And, being bored for too long can result in stress and depression. Thankfully, solving this issue is nice and easy; you just have to go out and do things with your loved ones. The activities you choose will have to be based on the physicality of everyone in the group. So, you might not want to take someone older to a waterpark, because they may struggle to swim. But, going to a zoo would give them the chance to see things that are exciting; while also being relaxed.

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Next, you need to start thinking about where they live. Some houses won’t be very appropriate for elderly people. For example, a house with stairs won’t be any good for someone that has had two hip replacements. But, a bungalow would do the trick. You’ll probably have to do a large portion of the work; if you decide to move your relatives. From finding the new home to helping them move, you’ll have to cover it all. It could be worth it, though. Living in a well-designed home can make it much easier for an older person to remain independent. Along with this, you could also make their living situation safer with a move.

Finally, but probably the most important thing here, is care. It’s unwise to try and complete the care work that your relatives need yourself. The idea of having a stranger do it might seem bad. But, both you and your relative won’t like the idea of your final years spent together in this way. Thankfully, there are loads of elderly care companies out there. Depending on the company that you choose, you may have the option for your relative to move to a special house. Of course, some won’t like this idea. But, these businesses recognise this; offering services that come to you.

Hopefully, this will give you the help and inspiration you need to start making a difference in the life of an older relative. When people are in their golden years, it’s important to make sure that you give them the support they need.

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