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Online Dating and Sexual Health: What You Need to Know

By Guest Blogger, Caitlin E.

Online Dating and Sexual Health: What You Need to Know

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Millions of people use online dating websites and apps to meet new people and engage in different levels of intimacy – from just chatting to casual sex to romantic relationships. With the rising popularity of various platforms such as Match.com, EHarmony, Tinder, and numerous others, the stigma that once existed around online dating has been greatly diminished. Even statistics show that the majority of Americans claim online dating is a good way to meet people.

But it’s still a relatively new landscape, where it’s crucial that we’re all well-informed and understanding of how we can navigate it responsibly. Here’s what you need to keep in mind regarding sexual health when meeting new people on dating platforms.

 

Sexual health is about psychological well-being too

 

The concept of sexual health is often mistaken for only the physical aspect of health in regards to sexuality, such as the absence of an STI.

But the World Health Organization reminds us that sexual health goes much further than that, implying psychological wellbeing, freedom of choice, and the ability to have a satisfying and responsible sex life.

In the online dating culture, you have all the freedom you need to engage with whomever you want and however you want. And when you have this kind of freedom, it’s especially important to listen to your gut instinct and to be cautious when meeting new people online.

It’s easy to get caught up in all of it, which makes it even more important that you fully acknowledge what you want and what you don’t want – regardless of how the person you’ve met will react. Listen to your innate needs, take care of yourself, and don’t let yourself feel pressured at any point.

Online dating is there to make things easier and more enjoyable for you, not to become a burden on your well-being.

 

Always use protection. Always.

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A lot of people are hooking up through dating platforms, as the medium makes meeting new people much faster and more convenient. The math is quite simple – the more casual sex there is, the more STIs are likely to be circulating.

This is nothing new, as STIs are more widespread than you might expect. There’s just too much stigma around them so you can be sure that nobody is going to explicitly tell you they have an infection when they meet you.

Not only that, but your partner may have no idea he or she has an STI.

The only way to stay safe from STIs and maintain your sexual health responsibly is by using condoms – every time, no matter what.

This is especially important to take note of among the older demographic, where there’s still a common misconception that there’s no need for condoms if you can no longer have children. Regardless of fertility or other forms of contraception you might be using, condoms serve to protect you from STIs, and both sides of the relationship should have them around.

 

Maintain your good judgement

 

A lot of people rely on drugs or alcohol to ease into the situation and “loosen up” when meeting someone new. Again, you have the freedom to do whatever you wish – just make sure that you own it, that you have the confidence and your best interests in mind.

Overdoing it with either of those two will definitely cloud your judgement – and that’s where it will be difficult for you to keep your best interests in mind. Whether it’s engaging with someone you don’t actually feel that comfortable with or forgetting to use a condom during sex, clouded judgement increases the chances of turning an otherwise pleasant experience into a sour one.

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The rising popularity of online dating is no coincidence. People feel comfortable with these platforms, and they present a convenient and exciting way to meet potential partners and like-minded people. But as more and more people use online dating apps, there’s a whole new dialogue opening up around sexual health and safety. Whether you’re entirely new to online dating or have an established profile, keep these points in mind to make sure that you navigate the landscape to your best interest.

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5 Easy Ways To Find Your True Soulmate

5 Easy Ways To Find Your True Soulmate

A soulmate is someone who completes you, someone you can love for a lifetime. But it is not always guaranteed that you will meet this person in your life; there are chances that they may be right in front of you but you still miss them. Finding that special someone is a quest that can be solved only by following your heart and understanding how you can open the doors that take you to them. Let us help you to know how to find your true soulmate.

Believe in true love

Relationships are fragile in the present times as people break up as easily as they come together. But if you want to attract that special someone to your life, believe in true love because it does actually exist. When you do meet your true soulmate, the relationship with them nourishes you and helps to experience personal growth to become a stronger, better person.

Focus on healing

It is quite possible to fall in love with someone even if that person is not your soulmate. Such relationships are based on physical attraction and seldom last. Broken relationships do hurt but healing yourself is the best way to open up to your true partner. If you are not able to heal, you will not be able to let anyone get closer, even if that someone is the partner that you have been looking for.

