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How to Spot the Signs of Growing Apart

How to Spot the Signs of Growing Apart

We all wish relationships lasted forever, but statistics say otherwise. It is important that you educate yourself on how healthy partnerships should work and when it is time to make adjustments or move on. You don’t want your partner to drag you down or stop you from becoming the best version of yourself. Below you will find a few signs of one of the main reasons of relationship breakdowns; growing apart.

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He Is Stuck In His Ways

We all fall in love because we find something unique and appealing in the other person. However, people change, and we learn more about what they really are like, and we develop ourselves. If you find that he is not on the same journey as you, and doesn’t want to change, you will need to start thinking whether or not your relationship is worth it for him, or he is just stuck in the situation.

You Are Growing Faster

We all love developing and growing. You might enroll to a college course, improve your career, or simply take in meditation, If the other person doesn’t respect or value your effort and your journey towards self discovery, they will be left behind. If you have more ambition than they do, chances are that they will not be the right person for you for too long. It might be time to have a chat with a littleton divorce lawyer to research your options.

You Stopped Doing Things Together

One of the most common signs of relationships not working is when you stop doing things together. If he is no longer interested in going to your favorite place, you might be thinking whether or not they were pretending to be someone else in the beginning of your relationship. Other than lack of time, the lack of interest in each other’s passion can kill romantic relationships.

Your Values are Not Aligned

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Of course, we all change our outlook in life and adjust our values as well as our personal mission. If your partner doesn’t believe in the same things, maybe criticizes you for doing things one way and not another, chances are that you will soon realize that enough is enough and you need to move on. If you cannot have a conversation any more, there is simply no point being together.

You Just Leave It to Them to Avoid Arguments

In case you find yourself walking away from arguments all the time, you will need to start thinking about the reasons. Is your partner using emotional blackmailing, or simply wants to belittle you? If you are always the person who takes a step back and leaves them to be, you will have to stop walking on eggshells and make some drastic changes.

When relationships stop working, it is important that you spot the warning signs before it is too late. Growing apart is hard to fix, without therapy, and you need to ask yourself whether or not you have the time and if it is worth the effort.

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Making it Work: Finding True Love in the Millennial World

Making it Work: Finding True Love in the Millennial World

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Dating in the millennial world is like strolling through the jungle ofravenous beasts. As soon as you fire up your dating app, trolls and predatorsflock to your profile, hell-bent on tearing your confidence into pieces. Terrifying, right? While the situation is not necessarily as drastic as presented (though it truly happens to numerous unwitting love-seekers), finding genuine love in the millennial world is turning into an exception. Getting tothe root cause of why “making it work” has become a miracle is not particularlyhard. Rendering the process easier is a significantly harder riddle to solve.

Commitment issues are rampant

The problem mostly lies in the fact that millennial generation has an overwhelming phobia of commitment. This widespread phenomenon has emerged exactly due to the dating app factor.Why would you bother when there are plenty more “swipes” in the sea? In themillennial mind, people have turned into commodities. The first step to solving this, should you come across someone that you truly like, is to actively seekout connections with the person through common interests.

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This way, you will become more than a cardboard cutout or a set of brief traits in the eyes of the potential date, much more quickly. However, the second step is quite harder and it is also related to the fear of commitment. This obstacle comes in the signature millennial fear of opening up, coupled with the unwillingness to repeatedly invest energy into partners.

The main tool is also a problem

With the omnipresent power of the internet, the metaphysical cloud that covers the globe and simmers with endless data, long distance relationships have become more common place. While previous generation used the net as a tool in this regard, matters have become a bit trickier for millennials.

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In the world of diminished attention spans and constant pursue for immediate gratification, the survival of long distance relationships requires both parties to exercise in human patience and constant readiness to compromise. The additional work might be exhaustive, but the benefits of pulling through are immeasurable.

Self-centered world

The afore mentioned unwillingness to invest energy in relationships is not a mild problem. Millennials learn, since early age, to be focused solely on themselves and their own needs. In addition, the digital realm is tailored exactly to cater to the individual’s perception of oneself as the “center of the world”. In spite of this, you can easily spot a glaring contradiction within such state of things – since the choices at our disposal are in numerable, it becomes easy to feel as if we do not matter in the grand scheme of things. Generations ago, people used to belong to diffuse and organic social microcosms which were easier to navigate. An average millennial suffers the “tyranny of freedom” but manages to come on top as long ascertain basic tenets are followed.

