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How do You Bounce Back From the Bad Times?

How do You Bounce Back From the Bad Times?

When everything seems to be going wrong for you in life and nothing according to the plans you put in place, it’s very easy to get down about it all. But that’s just the nature of life; we all go through times when nothing seems to be going the way we want it to. How you respond to those bad times and bounce back is what really matters more than anything else because that’s how your future will be decided.

Having said that, bouncing back from the bad times is much easier said than done. There are some steps and ideas that might help you to do this successfully though, and they’re what we’re going to talk about in more depth today. Keep reading to learn about what you should begin to do in order to bounce back from times that have been tough for you.

Find the Silver Lining

The very first thing you should try to do is find a silver lining. Every situation has a silver lining, no matter how bleak it seems at first. By looking at the situation objectively and thinking about how you can come out if it positively and look to the future, you’ll be putting yourself in a much healthier position. It’s definitely difficult to find silver linings in some situations, but you should at least give it a try.

Focus on the Things in Life That Matter Most

There are some things that matter more than others when you’re trying to bounce back from the bad times. You have to be willing to look at things objectively and focus on the things in life that are really important because if you allow yourself to get hung up on insignificant things that don’t matter much, you’ll never find the time or energy to properly bounce back and move in the right direction once more.

Create a Plan of Action

Creating a plan of action is important because it gives you a road map to your future. It’ll show you want you need to do next and which steps are most important as you aim to get back on track and bounce back from whatever negative things you’ve been experiencing. The right plan of action is something that only you can create because only you understand what you need to do next in your life.

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Don’t Focus on the Negatives Too Much

Even if you’ve been through a lot of negative stuff recently, you should try to reject any negative feeling that might hold you back further. By focusing on the negatives, you will carry on in your spiral of pity when you should really be thinking about what comes next and how you can turn the situation into a more positive one. It’s all about focusing your energy and attention on the right things.

Seek Compensation to Help Your Recovery

If you’re dealing with a bad situation because of someone else’s mistake, you should see if you can seek compensation for it. Maybe you were injured or defrauded in some way. If so, you should find a lawyer who you feel you can trust and take things from there. With the right lawyer on your side, you’ll find it possible to get compensation which can then be used to get yourself back on track.

Do What’s Right for You

What’s right for you is what matters right now, so don’t worry so much about what other people think or what they might be saying. The only significant thing is how you move forward. Your own needs have to come first, even if that’s something that you’re not used to. It can be difficult to always do what’s right for you but being selfish isn’t such a bad thing sometimes.

Remember That the Future Remains Unwritten

Finally, you should always remember that the future and what comes next has not been written yet. No matter how bad things have been up to now, everything could change very quickly for you in the future. It’s all about doing what you can to make that possibility as likely as it can possibly be. Who knows what will happen tomorrow?

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No matter what kind of bad times you’ve been going through recently, you can most certainly come out the other side in better shape and ready to succeed in life. It all comes down to mentality and belief. If you can get both of those things right, you’ll have no problems at all.

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Avoid Heading For Divorce By Doing These Simple Things

Avoid Heading For Divorce By Doing These Simple Things

No one ever said that relationships are super easy and to be honest, why would they be? You are essentially attempting to spend the rest of your life with the very same person and whilst doing so you’re both still constantly changing and evolving as people. The hope though is that you’ll be changing together rather than growing apart.

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Realising you’ve met the one is one of the most breathtaking moments you’ll ever experience. They always say that when you know, you know, but that doesn’t mean that relationships and marriage are all plain sailing either. Things can slowly crop up and turn into huge issues if they aren’t addressed properly. Unfortunately that means that far too many great couples end up splitting up and heading for divorce instead of overcoming the obstacles they’ve been presented with. It doesn’t have to be that way though and if you follow these steps, you’ll probably never find yourself filling out divorce papers as you’ll still be with the very same person you fell so in love with originally…

  1. Be the person your spouse fell in love with

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Of course we all change over the years and that’s part and parcel of choosing to spend your life with someone. No one is ever the same throughout their entire adult life and why would you want to be? Where’s the excitement in that? But whilst your partner is prepared to stand by you as you change and hopefully grow into an even better person, that doesn’t mean that you can completely dessert the person you were in the beginning. It was the qualities you had then that made your spouse fall in love with you and want to commit to spending their entire life with you, so make sure you’re not leaving everything you once were behind in search of someone you want to become.

  1. Identify any problems and change them

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Marriage certainly isn’t a smooth ride at all times and there will be problems along the way. That part is guaranteed. But it’s how you deal with these problems that make all the difference. If you and partner fall out over the same thing time and time again then it means you’re making the huge mistake of not addressing it to begin with. Eventually the problem will spiral out of control and that could mean divorce if you don’t actively try to sort it. If you and your spouse are unable to identify what the exact issue is or how to overcome it, symmetry counseling is a great way to talk through issues without the entire situation escalating.

  1. Be the best version of yourself

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There’s nothing more attractive than self confidence and being happy with the person you are. How can you expect others to love you if you don’t even love yourself? If you demonstrate to your partner that you’re completely comfortable with who you are and give the impression that you’re still as awesome now as you always were, they’ll likely follow trend and see exactly what you do too.

That means feeling and looking your best. If you’re down about your weight then take steps to change it. If you hate your frumpy wardrobe then go out and re-haul your look. Fall in love with yourself again so that your spouse gets the excitement of doing it all again as well.

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Self-Esteem Quickie.

By Tia Cristy

Self-Esteem Quickie.

Man or woman; we’ve all been guilty of picking on ourselves. Stops picking out the wrong things.

It may sound corny, but some sayings will withstand the test of time, because of the truth they hold. “Nobody can love you unless you love yourself.” And, I’m not talking about being conceded. (it’s hard to love anyone conceded.) I’m talking about looking at who you are inside and out, and loving it. The tip to being good to yourself.

Lot’s of  today’s woes got the world down, but a quick tip to a positive you, is 5 minutes a day in the mirror with your reflection. And reflecting on positive things is what you are doing. Don’t feel silly.

Start simple with what you like about yourself. It may be difficult at first but, try to pick out a physical feature. For example, you like your hair, your eyes, etc. Physical feature should be the first thing is pick out, since it’s usually the hardest for a person to do. Then once you except that, tell yourself about something good you did or something you are good at. Again this may be hard at first, but after participating in “yourself” time a few times, you will begin to feel a better outlook and confidence about yourself.

Adding in this outside project can take your self-esteem even further; look for smiles in the crowd, not faces, but smiles. Identifying happy people in your surrounding will make you a happier person.This is proven.

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By Tia Cristy