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15 Secrets to Make a Marriage Work

15 Secrets to Make a Marriage Work

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Challenges are normal in marriages. As they say, love is not enough to make a marriage successful. Both partners have to do their best to make sure that the marriage will work. Otherwise, the entire family suffers. These are fifteen secrets that real-life couples attest to being pivotal to the success of their marriages:

  1. Listen to your partner

Listening to each other may seem easy but you would be surprised how many couples struggle with this. Both partners should realize that hearing and listening are two vastly different things. To be a good listener, you should open your mind and heart to what your partner is saying. This way, you can understand their perspective.

  1. Accept your partner

One of the most common reasons for breakups between married couples is lack of acceptance. Both men and women have this tendency to try to change their partners to what they think they should be. If they have to, however, they have to make that journey on their own. Focus on the positive traits and features of your partner so you will be less stressed.

  1. Be responsible

Both partners must be responsible as individuals and as a team. When you set out to do something as a couple, you must remember to take responsibility whether it will be successful or not. You also have to accept that part of it may be on you.

Another aspect of marriage that being responsible would be helpful in is during arguments. If someone said something that was uncalled for, the other party must take responsibility by apologizing.

Be equally responsible in parenting as well. Both should try and spend as much time with the kids as possible. With some free time, both can help the kids do their homework. In case you both are too busy to help with homework of your kids, at least have them home tuition for the subjects they find difficult.

  1. Go on date nights

Date nights are essential to a marriage as they keep the fire burning. You do not have to go to a fancy restaurant or a luxury hotel. There are many things you can do depending on what you have in mind. Even just one night on a camping beach is already a romantic gesture. Make sure that your phones are off so that you can concentrate on each other.

  1. Be intimate

Therapists always say that sex is important if you are to keep your marriage healthy. According to some researchers and therapists, sex should be done on a regular basis. Sex should also be interesting so it would be best to sit down and talk about experimenting. Keep it exciting but safe in the bedroom.

  1. Spot “soft” emotions

The concept of a “soft” emotion may be foreign to you but it is incredibly helpful in ensuring that partners empathize with each other. For example, when you feel anger, you are most likely masking another emotion. Usually, these emotions are your vulnerabilities. You could be jealous, insecure or disappointed. Partners should be able to look for the soft emotion that may be just bubbling beneath the surface.

  1. Stop being controlling

Being controlling is never good in a marriage. Control may be how a partner wants to keep the other to fit in to what they expect of them. When one partner starts becoming controlling, the other may start resenting that. This is why talking with each other about such issues is a good thing. If settling between each other is no longer working, it is best to go to a marriage counselor.

  1. Avoid ever using the D-word

No matter what stage you are in your marriage, you should never use the D-word. Couples have been known to use divorce as a threat to each other. This can be used as a control mechanism that may be bound to fail as most of those who do it end up filing divorce papers. Not only is it immature, it also does not solve the problem the couple is facing.

  1. Be realistic about your expectations

The moment you get married, you should start letting go of the fantasy. Fairy tale endings do not happen in real life marriages. You need to be realistic about what you expect of your partner and your relationship. Accept that sometimes, being “okay” is more than enough. Otherwise, you will just end up being disappointed. This could lead to resentment, which you do not want in a marriage.

  1. Never take each other for granted

Never be complacent in a marriage. Always strive to be the best partner you can be. This way, your partner will see that you value them. They can return the favor too. Sure, it may be human nature to be comfortable with what is familiar to you but when you are in a committed relationship, try to resist any urge to be complacent.

  1. Agree to disagree

You may be married now but you are still individuals. You are never going to agree on every single thing. These disagreements could be on something as small as your choice in tea or something big like your political affiliation. Part of why a lot of marriages succeed is when both partners have the ability to meet halfway and compromise. No one has to be right every time.

  1. Be independent

One of the keys to a happy marriage is maintaining your independence. The husband and the wife must be able to enjoy their own personal space and hobbies. Part of this is sometimes getting the time to be apart. This way, you can ensure that you are happy, which could lead to a happy marriage. After all, a marriage works only when both partners have a sense of fulfillment in their lives.

  1. Be romantic

Never take romantic acts for granted. This can help keep the fire alive in the marriage. Send them flowers. Place a love note. Give them a ring. All ideas are valid just as long as the other partner ends up happy.

  1. Tell each other compliments

Compliments make a person feel good. Acknowledge the positive traits that your partner may have.

  1. Learn to communicate

To say that communication is important in a marriage is an understatement. The couple must be able to talk to each other about their feelings and issues freely. Partners should also look out for non-verbal cues. Read about love languages, which is how a person communicates their love. This could be in the form of acts of service or words of affirmation.