Avoid distractions and have a clear goal

In order to find the right partner, you need to narrow down your wants into a reasonable goal. As soon as you enter the world of dating (both online and offline) things can get really distracting really fast so it helps to have a clear goal when it comes to the type of person you’d love to “find”. Just don’t fall into a trap of perceiving people as conquests as you will end up perpetuating previous mistakes. Second, you need to communicate this goal clearly, which might trim down the number of people that are willing to date you drastically, but at least you will pique the interest of those that want a similar arrangement. Finally, you need to take action and have hope no matter what – a few failed dates should not discourage you.

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We live in the unprecedented times. The world is changing faster than we can process it and so does the way we engage with people around us. In this digital jungle of social media and dating apps, dating has turned into a curious multi-dimensional maneuver that dances frantically between numerous versions of your identity. Only one of these versions is completely genuine;all others are hyper-stylized. Previous generations did not have to wrestle with social hierarchies that include multiple levels of reality, all in order to fulfill the needs that are so primordial and instinctive. Both the problem and the solution to finding true love in the millennial world lie in the heartof this paradox. Thankfully, as infinitely quotable Dr. John Hammond says in“Jurassic Park”, “Life always finds a way.”  

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How to Make Sex and Motherhood Align

How to Make Sex and Motherhood Align

They say everything changes once you have kids. But have you ever considered the changes to your love life? When you become a mom, your kids become a new and worthwhile sense of joy; they’re now your number one priority and captivate most of your time and energy. But that doesn’t mean your love life, especially physical intimacy, should need to take a back seat. Whether you’re a single mom getting back out on the dating scene, a first-timeparent to a newborn, or even a wife whose marriage has been lacking spark after raising kids, there are solutions to every mom’s differing sexual needs after kids.

Quit guilt-tripping yourself

In the same facet that moms shouldn’t feel guilty about not having sex, moms also shouldn’t be ashamed for desiring sex. After all, sex allows us to create a new life – it’s what made us moms. Not to mention the many proven benefits sex can have on our health and that it can be rewarding for relationships. Maintaining a healthy sex life does not make you a bad mom. It’s all about finding the balance between tending to your child(ren), while also making time to fulfill your own needs.

Don’t let body insecurities stop you

Women undergo many physical changes throughout and after pregnancy, like stretch marks, weight gain, loose skin, and even leaky breasts; all of which can take an emotional toll on our self-confidence making the thought of being intimate again unimaginable. However, you may be surprised by how quickly youfind yourself craving that physical connection again, and since women can ovulate as early as three weeks after childbirth, you’ll want to be prepared if you’re not ready for your family to grow again quite yet. If you’re hesitant to use birth control due to the worry of further weight gain, then fear no more. Most birth controls contain two hormones, a progestin and anestrogen. High levels of estrogen are associated with fluid retention (aka bloating and weight gain). But modern birth control pills nowcontain lower doses of estrogen and progestin, debunking the idea that birth control and weight gain are one and the same, so choosing the best birth control for you is that much easier.

Be creative and flexible

Another reason sex doesn’t always transpire after children is the concept that parenting is a 24/7 job. But like any other job, we all deserve a break at some point. A comfortable way to transition back into having a sex life is to plan a night alone with your partner by dropping the kids off at grandma or grandpa’s house for a night. Your mind can relax knowing that your little ones are in the trusted hands of a loved one. If you don’t have the luxury of a relative or babysitter, don’t give into the notion that you can’t ‘get it on’ just because the kids are home. Forgo your former expectations of sex and fit it in around your time. Have some ‘sexy time’ after the kids goto bed or before they wake up. Make use of nap times or even hop in the shower together for a steamy, intimate moment alone. Just make sure to lock the door!

Becoming a mom means learning new ways to adapt to everything you once did before children, including sex. Women may not have the same sex life they did before kids, but it’s possible that sex after children can be even better as it can teach women to love their natural body, and allow for more opportunities for spontaneity and rekindling romance.

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Ensure You’re Not Ripped Off During The Christmas Period

Ensure You’re Not Ripped Off During The Christmas Period

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Christmas is known for its lavish spending. It’s quite interesting to reflect on just how the progression of holidays go at this time of year. Thanksgiving as celebrated in the United States is often followed immediately by the Black Friday and Cyber Monday events. An event around gratitude is immediately followed by rampant materialism and trying to get the best deal. Christmas, while wonderful of course, is a grouping of these two attitudes. We appreciate that we have while trying to impress one another with the most expensive or thoughtful gifts. Of course, there’s no need to follow this tradition, but if you’re in a family unit you likely will.

