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3 Tips for Avoiding Pain and Heartache in Your Romantic Life

3 Tips for Avoiding Pain and Heartache in Your Romantic Life

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There are, unfortunately, a lot of things that can cause of misery in life — but heartbreak often does the most damage to our sense of wellbeing and our ability to look forward, optimistically, to the future.

Yet there is no heartbreak equivalent to a personal injury lawyer, and no insurance that you can take out on your emotional wellbeing. Instead, all you can do to protect yourself from a broken heart is to be careful of how you act, and to try and put your trust in the right person.

There’s never a guarantee that you won’t experience heartache, and a lot depends on the actions of the other person. But since you can do something about how you act and behave, here are some tips for avoiding unnecessary pain and heartache in your romantic life.

Realise that the thrill you feel at the start of a relationship is different from love — love is something you discover and build over time

A lot of people are constantly hopping from one partner to the next, not because they never connect with their previous partners, or because things are just unbearable, but because they are looking for the wrong thing.

It’s common that serial monogamists will stick with a partner as long as the new-relationship-thrill hangs around. But when that seems to fade, they take it as a sign that it wasn’t real love, and go looking for real love with someone else.

It’s important to understand that the thrill you feel at the start of a relationship is different from love. That thrill is part animal attraction, part the thrill of the chase, and part your own subconscious projections onto the other person.

Love is something that you discover and build over time. Love is the little comments and habits that make you melt. It’s the inside jokes, and the shoulder to cry on during tough times. It’s looking forward to waking up next to your partner.

Make sure that you’re not confusing the two things.

Be truthful and express yourself carefully — even “white lies” can sink everything

They say that honesty is the best policy, and they’re right, especially when it comes to relationships.

If you begin your relationship on a bed of untruth — even if you’re telling “white lies” you only guarantee that bigger lies will be built on top of them over time, and that the trust and health of your relationship will be seriously wounded, or destroyed, sooner or later.

Commit to being completely truthful, and express yourself carefully, instead. If your partner asks “do I do anything that annoys you?” answer gently but truthfully. It’s better than saying “no” and then spending months or years being irritated by their everyday habits, until you lash out during an argument.

Take responsibility for how you act in the relationship, don’t try and force your partner to change how they act

We might all want our partners to behave more in one way, and less in another, but the truth is that no one changes unless that change comes from within.

In your relationship, you should take responsibility for how you act — because that’s in your control.

But you should not try and force your partner to change how they act. It will not work, and it will cause tension, anger, and hurt feelings. At best you can gently ask if they’d be willing to do things differently, then leave it at that.

Ultimately, the best way to get your partner to change is usually to “be the change you want to see.” Act a certain way yourself, let the example rub off, and hope for the best.


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Time to See a Psychologist: When You Feel Like You’re Growing Apart

Time to See a Psychologist: When You Feel Like You’re Growing Apart


Relationships are about growth. You meet, fall in love, and start a life together. It takes time a patience to build a lasting relationship. However, even in the strongest of relationships, everyone has moments of getting weary.

The honeymoon phase is over


It’s a fictitious timeframe when couples stop being on their best behaviors and get real. This is usually the time when the first heated augments occur. This is the time when you might realize your partner’s annoying habits like leaving the toilet seat up all the time. This might be the time you decide not to wear the most alluring under-garments all the time.

Some people dread the idea of the honeymoon phase coming to an end, but this is really the time when couples make it or break it. It’s a lot smoother of a transition if you decide to be real with your partner early on in the relationship.

Seven year stretch


Your relationship had withstood some time and before you realize, you’ve made it to your 7th anniversary. The seven year stretch sounds like fake news, but scientific studies have shown this phase is real for humans. It’s been proven that whether in a relationship or single, people go through a transition every seven years. As couples hit seven years together, it’s a good time to recognize the growth you’ve done as an individual and as a couple. This is the time to set new goals, maintain togetherness, and cultivate the areas in yourself, your partner, and the parts of the relationship that need a little extra TLC.

Prevent Falling Apart


There’s no guarantee or magic that is fireproof nowadays. People grow at different rates, and there are plenty of distractions out there to pull you away from your partner. However, making a conscious choice to remain focused in your relationship is key. Self-control is the only thing you need to be concerned with. You can’t control your partner, nor should you want to. Having a partner is having a mate who can be your equal, or the yin to your yang.