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Reconnect And Recover Your Relationship

Reconnect And Recover Your Relationship

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Do you feel like your relationship has taken a turn for the worst? Do you feel like you simply don’t connect as much anymore? There often comes a stage whereby couples feel distant and like their powerful connection has fizzled out. While this is cause for concern, it does not mean that your relationship is coming to an end. It simply means that you need to look for ways to reconnect with one and other. Read on to discover some suggestions.

Have a daily check-in ritual – The first thing you should do to boost your relationship is institute a daily check-in. This is something that a lot of marriage experts advise. When you both get in from work, make an effort to start off by appreciating something about the other person. You should then offer some new information about your day, and ask them something about themselves too to keep the conversation flowing. You can then end the conversation with a hope. This could be big, such as retiring within the next ten years, or it could be small, such as seeing a movie this week. Simply talking more can have a much bigger impact than you may expect.

Take up yoga – A great way to reconnect with your partner is to do yoga. There are yoga poses for couples specifically, which help you to connect in mind, body, and soul. You may even want to consider one of the yoga retreats that are available, allowing you to explore one of the most magical parts of the world. Is there any better way to reconnect than this? Yoga can help your relationship in many ways. Not only will it bring you closer together, but also it reduces stress and anxiety, increases trust and communication, improves intimacy, and increases overall relationship satisfaction too.

Create a couple’s ritual – If yoga is not something that appeals to you, then you need to find something else that can be your couple’s ritual. This can be anything that is going to bond you. For example, you could decide to make every Saturday night a date night. Other options include having a morning coffee together every day or making sure you have ten minutes to chat to one and other before bed. It has to be something that you will both enjoy and something that you will stick to. A date night every Saturday may be difficult for some couples, so don’t agree to this if you know someone is going to let the arrangement down, as that will only make matters worse.

Try the suggestions that have been mentioned above and see whether this helps you to rebuild your relationship and connect with your partner on a deeper level again. You may be surprised by just how much of a difference this makes. From yoga to simply chatting more, these are not changes that are difficult to implement, so why not get started today?

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Get the Guy: How to Get a Man to Like You

By Guest Blogger, Diana S.

Get the Guy: How to Get a Man to Like You

 

Ugh, men are capricious beings and it can be hard and frustrating to get their attention and keep it. We all at one time longingly looked at a guy knowing that he doesn’t even know who we are, and even more often, grabbed someone’s attention just to see him lose interest. So, if you suffer from the same problem, here’s a little guide that will help you get and keep the man of your dreams.

Catch his eye

There’s a belief that men don’t care about what women wear, but the truth is that they do notice some positive changes. So, next time you think you’re going to see your hunk, try to dress up a bit. He will certainly notice and even maybe compliment your appearance. Of course, that doesn’t mean you have to wear a gown to work or a little black dress to your casual stroll. Simply putting on some makeup, wearing your hair up or putting some effort into your outfit can attract his attention.

Put on your best smile

It might sound overly simple, but sometimes, all you need to do to get the guy interested is smile. Smiling is a bit contagious, so he will automatically get happier when greeted with your radiant smile. Additionally, smiling makes your face brighter and you’ll seem a lot more approachable. Laugh gently when you’re with him or send a subtle smile his way every once in a while. He’ll definitely become friendlier towards you. Just don’t overdo it with grinning, otherwise you might seem creepy.

Don’t hesitate to flirt

Men usually enjoy a casual touch of a woman, so don’t hesitate to engage in a little physical flirting by touching his hand, arm or shoulder. It’s a great way to state that you want to get physical with him and to attract his attention. A light touch can flip a switch in his head and make him take a second look at you or rekindle old feelings.

Blow his mind with your date game

Once you manage to get him on a date, don’t hesitate to take over a traditionally man’s job and make plans for you. Yes, going out to a restaurant is never a bad move, but there are so many great date ideas that will stay in his memory forever. Engaging in an activity that is not a huge cliché will definitely make him curious about other cool ideas you have.

Change your perfume

People are very sensitive to smells, especially the changes in smell, so if you want to get him to notice you, try changing your perfume. A new scent or a perfume worn in unexpected situations might get him interested and even earn you a nice compliment.

Compliments never harmed anyone

Literally everyone loves compliments, so don’t hesitate to praise him from time to time. Guys don’t really feel comfortable hearing compliments from other men, but when a girl does it, it will certainly make them happy and proud. Just make sure to be genuine and moderate. Insincere compliments or too many of them can make you seem shallow and fake, and you might make him uncomfortable.