Love yourself

If you expect someone to love you, start by loving yourself irrespective of your looks and physical attributes. People with a sense of self-esteem are more attractive and have better chances of finding a partner who adores and respects them. Appreciate the traits you are blessed with and try to improve where you lack. By loving yourself, you look and feel attractive and give reasons to others to feel the same about you.

Wait with patience

You need to be patient enough to wait for the arrival of your soulmate in your life. And this does not mean that you should miss on good things while waiting. Often people make their lives miserable just waiting for true love to arrive. Such people tend to become negative and miss the opportunity to meet their soul partner even if they are around. Learning to live in the present and enjoying life before the person arrives is the key to finding the special one.

Be open to possibilities

Another way to find your soulmate is to be open to possibilities. Giordana Toccaceli, the renowned intimacy coach, reiterates that true love may walk in anytime and anywhere, sometimes when you expect it the least. You may even find the right person in someone whom you have known but not realized that they are the one. Just keep your senses open so that you do not miss the opportunity when it comes.

Finding your soulmate is like reaching your destination, but this does not make the journey any less special. So make sure that you stay happy and positive while you wait for that special someone to arrive in your life.

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3 Alternative Date Ideas that Definitely Aren’t Dinner and Drinks

3 Alternative Date Ideas that Definitely Aren’t Dinner and Drinks

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Dating is a minefield and sometimes the thought of going out for yet another average Italian just doesn’t inspire romance. There may be no ‘right’ way to make a connection with someone new but if you are looking to make a real bond, the old dating clichés might not be for you.

 

Whether you get nervous standing at a bar trying not to drink your wine too fast or you need to inject a bit more excitement into a fledgling relationship, here are a few alternative dating ideas that might just set the romance alight.

The Escape Room

Getting locked into a room and solving puzzles to escape isn’t everyone’s cup of tea but there’s a reason that this sort of thing is loved by corporations as a team building exercise. Escape rooms are all about communicating and learning about each other. This is your prime time to show off your skills and compliment your partner on their capabilities too.

 

The other great benefit of doing an escape room is that you don’t need to start thinking up topics to talk about – the material is all there and you will naturally chat about other stuff while you work towards your freedom.

Mini Golf

There are few things in life that bring as much joy as mini golf. You don’t have to be good at it – in fact, the worse you are the more fun you are going to have. There are plenty of mini golf courses around and lots now come with different themed rooms so you can set the tone.

 

If you want to take things up a notch, try creating challenges for each other like predicting the score for the round or attempting this hole standing backwards. The more ridiculous you make your challenges the funnier it will get. Let your imagination run wild!

Life Drawing Class

Drawing a naked person might not be the best place to chat incessantly but if you are shy then the quiet atmosphere is a good place to do some surreptitious judging of your partner. How they respond to the class and the way that they draw will tell you a lot about each other, even if you are useless and your partner turns out to be the next Leonardo da Vinci.

 

Taking a class together will also give you a natural topic to discuss later on or on future dates. This is the perfect time to find out how they appreciate the human body and what could be in store later…

 

Dating should be a fun way to get to know someone new and should never be a chore. If you want to bring out the best side of someone, finding an activity where you can both participate without worrying about having to look nice while eating spaghetti is often the way forward. Pick something you already love doing or go out on a limb and try something new. It’s time to break away from a series of dull dinners and start living life to the full.

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5 Fun Ways to Keep the Spark Alive in Your Relationship

5 Fun Ways to Keep the Spark Alive in Your Relationship

If you want to maintain a close relationship with your spouse, you need to work on strengthening your bond and making memories together every single day.

While you might love your partner deeply, those fluttering butterflies in your stomach can soon disappear. However, it is possible to make sure each day is better than the last. Check out the five fun ways to keep the spark alive in your relationship.

  1. Show Your Appreciation

It’s essential to acknowledge all the big and small things your partner does for you. To do so, you should routinely try to show your appreciation, which will make him or her feel both valued and loved.

For example, you could buy your spouse a gift, cook their favorite meal, or book a romantic dinner at an elegant restaurant. You can guarantee your partner will also appreciate the effort you have made to express your gratitude.

  1. Make Memories Together

It doesn’t matter if you have been with your other half for one year or 20 years, every day will provide you and your spouse with an opportunity to make wonderful memories together.