You might not see eye to eye on everything like you once did, but compromise has gotten you two far in your relationship. Like people take vitamins to prevent sickness, why not invest in marriage counseling before there’s a major problem? Talking to a qualified psychologist to help you two through simple disagreements could perhaps prevent big problems down the line.

Remember every flower grows at different rates. So don’t give up on your partner if they are growing in a different direction or at a different speed. It’s just a sign for you to get to pruning and watering your relationship. I love the quote by Neil Barringham, ‘The grass is greener where you water it’.

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Avoiding Embarrassment When It’s Time For Bed

Avoiding Embarrassment When It’s Time For Bed

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Sleeping with someone for the first time can often be a very daunting event. Having only known the person for a short time, it will be very hard to tell how they will want to go through something like this. Of course, though, the worst part about going to bed with someone for the first time is the prospect of embarrassment. To give you an idea of what goes into this, this post will be exploring some of the work which can be done to ensure that you don’t have to deal with shame when you find yourself swept up by the fun.

Keep It Clean

After a long day of walking around and having fun, most people will be in need of a little bit of a freshen up. This isn’t something you’ll always have time for, though, and this means looking for ways to keep yourself clean without having to take five in the bathroom. Websites like the Scary Mommy blog are great when you’re looking for advice in this area. It can be hard to talk to those around you about personal hygiene, but blogs don’t judge.

Dress To Impress

The clothing you wear says a lot about you, and is one of the earliest impressions someone will have when they meet you. Of course, though, when you’re going to bed, these garments will be coming off, and it will be the ones underneath which you’re most concerned about. There are loads of underwear options which are designed to be both pretty and comfortable, nowadays, and this means that you no longer have to choose.

Be Honest

There will always be aspects of your body which you feel worried about, even if you spend loads of time working on it. By simply being honest about this, you can find yourself in a great position, and the person you are with is likely to feel a whole lot more comfortable, as a result. Of course, there are some things which you won’t want to talk about. If you’re worried about something superficial, though, like hair or scars, you don’t have much to worry about.

Do Your Part

This sort of experience can be embarrassing for anyone; not just you. This means that your partner is also likely to be a little worried about your potential reaction to their body, and this is something worth considering. Even if something takes you by surprise, you should work hard to make as little of it as possible, as this will help to keep both parties happy. There is nothing worse than having someone look shocked or amused when they see you naked.

With all of this in mind, you should be feeling ready to take control of the time you spend with others in bed. Feeling embarrassed should never be a part of spending time with someone else like this, thought a lot of people find themselves experiencing it. If you need more help with this, it could be worth talking to a sex expert, as this field can get very complex.


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Making it Work: Finding True Love in the Millennial World

Making it Work: Finding True Love in the Millennial World

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Dating in the millennial world is like strolling through the jungle ofravenous beasts. As soon as you fire up your dating app, trolls and predatorsflock to your profile, hell-bent on tearing your confidence into pieces. Terrifying, right? While the situation is not necessarily as drastic as presented (though it truly happens to numerous unwitting love-seekers), finding genuine love in the millennial world is turning into an exception. Getting tothe root cause of why “making it work” has become a miracle is not particularlyhard. Rendering the process easier is a significantly harder riddle to solve.

Commitment issues are rampant

The problem mostly lies in the fact that millennial generation has an overwhelming phobia of commitment. This widespread phenomenon has emerged exactly due to the dating app factor.Why would you bother when there are plenty more “swipes” in the sea? In themillennial mind, people have turned into commodities. The first step to solving this, should you come across someone that you truly like, is to actively seekout connections with the person through common interests.

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This way, you will become more than a cardboard cutout or a set of brief traits in the eyes of the potential date, much more quickly. However, the second step is quite harder and it is also related to the fear of commitment. This obstacle comes in the signature millennial fear of opening up, coupled with the unwillingness to repeatedly invest energy into partners.

The main tool is also a problem

With the omnipresent power of the internet, the metaphysical cloud that covers the globe and simmers with endless data, long distance relationships have become more common place. While previous generation used the net as a tool in this regard, matters have become a bit trickier for millennials.