Take the lead

Sometimes, men are not the best at taking hints, so don’t hesitate to take the lead and make the first move. Go and make an introduction, start a conversation or buy him a drink. Guys that are shy will love you for it, plus being bold can be so sexy!

Here you have it, the basics of catching a guy’s eye. Just remember to be yourself—if he falls for the real you, you have the potential of having a happy and healthy relationship!

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Four Ways To Fire Up Your Love Life

Four Ways To Fire Up Your Love Life

Whether you’ve been in a marriage for a long time and want to give your love life a boost, or you simply want to revamp the way that you’ve always done things, your libido needs a bit of help. With work being so busy, raising a family and having an actual social life, there’s always an excuse not to reconnect with a lover behind bedroom doors. There are so many things that you can do to boost your libido so that you can get your sex life back on the right tracks that it’s always been on.

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Exhaustion, stress and a lack of time can really affect the sex life of a couple, but sex is such an important way to connect on a level that is more than friends and more than just partners. It’s a mind, body and soul connection and when you’re too tired, it’s like someone has hung up the phone and the line is broken. Getting that line back up takes time and a loss of sex drive is only a problem if you believe that it is. Don’t panic though; there are plenty of things that you can do to boost it back up and get those bedroom fires burning again.

Sleep. This may seem like a counterproductive way to get your sex life back but burning the candle at both ends can really take a toll on your sex life. Testosterone has a big role in the male libido and a lack of sleep can reduce the levels of testosterone in you. Extracts like Tongkat Ali can help you to get your testosterone levels back up again. Try not to sleep less than 5 hours a night, regardless, as this is not healthy!

Eat. Everyone knows the sensuality in bringing food into the bedroom, but did you know that there are certain foods that are an aphrodisiac? Figs, bananas, chocolate and avocados are such aphrodisiacs, as are oysters and wine. These all provide the right minerals and vitamins for your health.

Confidence. Sometimes, confidence – or lack of it – is a big passion killer. If you don’t have confidence within yourself, you won’t feel in the mood and you can doubt your own attraction. No one can tell you how you can get rid of the low self-esteem, but you can shift the focus from your own worries to the things that you like about yourself and blow those up in your mind.

Sobriety. A big reason for a flop in the bedroom is too much alcohol or the overuse of drugs. By going sober, you can remove the toxins and chemicals from your system and be the au natural being that you want to be!

Getting the fire back in the bedroom is going to take some time, but if you take a moment to work out what is going wrong and communicate with your partner, you can move forward and slide back into that healthy sex routine you’ve always enjoyed.

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How to Get Out There and Meet New People

How to Get Out There and Meet New People

If you want to get out there and meet new people then there are certainly ways that you can go about doing this. A lot of people think that the only way to meet new and interesting people is to go out to pubs and clubs, but this is not the case at all. In fact, you can even meet new people without having to leave the house and this is ideal if you don’t have a lot of time on your hands.

 

Sports or Activities

 

Hiking is a brilliant way for you to get out there. When you join a hiking club or anything else of the sort, you can easily go and hike with others and it’s a great way for you to chat when on your travels. The best thing about this is that there won’t be any awkward silences because when you’re hiking, you’re always doing something. If hiking isn’t your thing then consider joining a softball team or even a tennis league. This will help you to stay active and it will also help you to really benefit from having the support of those around you.

 

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Book Clubs

 

If you love to read then why not consider starting up a book club? This will allow you to meet new people who have the same interests as you and it is also a great way for you to really find out what other people think of the material that you are reading. If you join a book club and you are unable to connect with anybody there then don’t worry. It may take you some time to be able to connect with other people, but it may even be worth you trying out a different one as well.

 

Chat Lines

 

If you want to talk with people over the internet then chat lines are a great way for you to do this. To get started, sign up with sites such as chatlines.com to see what options there are available and to even find out who is available to chat with you after work or even at the weekend. You don’t even have to leave the house!

 

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Volunteer

 

Volunteering remains to be one of the best ways for you to meet people who are not selfish and who are keen on the idea of helping others. If you have never volunteered before or if the process is completely new to you then you will need to look into each organization before you get started and the main reason for this is because you want to make sure that you are passionate about what they do before you dive right in. There is no use in you joining something that you don’t actually care about and there is also no use in you trying to meet people there either, because your interests won’t align and this will make it much harder for you to be able to chat with others about the cause, which is a great conversation point.

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Looking for Love? How To Get Back In The Great Relationship Game

Looking for Love? How To Get Back In The Great Relationship Game

If we’ve been through a series of less than stellar relationships, then we’re usually pretty inclined to take a break from the world of love, instead preferring to focus on ourselves for a while. But there’ll come a time when we’re ready to give our hearts another chance of making a connection with others, and decide to get back in the great relationship game. Below, we take a look at a few ways you can ease yourself back into romance – and make sure that next time is better the previous times.