You can create memorable moments by jumping out of a plane in tandem, exploring a new city together, or singing your hearts out at a concert. Find the perfect event, activity, or attraction for both you and your partner at Ticket Sale.

  1. Try to Be Spontaneous

It can be easy to settle into a routine once you have been with your partner for a number of years. As a result, your daily life together can become almost predictable, which could drain the romance from your relationship. For this reason, you should try to be spontaneous when possible.

Therefore, you need to plan themed evenings, randomly take your partner on a date, or do something surprising that will make your other half smile from ear-to-ear. It can help to prevent you both from falling into a monotonous routine, which can stop you from falling into a relationship rut.

  1. Set a Date Night

It doesn’t matter how busy your professional or personal lives are, you must regularly make time for a date night. Don’t become complacent in your relationship and enjoy some quality time together. For example, set time aside to regularly book dinner at a luxury restaurant, go to the movies, or enjoy drinks at a sleek bar.

  1. Book a Vacation

Work and personal responsibilities can often stand in the way of a healthy relationship. A vacation will, however, provide you both with an opportunity to spend 24 hours a day together for a whole week or more.

Each day will offer quality conversation, fun attractions, and spontaneous adventures, which can shake up your routine and make you fall deeper in love with your other half. Book a stay at a tropical resort, explore a new city together, or camp out in the wilderness. It could help you to keep the spark permanently alive in your relationship.

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Find Your Perfect Bra

By Tia Cristy

Find Your Perfect Bra

One common gripe you’ll hear amongst most women is the invention of the bra. Memes and jokes about shedding the bra once at home have existed for a long time. Bras in general aren’t the enemy… But the particular bra you’re wearing could be. Here’s how to find the perfect bra for you.

This bra is too big

When your bra is too big, it gives a false sense of security. Things can shift inside and straps can fall. This can result in bad posture, which can lead to back and other muscle pain. Trying to work out in a bra that’s too big can result in rubbing and poking from the material. This can leave a discomfort and irritation to the skin.

This bra is too small

When your bra is too small, it can be dangerous on many levels. First, this can cause back pain, resulting in that need to shed the bra as quickly as possible. But the more dangerous things that can happen are not only internal cysts, but fungal or bacterial infections on the skin. If you end up with a rash under your breasts, try otc cortisone. See if the rash clears in a day or two. If not, go see the doctor– the doc will be able to tell if it’s fungal or bacterial and provide you with an appropriate script.

This bra is just right

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Not everyone is the same size or shape, which means not everyone can shop at the same place for bras. And, not every sized-bra is a one size fits all. Hence, the reason there are so many manufactures out there. I’m not saying you’ll get it right with every bra, but sizing yourself for a standard bra is a pretty simple if you have a sewing tape measure.

First, find your band size by wrapping the tape measure around your body, just under your breasts.
Example: 32 inches

Next, move the tape measure up to include your breasts fitting loosely around the nipple.
Example: 34

Finally, you’ll subtract the two numbers. The number left over determines your cup size.

0=AA
1=A
2=B
3=C
4=D
5=DD
6=DDD-F
7=G

So with our example… Minus 34 by 32 and you are left with -2. That means your bra size is 32B.

Bras have advantages

Although, it’s easy to complain about a bra, they do have some advantages. If you remember their true purpose… bras can give support. Some women and professionals believe that sleeping in a bra can keep the muscles from sagging. Personally, I’m not for or opposed of such practices.

I have found that wearing the right kind of bra on a daily, can change your overall mood. Whether you buy a bra like Knix for comfort and protection or a lacy thing that makes you feel like a bombshell, bras have the ability to adjust your mental state. Hence, this is why women will spend gobs of money on their undergarments… not to show them off, but to feel the best that they can feel. And, like most powers of the mind, that self-esteem will certainly show on the outside.

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Why you should check for Hidden Cameras in your Hotel Room?

 Why you should check for Hidden Cameras in your Hotel Room?

 

You are at risk wherever you go these days. No place is secure unless you are alert to risks that happen in any country you visit. Naturally, with boom in the electronic consumption worldwide you cannot assume that you are safe and has a space of your own for there are equally rogue humans who would love to break your privacy with hidden cameras. A good shot of your body in the bed or in the bathroom may be enough to cheat on you unknowingly. So, knowing a little bit of cameras and those that hotels hide in your room would go a long way of assuring you a hassle-free stay.

