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Loved-Up Couples Share Their Marriage Secrets

Loved-Up Couples Share Their Marriage Secrets

Marriage is something that requires “work” according to commentators. But what does a successful marriage look like from the people who have actually done it and make it work? What is it that they do to make it a success? How do they keep the flame alive?

It turns out that there are no big secrets. In fact, it’s all the common sense stuff you might expect. Here’s what to do.

They Spend Time Together

Family life can get pretty hectic, pretty fast. If you’re working from six in the morning until seven at night and then have to do things like make the dinner or take the kids to after school clubs, the idea of actually being able to spend time with your spouse seems far fetched. Even the weekends are taken up with activities that have nothing to do with enjoying your relationship with your partner. A trip to the hardware store to pick up a new shower rail is hardly most people’s idea of romance.

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Successful couples, like Christians Dennis ad Antoinette Erasmus of the Apostolic Faith Mission, say that the secret to their success is having “us” time. Every week they get out their calendars and jot down in their diaries when they expect to be free. They book a babysitter and do whatever they can to make sure that once per week they have some time to explore their relationship. They’ll do whatever activity they feel like doing, like going for a walk in the woods or finding a new restaurant.

They See The Good In Their Spouse

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Here’s another problem that people who have been married for a while will encounter: always seeing the bad in their spouse and not focusing on the good. With the cost of a divorce being so high, it’s worth focusing on the positives. Everybody has weaknesses, and there’s no such thing as the perfect person and so living with imperfections is a necessary part of life. Concentrating on the good qualities in the other person means that you avoid ruminating and wondering whether you’d be better off with somebody else.

They Don’t Bad Mouth Each Other

The reason bad-mouthing your spouse isn’t a good idea is because of two things. First, mouthing off to other people about the person who you chose to spend your life with makes you look crazy. After all, nobody forced you to get married. But the bigger problem is that is it is a sign that you haven’t been able to resolve an issue in the marriage itself. This can lead to a loss of trust and respect – something that is crucial if you want your marriage to be a success. Suffice to say, it’s better to confront your spouse if there’s a problem rather than getting into the habit of venting to your friends.

They Accept The Need For Sacrifice

As with all things in life, there are costs and benefits. Being married has its ups, but it also has its downs. Sometimes you’ll have to give up things you like to make it work.

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The Significance of STI Screening

By Guest Blogger, Union Quay Medical

The Significance of STI Screening

Sexually transmitted diseases (STIs) are frighteningly common in America, with one person out of every 208 in the country diagnosed with chlamydia alone. STIs can lead to complications such as infertility, swollen joints and possible inflammation of the heart, brain or spinal cord, and yet these can be relieved so easily through early screening. Sadly, many people don’t even realize that they could have contracted an STI through mere skin-on-skin contact, so the infection develops unbeknownst to them until it results in one or more of the medical complications stated above.

You may think that, because you haven’t had sex in a while (if ever), you couldn’t have an STI. However, they spread so readily that if you have even the slightest inkling that you could be infected, you should go for screening straight away. Indeed, everyone should avail of STI screening as soon as they can, because early detection gives you the best possible chance of finding an STI and eliminating it. If you go for screening and the test comes back negative, any worries over possibly being infected can disappear.

This infographic from Union Quay Medical in Cork, Ireland provides useful starter information on STI screening, such as the scenarios where screening is most vital, the periods of incubation and the screening process step-by-step. Consider for a moment that 20 million STIs are diagnosed in the U.S. every year. Don’t let one of them be yours; get yourself screened without delay.

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Put The Spark Back Into Your Marriage

Put The Spark Back Into Your Marriage

When couples first get together, the excitement is non-stop. Everything seems possible – and to be fair, it is. However, the so-called “honeymoon period” never lasts longer than a few months, and once it’s over the hard work of the relationship begins.

For many married couples, a time when their relationship was exciting was a distant memory. Those first few weeks which were so much fun slowly faded away and married life became the routine. At the start, everything felt so easy. Now high points (and low points) are few and far between.

The good news is that no law of physics says that your marriage has to remain dull. In fact, many couples successfully manage to put the spark back in their relationships. Here are some ideas to consider.

Revisit A Special Place

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Often the problem in relationships isn’t the relationship itself, it’s the context. When you’re living in a small house on a bland residential estate, life can feel a little boring. It’s unlikely, however, that a particular residential estate is where you and your spouse first got together. In fact, when you were dating, you probably went to all sorts of places, some of which hold special meaning for you to this day. Perhaps you could return to the spot where you first your spouse “I love you” and inject a bit of romance back into the relationship.