 

However, even with the progression of spending and gathering items to gift, it’s important to keep aware so you’re not ripped off this holiday season. If there’s anything companies like doing this time of year, it’s marketing hard, and if you’re not careful you can fall for well-choreographed efforts to part you from your money. With these simple tips, only the best purchasing decisions will be made in your household this year. Consider:

 

Don’t Fall For The Marketing Hype

 

The marketing hype can often make us all struggle to figure out what might actually be holding value each and every Christmas. Each and every firm offers Christmas specials, secret sales, and mammoth promotions. Or so they would have you believe. It can sometimes be that these promotions, despite the fancy packaging, generally aren’t worth the mediocre savings being offered. It might be that annual subscriptions to services, access to products and a general range of ‘immediate offers’ sound appealing, but that with a little diligence and research, you realize that you might not have considered this purchase outside of the holiday season.

 

For that reason, trying to prioritize that which you might actually need can help you make these frivolous purchases because you can, not because you are fooled into doing so. This might sound like an insult to your intelligence, but even the smartest people can be susceptible to the emotional excitement of Christmas, and companies know that. They are banking to use it in order to promote themselves. This is why most firms come out with the famous ‘Christmas Advertisement’ each year. By staying wise, taking a little time to verify the value of a purchase, and looking through all of the marketing hype, we might save hundreds in wasted spending this Christmas. This prideful feeling might be the cherry on top for your entire vacation.

 

Be Careful With Extra Funding

 

It can be extremely easy to consider taking extra funding in our stride at this time of year. We’re all familiar with how bills can pile up, how the gifting season can drain our wallets, let alone the other plans you might have. Sometimes you might be cooking Christmas dinner for friends and family, or it might be you have to travel across the country to spend thanksgiving with your parents. Overall, Christmas can be costly, so any boost in our finances is surely looked on with welcoming eyes.

 

You may consider looking for a quick loan, easy to repay, but one in which you can become paid now and start using soon. After all, Christmas is very close to the current date. This is a perfectly valid thing to do, and many people decide to use one of these loans because they know they’ll be receiving a payday on or after the Christmas period. However, you need to know which payday loans are appropriate and which aren’t. Thankfully, payday loan comparison resources online, as linked previously, can give you a real picture as to the quality and reliability with each loan online. Be suspicious of overly long payback dates, interest too high or low, or a provider with very little customer feedback available online. However, if you find a trustworthy option, you might be able to fund your Christmas exactly the way you want without worry.

 

Stay Patient With Vacation Deals

 

It can be extremely exciting for some people to consider the vacation deals they might like to take part in. We might consider enjoying a winter wonderland abroad, or in a highly prestigious theme park such as Disneyland. We might hope to visit family, or potentially head on a sporting activity such as Skiing in the alps now our children have grown. While it can be wonderful to do this before or on the Christmas day itself, it can also be extremely cost-efficient to simply wait a month or two before heading out.

 

Planning a vacation in January will usually mean you are faced with the least populated time in resorts, winter vacation spots and many official places of stay around the world. This means slashed prices, quicker wait times, and much less of a sense of overpopulation at the busiest times. This means more vacation spending more, more bang for your buck, perhaps the ability to extend your vacation or upgrade to a nicer accommodation suite. Stay patient with vacation deals. After the new year rolls around, travel agents will be absolutely desperate to sell some of the unsold package deals they have, and accommodations will often be booking rooms for cheap. There’s no reason why you can’t celebrate a ‘second Christmas’ if you’re willing to push this forward a little bit. Just be sure to save your workdays to extend your vacation a little. You’ll be sure to appreciate it in time.

 

Eating Great Foods

 

It can be very tempting to head out for Christmas lunch with your family members. We are in no way suggesting you shouldn’t, because who would we be to tell you that? However, if cost-saving is an important factor, it can always be that hosting remains much much cheaper, and purchasing ingredients in wholesale now could help you find food for this event, for the Christmas day itself, and for long term leftover consumption. To us, that sounds pretty important and wonderful to do, especially for the financially conscious.

 

With these tips, ensuring you’re not ripped off during the Christmas period should lead to more money in your wallet.