There are numerous kinds of cameras that can be hidden with ease in any hotel room and many of them are so small that it can be difficult to spot them. I highly recommend you to check the complete article from SCR.COM that explain you How To Detect Hidden Cameras In A Hotel Room.


However, you must know, unless there is a something big at stake for spying on you, no hotels would like to compromise on their goodwill. Therefore, you will need to understand that it is the staff or another visitor to the hotel who would be doing this mostly. Naturally, they wouldn’t be investing a huge amount of money on this as they only after some fun. Hence, you needn’t worry about very tiny highly sensitive and sophisticated cameras, but only those that you may be able to spot with a thorough search.

 

Your Eyes are the Best Detectors

If you want to spot the hidden camera then you ought to train your eyes to search thoroughly. This means inch by inch screening of the whole room and the bathroom. Look at places like the shelves, wall decors, electrical sockets, mirrors, indoor plants, tissue boxes, shower, toys, DVD cases, table lamps and any other places that you suspect may be quite easy for a camera to be hidden.

If you have not spotted a camera then you must take your search to the next level. This is done during the evening. First you draw your curtains and then switch off the lights. Then look around for any light sources or any other source that reflects your own tiny torch lights. Remember to maintain pin-drop silence while you are doing this. Most cameras give out a tiny buzzing sound while many would give out some tiny streak of light which you may be able to detect in the dark.

You may also detect a source which reflects your own torch lights as most cameras have lenses. Again, there are some places in the room where you may detect unusual wiring or adapter settings and power outlets then be warned that there may be some kind of object hidden somewhere in the room.

Apart from the above, you may use your own mobile phone for detecting spy cameras in your hotel room. If you are using iOS or Android then you may download an application straight from the web.

Lastly, you may still be able to detect the undetectable camera if you call one of your friends or family members and walk around the room. If there is a camera anywhere then there will be interruption in the frequency levels.

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7 Tips For Surviving Single Life As A Newbie

7 Tips For Surviving Single Life As A Newbie

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Now, before we get really into this post, let’s just start with a huge disclaimer. Single life definitely doesn’t have to be something that you survive. Single life can be something that you choose. And for many of us, it is. When you go through a breakup, it can be traumatic. And it can be incredibly hard to adjust to life without your significant other. But sometimes, that’s the choice we make. When the relationship is bad, you’re unhappy, or worse – you know that sometimes, you have to be single to be happier. But that doesn’t make that awful feeling any better. And then, you’re faced with life as a singleton and the idea of dating. And that can sometimes be terrifying. So, it’s handy to work out have to navigate this part of your newly single lifestyle.

 

Whether you chose to be single – or not, whether you’re happy to be single – or not, you’ll often want to adjust to this new style of life in any way that you can. And it helps to be able to do this with a few tips to get you started out. Because the person that you once shared your days and your life with, is no longer by your side. And that can be a scary thing to adjust too. But it’s definitely not impossible, and it can actually be fun. So let’s take a look at the tips to help you.

 

  1. Get To Know Yourself

 

One of the best and most beautiful things that you can do here, is to get to know yourself a little better. Yes, you’re single, but it can be a great thing. You’re on your own, and you only have yourself to think about now. And it’s refreshing. So really make the most of that and work out what it is that you really want out of life.

 

  1. Enjoy Being Alone

 

As a step on from that, you’re going to want to get used to being alone, and actually enjoy it. You will realize that you don’t need to be in a relationship to feel fulfilled. In fact, when you can enjoy being alone, and do things that make you happy, then you’re going to become so much stronger. And this will then put you in a better position when you do want to meet someone else.

 

  1. Talk If You Want To

 

So the next thing is, that you need to know that it’s okay to talk about the breakup or how sad you’re feeling. You don’t just have to be this super strong woman that feels great on her own and is better off. Instead, if you are feeling effected, then talk about it. Talk to your friends or family or even a specialist if it’s going to help you move forward.