Plan A Weekend

One of the reasons married couples end up in divorce mediation is because they’ve stopped focusing on the future and improving their lot in life. A lack of focus on better things down the road can lead to feelings of stagnation and hopelessness. But there’s no reason why nothing fun can happen in your life, even if you’ve got kids. If the kids are going away on a school trip, book a couple of nights in a hotel somewhere exciting and have an adventure – just the two of you.

Wear Something Different

Believe it or not, what you wear can have a big impact on your relationship, even if you’re ten years in. Try putting on something bold and a little bit revealing and see whether this gets his attention or not.

Listen As Well As Talk

Talking is all well and good, but if there’s no listening to go with it, then it can be a massive waste of time and a missed opportunity. The reason so many marriages fail isn’t because people are just “bad.” It’s because they don’t effectively communicate about their needs and fail to express them in a way that is healthy and productive. This can lead to tension between partners and eventually cause arguments. Listen to what your spouse is actually saying and try to get to the bottom of the problem.

Play A Song

Was there a song that you used to sing and dance to when you were younger? Try playing it on your hi-fi (or your gramophone if you’re really old). It’ll immediately take you back to what life was like when you were younger.

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Tighten Up Vaginal Loosening

By Carvaka

Tighten Up Vaginal Loosening – Infographic

Loosening of the vagina is a concern for many women all over the world. It is something that many suffer with in silence as they are possibly too embarrassed to seek help or are of the belief that it’s an affliction that they have to accept. Fortunately acceptance isn’t the only option. There are in fact many ways that it can be helped, some not involving surgery or even a doctor’s visit. Issues like this can be upsetting for a woman (and of course for her partner). It is really important that women talk about this if it is causing them concern or discomfort as hiding or concealing it will not improve the situation. By not facing up to it and trying to find a solution, a woman’s self esteem can be badly damaged which of course can have a knock on impact on their daily lives.

This infographic from the guys over at Carvaka aims to explain the background to how some women have a loosened vagina; it examines the possible consequences of this issue; it highlights the ways that it can be treated and it also indicates some useful exercises which can also help matters. With any medical issue, it’s always best to seek your doctor’s assistance but certainly arming yourself with knowledge is important too so check it out below!

 

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Is He into Me ? Is He Not?

By Guest Blogger Cy Bryon

Is He into Me ? Is He Not?

“Ugggggggh Men, Lol,” said by anyone who’s dated a male.

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You’ve all had that moment where all you want to know, “Ok I think he’s into me, but ugggh I don’t know”, Ahhhhhhhhh! Help!!!!

Well, help has arrived.

Guys have many ways they handle relationships or should we today call them situation-ships.

If a guy is really into, and you really want to know the best way to tell, be unapologetically you.

tipsfromtia.com sexIf he’s interested, you never have to position yourself for attention. When a man is interested they begin to make time instead of excuses. They begin to plan and in those plans you steadily become more included and involved. A man who is interested will ask you about your day, and make an attempt to learn more about you with every conversation. He will show he listens by incorporating what he hears into his daily life so he can comfortably adapt his life to include you. He ask simple questions like, “What’s your favorite color or flower?” He will notice your menu selections at dinner like drink choices and foods so he can get an idea of your taste. If he’s interested you will quickly become his first text in the morning and last at night .

It’s almost like he makes you a part of his routine without you asking. If you’re thinking he’s into you, turn off the TV, radio and phones, and see if you can hold his attention by simply just your presence. A man who is really into you will undoubtedly show it and usually his eyes tell the story. If I leave you with anything here…, read his body language.

Remember “His eyes won’t sigh if his words are a lie.”  ?2❤ #CyBryon #Wordsmith #CandleLightCowboy ?

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In A Relationship Rut? Here’s What You Can Do!

In A Relationship Rut? Here’s What You Can Do!

Accepting that your relationship is over is never easy. The majority of people in the world subscribe to long-term, monogamous relationships, which is the norm set out for us by society. Therefore, when most of us get into relationships, especially as adults, there tends to be an unspoken rule regarding the longevity of the relationships. But, as much as a relationship might seem perfect at the time, it is possible for cracks to develop, and before we know it, we are heading for a separation. This can be incredibly distressing, especially if you thought you were going to be with that person forever. In this kind of scenario, many of us struggle to know what path to take, especially if we have never been through a breakup before. But before rushing into anything drastic, you may want to weigh up your options about what to do if you think your relationship is over.