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5 Ways to Get Your Health Back on Track

5 Ways to Get Your Health Back on Track

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Letting ourselves get unfit is far easier than you may think. Falling into a routine of unhealthy eating and being idle happens with you realizing it and bad habits form that now you need to break. The only way to put an end to this cycle of self-destruction is to take control and put your health back on track.

Go Through Your Cupboards

The first thing you should do is going through your cupboards. As long as there are unhealthy foods in there you will eat them, and the way to stop yourself is not to have them in your home to start with. No one would ever suggest that you do not have the occasional treat that is not too good, but that is all it should be. In the main, your diet should consist of lots of fruit and vegetables, whole grains and things like nuts and oily fish if you want to get your body back into good condition.

Getting Help For Bad Habits That Make You Unhealthy

There are some bad habits that will contribute to your health and if you are serious about getting healthier you may need to seek help to break them. There is a lot of support available for instance if you want to stop smoking, or you could consider sober living homes for an alcohol problem. You should never be afraid to seek the help you need if the ultimate aim is for you to be both physically and mentally in a better state.

 

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Venture Into The Great Outdoors

Exercise is vitally important for our health and you may well have a gym membership that allows you to use the various pieces of equipment that will help. However, outdoors activities are even more beneficial, as the fresh air is very good for keeping your brain alert.

It could be just a simple walk a few times a week. You could walk part of your journey to work, or wander around in your breaks. Just get outside and let those endorphins get to your brain. They will result in a feel-good factor, which will encourage you to enjoy the outdoors even more.

Let The Sunshine In

As soon as the sun disappears in the winter months some people suffer from Season Affective Disorder, or as it is better known SAD. Whether you are one of the unlucky people or not, whenever there is sunshine in the winter, let it into your home or workplace for a better frame of mind.

It is the vitamin D caused by exposure to the sun that is important, but you can also get that from eating mushrooms, fish, and eggs.

 

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Feel The Goodness

For each step you take, and you may not be able to do them all at once, you will feel an improvement in your health. This will motivate you to carry on and maybe add the next stage of getting healthier. As well as feeling better, there are other benefits you may not notice but other people will.

It will be more pleasant to communicate with you, you will not be as moody or aggressive and will generally be a nicer person to be around.

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Holiday Blues

Holiday Blues

 

You might think that only people who spend the holidays alone are susceptible to holiday depression. That’s not the case. Depression doesn’t really care if you’re alone or surrounded by loved ones. Depression and anxiety can hit hard during the holidays. There plenty of factors around this time of year to push your mind to its limits.

First off, it’s cold

Seasonal depression is real! Lack of warmth and sun can cause any flower to wilt. So make sure you get your daily dose of vitamin D through your diet. Also, if the sun is shining, bundle up and get outside for a few minutes. This will help boost your mood.

Spending money

It’s true that some folks love to spend money, but there’s usually a pang of guilt in doing so. Especially, if it was a frivolous purchase. Other people feel a lot of pressure when spending money around the holiday season. Do they have enough money for presents? Is it a good enough present? How can I afford that? For parents, the largest concern is, I want to make sure they have a great Christmas… All of these thoughts put unnecessary pressure on yourself. Anxiety heightens, and that’s when depression can also slip into the party. Take the pressure off. Put a cap on your budget. Ask your kids if they could only have one thing, what would it be? This allows you to find out where their priorities lie. With friends and relatives, suggest a white elephant exchange or a Pollyanna. And do you still feel like you need to get something for everyone? Do a cookie bake or make homemade bath bombs and scrubs. Homemade gifts are always treasured.

Family drama, not made for TV

During holidays, lots of family drama can surface. It May sound too simple, but shake it off. Who cares that aunt so-n-so doesn’t think that’s a proper desert for the holiday dinner or grandparents think you’re in the wrong line of work? If you’re spending the holidays with them, the only answer should be you love them. Love them for who they are, even if you feel they can’t love you for who you are. If you can’t, then you should consider who you are spending your time with. This is the time of year to spend with LOVED ones.

It’s the end of the year and you still haven’t accomplished that

Every year, millions, if not billions, make New Year resolutions for their life. 12 months later, they didn’t accomplish what they set out to do. Take the pressure off yourself and try a five-year plan instead. Having goals is important. But having deadlines can cause anxiety. Give yourself a break. And remember, if it’s part of your destiny, you’ll eventually get there.

Which brings me to my final point, …Therapy

This is the time of year for giving, more than receiving. Therapy comes in many forms. So if depression hits, try volunteering your time. Donate gifts, food or clothing to the less fortunate. Helping others can pull you out of your own depression.