 

  1. Be Okay With Moving On

 

Okay, and then you’re going to want to make sure that you know that it’s perfectly okay to move on. You don’t have to stay single for a set period of time, or you don’t have to worry about it not working out. Instead, embrace the idea of meeting someone new and being happy in a relationship again.

 

  1. Discover New Ways To Date

 

Then, when it comes to the idea of dating again, why not consider new ways to do it? Don’t just hope you’ll have your romantic moment. Instead, consider options like dating apps, lesbian chat, or going on blind dates. And be open-minded about how you can meet someone that makes you happy.

 

  1. Know What You Want

 

But one thing that is incredibly important for you when you are looking to move on, is knowing what you want in a relationship. That way, you won’t get caught up in another situation that will hurt you, and you’re going to be happier when you do meet someone.

 

  1. Put Yourself First

 

So, one of the most important things that you have to do here, is to make sure that you’re putting yourself first. Because when you were in a relationship, you may notice that you were always thinking about your significant other, and putting them first. And that’s definitely something that’s natural. But now it’s just you – and you’re well within your rights to now put your own needs first, and focus on what you want. And keep that up, even when you meet someone else. This is the best way to make sure that you continue to say happy, whether you’re single or you meet someone new.

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The Types of Vaginal Discharge what they May Mean

The Types of Vaginal Discharge what they May Mean

Vaginal discharge is a source of concern for many women out there but this need not be the case. There is normal vaginal discharge and what can be considered to be an infection. In this article we take a look at the different types of vaginal discharge that most women usually experience and their different meanings.

What is vaginal discharge?

It is the fluid which exists from the vaginal opening of a woman. Vaginal discharge reflects the body’s normal cleansing process, women should be aware of the fact that the amount of vaginal discharge also varies among different women. This may also be dependent on women’s menstrual cycle.

At the end of this article you will get acquainted with the various types of vaginal discharge and be able to differentiate what is normal and what is not.

  1. Thick white discharge

Most women usually get worried when they notice thick white discharge because they take to be a sign of something seriously wrong with their bodies. According to health professionals, the thick white discharge should not be a cause for alarm if it is odorless. Most women will experience thick white discharge as their menstrual cycle progresses. The degree of thickness will vary from one woman to the next and also depend on whether there is pregnancy or not.

Thick white discharge and pregnancy

During pregnancy women usually undergo lots of changes and most of them will see an increase in the discharge that comes from their birth canals. Experts however advise that during pregnancy thick white discharge remains a perfectly normal experience. During the early stages of pregnancy, most women will experience a thick, white and creamy discharge. This shouldn’t be a concern although going to see a gynecologist just to be sure is not a bad idea. In fact, during pregnancy if you notice anything that is not normal it is better to see a doctor finding out what the problem may be.

During the early stages of pregnancy the vagina usually works extra in order to create more discharge. This is usually in an attempt to help keep the cervix moist, healthy and well sealed. What makes the discharge sometimes to come out in large quantities is the body’s temperature. The body’s temperature works to melt the thick creamy discharge making it lighter and thus more in volume.

During the third trimester of pregnancy some women will still experience thick discharge. Experts advise that as long as the discharge remains white or clear and is devoid of smell, it is likely that it is just normal.

The bottom line however is that thick white discharge is just perfectly normal, and all a woman needs to do is to keep clean at all times. The panties need to be regularly washed and dried thoroughly to remove any moisture on them before they are worn. Wearing moist panties may be a source of an infection for the woman.

Thick white discharge before period

It is normal for a woman to experience thick white discharge before her period. This discharge remains part of a normal process at the onset and the end of a woman’s menstrual cycle. A woman’s vagina usually produces lots of mucus before menstruation than after menstruation. It is important to note that the discharge that you will notice at this time may be elastic or watery.

At every end of your cycle, before your menstruation begins, you may also see some thick white discharge coming out of your vagina. This should not concern you as it normal as long as you don’t experience any form of itching or odor coming out of your vagina. The color of the discharge must also be white and not colored or brown for it to be a normal kind of discharge.

Thick white discharge after making love

Most women out there have been alarmed with the white discharge they see after they have had unprotected sex with their partners. While discharge that oozes out of a vagina after sex should be carefully examined bust in most cases it is usually just normal. Here below are the reasons why you will see white discharge from your vagina after sex:

–        Lubrication of the vagina; with sexual arousal, a woman’s vagina will produce white liquid that helps with lubricating the vagina to make the sexual experience seamless. The lubrication that the vagina produces in most cases is just watery, clear or white in color. In some women even after sex, their vaginas may still continue discharging the lubricating fluid.

