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Couples Therapy: Choosing to Live Together

Couples Therapy: Choosing to Live Together


There once was a time when young girls and boys made dreams and plans on whom they were going to marry. However, it seems like times have changed, and 20-somethings aren’t running down the alter as fast as their parents did.

Millennials Saying ‘I Don’t’

Today with the divorce ratio so high, studies show those that the now young adults are choosing to live together instead of making their commitment legal. In fact, these same studies are showing couples maintaining a more loving relationship with higher prospects of longevity.

Commitment Without ‘I Do’


Many couples start out ‘talking’. If they really feel a connection, they become ‘exclusive’. But then what, what’s next? For starters, it seems like the true commitment nowadays starts at the point of exclusivity. Choosing to be in a healthy, monogamous relationship is a start in the right direction. However, older generations might not understand the choice of living out of wedlock. They might even think the way Millennials handle being committed to one another is simply a strong mindset to no longer swipe left or right on a dating app. But let’s be honest, it’s so much more than that…

Choosing Who to be Exclusive With

It’s always been important throughout the ages to choose the right partner in life. But today, I think couples aren’t afraid to wait for the right person. Not many women in today’s world fear being an classified as an ‘old maid’. Thanks to Destiny’s Child, woman celebrate their financial independence. Men also have no shame in waiting. Couples dig deeper, looking to one another in how this relationship makes sense on all-levels, not solely based on the feeling of being head-over-heels in love.

Time for You to Move In

Establishing some boundaries in the beginning of living together is important because as time goes on, in any relationship, married or not, boundaries form as well as breakdown. When you have an idea of what one another expects or needs, it’s not a total shock when you find out how your partner really lives 24/7.

Fighting like Your Married


Just because you didn’t cut a cake together doesn’t mean you won’t have rough times. Relationships are meant to have growing pains. Just because a couple isn’t married, doesn’t mean you’re allowed to be self-serving all the time. A relationship is about devotion. Make time for one another, plan dates, divvy up the chores, and give each other safe spaces. These are the things that keep a relationship strong without building resentment. And now I should mention, just because you’re not married doesn’t give you a free pass to cut and run when times get hard. Because guess what, times may get hard. It’s part of life whether you’re single, in a relationship or married. Couples therapy has become very mainstream. Speaking to a counselor, instead of your closest friends could be more beneficial in your relationship.

Marriage Isn’t Off the Table

Just because you choose to not get married today doesn’t mean it never can happen. Plenty of long-term couples start families, and then decide to tie the knot down the line. It is true that it’s easier to ‘Do’ than un-do a marriage. But as long as you and your partner are on the same page about making a vow of commitment without the legal paperwork, building a happy life together, with or without children, is absolutely possible. Remember, fairytales are what you make of them.

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7 Tips For Surviving Single Life As A Newbie

7 Tips For Surviving Single Life As A Newbie

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Now, before we get really into this post, let’s just start with a huge disclaimer. Single life definitely doesn’t have to be something that you survive. Single life can be something that you choose. And for many of us, it is. When you go through a breakup, it can be traumatic. And it can be incredibly hard to adjust to life without your significant other. But sometimes, that’s the choice we make. When the relationship is bad, you’re unhappy, or worse – you know that sometimes, you have to be single to be happier. But that doesn’t make that awful feeling any better. And then, you’re faced with life as a singleton and the idea of dating. And that can sometimes be terrifying. So, it’s handy to work out have to navigate this part of your newly single lifestyle.

 

Whether you chose to be single – or not, whether you’re happy to be single – or not, you’ll often want to adjust to this new style of life in any way that you can. And it helps to be able to do this with a few tips to get you started out. Because the person that you once shared your days and your life with, is no longer by your side. And that can be a scary thing to adjust too. But it’s definitely not impossible, and it can actually be fun. So let’s take a look at the tips to help you.

 

  1. Get To Know Yourself

 

One of the best and most beautiful things that you can do here, is to get to know yourself a little better. Yes, you’re single, but it can be a great thing. You’re on your own, and you only have yourself to think about now. And it’s refreshing. So really make the most of that and work out what it is that you really want out of life.

 

  1. Enjoy Being Alone

 

As a step on from that, you’re going to want to get used to being alone, and actually enjoy it. You will realize that you don’t need to be in a relationship to feel fulfilled. In fact, when you can enjoy being alone, and do things that make you happy, then you’re going to become so much stronger. And this will then put you in a better position when you do want to meet someone else.

 

  1. Talk If You Want To

 

So the next thing is, that you need to know that it’s okay to talk about the breakup or how sad you’re feeling. You don’t just have to be this super strong woman that feels great on her own and is better off. Instead, if you are feeling effected, then talk about it. Talk to your friends or family or even a specialist if it’s going to help you move forward.

 

  1. Be Okay With Moving On

 

Okay, and then you’re going to want to make sure that you know that it’s perfectly okay to move on. You don’t have to stay single for a set period of time, or you don’t have to worry about it not working out. Instead, embrace the idea of meeting someone new and being happy in a relationship again.

 

  1. Discover New Ways To Date

 

Then, when it comes to the idea of dating again, why not consider new ways to do it? Don’t just hope you’ll have your romantic moment. Instead, consider options like dating apps, lesbian chat, or going on blind dates. And be open-minded about how you can meet someone that makes you happy.

 

  1. Know What You Want

 

But one thing that is incredibly important for you when you are looking to move on, is knowing what you want in a relationship. That way, you won’t get caught up in another situation that will hurt you, and you’re going to be happier when you do meet someone.

 

  1. Put Yourself First

 

So, one of the most important things that you have to do here, is to make sure that you’re putting yourself first. Because when you were in a relationship, you may notice that you were always thinking about your significant other, and putting them first. And that’s definitely something that’s natural. But now it’s just you – and you’re well within your rights to now put your own needs first, and focus on what you want. And keep that up, even when you meet someone else. This is the best way to make sure that you continue to say happy, whether you’re single or you meet someone new.

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