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In the world of diminished attention spans and constant pursue for immediate gratification, the survival of long distance relationships requires both parties to exercise in human patience and constant readiness to compromise. The additional work might be exhaustive, but the benefits of pulling through are immeasurable.

Self-centered world

The afore mentioned unwillingness to invest energy in relationships is not a mild problem. Millennials learn, since early age, to be focused solely on themselves and their own needs. In addition, the digital realm is tailored exactly to cater to the individual’s perception of oneself as the “center of the world”. In spite of this, you can easily spot a glaring contradiction within such state of things – since the choices at our disposal are in numerable, it becomes easy to feel as if we do not matter in the grand scheme of things. Generations ago, people used to belong to diffuse and organic social microcosms which were easier to navigate. An average millennial suffers the “tyranny of freedom” but manages to come on top as long ascertain basic tenets are followed.

Avoid distractions and have a clear goal

In order to find the right partner, you need to narrow down your wants into a reasonable goal. As soon as you enter the world of dating (both online and offline) things can get really distracting really fast so it helps to have a clear goal when it comes to the type of person you’d love to “find”. Just don’t fall into a trap of perceiving people as conquests as you will end up perpetuating previous mistakes. Second, you need to communicate this goal clearly, which might trim down the number of people that are willing to date you drastically, but at least you will pique the interest of those that want a similar arrangement. Finally, you need to take action and have hope no matter what – a few failed dates should not discourage you.

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We live in the unprecedented times. The world is changing faster than we can process it and so does the way we engage with people around us. In this digital jungle of social media and dating apps, dating has turned into a curious multi-dimensional maneuver that dances frantically between numerous versions of your identity. Only one of these versions is completely genuine;all others are hyper-stylized. Previous generations did not have to wrestle with social hierarchies that include multiple levels of reality, all in order to fulfill the needs that are so primordial and instinctive. Both the problem and the solution to finding true love in the millennial world lie in the heartof this paradox. Thankfully, as infinitely quotable Dr. John Hammond says in“Jurassic Park”, “Life always finds a way.”  

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How to Make Sex and Motherhood Align

How to Make Sex and Motherhood Align

They say everything changes once you have kids. But have you ever considered the changes to your love life? When you become a mom, your kids become a new and worthwhile sense of joy; they’re now your number one priority and captivate most of your time and energy. But that doesn’t mean your love life, especially physical intimacy, should need to take a back seat. Whether you’re a single mom getting back out on the dating scene, a first-timeparent to a newborn, or even a wife whose marriage has been lacking spark after raising kids, there are solutions to every mom’s differing sexual needs after kids.

Quit guilt-tripping yourself

In the same facet that moms shouldn’t feel guilty about not having sex, moms also shouldn’t be ashamed for desiring sex. After all, sex allows us to create a new life – it’s what made us moms. Not to mention the many proven benefits sex can have on our health and that it can be rewarding for relationships. Maintaining a healthy sex life does not make you a bad mom. It’s all about finding the balance between tending to your child(ren), while also making time to fulfill your own needs.

Don’t let body insecurities stop you

Women undergo many physical changes throughout and after pregnancy, like stretch marks, weight gain, loose skin, and even leaky breasts; all of which can take an emotional toll on our self-confidence making the thought of being intimate again unimaginable. However, you may be surprised by how quickly youfind yourself craving that physical connection again, and since women can ovulate as early as three weeks after childbirth, you’ll want to be prepared if you’re not ready for your family to grow again quite yet. If you’re hesitant to use birth control due to the worry of further weight gain, then fear no more. Most birth controls contain two hormones, a progestin and anestrogen. High levels of estrogen are associated with fluid retention (aka bloating and weight gain). But modern birth control pills nowcontain lower doses of estrogen and progestin, debunking the idea that birth control and weight gain are one and the same, so choosing the best birth control for you is that much easier.