–        Mucus from the cervix; a woman’s cervix usually produces mucus during varied stages of the menstrual cycle. Basically, the function of the mucus is usually to help the sperm have a good environment to make its way to meet the egg and fertilize it. Now, depending on the current stage of your menstrual cycle, you may be able to see thick dry mucus-like discharge oozing from your vagina after sex. It is a sign that you are at the end of your cycle. Mucus that is clear stretchy and milky that is appearing after you have had sex is an indication that you are ovulating. It is during this time that you ought to be extra cautious if you don’t wish to conceive, please to use a condom during sex.

 

  1. White milky discharge

Ever experienced white milky discharge? You need not worry about this as this can just be perfectly normal. Many women will experience this type of discharge when they are ovulating. During ovulation most women will experience a thick white milky discharge that is stretchy but that which is odorless.
During early pregnancy the discharge can appear to be creamy and this may just be an early sign of you conceiving a baby! Experts refer to this as leucorrhea and it mostly odorless or can sometimes by with a slight odor that is not strong.

The bottom line

Experiencing thick white discharge is a normal process for most women and it shouldn’t cause alarm to them. However, when the discharge appears to be clumpy and has a foul odor that is unpleasant you should consider seeing a gynecologist right away. This may be a sign of an infection that if left untreated may cause something else that could be serious!

 

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JOJO Yang is a writer from Check Pregnancy, her passion is providing helpful information for mommy and baby’s health. More than just focus on basic knowledge about health, this website also focuses on how to establish a good parent-child relationship. You can also some find fun reviews and topics, just visit Check Pregnancy to see more.

Conception’s Got You And Your Man Hot, Sweaty, And…Searching For A Surrogate?

Conception’s Got You And Your Man Hot, Sweaty, And…Searching For A Surrogate?

When it comes to conception, most of us imagine things will get hot and steamy. Sex between you and your partner might have been good before, but surely it’ll crank up a level when there’s added incentive? You likely expect to be at it like rabbits every chance you get. All the better for making that baby, right ladies?

But, what happens when things don’t go to plan? You’ve been trying for months and nothing’s happened. Then, you get the news you’ve been dreading. One of you is infertile, and suddenly your hot and steamy journey couldn’t seem colder. The two of you may go from jumping into bed every second to facing major marriage problems in one short appointment.

 

The good news is, infertility is by no means the end of the story anymore. With options like surrogacy, there’s every chance you can still go on to conceive a genetic child. But, you first need to go through the experience of finding a surrogate. And, it’s all too easy to lose the love during this stressful process. But, given you want to have a child because of the love you share, it’s essential you don’t let that happen. And, to make sure of it, we’re going to look at a few ways to keep hold of that intimacy, even when surrogacy is on your cards.

Focus on sex regardless

 

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So, sex isn’t going to lead to babies the way you’d hoped. But, that doesn’t mean you should stop making an effort in the bedroom. If it helps, remember that you’re still on the road to conception. Keeping on top of your sex lives can help keep that momentum alive, as well as preserving the intimacy. Focusing on sex can also help to alleviate any guilt the infertile party might feel. If your man received the bad news, for instance, he might feel that you’re withholding sex as a form of punishment. And, that type of feeling isn’t going to help either of you. So, keep making an effort here. Remember how much fun you had in the bedroom before babies were even on your cards. It might be hard at times, but you need to work to keep that going for the duration of your surrogacy search.

Do everything together

It takes two to make a baby. But, when it comes to surrogacy, it’s all too easy to slip into bad habits of separation. After all,  you’re both giving different samples without each other in the room. And, you may decide to do independent research to put your minds at ease. Before you know, you’ll be having very different experiences of what should be a shared journey. Make sure it doesn’t happen by keeping this between the two of you. Don’t go off into your own heads at any stage. Instead, attend appointments together. If it helps, ask if you can go in with your man while he gives his sperm sample. And make sure not to research alone. Instead, sit down and snuggle up with the laptop one night. Together, visit resources like the ConceiveAbilities Blog which can answer a lot of questions for you. Just the act of coming together like this can help to keep you close and build intimacy during a difficult time. Make sure, too, that you make decisions together. You’ll need to choose everything from your timeline to your surrogate herself. And, it’s essential this is done together. Otherwise, it’s all too easy for one partner to fall out of the loop.