Mental health is important all year round. But there’s certain times throughout the year, the mind can be tested. We miss loved ones or ended-relationships during certain periods of life. Around the holidays, we are reminded this is a time to be spent with loved ones. And it’s alright to miss them, but we must remember to celebrate these times as well. If you can’t shake the blues or you feel them coming on perhaps it’s best to talk with a therapist. Remember, there are people that can help if you need to talk. If you or someone you know is suffering with depression this holiday season, please seek help.

Wishing you and yours a happy and healthy holiday season!

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Telehealth is the New Health Care for Doctors and Therapists

Telehealth is the New Health Care for Doctors and Therapists

What exactly is Telehealth?

 

It’s just another amazing thing we can do on all our devices. It’s called Telehealth. Imagine getting all your test results in your own portal. What about actually having a virtual doctor’s appointment? Yep, that’s part of telehealth.

Whose Using Telehealth?

Larger practices are using portals for their patients. This portal is your personal file that can be accessed quickly. It’s growing to the level where any of your doctors and specialists have your history right at their fingertips.

Imagine, no more telling every doctor you see your list of allergies and medications. It will be all in your file. Now, I recommend that you still confirm these important things with your doctors each time…mistakes or oversight can happen. But with that said, how convenient is that?

Another very successful use of Telehealth is with mental health. People are using online counseling and therapy to speak with health care providers without leaving their home or office. Kids are using Telehealth counseling after school without missing out on extra curricular activities. It’s providing more convenient hours for doctors and patients.

Get Results

Another cool thing about telehealth, you get access to your lab results. Let’s say you had your annual blood test. You can sign into your portal and get your results at the same time the doctor does. This allows you to go over the results with your doctor while seeing the numbers first-hand.

This future is now. Patients are able to request refills on scripts or have medical equipment ordered. Doctors all over the country are getting on board.

Recap

So, let’s recap, you’re on vacation and have an emergency cross country… Your medical records are just a click away.

You’re too sick to leave home to get to the doctor or you want to speak to a therapist at night… Virtual appointments are possible.

You just want access to your health to be more convenient… Now it can be.

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Little Ways To Treat Yourself Before Christmas

Little Ways To Treat Yourself Before Christmas

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December is here, and now the countdown to Christmas is truly underway. With this also means that you’ll likely be in a mad dash to buy tons of gifts for family as well as sort out food and drink for the mob. But did you ever think about giving something back to yourself this Christmas season? There are lots of things you can do during the festive season to help you feel more relaxed and ready to celebrate, and here are just a few of those ways to treat yourself before Christmas comes around.

 

Have a break

 

We are all rushing around at this time of year. Whether it be getting those last sales in at work, making sure we have everything in order or anything else, the last few months of the year are always hectic. To give yourself a chance to reset and refresh it is a good idea to have a little break. You can either have a staycation and do nothing for a few days, or you can go and book a spa weekend with your other half or friends. This can be an awesome way to treat yourself and get rid of all that niggling tension before the festive season.

 

Get some ‘me’ time

 

Sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself is to truly be alone. There aren’t a lot of times in life where you’ll be able to be on your own completely and just enjoy the silence, but we all need this now and again. To make your life a little bit less stressful think about kicking everyone out of the house for an hour or two and just breathe. Enjoy being in your own company and it can really be a treat in itself.

 

Try a new hobby

 

We all need a hobby outside of our work and Home life, and it is a question of what hobby we choose whether we have that release from the rest of our life for a little while. Think for example of trying something totally new. Maybe you’ve always wanted to try yoga… go and book a class! Taking yourself to do something fun and new can be a great gift to yourself and it can help you to find out new things about yourself.

 

Have a shopping spree

 

Retail therapy is something you’ll likely need after buying gifts for everyone in your family, and there’s nothing wrong with buying yourself a gift or two also mug the way during your shopping trips! But let’s take a day out of your diary and spend it shopping in your local city centre. Buy some festive food from the market, walk around and enjoy the sun and just bit whatever you want. We don’t treat ourselves often enough.

 

Treat your body

If you have any insecurities which are making you feel a little bit down, a good idea could actually be to treat them or change them and make yourself feel more confident. For example you could use medical aesthetics to give yourself a little lift or a tuck, you could cut your hair and colour it, or you can simply change your fashion style. Have fun and do something truly for you.