Be creative and flexible

Another reason sex doesn’t always transpire after children is the concept that parenting is a 24/7 job. But like any other job, we all deserve a break at some point. A comfortable way to transition back into having a sex life is to plan a night alone with your partner by dropping the kids off at grandma or grandpa’s house for a night. Your mind can relax knowing that your little ones are in the trusted hands of a loved one. If you don’t have the luxury of a relative or babysitter, don’t give into the notion that you can’t ‘get it on’ just because the kids are home. Forgo your former expectations of sex and fit it in around your time. Have some ‘sexy time’ after the kids goto bed or before they wake up. Make use of nap times or even hop in the shower together for a steamy, intimate moment alone. Just make sure to lock the door!

Becoming a mom means learning new ways to adapt to everything you once did before children, including sex. Women may not have the same sex life they did before kids, but it’s possible that sex after children can be even better as it can teach women to love their natural body, and allow for more opportunities for spontaneity and rekindling romance.

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Cloth Menstrual Pads vs Disposables: Which is Right for You?

Cloth Menstrual Pads vs Disposables: Which is Right for You?

 

Whether disposable or reusable, choosing the kind of menstrual pad you want to hold your period falls on you and the kind of lifestyle you live. However, as of recently, there has been an alarming concern for disposable pads due to their impact on the environment and harmful chemicals.

 

In all fairness though, both cloth and disposable menstrual pads have their ups and downs. So we’re going to open up on the pros and cons of both pads to find out which of them is more beneficial for you, your health and mother nature for that matter.

1.   Disposable Pads

 

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PROs:

 

  • Convenient: Some of the best parts about disposable pads is that they’re, well….disposable. Once you’re done with them, you can throw them away and that’s that. What’s also more interesting is that disposable pads can be bought from anywhere and not just health stores or online. Another great takeaway of these pads is that you virtually never run out. In fact, you can stash as much of them without having your husband or other family member run out to the drugstore to get them for you.
  • Smaller Upfront Cost: Buying disposable pads to cover one cycle is easier than buying the same amount of cloth pads to cover one cycle. What’s more is that you don’t need to buy more pads for your next period since you’ll already have a stash of them at home.

CONs:

 

  • Harmful Chemicals: Because disposable pads are whitened with chlorine bleach, a toxic byproduct called dioxin is produced. These pads also contain pesticide residue and plastic chemicals. These chemicals are dangerous due to our skin being highly permeable, especially the skin in and around the vagina.
  • Potential Environmental Impact: It is reported that around 20 billion pads, tampons and applicators end up at landfills, that too in North America alone. And because they’re made of plastic, they take centuries to biodegrade, especially if they’re packed in plastic bags.
  • Higher Cost: Since they’re known as disposable pads, it will eventually come to a point where you will have to buy some new ones. This process is apparently more expensive than buying cloth pads since the latter are reusable.

 

2.   Reusable Cloth Pads

 

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PROs:

 

  • Better For The Environment: Let’s get this out of the way first – the reason why cloth pads are much better option is due to their reusable quality. As such, it keeps them away from landfills, which is a big deal when you consider the number of feminine products that one woman uses in her entire lifetime.
  • Savings: If you buy enough cloth pads to cover an entire menstrual cycle, it could save you up on more than what a pack of disposable pads would cost you. Better yet, once you have those reusable pads with you, you won’t have to buy another tampon or pad for over five years. Hence, reusable pads can save you on plenty of money overtime than disposable pads.
  • Highly Customizable: There are plenty of customizable options available for cloth pads than you can get for disposable pads at your local drugstore. Apart from choosing the best size and absorbency for your convenience, you also get to choose the best colors and patterns that represent your personal style.
  • It’s Less Irritating: Cloth pads are less irritating because they’re made of soft, breathable fabrics that permit air flow. Due to this, women experience less chafing and sweating when using cloth pads. There are also some women whose skins are sensitive to the bleaching agent that are used to make disposable pads white – that’s why switching over to cloth pads are the best option for them. Some women even reported to have experienced less PMS and menstrual cramps upon switching to cloth pads.

CONs:

 

  • They Require Great Care: Cloth pads are not like disposable pads where you can just fling them into the trash bin after using them once. And that’s exactly why they’re known as reusable. After using, they need to be washed to avoid getting stains. Then just toss them into the washing machine like you would your laundry. Keep away from fabric softeners as it could affect the absorbency of the pads. Whether you can machine-dry the pads or not depends on the brand as well as the materials they’re made from.
  • Lots of Trial And Error To Find the Right One: Unlike clothes, you can’t try a cloth pad in a fitting room before you decide to buy it. Since there are pads of various sizes, one can only guess which one is the right fit for you. One good advice is that if you use disposable pads, you can check their size out to find the cloth pad that is of similar size. You will find that most sellers list the measurements of their pads, making your job easier in finding the one you need.