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Keep communication open

Communication is always essential in a relationship, especially when it comes to sex. But, you guys know that, else you wouldn’t have gotten this far. The trouble is, when issues of infertility crop up, it’s all too easy for the shutters to come down. A mixture of embarrassment and reluctance to face the problem are natural. But, you need to lift those shutters before they lock on your love. Instead, make sure you’re discussing your feelings from day one. If you’re upset, talk about it. Make sure not to be touchy or take things to heart. Just listen to your partner, and work towards solutions together. There are sure to be difficult discussions along the way, but you can’t afford to skip them. Only by facing these things head on can you both stay connected for when your baby comes along. Though it may not feel like it now, that could be a lot sooner than you think.

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What We Learned from Sex and the City

By Guest Blogger, Brigitte E.

What We Learned from Sex and the City

 

Our favorite girl gang might not be airing on TV anymore, but they still hold their spot in our hearts. The Sex and the City show made us all wonder if we have what it takes to live the high life in the urban jungle and what it is you actually need to do to get there. So, if you want to bring back the best of the times into today, here’s what you’re going to need:

An outfit to make a statement

Each of the girls in the show has her own unique style that worked brilliantly when then show aired in the early 2000’s, but let’s just say that not all of their styles aged so well. While Carrie might have been the fashion icon during the series, these days you might want to be a bit more like Charlotte. But if the girls have thought us something, it’s that you should always dress to impress. Surprisingly, while Miranda was the odd one out, dressing far less stylish than the other girls, her outfits would look the most normal if worn today. Clashing colors and weird pattern mixes might have been considered a catastrophe back in the day, but today you can see such designs on the biggest runways of the world. So really, whether you want to rock knee-high boots with an over-the-top fur coat, or if you want to show off your body in a sexy red dress, it’s important that you find the look that represents you.

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Relationships take time. You might meet the perfect one and fall in love instantly, but actually not end up together until several arguments, other partners and a couple of seasons pass by. But if we step away from Carrie and look at Charlotte, we’ll see that things don’t always work out – or do they? Your perfect life falls apart, you get divorced and you feel like you are at the bottom, but them someone new just walks by and there you go, back up on your feet.

Sex

 

Let’s take a page from Samantha’s book: She’s not only sex obsessed, but she is perfectly fine with sharing every single detail with her friends and the unseen audience. The thing to remember here is that this show made great strides in demystifying adult toys and showing us that sex isn’t always good. And when it isn’t – you should speak up, change something about it or, at the very least, take things into your hands. But the show also addresses a major problem: unplanned pregnancy. Miranda’s against-all-odds pregnancy was a shock to everyone, and the message is clear: if you don’t want kids (or and STI) always use protection.

Know your perfect cocktail

There is really nothing more iconic for this show than a glass of Cosmopolitan. So let’s see how you can recreate it at home with your best friends: Originally, the recipe uses cranberry juice, but you can substitute it for grapefruit or blood orange. Put 1oz in a shaker over ice, add a ¼ oz of triple sec and 1 ¼ oz of vodka (or a bit more, if you’re trying to cheer up a friend who just broke up). Shake it all up and pour into a martini glass. Garnish with a twist of lemon and you are good to go. Alternatively, go downtown to your favorite bar and tell mr. Bartender to keep them coming.

Have a support group

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If you strip away all the side action that fills up the show, you are left with one very simple theme: friendship. The four girls go through their life’s ups and downs together and support each other through it all. So before you start buying furry coats, shaking up cosmos and updating your sex toy collection, first make sure you have a group of friends that will see you through thick and thin, laugh and cry with you and love you and simply love you unconditionally.

 

And if this made you feel nostalgic, then maybe get your friends together and watch a season or two of the show to remember the good time and give yourself inspiration for your own adventure. After all, we are all writing our own stories, and perhaps it’s just the right time for another plot twist.

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