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5 Things You Should Never Borrow Money For

5 Things You Should Never Borrow Money For

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There are times when borrowing money is a wise decision. Most people wouldn’t be able to go to university or buy property without a loan. Meanwhile, when it comes to emergencies such as pet treatment or fixing plumbing leaks, loans can also be an option for those that wouldn’t otherwise have the funds.

 

Unfortunately, there are also many times when borrowing money isn’t so wise. Here are just a few examples of things you should never get into debt for.

 

Clothes shopping

 

Personal treats such as clothes aren’t worth getting into debt for – and yet many people are all too willing to go on a shopping spree the moment they get a credit card. As soon as you start having to pay back your debts, you’ll immediately regret spending money on these clothes. Only buy personal treats with your own money so that you feel as if you’ve earnt them.

 

Going on holiday

 

Holidays can cost some families hundreds if not thousands. Few people have this money stashed away, which may make it seem like a suitable time to borrow money. However, a holiday is still a treat and you could similarly regret it afterwards once you start paying back the debt rather than looking back on it fondly. Always try to save up money for holidays rather than paying for them with a loan – look into the best online banks to find the highest interest rates and you may be able to save up more quickly. The only time you may want to borrow money for a holiday is if an emergency comes up and you’ve already paid your deposit and would have otherwise been able to afford it.

 

Funding a gambling habit

 

You should never gamble with borrowed money. If you lose, you’ll have got yourself into debt for no reason at all. Borrowing to fund a gambling habit could be a sign that you can no longer gamble responsibly and that should probably quit gambling altogether. Borrowed money should similarly never be used to fund other bad habits such as smoking, drinking or buying drugs.

 

Taking out a loan for someone else

 

If somebody else asks you to take out a loan for them, it’s probably because their credit score is so low that they can’t get accepted for a loan themselves. A poor credit score is usually the result of not being able to make payments on time – whilst this person may promise to pay back the debt, there’s no guarantee that they will keep to this if they’ve previously struggled with making payments on time. Don’t let other people drag you into debt and potentially ruin your credit score too.

 

Paying off debts with more debts

Taking out a loan to pay off existing debts can be done strategically – you may be able to consolidate lots of small debts with one big loan or you may be able to refinance a debt so that you pay lower interest. However, most people simply aren’t savvy enough to do this and so instead end up getting into a vicious cycle of paying off debts with debts and then trying to pay these debts off with more debts until eventually the overall amount due is huge. You’re best only paying off debts with loans under the guidance of a debt advisor.

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3 Reasons To Have Counselling Before You Get Married

3 Reasons To Have Counselling Before You Get Married

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Seeing a counsellor before you get married may sound bizarre. Surely if you need to see a counsellor, you shouldn’t be getting wed? After all, counselling is only for couples with problems, right? Actually, you would be surprised by how many people have premarital counselling, and experience many benefits from it. Read on to discover why this is something you should consider:

Prevent divorce – Quite simply, by investing in counselling before you get married, you can reduce the chance of divorce in the future. In fact, it is predicted that counselling lowers the risk of you needing to contact divorce attorneys by roughly 20 per cent. You are more likely to have a happier relationship from the offset, as you will identify your desires, needs, beliefs, values, and fears, and you will learn how to communicate them to your partner. This means you will be able to deal with them in the best manner for your relationship, as you will be prepared.

Effective communication – There is no denying that effective communication is the key to any marriage. A marriage will eventually fall apart when a couple stops talking to one and other and stops caring. An expert counsellor will teach you how to listen and understand the wants and needs of the other person. Keeping an open line of communication and expressing your love and appreciation for the other person is important, yet it is very easy to take someone for granted when you live with them every day.

Face issues – Last but not least, not all couples enter a wedding in sheer bliss. Life doesn’t always work this way, and there may already be some problems you are facing, for example, religious differences. A counsellor may help you if your parents are interfering or if you have differences over what religion to raise your future children. Perhaps you have money issues? Learning about your spouse’s spending habits is imperative before you get married. There are many different issues that couples face, and something may seem like a small matter now, but it could easily turn into a major problem later down the line. This is why it is better to see a counsellor sooner rather than later. Don’t feel embarrassed; a therapist sees several people every day, all with their unique issues, and he or she will be completely objective and empathetic.

 

As you can see, there are a number of benefits to be gained by deciding to see a counsellor prior to getting married. After all, seeing a counsellor is not something you should do when your world is falling apart. Counsellors can help you to enrich your life and prevent any potential problems further down the line.

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