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Ways of Teaching Young Ones About Death

Ways of Teaching Young Ones About Death

Death is never a topic someone looks forward to discussing. Trying to explain death to your children can be quite overwhelming.  However, it’s severely worse when that discussion becomes inevitable. But how can you approach the subject of death to a child that has had no experience with it? There’s a lot of thought and pressure that goes into a conversation like that, but teaching them about death before it happens to a pet or someone close to the family could save a lot of heart-wrenching questions.

Introduce Death

Everything on this planet has a season or a life span. Introducing death to young ones is as simple as teaching them about the flowers that bloom in the spring. A flower is a great example of life and death. Plants and flowers are so similar to us yet, opposite. Just like us, they need food, water and sunlight. However, we rely on each other for life. We need their oxygen; they need our carbon dioxide. Teaching kids the facts of life and pointing out that death is a fact can help them to generally understand life’s cycle.

Experiencing Death

Sadly, some children are exposed to death at a very early age. Other children are able to make it to late-teens before personally knowing a pet or someone that has passed. Which scenario is better? Neither. They both have their downfalls because a loss is just that… a loss.

Some folks have used goldfish to be a first death experience. It’s a lot less traumatic than losing other pets. As most of us have experienced firsthand that goldfish do not have very long lifespans. A goldfish is a great example of a ‘being’ that must be named, cared for and loved. But once its life is over, parents can teach their child in-depth about loss by having a mini-funeral around the toilet bowl or a shallow grave in the yard. This experience teaches a child that there is honor in life and honor in death.

Don’t Be Afraid to Talk About It

Death isn’t scary. How people die can be. But don’t be afraid to talk about death with your child. Kids are curious, so it’s better to learn from you, the parent, than from other outlets. Death is on TV, video games, the internet, etc. Getting the facts from you is better than your child thinking they have extra lives because that’s how the video game works. Or even worse, they do their own random search of facts that has the potential to scare the crap out of them.

Remember, to also talk to them about your beliefs. Share with them about what you think happens after life. Give them comfort in their questions. Reassure and comfort them when they express their fears. (Yes, they will have some.) And most of all, keep the door of communication open on the subject. They will have questions that popup at any time.

Letting Your Child Mourn

Mourning is a necessary process when losing a loved one. Whether it be a pet or a family member, whether you, yourself are mourning too, allowing your child to know that it’s a normal emotion to feel grief during this time is very important. There are five distinct stages of grief: Denial and isolation, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and finally, Acceptance. Be reasonable as they process their grief. They might not be where you are in your process. Sometimes children sail through the stages, or they may get stuck on one stage longer than expected. There is family counseling that can help with this subject at any stage. Don’t be afraid to seek help if needed at any point.

Death is a fact of life. But, making it easy for just anyone to understand can be difficult, let alone a child. Teach them that everything on this planet has a lifespan. Perhaps, let them experience an example of death on a less-traumatizing level. Talk with them. Listen to them. And always keep the door of communication open. These things can help build a healthy outlook for your child on the facts of life and death.

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Dealing With Life’s Biggest Stresses

Dealing With Life’s Biggest Stresses

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There are many stresses in life, and they are often avoidable if you want to move on and experience life itself. The good thing to know is that we all experience stress in our lives, and it’s not just major life events, but even day-to-day situations can top the list when it comes to causing us stress, but luckily there are plenty of ways to help you cope with them.  

Bereavement

Losing a loved one comes top of the list of the most stressful things you may ever have to deal with. As grief affects people in different ways, you may feel shock and sadness, anger or even guilt. It is essential that during this time that you make sure you take care of yourself, to make sure you eat well and get enough rest.

Relationship Breakdown

Separation or divorce is both another two of life’s most stressful events. Even if both the end of the relationship is mutual, there are always going to be emotional, practical and legal considerations to be dealt with. Living arrangements, financial matters and dealing with child custody lawyers all have to be taken into account. Surround yourself with a good support system, and take time to make any decisions.

Moving Home

Moving house is another of life’s stressful events. There’s finding the right place for you, then there’s the packing and unpacking and finding new schools, shops and other services. This comes along with any financial stress, and in addition to the logistical considerations, there is also the emotional stress of moving. Researching the new area, hiring professional movers such and relying on friends and family for help to make the whole thing a lot easier. Try to plan the entire move ahead of time for things go smoothly and once you have moved in, introduce yourself to your neighbours and start looking for ways to get involved in your new community.

Getting A New Job

No matter where you are on the career ladder, starting a new job can be a significant cause of stress in everyday modern life. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed in your first days in a new job as we learn what is expected of you in your original post. Remember, you can’t be expected to know everything right from the start, so don’t be afraid to ask questions or get help when you need it. If you find yourself getting overwhelmed, take a short walk or find another quick stress reliever.

Finance Worries

Finances are also one of the most common causes of stress. Identify your financial worries and create a plan to manage your finances more efficiently. Look at how you deal with the financial burden and address any unhealthy behaviours you might have such as gambling or drinking. These are not good or advisable ways to relieve money stress.


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Ways to Get Through Tough Life Situations

Ways to Get Through Tough Life Situations

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Sadly, whether we like it or not, life has a way of throwing difficult situations our way from time to time. And while many of these situations may seem totally overwhelming, there are ways in which you can deal with them in a healthier and stronger way. A great deal of the time, you don’t see the situation coming and you can end up wallowing in the general unfairness of life. Alternatively, you can develop strategies and coping mechanisms that guide you through the times when life gets tough. To give you a helping hand, here are just a few of the ways that you can cope with life’s most difficult situations.

Make Acceptance Your First Priority

Dealing with a bad situation can often be like dealing with the most common stages of grief. You may find yourself confronted by a combination of denial, pain, guilt, anger, sadness and bargaining, to name but a few. Right at the end of the common stages of grief comes acceptance. In a tough life situation, you will want to rush ahead to this stage as quickly as possible. Though you can’t crush down your other emotions, you can accept that what has happened to you has happened and you can’t do anything to change it. All you can do is think about what you will do next.

Start Taking Practical Steps

One of the first things that you can do is make a distinction in your mind between what can be changed and what can’t be. It is the former category that you will want to focus on as much as possible. It often helps to write down some practical solutions before you actually start putting them into practice. For example, if you find yourself experiencing family troubles, you may need to get legal advice from someone such as www.JudithGoldberg.com/fl. If you lose your job, you can start tapping up your contacts to find new opportunities. The knowledge that you are taking practical steps to deal with your problems can be hugely comforting.

Remember that You Can Continue from This Point

One of the first reactions that people have towards difficult life situations is to wonder how they can possibly carry on from this point onwards. If you let this feeling get the better of you, it can be totally overwhelming. Remember that a huge majority of the most successful people in life have had to deal with great adversity. Sometimes their greatest achievements have even directly followed these negative life events. Remind yourself that things can and will get better, but you also have to learn to be patient.

Get Support From Others

Though many people like to present the image that they are sailing through life smoothly, everyone has to deal with a great deal of adversity regardless of how it may seem. Draw support from those who are closest to you, and take advice from people who have been in similar situations to yourself. It can be an enormous source of comfort in knowing that you are not alone.

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