Conclusion

 

Even though they both have their shortcomings, it is ultimately reusable cloth pads that take away the trophy due to their eco-friendly and affordable nature attributes. The best cloth pads are those that are just the right size, contain less or no harmful chemicals and have a longer shelf life.

 

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How Do You Know When Enough is Enough with Your Relationship?

How Do You Know When Enough is Enough with Your Relationship?

You have endured sleepless nights, endless arguments and your fuse is growing shorter by the day. You have never wanted to give up on your relationship, but recently you have been finding it difficult to stay positive. You have tried everything from spicing things up in the bedroom to repairing trust that has been broken, but nothing seems to be working for you both. You feel like your relationship or marriage has run its course and it’s never going to get any better. If you think you are struggling in this kind of situation then now is the time to make your final decision; consider all of the following steps and you will find it a little easier to come to terms with.

Speak to a Lawyer

If you have been unhappy in your marriage for a while now, then you might be considering a divorce. Although it sounds like a drastic measure, for many people this is their only option. You can learn about a divorce lawyer here and start exploring your options. Make sure you become well informed of your rights and seek advice from those who have been there before. You will soon be able to come to a decision and see if divorce really is the right step for you at this point in your life.

 

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Write a List

If you are totally on the fence about where your current relationship stands, then why not write a pros and cons list? Obviously keep it well out of sight and don’t share this with them as it could end sourly. Think about the positive attributes they bring to your life; if you are struggling to think of many then this might be a very good reason to let them go. Write down all of the negative sides of being with your partner. Not all relationships are perfect but if your negatives outweigh the positives then you will have come to a pretty clear decision.

Openly Talk to Your Partner

Why not communicate with your other half and see if they are feeling the same? Perhaps they have an underlying issue that they have been too afraid to share with you. Speaking to them calmly might just give them the opportunity to open up to you. All might become clear after your cordial conversation and you will be able to start taking the steps you need towards getting your partnership back on track. Many relationships fail because the two parties don’t talk to each other enough. If you can have more open conversations together, you might just be able to resolve your ongoing issues.

Have a Long Term Plan

Build a masterplan for your life and start thinking about how your life would play out if you were to break up. You should have goals to work towards and a career to build upon. Don’t allow anyone to stop you from being happy and start living your life for yourself.

So if your relationship is over make sure you take the steps towards gaining your freedom back; you will soon be able to find your feet on your own.

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Things Couples In a Long Term Relationship Do to Rekindle the Passion In Bed

Things Couples In a Long Term Relationship Do to Rekindle the Passion In Bed

If you have been with your partner for a long time, chances are that your sex life has gone dull and it needs a bit of sparkle. The good news is that there are many happily married couples out there who are able to keep their passion alive and focus on each other’s needs and wants often. If you need help with your sex life, and don’t want to see a therapist, here’s a couple of things you should try first.

Experimenting

As we grow older, we become more aware of what we want in bed and what we are interested in trying. There is nothing wrong with being curious, and checking out what turns on other people. In fact, it can be very revealing when it comes to planning your next date with your partner. You can try talking to other people about their passion and preferences at a totally free gay chat line from Megamates to find out more about the different ways of making love and satisfying your partner.

Taking Time Off for Each Other

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One of the things that busy working professionals forget about is taking the time to focus on each other. If you are both working hard, it might be difficult to find time at night to create a romantic scene and connect with each other. You might also be too tired for starting something new. You will need to take time off work together, so you can arrange a romantic date, go for a walk, or connect in any other way.

Finding New Common Interest

We all change as well as our priorities. Chances are that your life used to be different before you got the house, had kids, and started sharing responsibilities. You developed new interests and passions, so did your preferences in life and bed. If you would like to connect with your partner on a more meaningful level, you might want to find something you both enjoy doing again. This can be as simple as having a card game on Friday nights or going to concerts. At the end of the day, you can share new memories and get closer together, making room for intimacy in your life again.