 

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Let Go Of the Past

 

You’re out there looking for love, but before you can ask anything of anyone else, you need to take a look at yourself. Specifically, any of the hangups you have about the past. If you’ve been hurt, then this will mean accepting what’s happened and vowing not to let your heart become cynical. If you didn’t like the person you became in your last relationship, then focus on what made you that way – it’s tempting always to blame the other person in a relationship, but very often we can learn how to better ourselves when things go awry.

 

Identify What You’re Looking For

 

Desperation is the enemy of love. It can cloud your judgement; instead of looking for the right person, you’re looking any person, right now. While this technique will surely land you with someone, it’ll only be a matter of time before things are beginning to go south. Before you commit too much time to finding a new partner, make a note of the qualities, interests, and temperament you’re looking for in a person – and don’t settle until you’ve found them.

 

Get in the Mix

 

If you’re a naturally shy person, then it can be a little uncomfortable to throw yourself into the dating world, but it’s an essential part of the process. You need to put yourself out there and be willing to take chances when you feel there’s something worth pursuing. Get involved with the social scene, and say yes to new opportunities. Love very rarely comes knocking on the door; you have to put yourself in a position where it’s able to find you.

 

Looking Online

 

Dating has come a long way over the years. You don’t just have to rely on colleagues or friends of friends to find love; you have the whole digital world on your side to help you. If you’re ready to dive into the exciting world of online dating, then find out more, and begin your journey towards love. Surveys have shown that more people are finding their spouses online than anywhere else, so it’s worth giving it a shot!

 

Play the Numbers Game

 

You might be ready for love again, but that doesn’t mean that love is going to find you immediately. Finding the right partner requires patience, and you might have to sift through a few false starts before you find the person that’s right for you. Play the numbers game, go on as many dates as you can, and it’ll come in the end.

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How to Create Lasting Fulfillment in Life, Love, and Intimacy

By Guest Blogger, Ashley L.,

How to Create Lasting Fulfillment in Life, Love, and Intimacy

Everyone dreams of having their own happily ever after. No matter how long you’ve been with your partner, you still probably imagine a long, happy life together. While the movies make it sound easy to live a fulfilling life with your partner, it’s actually not as picture-perfect as it seems. It takes hard work to build a life of joy and intimacy. Here are tips for creating lasting fulfillment in life, love, and intimacy.

 

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Celebrate Your Love

It’s easy to celebrate your love when you’re a bride and groom. After the newlywed phase of your relationship fades away, it’s hard to remember to take the time to celebrate your love in the way it should be celebrated. There are a lot of easy ways to celebrate your love regularly. Make your love a priority in both of your lives, and treat yourselves to one-on-one time regularly. You can go on a weekly date night, plan a weekend getaway, or try something new together. These moments together will help you remember why you were so attracted to your partner in the first place.

Add the Spice

After a few months (or years) together, you start to fall into the same routine. Adding the spice in your relationship takes more work than simply connecting with your partner. Sometimes you need the most spice in the bedroom to keep things exciting. Explore new sexual outlets or try different lingerie by 3 Wishes to see if you excite something new in your partner! Don’t let the spice in your relationship suffer! Make it a priority to invigorate each other’s lives often with new ideas!

 

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Communicate Freely

One of the biggest reasons couples break up is because a failure to communicate clearly. Different people use different love languages to express their devotion to a partner. If you and your partner use different love language, you can easily run into communications and not feel understood. Take this quiz to learn about what love language you and your partner use so you can be more aware of the different ways you communicate.

Connect Daily

Building a fulfilling life isn’t something that happens overnight. It takes daily effort to maintain. That’s why you and your partner should be committed to connecting daily. This doesn’t have to be anything big, but take the time to talk to each other every day whether it’s in person or over the phone. Don’t forget to connect with yourself to check how you’re feeling on a daily basis. How you’re feeling about yourself often affects how you feel with your partner, so be mindful of your own reactions and feelings.

 

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Make Every Day Count

When it comes to leading a fulfilling life of love and intimacy with your partner, you need to be willing to make every day count. These things above take time to work on, and you’ll need to remember your feelings about your partner will naturally change over the course of your relationship. Be willing to communicate with your partner about your feelings, and never stop exploring new things together. If you both commit to working hard on your relationship and living in the moment, you’ll find your best happiness.