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Evaluate it

All too often, people mistake ‘the spark fading’ for their relationship being over in its entirety. The truth is, for most couples, the honeymoon period does come to an end after a while, and that is when real life hits you. Breaking up with someone just because this honeymoon period has ended could be the start of a series of unhealthy relationships – after all, if you are constantly chasing the high of a new relationship, you will struggle to commit to someone on a long-term basis. See if there are some things you can do to re-ignite the spark in your relationship rather than just cutting it off. Going out on dates, talking openly about your feelings and putting an emphasis on intimacy are all things you can do to make you feel closer to your partner. If you still love them and trust them, it can definitely be worth putting in this effort.

Break it off entirely

If you have been feeling down about your relationship for some time – perhaps you and your partner fight a lot, and it is wearing you down – your best option may be just to cut it off completely. This can often be easier said than done. For example, if you are married you may need to lay out some kind of separation agreement, which means getting the courts involved. Even if you are not married to your partner, it can still take guts to leave, especially if you do still care about them. But dragging it out can only make things worse – if you need to go, do what’s best for you and leave when you can.

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Have a trial separation

This one can be risky, as some people see it as merely an excuse to cheat on their partner without getting into trouble. But a trial separation should be exactly that – spending some time without your partner, on your own, to think about things. If you are tempted to see other people during that time, it’s a sure fire sign that you are probably not meant to be together after all.

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Manscaping

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When someone thinks of Manscaping they typically think of shaving below the belt. While that is definitely a part of the process, manscaping has a lot to do with good hygiene, confidence, and putting your best foot forward.
You may already manscape and not even know it. Have you ever shaved your chest or back? That’s a form of manscaping and taking care of your appearance based on your body hair. Any trimming or removing of hair on a man’s body for cosmetic effect fits the definition.
Take a look at the infographic below to see some of the benefits a little manscaping could do for you. I’m sure there’s probably some you would not have thought of!

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Real Men Dating “Lesson 3”

Guest Blogger and Musician, Cy Bryon

“Lesson 3”
So often attractions are so commonly physical nowadays that getting to know someone has become a lost art. You think just because you’ve seen her with her clothes off, you think you’ve seen her naked.

Ok, so, tell me her dreams. Tell me what breaks her heart. Tell me what she’s passionate about, what makes her cry? Tell me about her childhood. Even better yet tell me one, just one memorable story in her life that doesn’t include you…….. I’ll wait ??????????????

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You need to look at her as if she is art.

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Learn her curves, her lines, where they begin and end. Discover her depth. Interpret her as her creator sculpted her. See her with imagination. She’s not just beautiful, she’s art and art makes you feel something .

Of course, she accepts your compliments on her face, her hair, her body, etc. graciously; and she is, indeed, beautiful. But not like just a girl in a magazine. She was beautiful for the way she thought, the way her eyes sparkled when she talked about something she loved, for her ability to make other people smile even though she was sad. She was beautiful because she fearlessly wore her scars with pride. She wasn’t beautiful for something as temporary as her looks.

You can compliment her over and over and she will smile when she hears it, for she has that beauty that eyes can’t deny. Just Remember, if she’s amazing she won’t be easy, if she’s easy she won’t be amazing. If she’s worth it you won’t give up and if you give up, you are not worthy. Yes, she is beautiful, yet strong enough to only be moved once you see her for the beauty that is her spirit.

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The Five Crucial Stages Of A Romantic Relationship, And How To Know You Are Ready For Them

The Five Crucial Stages Of A Romantic Relationship, And How To Know You Are Ready For Them

Romantic relationships are amazing and stressful. But wonderful, yet can be confusing. In fact, they can have you thinking that up is down and chasing around in circles. But romantic relationships don’t have to be so confusing. Especially if you use the guide below to work out which stage you are at, and whether you are ready to move on to the next one. Then you will be able to move forward with confidence and truly enjoy your life as part of a couple.

You are ready to date

How do you know when you are ready to date someone? Well, most people think it’s when they are lonely. But this isn’t actually the best reason to start a relationship. In fact, a lot of advice now, is that you have to learn who you are first. Before getting tied down with someone else.

This is because if you get into a relationship too early is easy to start to take on some of the other person’s personality before yours is fully formed. In fact, this can happen at any age if you haven’t first taken the time to get to know yourself and what you want out of life.

But what does getting to know yourself look like? Well, it can be anything from exploring the things that you are interested in. Such as art, literature, exercise or any other hobbies. Or it can involve traveling the world and have new experiences on you own. Which is not only tons of fun but will show you that you can cope when thing get tough, without being codependent on another person. Or if could be that you give yourself some time to pursue your career goals. So you can dedicate your focus and energy to that and having some fun, before you decide to settle down.