Taking a Vacation

Couples in long term relationships also like taking a step back from their regular routine and focusing on each other. You can go on an all-inclusive vacation that will allow you to arrange your days how you like, stay in bed if you feel like, and be free from the daily routine you are used to. Even a short city break will help you reignite the flame in your relationship; new experiences and places will make you more relaxed in bed.

Having Adult Dates

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When was the last time you had a proper date with your partner? Don’t count the family dinners and birthday parties. A real date when it was only the two of you, not having to worry about work, kids, and cooking? If you don’t have date nights every now and then, you will never find the time to have a meaningful conversation about your life and your passion. Arrange at least one  a month, and you will see that your bed routine will improve.

Surprises

While some people say that they don’t like surprises, but deep down everyone does. Arrange a surprise trip, get them something you know they want but they would never spend money on, or simply be there for them. Turn up at their workplace and tell them that you are taking them to somewhere special. Make sure that you check their schedule before arranging the plan, though, as it can turn out to be more of a disaster than a pleasant surprise.

Reducing Screen Time

If you are looking for the most important thing that is killing relationships today, you don’t need to look further than the screen. You will need to make sure that you are able to switch off the phone and the laptop and have a distraction-free date night. You can listen to your favorite music, or simply have a quiet conversation instead of getting hooked up on other people’s drama.

Love Card Games

There are plenty of fun games you can play with your partner that will help you get in the mood to have sex. If you are usually tired at night or have a busy evening routine, take a couple of hours off to play a love card game, such as Pillow Talk. You can find out new things about your partner and learn about their preferences and secret desires. You can have an open conversation about sex without having to force the topic or facing awkward moments

Couples Tantric Yoga

To reignite your senses and have a better sex life after a long term relationship, you will need to focus on your love life and make sure that you are feeling each other’s emotions and desire. Tantric yoga is a great way of connecting again after neglecting your sex life, and discovering new sweet spots in sex that will take your intimacy to the next level.

Revisit Old Places and Experiences

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If you feel like you are caught up in your daily routine and would like to remember what your sex life used to be, you will need to take a trip down memory lane. Go and book a dinner table at the restaurant where you had your wedding reception, or visit the place where you spent your first romantic weekend away. Remember how it used to be before life caught up with both of you, and recreate the experiences.

 

There are many reasons why couples together for a long time lose passion and interest in sex. If you would like to improve your intimacy and your bed routine, try these tips and pay attention to your partner. They might have developed new interests and curiosities, just like you. Discover what brought you together again, and you can make the most out of your relationship.

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20+ Years Together? 3 Tips on How to Spice Things Up in Your Bedroom

20+ Years Together? 3 Tips on How to Spice Things Up in Your Bedroom

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Passion does wane in long-term relationships. It’s a part of life, which you need to acknowledge. However, this doesn’t mean that you have to accept it and give up. In fact, experts advise couples who want to keep their relationship strong to have sex regularly (The Telegraph, DailyMail). You have the power to keep the passion burning for years to come and, perhaps, even make it hotter. To achieve this, you’ll need to use a few tricks and even supplementary tools. Those will ensure that both partners are satisfied.

How to Spice Up Sex Life in a Long-Term Marriage: 3 Tips & Tricks

1.     Discuss your expectations and be realistic

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According to Psychology Today, researchers proved that couples who have realistic expectations about their sex life are more satisfied with it. Please note this doesn’t mean that partners need to have similar expectations. The simple fact of spelling them out and acknowledging them is what does the trick.

It’s normal for people to have different levels of sexual desire. It’s also normal to have periods when someone isn’t ‘in the mood’. Regardless of what the reason is, you need to discuss this subject with your partner. And then accept each other’s opinions and desires and acknowledge that both of your views are normal and should be respected.

This is it, you are already halfway to a satisfying sex life.

2.     Use various libido enhancements and other tools to make your sex more satisfying

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Erectile dysfunction and vaginal dryness are both common health issues that can ruin your sex life as you age. So, talk about these issues and use the tools to deal with them. Men should study male enhancement pills review. This will give them a way to fight common erectile issues that come with age. Women should research estrogen treatments for vaginal dryness. However, as those can have severe side effects, they should be used with extreme care. Using lube during sex, on the other hand, is much safer and helps make the act more satisfying for both of you.