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Dealing With a Breakup: Five Different Ways to Cope

Dealing With a Breakup: Five Different Ways to Cope

Breakups are rarely ever a happy thing. Unless they happen mutually and you both become great friends afterwards (it’s more common than you think!), you’re probably going to go through a tough time of feeling hopeless, useless and generally depressed. However, there are plenty of different ways to get over a breakup and in this article, we’re going to be explaining five different methods to cope.

 

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  1. Find a creative outlet to express your emotions

 

Ever wonder why so many popular singers perform songs about breakups? Simple; because getting creative is a great outlet to express your emotions. Whether you write, sing, dance or paint, getting creative is a good distraction that can help you release some of your emotions.

 

  1. Find a way to get your ex back

 

Thanks to programs like Brad Browning’s book and just general advice that is all over the internet, more and more people are interested in getting their former lovers back. While it might seem like a terrible idea for some people, getting back with an ex-partner can actually have some great benefits. For instance, you’ll both learn what went wrong in a relationship, you’ll have time to mature and make things work again and it’s possible that you just need time apart. However, it’s good to remember that you could just be in the denial or bargaining stage of your grief, so give yourself some time before you consider this option.

 

  1. Find a new hobby to take your mind off it

 

Hobbies are a fantastic way to keep your mind off your breakup. Perhaps you could take up exercises like jogging or you could go to the gym as a way to get fit, or maybe you could learn a creative art and combine this tip with the first one. There are plenty of ways to take your mind off the breakup, and it all starts with finding a new hobby to distract yourself.

 

  1. Remind yourself there are more opportunities in life

 

It’s cliché to say it, but there are always other opportunities in the future. Whether it’s focusing on your career instead of splitting your time between a relationship and your commitments or finding a new partner that understands you better, there will always be other opportunities in life and the breakup you’re experiencing now doesn’t have to be something that lingers in your mind forever.

 

  1. Do things that you enjoy

 

It can be hard to get excited about something after a breakup. Things that you used to love such as hanging out with friends, cooking or even going for a walk can feel like a chore. Instead of feeling depressed all the time and sitting at home, remind yourself that there are plenty of things that can bring joy to your life. The hardest part is pulling yourself together and giving yourself the strength to get outside and continue living your life and doing the things you love.

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Cut Your Household Bills – Today!

Cut Your Household Bills – Today!

The saying “look after the pennies and the pounds (or dollars!) will look after themselves”, is never more true than when trying to cut the cost of monthly household bills. Little savings here and there will build up, to make a dramatic impact on your budget.

 

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When you actually take the time to check how much money you have going out of your account on a monthly basis, it can be quite a shock. Thankfully there are ways you can make savings and this article aims to highlight areas where big savings can be made. Your bank account will thank you for it and you will have more disposable cash.

 

Utility bills

Often it’s tempting to stay with the same supplier for years and years, as it’s too much hassle to swap – right? Actually it is really easy to change utility provider, as the process is completed for you by your new supplier. After all, it is still the same gas or electric, through the same pipes and cabling, just a different provider!

 

It is worth doing an electricity comparison or a gas comparison to see which providers offer the best deals. It maybe cheaper to go with a provider that supplies gas and electricity dually. It is unfortunate that providers don’t seem to reward loyalty, in fact your bills can rise steeply over time, so it’s best to swap utility providers frequently and do regular comparison searches.

Mobile phone

There is huge competition between mobile phone providers, all wanting the largest customer base. It is worth haggling with providers to reduce costs. Try to negotiate the cost of your tariff at renewal time, by quoting the prices other providers are offering. They may not agree to it straight away, so be prepared to negotiate over a few phone calls. Your current provider will want to keep you as a customer, so you should be able to get a good deal.

 

Look at the tariff you’re on and see if it’s still suitable for your usage. You could save a lot of money by going PAYG (pay as you go) once your contract has ended and keeping your old phone.

 

Reduce your food bill

Everyone loves the brands they use, which is a reflection of the clever advertising techniques that major brands adopt. However surveys and comparison research have shown that there is little difference between branded foods and the shops own. Occasionally it has been found that the food is exactly the same, made in the same factory, but with different packaging! Try switching to shops own products, menu plan and you will soon notice a huge difference in your shopping bill.

 

The place you shop can also be unnecessarily costing you money. If you like branded foods, one supermarket may charge more for exactly the same product, than the supermarket round the corner. Supermarkets brand themselves as premium or budget and price their products accordingly, even if the product is exactly the same. Change your shopping habits and save lots of money in the process.

 

There are many other ways of saving money, this is just a small snapshot. Just think of all the extra cash you will have left over to spend on leisure, new kitchen or to save for that dream holiday!

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