Most importantly getting to know yourself is about not letting being single define you, and learning to deal with emotions of aloneness is a constructive way. By doing this, you know that any relationship you do decide to get into will be for the right reason. That is that you have a true connection with that person, rather than the fact that you feel uncomfortable being on your own.

You are ready to ‘go steady.’

OK, so this isn’t the 1950’s! So maybe ‘going steady’ isn’t the best term to use. But you know what I mean! I mean dating someone exclusively, making a commitment to them as your significant other, and working towards bringing your lives together as a couple.

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But how can you tell that you are ready for this stage of your relationship? Well, despite the lovely notion of a whirlwind romance, for most folks it takes a little time to know if you want to invest your emotion in another person or not. Yes, it’s easy to mistake the first flushes of a relationship for something more lasting. But in reality it’s best to wait for a little and see how things work out in the longer term.

That is partly because it takes a while for you to really get to know the other person and what make them tick. As well as how this fits in with you and your goals in life.

Generally, you know that you are ready to go steady in a relationship if other potential suitors start to lose their appeal. Maybe you are thinking about the person all of the time? Or perhaps you have started imagining what your future together would look like? If this is the case, then it’s probably a good idea to have the exclusivity talk and make it official.

You are ready to move in

Now, back in the old days, it used to be that folks would date for a while and then get married. But that isn’t always the case now. For a lot of people, there is a stage in between where they cohabit or move in together.

But how do you know that you are ready for this momentous step? Well, if you are spending an inordinate amount of time looking at houses for rent online and in the paper, that might be your first clue. You are obviously thinking about how it would be to further integrate your lives.

Or it might be that you are sick and tired of living out of a suitcase. As you and your other half spend so much time together, one or other of you is always at the others place.

But moving in together is a big decision and shouldn’t just be based on convenience. You have to think about the longer term effect that it could have on you as a couple as well.

For instance, it can be a lot harder to break up if you live together. As you not only have to stop seeing that person, but you have to deal with the financial and material issues of splitting one household back into two.

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You are ready to get engaged

So some people might take this step without living together first, perhaps for religious reasons? While others will do this after they have lived together for a while. But how do you know that it is the right time to pop the question, or say yes when it’s asked?

Well, first of all, if you are dreaming of diamond rings, and your other half getting down on one knee, you need to come back to reality, first. Yes, it’s super fun getting engaged and celebrating your love and commitment with your friends and family.

But getting engaged is a promise to marry, and spend the rest of your life with that person. If you can’t see that happening, then it might be better to not take this step in the first place.

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Secondly, your decision needs to be based on the amount of emotional intimacy that you share as a couple. With the general idea being that you see each other as soul mates. Meaning that you feel that this person gets you in a way that no one else has, and that you have an unshakable connection and respect for one another.

If you worry that you will break up every time you have an argument, then maybe you are not quite at the getting engaged stage. As you need to be able to weather the bad times as well as the good times to make it succeed.

Having said that, it is unlikely that you won’t have any doubts as to whether you are doing the right. In fact, it would be worrisome if you didn’t, as then you obviously weren’t thinking about things deeply enough. Which you should be doing when making a true, life long commitment.

In fact, that is why having the time of being engaged before you actually get married is so useful. This is because it allows you to work out any remaining issues in the relationship, while you prepare for the wedding.

You are ready to get married

It’s funny, but if you are an anxious person, you can know down deep inside that you are ready to get married. But still, worry from time to time in the lead up to the wedding whether you are doing the right thing.

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But sometimes instead of looking for a huge thunderbolt moment, it’s the little things that can convince you that you have made the right choice for your life partner. For example, if you are calmer when you are with them than when you aren’t, it’s a good sign.

Or the small fact that they take the time and effort every day to make you smile can help reassure you that you have truly found the one you are meant to marry.

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Real Men Dating “Lesson 2”

Guest Blogger and Musician, Cy Bryon

“Lesson 2”
A few months ago a friend asked what my opinion of a real relationship should be!

Well here ya go lesson #2 ? It’s when naked means unveiling your walls ,your fears, and emotions.

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It’s when a kiss can make you weak and tremble. It’s when there are no secrets only raw truths. It’s feeling safe and comfortable and never questioning. It’s having a person so close to you that undressing their mind and thoughts is the sexiest thing you can do. It’s loving without fear and jumping without regret ! It’s leaving for work and rushing home just bc you crave that person. Finding that a night in can be 10x the amount of fun as any bar. It’s little notes randomly placed to be found later just saying i love you or your beautiful . Just cooking dinner while they tell you about their day over a drink . It’s never wondering how you’ll feel tomorrow bc you know you just know that they desire you with the same intense passion that intoxicates you every second. It’s sleeping every night with nothing but their name on your lips.

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