There are a great many sex products you can use today to stoke your passion. Look into all of them, from scented aphrodisiac candles to the many creative toys. Think of what can work for you as a couple and don’t be afraid to experiment.

Remember, those things were created with the express purpose to help make your sex life better. There is nothing embarrassing about using them.

3.     Be spontaneous in everything

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One of the main issues with sex in long-term relationships is that couples often ruin the experience for themselves. The worst thing about this is that they do it with the best intentions. This happens because you know your partner well. Therefore, you try to do everything they like most to bring them to that height of ecstasy every time, like clockwork. And that’s what it turns into if you routinely repeat your patterns and actions. No matter how much a person might enjoy it, this will get boring.

Be spontaneous! Try new things in new places and be prepared that not all of them will work out well. The point is to make your sex life richer and more interesting.

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Online Dating and Sexual Health: What You Need to Know

By Guest Blogger, Caitlin E.

Online Dating and Sexual Health: What You Need to Know

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Millions of people use online dating websites and apps to meet new people and engage in different levels of intimacy – from just chatting to casual sex to romantic relationships. With the rising popularity of various platforms such as Match.com, EHarmony, Tinder, and numerous others, the stigma that once existed around online dating has been greatly diminished. Even statistics show that the majority of Americans claim online dating is a good way to meet people.

But it’s still a relatively new landscape, where it’s crucial that we’re all well-informed and understanding of how we can navigate it responsibly. Here’s what you need to keep in mind regarding sexual health when meeting new people on dating platforms.

 

Sexual health is about psychological well-being too

 

The concept of sexual health is often mistaken for only the physical aspect of health in regards to sexuality, such as the absence of an STI.

But the World Health Organization reminds us that sexual health goes much further than that, implying psychological wellbeing, freedom of choice, and the ability to have a satisfying and responsible sex life.

In the online dating culture, you have all the freedom you need to engage with whomever you want and however you want. And when you have this kind of freedom, it’s especially important to listen to your gut instinct and to be cautious when meeting new people online.

It’s easy to get caught up in all of it, which makes it even more important that you fully acknowledge what you want and what you don’t want – regardless of how the person you’ve met will react. Listen to your innate needs, take care of yourself, and don’t let yourself feel pressured at any point.

Online dating is there to make things easier and more enjoyable for you, not to become a burden on your well-being.

 

Always use protection. Always.

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A lot of people are hooking up through dating platforms, as the medium makes meeting new people much faster and more convenient. The math is quite simple – the more casual sex there is, the more STIs are likely to be circulating.

This is nothing new, as STIs are more widespread than you might expect. There’s just too much stigma around them so you can be sure that nobody is going to explicitly tell you they have an infection when they meet you.

Not only that, but your partner may have no idea he or she has an STI.

The only way to stay safe from STIs and maintain your sexual health responsibly is by using condoms – every time, no matter what.

This is especially important to take note of among the older demographic, where there’s still a common misconception that there’s no need for condoms if you can no longer have children. Regardless of fertility or other forms of contraception you might be using, condoms serve to protect you from STIs, and both sides of the relationship should have them around.

 

Maintain your good judgement

 

A lot of people rely on drugs or alcohol to ease into the situation and “loosen up” when meeting someone new. Again, you have the freedom to do whatever you wish – just make sure that you own it, that you have the confidence and your best interests in mind.

Overdoing it with either of those two will definitely cloud your judgement – and that’s where it will be difficult for you to keep your best interests in mind. Whether it’s engaging with someone you don’t actually feel that comfortable with or forgetting to use a condom during sex, clouded judgement increases the chances of turning an otherwise pleasant experience into a sour one.

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The rising popularity of online dating is no coincidence. People feel comfortable with these platforms, and they present a convenient and exciting way to meet potential partners and like-minded people. But as more and more people use online dating apps, there’s a whole new dialogue opening up around sexual health and safety. Whether you’re entirely new to online dating or have an established profile, keep these points in mind to make sure that you navigate the landscape to your best interest.

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