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How to Make Sex and Motherhood Align

How to Make Sex and Motherhood Align

They say everything changes once you have kids. But have you ever considered the changes to your love life? When you become a mom, your kids become a new and worthwhile sense of joy; they’re now your number one priority and captivate most of your time and energy. But that doesn’t mean your love life, especially physical intimacy, should need to take a back seat. Whether you’re a single mom getting back out on the dating scene, a first-timeparent to a newborn, or even a wife whose marriage has been lacking spark after raising kids, there are solutions to every mom’s differing sexual needs after kids.

Quit guilt-tripping yourself

In the same facet that moms shouldn’t feel guilty about not having sex, moms also shouldn’t be ashamed for desiring sex. After all, sex allows us to create a new life – it’s what made us moms. Not to mention the many proven benefits sex can have on our health and that it can be rewarding for relationships. Maintaining a healthy sex life does not make you a bad mom. It’s all about finding the balance between tending to your child(ren), while also making time to fulfill your own needs.

Don’t let body insecurities stop you

Women undergo many physical changes throughout and after pregnancy, like stretch marks, weight gain, loose skin, and even leaky breasts; all of which can take an emotional toll on our self-confidence making the thought of being intimate again unimaginable. However, you may be surprised by how quickly youfind yourself craving that physical connection again, and since women can ovulate as early as three weeks after childbirth, you’ll want to be prepared if you’re not ready for your family to grow again quite yet. If you’re hesitant to use birth control due to the worry of further weight gain, then fear no more. Most birth controls contain two hormones, a progestin and anestrogen. High levels of estrogen are associated with fluid retention (aka bloating and weight gain). But modern birth control pills nowcontain lower doses of estrogen and progestin, debunking the idea that birth control and weight gain are one and the same, so choosing the best birth control for you is that much easier.

Be creative and flexible

Another reason sex doesn’t always transpire after children is the concept that parenting is a 24/7 job. But like any other job, we all deserve a break at some point. A comfortable way to transition back into having a sex life is to plan a night alone with your partner by dropping the kids off at grandma or grandpa’s house for a night. Your mind can relax knowing that your little ones are in the trusted hands of a loved one. If you don’t have the luxury of a relative or babysitter, don’t give into the notion that you can’t ‘get it on’ just because the kids are home. Forgo your former expectations of sex and fit it in around your time. Have some ‘sexy time’ after the kids goto bed or before they wake up. Make use of nap times or even hop in the shower together for a steamy, intimate moment alone. Just make sure to lock the door!

Becoming a mom means learning new ways to adapt to everything you once did before children, including sex. Women may not have the same sex life they did before kids, but it’s possible that sex after children can be even better as it can teach women to love their natural body, and allow for more opportunities for spontaneity and rekindling romance.

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Baby Bump: How To Make Your Pregnancy More Comfortable

Baby Bump: How To Make Your Pregnancy More Comfortable

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For all of the magic that comes with being a mum-to-be, the glow, the excitement, the nursery preparations and the beginning of an entirely new life, being pregnant was never going to be the most uncomfortable of experiences. You have a little human slowly getting bigger and bigger inside your belly. It’s hardly nine months in a spa, for you that is; it is for your little one. Just trying to get comfortable on your sofa can be a challenge more complex than the Davinci Code.

Being pregnant just comes with a whole new set of aches, pains, cramps and all round discomforts that you have never experienced. Places that have never been sore before suddenly become sore simply because you walked across the kitchen. It’s crazy.

Don’t despair, though. We have done a little bit of researching and a little bit of chit chatting with other moms, and here are their top tips on staying comfy (or at least as comfy as possible) during your pregnancy.

The Blessed Body Pillow

So many mums-to-be don’t allow themselves the privilege of a full body pillow because they can’t justify spending that money. Yeah, they are expensive but, honey, you are pregnant. There is nothing out there that you don’t deserve. You’re creating life, that means you deserve every luxury going, and the body pillow tops this list according to our mom research. Back pains, aching hips, pressure on your ribcage; no wonder you can’t get comfy in the day or sleep well at night. That’s where a body pillow will totally rock your world. Ribs, bump and hips all get that extra bit of “ooooh, yes” feeling. If you don’t know which body pillow to get, read some reviews, speak to friends, and then go with the Snoogle Pillow that you can find here https://leachco.com/products/snoogle. It’s the most popular one as far as we can tell. And yes, yes you do deserve it.

The Constant Heartburn

You’ll start to notice pretty early on (we’re talking the first trimester) that heartburn and indigestion are going to be with you for the long hall, and maybe even the dreaded nasal drip too (especially later on in your baby-brewing). To cap the nasal drip on its head because it is the easiest to do so, we recommend you check out this link https://homeremedyshop.com/post-nasal-drip/ which tells you all sorts of ways you can cure it naturally – ginger, baking soda, steam etc. For heartburn and indigestion, the bane of any mom’s to be pregnancy, the mom’s we spoke to swore by papaya enzyme. They would take the moment they finished the last mouthful of every meal. Other ways we have heard of helping yourself include Aloe Vera, warm milk, and almonds.

The Stretch Marks

This is always a worry for moms. Wanting your pre-baby body back is only natural, and it in due course you can get it back. But don’t forget that you are creating a miracle, your body is working miracles, and that is something to love. Your post-miracle body is something to be proud of. Of course, the best thing for stretch marks is no other than our good friend coconut oil. It is just the best. It is so good for blemishes and eczema and, yes, stretch marks too. Just get a little bit in your palms and rub them over your belly before bed each night and then sleep (on your body pillow) while the magic happens. Voila. Stretch marks kept at bay.

The Urge To Snack

Chances are, even before you got pregnant the idea of going more than ninety minutes without a little food top-up didn’t sit well with you. We just love food too much and we don’t care who knows it. When you’re pregnant, though, especially in the first trimester, going ninety minutes without something can make you feel really sick, which is why you should always have a supply of snacks on hand. Whatever takes your fancy, add them to your stash. Put some in your handbag, in your car’s glove compartment, by your bed, in the living room (so that you don’t have to waddle to the kitchen), everywhere and anywhere you can think of. Sure, you may be telling yourself that you can go the three hours between breakfast and lunch, and maybe you can, by why run the risk of feeling sick. Not only that, but it will really help your indigestion and heartburn if you eat small amounts regularly.

The Exercise

Marathons may well be out of the equation (phew!), but some sort of light exercise is going to go a huge way when it comes to making you feel that much more comfortable. You may be thinking that we are crazy for saying this, but we’re not. When you’re pregnant, your muscles and ligaments are going to feel like they are getting tighter and tighter the further along in your pregnancy you get. That’s why it is going to really help you to keep them feeling loose, not just for day to day living and comfort but for the delivery too. Don’t worry, exercise doesn’t have to be strenuous. Just a little walking once a day, even if it is around town with a touch of retail therapy to motivate you, or yoga or Pilates or something. It all helps hugely. Just make sure you listen to your body. Overdoing it can be easy to do, so take it as steady as possible.

The Chiropractor

The thing with pregnancy is, well, your body is changing; it is getting thrown out of alignment left right and center. Yeah, thank you very much new hormones and baby bump. Your center of gravity has shifted and that can cause a few aches and pains here and there, especially in your lower back and pelvis. That’s where getting on the chiropractor’s bed can really make a difference. They will be able to help ease some of that extra pain and alleviate those aches, which will help you through the delivery process by making you more comfortable. Comfortable is good.

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